Guest guest Posted July 24, 2005 Report Share Posted July 24, 2005 Walt, After he said they could have been reversed he said ³NO way they could be reversed . It just doesn¹t happen unless the cores were taken the same day.² So he dropped it. It just didn¹t leave me feeling very good. I¹ll ask about a DNA test. Suzanne > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 25, 2005 Report Share Posted July 25, 2005 Hi Suzanne, How terribly frustrating for you to not know what your son's diagnosis is. Alport's is a serious disease, and having the hearing loss in both your son's ears would lead any Nephrologist to consider Alports. I do hope there is some other way to determine his diagnosis short of having to go through another biopsy. I am so sorry you have to wait for the answers I know you are longing to have. My heart goes out to you. In a message dated 7/24/2005 11:58:39 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time, suzanne_schleck@... writes: Betsey, The DNA test might be a good idea. Yes, my son has hearing loss in both ears which is a major indicator for Alports. I¹ll discuss the test with the neph next time. Thanks for the input. Suzanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2005 Report Share Posted July 28, 2005 Betsey, It is a relief to hear your son is doing well now. I don¹t know if my son will need one someday or not. I was curious who your son feels on the meds he takes now. Are there many side affects? Suzanne > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2005 Report Share Posted July 28, 2005 Suzanne, Much less difficulty with side effects than we had expected actually. Before the transplant, I figured it would be sort of a trade off, that he'd obviously feel better with a new kidney but that the immunosuppressants would make him feel bad in a different way. But in fact, he says he feels fine. Right after the transplant when he was on a high dosage of prednisone, the side effects from that were bothersome but not impossible. He also had some problems with a toxic buildup of Prograf, but then he was changed to Myfortic (similar to Cellcept, but doesn't cause gastric problems) and takes that with Rapamune and a low dosage of prednisone now. He does not seem to be particularly vulnerable to colds and other infections and gets over a cold about as quickly as anyone else. Overall it's been quite a miracle. Betsy > Betsey, > It is a relief to hear your son is doing well now. I don¹t know if > my son > will need one someday or not. I was curious who your son feels on > the meds > he takes now. Are there many side affects? > Suzanne > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2005 Report Share Posted July 28, 2005 Betsey, How wonderful that your son feels so good. This is all very encouraging to me. I am so glad to hear from you and all the other people on-line in the group. Today, I ran into a friend on the way to the pet store to buy new gold fish for my pond. I had just killed all my fish by putting too much tap water into the pond. She told me that she has had the same problem. The city water has chloramines that are deadly to fish, birds and bad for kidney patients. She told me a need to buy a filtration system for our tap water. Anyone heard this before? Apparently, chloramines are worse that chlorine. I¹ll research it now. Suzanne > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 I know most cities use chloramine in the water rather than chlorine. I don't know anything about how it might affect people who are healthy, nor those who have kidney disease, but I do know it's deadly if it gets into the dialysate on hemodialysis. This is why my hemodialysis setup at home includes two large carbon tanks. They remove the chloramine. Before I turn on the water purifier each treatment day, I first open the water tap, than I test the water from the first carbon tank to ensure there's no chloramine left beyond whatever parts per million is acceptable. The test takes about 8 minutes to complete. If the first tank shows positive, I test the second. Should both every show positive for chloramine, I absolutely cannot dialysis until the tanks are replaced. After the tanks, my water goes through a reverse osmosis water purifier, and then again, when it enters the dialysis machine itself, it is further purified by a special filter on the back of the machine. It's similar to the dialyzer which filters the blood, but it sort of pre-dialyzes the water before it gets into the dialysate circuit. It ends up as what they call " ultrapure water " . In my earlier days with kidney disease, there was a time when I only drank bottled water, but I gradually gave that up. Pierre Re: Introduction Betsey, How wonderful that your son feels so good. This is all very encouraging to me. I am so glad to hear from you and all the other people on-line in the group. Today, I ran into a friend on the way to the pet store to buy new gold fish for my pond. I had just killed all my fish by putting too much tap water into the pond. She told me that she has had the same problem. The city water has chloramines that are deadly to fish, birds and bad for kidney patients. She told me a need to buy a filtration system for our tap water. Anyone heard this before? Apparently, chloramines are worse that chlorine. I¹ll research it now. Suzanne > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 Pierre, Thanks for your input on chloramines. My friend terrified me about the dangers of it on people, fish and humans. I think it¹s not such a big issue Apparently, it is neutralized when it enters our stomachs and becomes harmless. I wonder though. MTBE was ³harm less² too . > > > Reply-To: iga-nephropathy > Date: Fri, 29 Jul 2005 07:03:36 -0400 > To: iga-nephropathy > > Subject: Re: Introduction > > I know most cities use chloramine in the water rather than chlorine. I don't > know anything about how it might affect people who are healthy, nor those > who have kidney disease, but I do know it's deadly if it gets into the > dialysate on hemodialysis. This is why my hemodialysis setup at home > includes two large carbon tanks. They remove the chloramine. Before I turn > on the water purifier each treatment day, I first open the water tap, than I > test the water from the first carbon tank to ensure there's no chloramine > left beyond whatever parts per million is acceptable. The test takes about 8 > minutes to complete. If the first tank shows positive, I test the second. > Should both every show positive for chloramine, I absolutely cannot dialysis > until the tanks are replaced. > > After the tanks, my water goes through a reverse osmosis water purifier, and > then again, when it enters the dialysis machine itself, it is further > purified by a special filter on the back of the machine. It's similar to the > dialyzer which filters the blood, but it sort of pre-dialyzes the water > before it gets into the dialysate circuit. It ends up as what they call > " ultrapure water " . > > In my earlier days with kidney disease, there was a time when I only drank > bottled water, but I gradually gave that up. > > Pierre > > Re: Introduction > > > Betsey, > How wonderful that your son feels so good. This is all very encouraging to > me. I am so glad to hear from you and all the other people on-line in the > group. > > Today, I ran into a friend on the way to the pet store to buy new gold fish > for my pond. I had just killed all my fish by putting too much tap water > into the pond. She told me that she has had the same problem. The city water > has chloramines that are deadly to fish, birds and bad for kidney patients. > She told me a need to buy a filtration system for our tap water. Anyone > heard this before? Apparently, chloramines are worse that chlorine. > I¹ll research it now. > Suzanne >> > >> > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 My Name is & I have been newly dianosed with Invasive Ductal Carsinoma-Right Breast. Surgery date Feb. 8th -- Bilateral Mastectomy " Simple left breast (my choice) - Modified Radical Right Breast. I had a mammogram Oct.26, 2006 that showed a mass. I didn't want to upset my children over the holidays so I did not go for the compression films until Jan. 3rd, 2007. I was sent to a surgeon on Jan. 8th, 2007. I had a surgical needle biopsy on Jan. 11th, 2007. I was diagnosed with breast cancer Jan 15, 2007.The first thing that went through my mind was " no breasts? " What? Last year on Oct. 28th,2005 I had a complete hysterectomy. Now they want my breasts? Then my thoughts quickly went straight to losing my long hair. I went through thoughts of self pitty of " What am I now...what makes me female? " Kinda past that. I'm focusing more on living now.I had my apt. with my oncologist. My surgery date has been set, Feb. 8th, 2007. I saw a plastic surgeon about reconstruction Feb. 1st, 2007. I know what I need to do to live for my children,my grand children and " Myself " . My coworkers, friends and family have bee wonderfully supportive. I found I have friends I didn't know I had. I've been told by my oncologist I will have to have to have chemo and have set up my apt. to set up my schedule-three weeks after sugery. I have a little planner, keep lots of notes, and have started a journal. This helps me keep my mind straight and when I start losing hope I go back and read my notes...days when I felt down and then days when I was full of hope. I suprise myself sometimes at how strong I am. A friend/co worker sent me to The Amercan Cancer Society site and told me to read. One of my fears was the affect my hairloss would have not just on me but my oldest grand daughter and my middle son (he is moms boy and is taking this hard). After reading everyones comments I have a better feeling about the whole hairloss thing. I feel better about having already decided to gradually start cutting my hair. I am going to cut it shoulder lenght right after sugery. Then cut it short when I begin chemo. When the hair begins to fall out I will have it shaved. I have not decided if I want a wig I think I personally would feel better with scarves and hats (more my personality) though others have been pushing the wig idea. After reading everyones comments I think I can compromise some for my friends and family. I will get a wig for that occassion where they or I would feel more comfortable with that appearance. " But " after browsing sites I see that I am not the only one who wants to go natural. I can do what feels good for me without guilt but compromise and wear the wig for those occassions where those around me might not be so comfortable. I am 45. Divorced. Born, raised and still reside in Iowa. Grew up a farm girl moved to the city...btw you can not take the farm out of the farm girl. Mother of 2 boys 26 and 23, 1 daughter 16. 2 absolutely lovely daughter in laws and 1 very nice boyfriend of my daughter. 3 grand-daughters 4, 2, 5 mths and 1 due in April. Yet 1 more grandchild due in October (hope its a boy but a girl would be fun---imagine " Grandmas BIG sleepover " . I Work as a clerk in a Pediatric Unit in a hospital in Omaha, Ne. Im looking for others who have walked im my shoes to correspond with. Thats justme-justdenise Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2007 Report Share Posted February 7, 2007 Hi , Girlfriend, you already sound like you know what your doing!! Good for you.. Your posting was nothing but a ray of inspiration!! God Bless You! Your positive attitude and journaling with get you thru all this... there will be good and bad days, but thats what we are all here for. I'm new myself and I love this group of women.. I feel like they are all family. Everyone is at different stages and thats what makes the group so welcoming and understanding, who's been there, done that, starting this, or trying that! It sounds like everything is in order for you and it will be a matter of just getting started and moving on with it. I wish you the best of luck and hope to keep hearing from you, Peace and Prayers, Michele justdenise61@...> wrote: My Name is & I have been newly dianosed with Invasive Ductal Carsinoma-Right Breast. Surgery date Feb. 8th -- Bilateral Mastectomy " Simple left breast (my choice) - Modified Radical Right Breast. I had a mammogram Oct.26, 2006 that showed a mass. I didn't want to upset my children over the holidays so I did not go for the compression films until Jan. 3rd, 2007. I was sent to a surgeon on Jan. 8th, 2007. I had a surgical needle biopsy on Jan. 11th, 2007. I was diagnosed with breast cancer Jan 15, 2007.The first thing that went through my mind was " no breasts? " What? Last year on Oct. 28th,2005 I had a complete hysterectomy. Now they want my breasts? Then my thoughts quickly went straight to losing my long hair. I went through thoughts of self pitty of " What am I now...what makes me female? " Kinda past that. I'm focusing more on living now.I had my apt. with my oncologist. My surgery date has been set, Feb. 8th, 2007. I saw a plastic surgeon about reconstruction Feb. 1st, 2007. I know what I need to do to live for my children,my grand children and " Myself " . My coworkers, friends and family have bee wonderfully supportive. I found I have friends I didn't know I had. I've been told by my oncologist I will have to have to have chemo and have set up my apt. to set up my schedule-three weeks after sugery. I have a little planner, keep lots of notes, and have started a journal. This helps me keep my mind straight and when I start losing hope I go back and read my notes...days when I felt down and then days when I was full of hope. I suprise myself sometimes at how strong I am. A friend/co worker sent me to The Amercan Cancer Society site and told me to read. One of my fears was the affect my hairloss would have not just on me but my oldest grand daughter and my middle son (he is moms boy and is taking this hard). After reading everyones comments I have a better feeling about the whole hairloss thing. I feel better about having already decided to gradually start cutting my hair. I am going to cut it shoulder lenght right after sugery. Then cut it short when I begin chemo. When the hair begins to fall out I will have it shaved. I have not decided if I want a wig I think I personally would feel better with scarves and hats (more my personality) though others have been pushing the wig idea. After reading everyones comments I think I can compromise some for my friends and family. I will get a wig for that occassion where they or I would feel more comfortable with that appearance. " But " after browsing sites I see that I am not the only one who wants to go natural. I can do what feels good for me without guilt but compromise and wear the wig for those occassions where those around me might not be so comfortable. I am 45. Divorced. Born, raised and still reside in Iowa. Grew up a farm girl moved to the city...btw you can not take the farm out of the farm girl. Mother of 2 boys 26 and 23, 1 daughter 16. 2 absolutely lovely daughter in laws and 1 very nice boyfriend of my daughter. 3 grand-daughters 4, 2, 5 mths and 1 due in April. Yet 1 more grandchild due in October (hope its a boy but a girl would be fun---imagine " Grandmas BIG sleepover " . I Work as a clerk in a Pediatric Unit in a hospital in Omaha, Ne. Im looking for others who have walked im my shoes to correspond with. Thats justme-justdenise Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2007 Report Share Posted February 7, 2007 Welcome to the group . What you are feeling is normal. We all go through different feelings after being diagnosed. As far as the wig goes I would do what YOU want to. Its time for you to do what makes you feel best and is the most comfortable. Personally if my cancer were to come back I would go bald if it were summer time. Up here in N. Illinois winters can be brutal. Its 6 below today with a 16 below windchill which is an improvement from the beginning of the week. I will keep you in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Introduction My Name is & I have been newly dianosed with Invasive Ductal Carsinoma-Right Breast. Surgery date Feb. 8th -- Bilateral Mastectomy " Simple left breast (my choice) - Modified Radical Right Breast. I had a mammogram Oct.26, 2006 that showed a mass. I didn't want to upset my children over the holidays so I did not go for the compression films until Jan. 3rd, 2007. I was sent to a surgeon on Jan. 8th, 2007. I had a surgical needle biopsy on Jan. 11th, 2007. I was diagnosed with breast cancer Jan 15, 2007.The first thing that went through my mind was " no breasts? " What? Last year on Oct. 28th,2005 I had a complete hysterectomy. Now they want my breasts? Then my thoughts quickly went straight to losing my long hair. I went through thoughts of self pitty of " What am I now...what makes me female? " Kinda past that. I'm focusing more on living now.I had my apt. with my oncologist. My surgery date has been set, Feb. 8th, 2007. I saw a plastic surgeon about reconstruction Feb. 1st, 2007. I know what I need to do to live for my children,my grand children and " Myself " . My coworkers, friends and family have bee wonderfully supportive. I found I have friends I didn't know I had. I've been told by my oncologist I will have to have to have chemo and have set up my apt. to set up my schedule-three weeks after sugery. I have a little planner, keep lots of notes, and have started a journal. This helps me keep my mind straight and when I start losing hope I go back and read my notes...days when I felt down and then days when I was full of hope. I suprise myself sometimes at how strong I am. A friend/co worker sent me to The Amercan Cancer Society site and told me to read. One of my fears was the affect my hairloss would have not just on me but my oldest grand daughter and my middle son (he is moms boy and is taking this hard). After reading everyones comments I have a better feeling about the whole hairloss thing. I feel better about having already decided to gradually start cutting my hair. I am going to cut it shoulder lenght right after sugery. Then cut it short when I begin chemo. When the hair begins to fall out I will have it shaved. I have not decided if I want a wig I think I personally would feel better with scarves and hats (more my personality) though others have been pushing the wig idea. After reading everyones comments I think I can compromise some for my friends and family. I will get a wig for that occassion where they or I would feel more comfortable with that appearance. " But " after browsing sites I see that I am not the only one who wants to go natural. I can do what feels good for me without guilt but compromise and wear the wig for those occassions where those around me might not be so comfortable. I am 45. Divorced. Born, raised and still reside in Iowa. Grew up a farm girl moved to the city...btw you can not take the farm out of the farm girl. Mother of 2 boys 26 and 23, 1 daughter 16. 2 absolutely lovely daughter in laws and 1 very nice boyfriend of my daughter. 3 grand-daughters 4, 2, 5 mths and 1 due in April. Yet 1 more grandchild due in October (hope its a boy but a girl would be fun---imagine " Grandmas BIG sleepover " . I Work as a clerk in a Pediatric Unit in a hospital in Omaha, Ne. Im looking for others who have walked im my shoes to correspond with. Thats justme-justdenise ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.411 / Virus Database: 268.17.29/673 - Release Date: 2/6/2007 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2007 Report Share Posted February 7, 2007 Hi , You sound like just a lovely person - someone who'd I'd like to call a friend. Welcome to our forum here - there are many, many women with advice, experiences to share and much wisdom and support to pass along. You may even have a few good laughs and share in some tears as we all go forward in our journey's. I look forward to getting to know you better. Hugs! Ellen > > My Name is & I have been newly dianosed with Invasive Ductal > Carsinoma-Right Breast. Surgery date Feb. 8th -- Bilateral > Mastectomy " Simple left breast (my choice) - Modified Radical Right > Breast. > I had a mammogram Oct.26, 2006 that showed a mass. I didn't want to > upset my children over the holidays so I did not go for the > compression films until Jan. 3rd, 2007. I was sent to a surgeon on > Jan. 8th, 2007. I had a surgical needle biopsy on Jan. 11th, 2007. I > was diagnosed with breast cancer Jan 15, 2007.The first thing that > went through my mind was " no breasts? " What? Last year on Oct. > 28th,2005 I had a complete hysterectomy. Now they want my breasts? > Then my thoughts quickly went straight to losing my long hair. I > went through thoughts of self pitty of " What am I now...what makes > me female? " Kinda past that. I'm focusing more on living now.I had > my apt. with my oncologist. My surgery date has been set, Feb. 8th, > 2007. I saw a plastic surgeon about reconstruction Feb. 1st, 2007. I > know what I need to do to live for my children,my grand children > and " Myself " . My coworkers, friends and family have bee wonderfully > supportive. I found I have friends I didn't know I had. I've been > told by my oncologist I will have to have to have chemo and have set > up my apt. to set up my schedule-three weeks after sugery. I have a > little planner, keep lots of notes, and have started a journal. This > helps me keep my mind straight and when I start losing hope I go > back and read my notes...days when I felt down and then days when I > was full of hope. I suprise myself sometimes at how strong I am. A > friend/co worker sent me to The Amercan Cancer Society site and told > me to read. One of my fears was the affect my hairloss would have > not just on me but my oldest grand daughter and my middle son (he is > moms boy and is taking this hard). After reading everyones comments > I have a better feeling about the whole hairloss thing. I feel > better about having already decided to gradually start cutting my > hair. I am going to cut it shoulder lenght right after sugery. Then > cut it short when I begin chemo. When the hair begins to fall out I > will have it shaved. I have not decided if I want a wig I think I > personally would feel better with scarves and hats (more my > personality) though others have been pushing the wig idea. After > reading everyones comments I think I can compromise some for my > friends and family. I will get a wig for that occassion where they > or I would feel more comfortable with that appearance. " But " after > browsing sites I see that I am not the only one who wants to go > natural. I can do what feels good for me without guilt but > compromise and wear the wig for those occassions where those around > me might not be so comfortable. > > I am 45. > Divorced. > Born, raised and still reside in Iowa. Grew up a farm girl moved to > the city...btw you can not take the farm out of the farm girl. > Mother of 2 boys 26 and 23, 1 daughter 16. > 2 absolutely lovely daughter in laws and 1 very nice boyfriend of my > daughter. > 3 grand-daughters 4, 2, 5 mths and 1 due in April. > Yet 1 more grandchild due in October (hope its a boy but a girl > would be fun---imagine " Grandmas BIG sleepover " . > I Work as a clerk in a Pediatric Unit in a hospital in Omaha, Ne. > > Im looking for others who have walked im my shoes to correspond with. > > Thats justme-justdenise > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2007 Report Share Posted February 7, 2007 Hey my name is Tammy in Missouri and I also was affraid of how my oldest granddaughter would react to Nana being bald. She is 10 going on 21. Amazingly enough she doesn't seem to notice that much. My youngest granddaughter 10 months doesn't recognize me with my wig on so I am going for the natural look. Even though when you go outside the wig is a lot warmer. I have several scarfs and hats(1 favorite) that I wear and feel comfortable in. Being comfortable right now is very important with this diag we don't need anything more to bring anxiety. Be strong we will get thru this. My prayers are with you, Tammy & nne Svihlik moochie1@...> wrote: Welcome to the group . What you are feeling is normal. We all go through different feelings after being diagnosed. As far as the wig goes I would do what YOU want to. Its time for you to do what makes you feel best and is the most comfortable. Personally if my cancer were to come back I would go bald if it were summer time. Up here in N. Illinois winters can be brutal. Its 6 below today with a 16 below windchill which is an improvement from the beginning of the week. I will keep you in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Introduction My Name is & I have been newly dianosed with Invasive Ductal Carsinoma-Right Breast. Surgery date Feb. 8th -- Bilateral Mastectomy " Simple left breast (my choice) - Modified Radical Right Breast. I had a mammogram Oct.26, 2006 that showed a mass. I didn't want to upset my children over the holidays so I did not go for the compression films until Jan. 3rd, 2007. I was sent to a surgeon on Jan. 8th, 2007. I had a surgical needle biopsy on Jan. 11th, 2007. I was diagnosed with breast cancer Jan 15, 2007.The first thing that went through my mind was " no breasts? " What? Last year on Oct. 28th,2005 I had a complete hysterectomy. Now they want my breasts? Then my thoughts quickly went straight to losing my long hair. I went through thoughts of self pitty of " What am I now...what makes me female? " Kinda past that. I'm focusing more on living now.I had my apt. with my oncologist. My surgery date has been set, Feb. 8th, 2007. I saw a plastic surgeon about reconstruction Feb. 1st, 2007. I know what I need to do to live for my children,my grand children and " Myself " . My coworkers, friends and family have bee wonderfully supportive. I found I have friends I didn't know I had. I've been told by my oncologist I will have to have to have chemo and have set up my apt. to set up my schedule-three weeks after sugery. I have a little planner, keep lots of notes, and have started a journal. This helps me keep my mind straight and when I start losing hope I go back and read my notes...days when I felt down and then days when I was full of hope. I suprise myself sometimes at how strong I am. A friend/co worker sent me to The Amercan Cancer Society site and told me to read. One of my fears was the affect my hairloss would have not just on me but my oldest grand daughter and my middle son (he is moms boy and is taking this hard). After reading everyones comments I have a better feeling about the whole hairloss thing. I feel better about having already decided to gradually start cutting my hair. I am going to cut it shoulder lenght right after sugery. Then cut it short when I begin chemo. When the hair begins to fall out I will have it shaved. I have not decided if I want a wig I think I personally would feel better with scarves and hats (more my personality) though others have been pushing the wig idea. After reading everyones comments I think I can compromise some for my friends and family. I will get a wig for that occassion where they or I would feel more comfortable with that appearance. " But " after browsing sites I see that I am not the only one who wants to go natural. I can do what feels good for me without guilt but compromise and wear the wig for those occassions where those around me might not be so comfortable. I am 45. Divorced. Born, raised and still reside in Iowa. Grew up a farm girl moved to the city...btw you can not take the farm out of the farm girl. Mother of 2 boys 26 and 23, 1 daughter 16. 2 absolutely lovely daughter in laws and 1 very nice boyfriend of my daughter. 3 grand-daughters 4, 2, 5 mths and 1 due in April. Yet 1 more grandchild due in October (hope its a boy but a girl would be fun---imagine " Grandmas BIG sleepover " . I Work as a clerk in a Pediatric Unit in a hospital in Omaha, Ne. Im looking for others who have walked im my shoes to correspond with. Thats justme-justdenise ---------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.411 / Virus Database: 268.17.29/673 - Release Date: 2/6/2007 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2007 Report Share Posted February 7, 2007 When my aunt went bald from her chemo (ovarian cancer), she didn't wear a wig or a hat. She didn't see the need to disguise what she was going though. After a while we all got used to seeing her w/o hair. Not sure I would be able to do this, though. > > Welcome to the group . What you are feeling is normal. We all go through different feelings after being diagnosed. > As far as the wig goes I would do what YOU want to. Its time for you to do what makes you feel best and is the most comfortable. Personally if my cancer were to come back I would go bald if it were summer time. Up here in N. Illinois winters can be brutal. Its 6 below today with a 16 below windchill which is an improvement from the beginning of the week. I will keep you in my prayers. > Hugs > nne > Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life > http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html > BreastCancerStories.com > http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ > Angel Feather Loomer > www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com > Check out my other ornaments at > www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html > Lots of info and gifts at: > www.cancerclub.com > Introduction > > > My Name is & I have been newly dianosed with Invasive Ductal > Carsinoma-Right Breast. Surgery date Feb. 8th -- Bilateral > Mastectomy " Simple left breast (my choice) - Modified Radical Right > Breast. > I had a mammogram Oct.26, 2006 that showed a mass. I didn't want to > upset my children over the holidays so I did not go for the > compression films until Jan. 3rd, 2007. I was sent to a surgeon on > Jan. 8th, 2007. I had a surgical needle biopsy on Jan. 11th, 2007. I > was diagnosed with breast cancer Jan 15, 2007.The first thing that > went through my mind was " no breasts? " What? Last year on Oct. > 28th,2005 I had a complete hysterectomy. Now they want my breasts? > Then my thoughts quickly went straight to losing my long hair. I > went through thoughts of self pitty of " What am I now...what makes > me female? " Kinda past that. I'm focusing more on living now.I had > my apt. with my oncologist. My surgery date has been set, Feb. 8th, > 2007. I saw a plastic surgeon about reconstruction Feb. 1st, 2007. I > know what I need to do to live for my children,my grand children > and " Myself " . My coworkers, friends and family have bee wonderfully > supportive. I found I have friends I didn't know I had. I've been > told by my oncologist I will have to have to have chemo and have set > up my apt. to set up my schedule-three weeks after sugery. I have a > little planner, keep lots of notes, and have started a journal. This > helps me keep my mind straight and when I start losing hope I go > back and read my notes...days when I felt down and then days when I > was full of hope. I suprise myself sometimes at how strong I am. A > friend/co worker sent me to The Amercan Cancer Society site and told > me to read. One of my fears was the affect my hairloss would have > not just on me but my oldest grand daughter and my middle son (he is > moms boy and is taking this hard). After reading everyones comments > I have a better feeling about the whole hairloss thing. I feel > better about having already decided to gradually start cutting my > hair. I am going to cut it shoulder lenght right after sugery. Then > cut it short when I begin chemo. When the hair begins to fall out I > will have it shaved. I have not decided if I want a wig I think I > personally would feel better with scarves and hats (more my > personality) though others have been pushing the wig idea. After > reading everyones comments I think I can compromise some for my > friends and family. I will get a wig for that occassion where they > or I would feel more comfortable with that appearance. " But " after > browsing sites I see that I am not the only one who wants to go > natural. I can do what feels good for me without guilt but > compromise and wear the wig for those occassions where those around > me might not be so comfortable. > > I am 45. > Divorced. > Born, raised and still reside in Iowa. Grew up a farm girl moved to > the city...btw you can not take the farm out of the farm girl. > Mother of 2 boys 26 and 23, 1 daughter 16. > 2 absolutely lovely daughter in laws and 1 very nice boyfriend of my > daughter. > 3 grand-daughters 4, 2, 5 mths and 1 due in April. > Yet 1 more grandchild due in October (hope its a boy but a girl > would be fun---imagine " Grandmas BIG sleepover " . > I Work as a clerk in a Pediatric Unit in a hospital in Omaha, Ne. > > Im looking for others who have walked im my shoes to correspond with. > > Thats justme-justdenise > > > > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------- ----------- > > > No virus found in this incoming message. > Checked by AVG Free Edition. > Version: 7.1.411 / Virus Database: 268.17.29/673 - Release Date: 2/6/2007 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2007 Report Share Posted February 7, 2007 Wow! , What an amazing woman you are! How are you? Really, how are you? Knowing intellectually is good and having a plan but the emotions have to be dealt with to. Hence my question How are you, really. I admire your strength but know that sometimes we need others to share all the garbage that comes with cancer. That is why this website is so good. I will keep you in my prayers. Hugs to you. Jan K justdenise61@...> wrote: My Name is & I have been newly dianosed with Invasive Ductal Carsinoma-Right Breast. Surgery date Feb. 8th -- Bilateral Mastectomy " Simple left breast (my choice) - Modified Radical Right Breast. I had a mammogram Oct.26, 2006 that showed a mass. I didn't want to upset my children over the holidays so I did not go for the compression films until Jan. 3rd, 2007. I was sent to a surgeon on Jan. 8th, 2007. I had a surgical needle biopsy on Jan. 11th, 2007. I was diagnosed with breast cancer Jan 15, 2007.The first thing that went through my mind was " no breasts? " What? Last year on Oct. 28th,2005 I had a complete hysterectomy. Now they want my breasts? Then my thoughts quickly went straight to losing my long hair. I went through thoughts of self pitty of " What am I now...what makes me female? " Kinda past that. I'm focusing more on living now.I had my apt. with my oncologist. My surgery date has been set, Feb. 8th, 2007. I saw a plastic surgeon about reconstruction Feb. 1st, 2007. I know what I need to do to live for my children,my grand children and " Myself " . My coworkers, friends and family have bee wonderfully supportive. I found I have friends I didn't know I had. I've been told by my oncologist I will have to have to have chemo and have set up my apt. to set up my schedule-three weeks after sugery. I have a little planner, keep lots of notes, and have started a journal. This helps me keep my mind straight and when I start losing hope I go back and read my notes...days when I felt down and then days when I was full of hope. I suprise myself sometimes at how strong I am. A friend/co worker sent me to The Amercan Cancer Society site and told me to read. One of my fears was the affect my hairloss would have not just on me but my oldest grand daughter and my middle son (he is moms boy and is taking this hard). After reading everyones comments I have a better feeling about the whole hairloss thing. I feel better about having already decided to gradually start cutting my hair. I am going to cut it shoulder lenght right after sugery. Then cut it short when I begin chemo. When the hair begins to fall out I will have it shaved. I have not decided if I want a wig I think I personally would feel better with scarves and hats (more my personality) though others have been pushing the wig idea. After reading everyones comments I think I can compromise some for my friends and family. I will get a wig for that occassion where they or I would feel more comfortable with that appearance. " But " after browsing sites I see that I am not the only one who wants to go natural. I can do what feels good for me without guilt but compromise and wear the wig for those occassions where those around me might not be so comfortable. I am 45. Divorced. Born, raised and still reside in Iowa. Grew up a farm girl moved to the city...btw you can not take the farm out of the farm girl. Mother of 2 boys 26 and 23, 1 daughter 16. 2 absolutely lovely daughter in laws and 1 very nice boyfriend of my daughter. 3 grand-daughters 4, 2, 5 mths and 1 due in April. Yet 1 more grandchild due in October (hope its a boy but a girl would be fun---imagine " Grandmas BIG sleepover " . I Work as a clerk in a Pediatric Unit in a hospital in Omaha, Ne. Im looking for others who have walked im my shoes to correspond with. Thats justme-justdenise Jan Koelsch --------------------------------- Sucker-punch spam with award-winning protection. Try the free Yahoo! Mail Beta. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2007 Report Share Posted February 12, 2007 Hi ! Welcome to the group. I had infiltraing ductal also. Fortunately it was found very early. I am going through chemo right now and have lost my hair. I ended up shaving my head because it was getting too messy even when I had it a 1/4 inch. My Hubby shaved his also. Yesterday at Church everyone said how good my head looked even without hair. The woman who cuts my hair said she looks forward to when it grows back so she can see me more again. Another friend had made me a shirt with a baby on it and it says 'Who needs hair to be beautiful? " on it. I have decided not to get a wig, but a friend said she would lend me hers, she had Hodgkins 12 years ago and lost her hair with chemo too. So I will have that for special occasions but I will probably wear my hats and scarves most of the time. I have been making hats for others and a friend is helping me with this project. We plan on doing this even after I am through chemo. My sister seemed upset that I wasn't getting a wig, but I told her it was MY hair and not hers so it shouldn't worry her. As far as telling children goes, I don't have any children but a bunch of neices and nephews, mostly grown. My one nephew took my cancer very hard at first. He's 20. He never talked to me much about it but I found out he called his cousin crying at first and she calmed him down. His Mom died when he was 7 and I am one of the only " Mom " figures in his and his sister's life. His sister was better, she's a nurse (25 yrs old) so she is more aware of medical things then he is. But they and my older neices are all very supportive of their Auntie Val. The girls group at Church I help teach have been great too. I am going to have them paint my head with face paints next week and give them a chance to ask me questions about what I am doing. They are mostly 4th graders and some have had grandparents die from cancer so I think it will do them good to see me and ask Q's. Well, I wrote more then I intended so I'd better stop! LOL! Love and prayers Val Who is getting ready for the big snow storm that is supposed to be coming tonight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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