At a cross-road (speaking openly, despite public position)

[Guest guest]

Your input, needed. There are some of you, in having read a

post...know that I am in a small town, married to a police officer. A

police sergeant to be exact. One who, in my opinion, been

misunderstood in some way, in the past. Yet true, he is a hard case

in many ways.

He isn't " by the book " but he is " tough " and I will say, sometimes to

the point of being " inhuman. "

Anyone who lives in a small town, can probably imagine the

hurdles/the gripes to living in a small town. Take that and being in

the " unfavorable " light of law enforcement.

It's a " weird " place to be in, at times. Some big misconceptions.

He met me as the bartender. Early on, I told him who I was and

that " floated his boat. " Tough but I ran a tight ship. Human but a

clean past. I think he thought me very level headed (coming from him,

that means something)...that said, I am most certain that he looks at

me now and wonders.

Anyway. A number of times, I have wanted to write letters to the

editor but haven't...on account of his position.

Yet, I am getting to a point...that I think I shouldn't care.

I've " sucked it up " so many times on account of his profession. What

I have wanted to write, isn't flippant but it would be strong. I

suppose there would be many who would think, " haha things aren't

perfect for the officers wife either " (Small town world. Guess what,

it isn't any better for any officer and his family. No different than

yours) and I think, there might be many who also think, thank

goodness...somebody who is well known, speaks for us!!

I know my husband wouldn't protest (yet he might be given grief on

account of it) as I told him before we married that I am me, I wont

change (though did, in many ways). He didn't marry a " mouse. " There

are many things that I don't think is a big deal (likewise, think

there is many that is) but people don't know because...they seem to

think we are inhuman.

I want to write but to write, indicates that this is somebody who

understands and to understands...reveals a weakness.

What do you think? I suppose I could ask my husband. I know that if

some people knew, would be happy to hear it and for the right

reasons. Then there are others, who would use this as a form

of " weakness. "

This has been tough, in that I used to write letters to the editor.

On account of it, been called to apply for school board (in my early

20s). Just recently, was called for the same thing...but declined,

due to my health.

That said, will apply for the hospital board next it opens. I was

prompted the last go 'round but the deadline was too soon.

As an aside, I would like to educate myself on issues pertaining to

thyroid and auto-immune dieses and create my own booth, for this, at

the next health fair.

I know I can make a change in this town. I don't want anybody to have

to go through this, at least, not here.

Though I know, not only do I need education but get my " act " straight.

As an individual, on the " outside " of the profession...what do you

think? If you were in my position, what would you think? Need

absolute honesty here.

~Kate

[Guest guest]

I think the writing has to be kept within boundaries as to exclude any

criminal, police activity type work. Hope this makes sense to you.

Something like the police officers need more funding, or too much

coruption in the police force or tougher criminal laws may be seen as

either pro or con and having the inside view as a police officer wife

and also allows scrutiny to confidential material and brings up the

whole privacy issue etc..whether or not it is crossed etc.

That being said and the other issues you bring up as far as the school

board, medical hospital, disabilities and other issues are open

territory and if your position helps the issues gather more attention

then it would be better for the issue as a whole.

I work in a pharmacy, although it is obviously different then a police

officer we are still in a postion of trust..certain rules and

guidelines follow as to not disclose personal information..who is on

what med? who bought what? who's girlfriend's kids bought condoms, how

many patients we have on certain meds etc. it all falls under a

patient confidentiality agreement which is actually a legal binding and

cause for dismissal..I am sure if you talked to your husband, he could

give you a copy of such a list so you know what lines not to cross.

Kats3boys

[Guest guest]

kat,

We are of the same line (I too was once a Pharm. Tech in a medical

clinic) and in agreement with what you've said.

No, I certainly wouldn't incriminate any person and I feel quite

strongly about privacy/confidentiality.

Yes, what you said certainly does make sense to me;-)

If/when I go up to bat, it will be " broad " and I will take the heat.

We do only have 3 doctors here and I am sure, that many will assume

that my experience has been based on local treatment. That said, it

seems to be a national/global problem.

As an aside, our local pharmacist...to put it in this way, sucks

canal water. No patient counseling, no checking files (is the rx

written for Sr. or baby Jr.? Doesn't keep a good stock etc. )

If I go up to bat, it will be my husband, in this case (shoe on the

other foot) who will probably suffer most.

What you say, reveals your experience. My experience has been poor

and with that, reveals my problems. My problems will go back on

him...and so happily by a number of people here. Yet, on the other

hand, I know that what I say, will touch home with others.

This will be bad for us, yet good for others. I can take the bad but

I worry about my husband. Really, in the end...where will it leave

us? I wonder. If what I say is initially good but demoted in the

end...how much good will it be?

I can't help but hear my mothers words, " Keep a low profile. " Maybe I

should write a " Kate lite " letter. lol

~Kate

>

> I think the writing has to be kept within boundaries as to exclude

any

> criminal, police activity type work. Hope this makes sense to you.

>

> Something like the police officers need more funding, or too much

> coruption in the police force or tougher criminal laws may be seen

as

> either pro or con and having the inside view as a police officer

wife

> and also allows scrutiny to confidential material and brings up the

> whole privacy issue etc..whether or not it is crossed etc.

>

> That being said and the other issues you bring up as far as the

school

> board, medical hospital, disabilities and other issues are open

> territory and if your position helps the issues gather more

attention

> then it would be better for the issue as a whole.

>

> I work in a pharmacy, although it is obviously different then a

police

> officer we are still in a postion of trust..certain rules and

> guidelines follow as to not disclose personal information..who is

on

> what med? who bought what? who's girlfriend's kids bought condoms,

how

> many patients we have on certain meds etc. it all falls under a

> patient confidentiality agreement which is actually a legal binding

and

> cause for dismissal..I am sure if you talked to your husband, he

could

> give you a copy of such a list so you know what lines not to cross.

>

> Kats3boys

>

[Guest guest]

I'm not understanding what specifically you would be writing about? Is it

thyroid disease or something else? Believe me, I've lived in that world at

one time (and loved most aspects of it), for quite some time, and I know

what is expected of you, generally speaking. I even worked in that world

for a short while myself (plus many other community projects; I am way too

tired for that now), but not as an officer, and the comradery there, AND the

separation is MUCH. I would see no reason why you should be stifled. One

thing my x did say about me, both while we were married and even after I

divorced him, was that " if you don't want to here the truth, don't ask

" , end quote. However, HE was the one who more often stifled me than

anyone else. It probably was one of the main preludes to my thyroid

disease, frankly. : )

At a cross-road (speaking openly,

despite public position)

> Your input, needed. There are some of you, in having read a

> post...know that I am in a small town, married to a police officer. A

> police sergeant to be exact. One who, in my opinion, been

> misunderstood in some way, in the past. Yet true, he is a hard case

> in many ways.

> He isn't " by the book " but he is " tough " and I will say, sometimes to

> the point of being " inhuman. "

>

> Anyone who lives in a small town, can probably imagine the

> hurdles/the gripes to living in a small town. Take that and being in

> the " unfavorable " light of law enforcement.

>

> It's a " weird " place to be in, at times. Some big misconceptions.

> He met me as the bartender. Early on, I told him who I was and

> that " floated his boat. " Tough but I ran a tight ship. Human but a

> clean past. I think he thought me very level headed (coming from him,

> that means something)...that said, I am most certain that he looks at

> me now and wonders.

>

> Anyway. A number of times, I have wanted to write letters to the

> editor but haven't...on account of his position.

> Yet, I am getting to a point...that I think I shouldn't care.

> I've " sucked it up " so many times on account of his profession. What

> I have wanted to write, isn't flippant but it would be strong. I

> suppose there would be many who would think, " haha things aren't

> perfect for the officers wife either " (Small town world. Guess what,

> it isn't any better for any officer and his family. No different than

> yours) and I think, there might be many who also think, thank

> goodness...somebody who is well known, speaks for us!!

>

> I know my husband wouldn't protest (yet he might be given grief on

> account of it) as I told him before we married that I am me, I wont

> change (though did, in many ways). He didn't marry a " mouse. " There

> are many things that I don't think is a big deal (likewise, think

> there is many that is) but people don't know because...they seem to

> think we are inhuman.

>

> I want to write but to write, indicates that this is somebody who

> understands and to understands...reveals a weakness.

>

> What do you think? I suppose I could ask my husband. I know that if

> some people knew, would be happy to hear it and for the right

> reasons. Then there are others, who would use this as a form

> of " weakness. "

>

> This has been tough, in that I used to write letters to the editor.

> On account of it, been called to apply for school board (in my early

> 20s). Just recently, was called for the same thing...but declined,

> due to my health.

> That said, will apply for the hospital board next it opens. I was

> prompted the last go 'round but the deadline was too soon.

>

> As an aside, I would like to educate myself on issues pertaining to

> thyroid and auto-immune dieses and create my own booth, for this, at

> the next health fair.

> I know I can make a change in this town. I don't want anybody to have

> to go through this, at least, not here.

> Though I know, not only do I need education but get my " act " straight.

>

> As an individual, on the " outside " of the profession...what do you

> think? If you were in my position, what would you think? Need

> absolute honesty here.

>

> ~Kate