Guest guest Posted February 25, 2003 Report Share Posted February 25, 2003 Lou wants me to call him every morning and tell him about our day. Sigh. I think this is solely a control issue; he whines about not being sufficiently involved with the children even though he rarely takes all the time with him that he is entitled to take. So this morning he told me that he has been talking over with his counselor (the nitwit that we used to visit for joint counseling who felt that even if we were not married any more we might want to share the same house " for the good of the children. " ) his concerns about how he can never persuade Enrique to come over to his apartment. Well, his apartment has one comfortable chair and all Lou wants to do is watch movies. Enrique is not particularly interested in movies; he remembers them too well to want to see them again unless, he says, five years have passed, although the Lord of the Rings would be an exception to that. Maybe the movies were too long for him to memorize entirely? Anyway, Lou wants us to make an appointment with , the autism teacher consultant for the schools, to discuss some strategies for Enrique doing more stuff with Lou. I said that was fine. I like and she is very knowledgeable although this area is outside her domain as it is a home problem. But I suspect that she would help anyway, and just not admit it. However I have known for some time exactly what Lou could do to get Enrique to spend time with him. It would actually be insanely easy. He could learn to play some of the games that Enrique loves, card games or video games, and he could play them with him. Enrique would go anywhere almost to play games. He has Gamecube games that he longs to play multi-player with but no one will do it. loves games too but Enrique is so good at them that refuses to play with him. So I told this to Lou. There was a pause. Then he said, " But you know I am not really all that interested in games. " Oh, geez. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2003 Report Share Posted February 25, 2003 I guess Lou never heard the phrase " You have to give a little to get a little. " Tuna ===== mom to: , 8, ASD , 4, NT Normal is just a setting on the washing machine. - Whoopi Goldberg ______________________________________________________________________ Post your free ad now! http://personals.yahoo.ca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2003 Report Share Posted February 25, 2003 > There was a pause. Then he said, " But you know I am not really all that interested in games. " So he really does not have any redeeming qualities. Ugh! debbi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2003 Report Share Posted February 25, 2003 > > There was a pause. Then he said, " But you know I am not really all > that interested in games. " > > So he really does not have any redeeming qualities. Ugh! > None that I am aware of, unless maybe you consider his contribution to Salli's lovely holiday family rituals, but that is the only one I can think of. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2003 Report Share Posted February 25, 2003 *sigh* What else can I say? What did YOU say? -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2003 Report Share Posted February 25, 2003 > *sigh* > > What else can I say? > > What did YOU say? Don't remember. I knew that there would be no point in explaining to him why he might want to play games with Enrique, just for love -- as I do every day even though I don't have the time and often would rather to something else. He could never see why he should do something with me just for love either, unless it was something that he liked too. We had a lot of likings in common so that was not a problem until we had children. I figured that children changed your life and some fun things got put off or happened less frequently, and that was fine, you could do them another time. He couldn't see that, and just resented it. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2003 Report Share Posted February 25, 2003 > > I say we all just fly up to Michigan, and put Lou > > out of our misery. > > > Now this is sounding like some eerie version of that 'Earl' song by the dixie chicks GOOD BYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE LOU! LMAO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2003 Report Share Posted February 25, 2003 > > VERY. Did you notice that they were all superficial, surface things? I > did. > Yup, I did. Most things that would make someone a great date are. Making a great husband and father takes something a bit deeper. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2003 Report Share Posted February 25, 2003 >>>>>>>> Lou wants me to call him every morning and tell him about our day. Sigh. I think this is solely a control issue; he whines about not being sufficiently involved with the children even though he rarely takes all the time with him that he is entitled to take. <<<<<<<< I know I've been gone for awhile, but I hope you don't feel obligated to do this! >>>>>>>>> He could learn to play some of the games that Enrique loves, card games or video games, and he could play them with him. Enrique would go anywhere almost to play games. He has Gamecube games that he longs to play multi-player with but no one will do it. loves games too but Enrique is so good at them that refuses to play with him. So I told this to Lou. There was a pause. Then he said, " But you know I am not really all that interested in games. " <<<<<<<<< Well now there is a typical selfish Lou response... Try and try you might Salli, but I think it's a lost cause. Penny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2003 Report Share Posted February 26, 2003 > There was a pause. Then he said, " But you know I am not really all that interested in games. " > Prat, prat, SELFISH prat. I'm not really all that interested in Beyblading, but I frigging do it! AAAGGGGHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2003 Report Share Posted February 26, 2003 > > That was an interesting exercise! > > Salli VERY. Did you notice that they were all superficial, surface things? I did. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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