Re: Anita-Hospice

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I am so sorry that the cancer is not treatable or curable. This cannot be easy

for your mom to hear or your family.

By best suggestion from my hospice experience is to embrace the whole

experience and the staff. Lean on them. That is what they are there for. You

get a whole team with home health aide, a nurse to advocate for your mom and

you, a social worker to help you all get through the red tape of everything, and

a chaplain (if you want one), that will respect your choice of religion or

faith, and work with your current spiritual leader (some call that person

Pastor, Rabbi, etc.) This will give you time to be with your mom and make the

most of that time with her. Just let her know how you feel about her and share

those special moments from the past and the present. She needs to know that she

is important, that she has made a difference and many other things. If you

e-mail me your address, I will mail you a book called " Gone From Sight " that

explains what happens in all this process to the patient and what to expect.

Just remember that not everyone experiences sickness and

death in the same way.

I wish and prayer for peace to you and your family. I wish that I could be

there to give you all hugs. Since I can't, just know that that you aren't alone

nor is your mom. God is with you all and will carry you if need be.

Jan Koelsch

Anita Youngbar ayoungbar@...> wrote:

Thank you, Jan. I appreciate the feedback on hospice. My mom went to

her doctor on Monday and found out the cancer is so widespread now that there is

nothing else they can do, so they put her in touch with hospice. At this point,

keeping her comfortable is all that can be done. She is with Hospice of the

Chesapeake.

Jan Koelsch jkoelsch1950@...> wrote: I was a hospice chaplain for four

years. Hospice is a great comfort and also generally provides excellent care and

support for not only the patient but also the family. I will be glad to answer

what questions I can or be whatever support you need. I don't have all the

answers but can listen to your concerns and questions.

If I can ask, what is your mom's diagnosis? Which hospice is she with?

I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts.

Blessings to you.

Jan K

Anita ayoungbar@...> wrote:

I have been so busy, I haven't posted anything in awhile. My mom just

went into hospice- anyone who has any experience with this, I'd love

to hear from you. Thanks!

Jan Koelsch

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