Doctors!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Guest guest]

Okay, I am really ticked off! I just came back from my oncologist.

He does have a reputation for being direct. I do like him but today,

as his nurse said, he was " really out there. " She also thought he

was having a bad day. I think so, too.

After waiting an hour and a half to get back to the exam room, I

waited another twenty minutes (did get a good nap) to see him. He

was in the room for a little over 5 minutes. Rude does not describe

what he was like. He tried to tell me that my bone pain and

headaches and hypertension and the problems sleeping were not part of

the side effect with Arimidex. Yet he is the one who told me that

bone pain was definitely part of Arimidex. He also told me that with

the " drive by mastectomies " women go back to work the day after such

a thing with drainage tubes and all. He told me that my tumor was T1

and was no big deal. I held my tongue until then. I looked him

straight in the eye and said, " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

definitely he did not know what he was talking about. Until he did

have a mastectomy, he did not know what he was talking about.

I told his nurse after he left that he needs to learn to listen and

that even that he is from Pakistan, he needs to learn to deal with

American women. I am contemplating another oncologist in the same

office. I understand this has been done before in that office.

Why do doctors group people into the same category because the

disease has the same name? We all know that everyone may have

similar experience, but no two people have the identical experience.

If I stay with this oncologist, we will have a discussion at my next

appointment about how I want to be treated. I respect him as a

doctor but his art of medicine and how to treat patients stunk today.

Thanks for listening to me spout off.

[Guest guest]

Boy that would be the end of him if he were my doctor. I would never in a

million years put up with that. Hope you change to another dr.

Hugs

nne

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Doctors!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay, I am really ticked off! I just came back from my oncologist.

He does have a reputation for being direct. I do like him but today,

as his nurse said, he was " really out there. " She also thought he

was having a bad day. I think so, too.

After waiting an hour and a half to get back to the exam room, I

waited another twenty minutes (did get a good nap) to see him. He

was in the room for a little over 5 minutes. Rude does not describe

what he was like. He tried to tell me that my bone pain and

headaches and hypertension and the problems sleeping were not part of

the side effect with Arimidex. Yet he is the one who told me that

bone pain was definitely part of Arimidex. He also told me that with

the " drive by mastectomies " women go back to work the day after such

a thing with drainage tubes and all. He told me that my tumor was T1

and was no big deal. I held my tongue until then. I looked him

straight in the eye and said, " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

definitely he did not know what he was talking about. Until he did

have a mastectomy, he did not know what he was talking about.

I told his nurse after he left that he needs to learn to listen and

that even that he is from Pakistan, he needs to learn to deal with

American women. I am contemplating another oncologist in the same

office. I understand this has been done before in that office.

Why do doctors group people into the same category because the

disease has the same name? We all know that everyone may have

similar experience, but no two people have the identical experience.

If I stay with this oncologist, we will have a discussion at my next

appointment about how I want to be treated. I respect him as a

doctor but his art of medicine and how to treat patients stunk today.

Thanks for listening to me spout off.

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[Guest guest]

Hi,

I dumped my " top oncologist " in this state (Washington) who is American for

the same reason. He told me that Arimadex and the A.I.'s do not cause joint

pain, fatigue, etc. which caused me to cry in his office. He sat there

staring at me as I cried and said nothing!!

I felt that I didn't want to go to someone so uninformed and lacking

compassion!! I deserved better!!

I now see his female partner who does know that the A.I.'s have a lot of

side effects as I had experienced. She recommended going to Tamoxifen. I

have been on Tamoxifen now for about 3 months and no longer have pain or

fatigue! My quality of life is wonderful!! I highly recommend it...

I'd dump your oncologist for someone else if I were you IMHO.

Take Care,

Doctors!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> Okay, I am really ticked off! I just came back from my oncologist.

> He does have a reputation for being direct. I do like him but today,

> as his nurse said, he was " really out there. " She also thought he

> was having a bad day. I think so, too.

>

> After waiting an hour and a half to get back to the exam room, I

> waited another twenty minutes (did get a good nap) to see him. He

> was in the room for a little over 5 minutes. Rude does not describe

> what he was like. He tried to tell me that my bone pain and

> headaches and hypertension and the problems sleeping were not part of

> the side effect with Arimidex. Yet he is the one who told me that

> bone pain was definitely part of Arimidex. He also told me that with

> the " drive by mastectomies " women go back to work the day after such

> a thing with drainage tubes and all. He told me that my tumor was T1

> and was no big deal. I held my tongue until then. I looked him

> straight in the eye and said, " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

> cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

> have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

> mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

> definitely he did not know what he was talking about. Until he did

> have a mastectomy, he did not know what he was talking about.

>

> I told his nurse after he left that he needs to learn to listen and

> that even that he is from Pakistan, he needs to learn to deal with

> American women. I am contemplating another oncologist in the same

> office. I understand this has been done before in that office.

>

> Why do doctors group people into the same category because the

> disease has the same name? We all know that everyone may have

> similar experience, but no two people have the identical experience.

> If I stay with this oncologist, we will have a discussion at my next

> appointment about how I want to be treated. I respect him as a

> doctor but his art of medicine and how to treat patients stunk today.

>

> Thanks for listening to me spout off.

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I was angry and I was in tears when I left the doctor's office. When I came

home, I discussed the situation with my hubby. He is leaving the choice to me.

I called his nurse and asked about the procedure for changing oncologists in

the office. She listened well and then told me who to talk to get the change

made. She also told me " he is a very fine doctor and highly skilled. " I let

her know that I was not questioning his skill or how fine a doctor he is. I did

not feel that I was treated well. She suggested that I keep the next

appointment and let him know how I felt. I know he was behind but I don't feel

that excuses his behavior.

I'm glad that others are bothered by his behavior today and would change

doctors.

fastest2@... wrote:

In a message dated 1/31/2007 4:10:28 PM Central Standard Time,

jkoelsch1950@... writes:

> " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

> cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

> have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

> mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

> definitely he did not know what he was talking about.

He's lucky it was you & not me! :-) I don't think I could have maintained

myself in a situation like that.

Especially, since I feel like I put up with so much of the side effects and

never called them in the middle of the night...Trying to be as little trouble

as possible. (which I do not recommend)

Man, I just got mad reading this!

Hugs,

Dari

[Guest guest]

Thanks, for your support. My gut tells me that is the right thing to do.

KOKO

wendyamck@...> wrote: Hi,

I dumped my " top oncologist " in this state (Washington) who is American for

the same reason. He told me that Arimadex and the A.I.'s do not cause joint

pain, fatigue, etc. which caused me to cry in his office. He sat there

staring at me as I cried and said nothing!!

I felt that I didn't want to go to someone so uninformed and lacking

compassion!! I deserved better!!

I now see his female partner who does know that the A.I.'s have a lot of

side effects as I had experienced. She recommended going to Tamoxifen. I

have been on Tamoxifen now for about 3 months and no longer have pain or

fatigue! My quality of life is wonderful!! I highly recommend it...

I'd dump your oncologist for someone else if I were you IMHO.

Take Care,

Doctors!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> Okay, I am really ticked off! I just came back from my oncologist.

> He does have a reputation for being direct. I do like him but today,

> as his nurse said, he was " really out there. " She also thought he

> was having a bad day. I think so, too.

>

> After waiting an hour and a half to get back to the exam room, I

> waited another twenty minutes (did get a good nap) to see him. He

> was in the room for a little over 5 minutes. Rude does not describe

> what he was like. He tried to tell me that my bone pain and

> headaches and hypertension and the problems sleeping were not part of

> the side effect with Arimidex. Yet he is the one who told me that

> bone pain was definitely part of Arimidex. He also told me that with

> the " drive by mastectomies " women go back to work the day after such

> a thing with drainage tubes and all. He told me that my tumor was T1

> and was no big deal. I held my tongue until then. I looked him

> straight in the eye and said, " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

> cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

> have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

> mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

> definitely he did not know what he was talking about. Until he did

> have a mastectomy, he did not know what he was talking about.

>

> I told his nurse after he left that he needs to learn to listen and

> that even that he is from Pakistan, he needs to learn to deal with

> American women. I am contemplating another oncologist in the same

> office. I understand this has been done before in that office.

>

> Why do doctors group people into the same category because the

> disease has the same name? We all know that everyone may have

> similar experience, but no two people have the identical experience.

> If I stay with this oncologist, we will have a discussion at my next

> appointment about how I want to be treated. I respect him as a

> doctor but his art of medicine and how to treat patients stunk today.

>

> Thanks for listening to me spout off.

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Jan,

I'm sorry to hear of your awful experience!!! I agree with everyone else,

CHANGE doctors.. There are many available.. I changed once already myself..

simply because he was older and felt I had no " need " to keep my other breast!

Well, as you said, and like the saying goes, until you walk in my shoes!!!

I would not do what the nurse recommended by keeping your next appt. with him.

By then, he already knows you were upset and his demeanor will be completely

different. If you are that upset, I would change doctors, transfer your files

by written consent and write a letter to the president of the board that

oversees your doctor and carbon copy your doctor as well. That way the mesasge

is across and you got to speak you mind without being interrupted or

disrespected!

KOKO my friend!!

Love

Michele

Jan Koelsch jkoelsch1950@...> wrote:

I was angry and I was in tears when I left the doctor's office. When I

came home, I discussed the situation with my hubby. He is leaving the choice to

me.

I called his nurse and asked about the procedure for changing oncologists in the

office. She listened well and then told me who to talk to get the change made.

She also told me " he is a very fine doctor and highly skilled. " I let her know

that I was not questioning his skill or how fine a doctor he is. I did not feel

that I was treated well. She suggested that I keep the next appointment and let

him know how I felt. I know he was behind but I don't feel that excuses his

behavior.

I'm glad that others are bothered by his behavior today and would change

doctors.

fastest2@... wrote:

In a message dated 1/31/2007 4:10:28 PM Central Standard Time,

jkoelsch1950@... writes:

> " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

> cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

> have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

> mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

> definitely he did not know what he was talking about.

He's lucky it was you & not me! :-) I don't think I could have maintained

myself in a situation like that.

Especially, since I feel like I put up with so much of the side effects and

never called them in the middle of the night...Trying to be as little trouble

as possible. (which I do not recommend)

Man, I just got mad reading this!

Hugs,

Dari

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Michele for the empathy. You are completely right. Tomorrow I will be

calling to see what the procedure is to change oncologist. I can take

directness but not rudeness.

This cancer thing is difficult at best without the oncologist being such a so

and so.

I also have another mammogram and ultrasound scheduled for Tuesday of next

week. At my doctor's appointment yesterday, the nurse practioner found a mass

and a small lump, just like I did in my right breast. I know the procedures so

I am just waiting until Tuesday without panic because thanks to the left breast

I know what to expect. That in a strange way is a mixed blessing. So, here we

go again.

I appreciate your prayers.

Michele Gately tinkkerbelle2002@...> wrote:

Jan,

I'm sorry to hear of your awful experience!!! I agree with everyone else, CHANGE

doctors.. There are many available.. I changed once already myself.. simply

because he was older and felt I had no " need " to keep my other breast! Well, as

you said, and like the saying goes, until you walk in my shoes!!!

I would not do what the nurse recommended by keeping your next appt. with him.

By then, he already knows you were upset and his demeanor will be completely

different. If you are that upset, I would change doctors, transfer your files by

written consent and write a letter to the president of the board that oversees

your doctor and carbon copy your doctor as well. That way the mesasge is across

and you got to speak you mind without being interrupted or disrespected!

KOKO my friend!!

Love

Michele

Jan Koelsch jkoelsch1950@...> wrote:

I was angry and I was in tears when I left the doctor's office. When I came

home, I discussed the situation with my hubby. He is leaving the choice to me.

I called his nurse and asked about the procedure for changing oncologists in the

office. She listened well and then told me who to talk to get the change made.

She also told me " he is a very fine doctor and highly skilled. " I let her know

that I was not questioning his skill or how fine a doctor he is. I did not feel

that I was treated well. She suggested that I keep the next appointment and let

him know how I felt. I know he was behind but I don't feel that excuses his

behavior.

I'm glad that others are bothered by his behavior today and would change

doctors.

fastest2@... wrote:

In a message dated 1/31/2007 4:10:28 PM Central Standard Time,

jkoelsch1950@... writes:

> " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

> cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

> have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

> mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

> definitely he did not know what he was talking about.

He's lucky it was you & not me! :-) I don't think I could have maintained

myself in a situation like that.

Especially, since I feel like I put up with so much of the side effects and

never called them in the middle of the night...Trying to be as little trouble

as possible. (which I do not recommend)

Man, I just got mad reading this!

Hugs,

Dari

[Guest guest]

Jan

I'm sorry to hear that they also found something in your other breast

yesterday.. I feel as though you can't catch a break right now and I wish I

could be of more help to you. How much time has passed since you've dealt with

everything in the left breast? I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and

prayers, and I know you post often enough to keep us updated. Please know I am

thinking of you and sending you as much positive energy as I can through this

darn computer!!

Love

Michele

Jan Koelsch jkoelsch1950@...> wrote:

Thanks, Michele for the empathy. You are completely right. Tomorrow I

will be calling to see what the procedure is to change oncologist. I can take

directness but not rudeness.

This cancer thing is difficult at best without the oncologist being such a so

and so.

I also have another mammogram and ultrasound scheduled for Tuesday of next week.

At my doctor's appointment yesterday, the nurse practioner found a mass and a

small lump, just like I did in my right breast. I know the procedures so I am

just waiting until Tuesday without panic because thanks to the left breast I

know what to expect. That in a strange way is a mixed blessing. So, here we go

again.

I appreciate your prayers.

Michele Gately tinkkerbelle2002@...> wrote:

Jan,

I'm sorry to hear of your awful experience!!! I agree with everyone else, CHANGE

doctors.. There are many available.. I changed once already myself.. simply

because he was older and felt I had no " need " to keep my other breast! Well, as

you said, and like the saying goes, until you walk in my shoes!!!

I would not do what the nurse recommended by keeping your next appt. with him.

By then, he already knows you were upset and his demeanor will be completely

different. If you are that upset, I would change doctors, transfer your files by

written consent and write a letter to the president of the board that oversees

your doctor and carbon copy your doctor as well. That way the mesasge is across

and you got to speak you mind without being interrupted or disrespected!

KOKO my friend!!

Love

Michele

Jan Koelsch jkoelsch1950@...> wrote:

I was angry and I was in tears when I left the doctor's office. When I came

home, I discussed the situation with my hubby. He is leaving the choice to me.

I called his nurse and asked about the procedure for changing oncologists in the

office. She listened well and then told me who to talk to get the change made.

She also told me " he is a very fine doctor and highly skilled. " I let her know

that I was not questioning his skill or how fine a doctor he is. I did not feel

that I was treated well. She suggested that I keep the next appointment and let

him know how I felt. I know he was behind but I don't feel that excuses his

behavior.

I'm glad that others are bothered by his behavior today and would change

doctors.

fastest2@... wrote:

In a message dated 1/31/2007 4:10:28 PM Central Standard Time,

jkoelsch1950@... writes:

> " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

> cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

> have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

> mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

> definitely he did not know what he was talking about.

He's lucky it was you & not me! :-) I don't think I could have maintained

myself in a situation like that.

Especially, since I feel like I put up with so much of the side effects and

never called them in the middle of the night...Trying to be as little trouble

as possible. (which I do not recommend)

Man, I just got mad reading this!

Hugs,

Dari

[Guest guest]

Jan,

Sorry to hear about more lumps. Hang in there. Eighty percent of all lumps are

not cancerous. You will be in my prayers.

Hugs

nne

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Re: Doctors!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks, Michele for the empathy. You are completely right. Tomorrow I will be

calling to see what the procedure is to change oncologist. I can take directness

but not rudeness.

This cancer thing is difficult at best without the oncologist being such a so

and so.

I also have another mammogram and ultrasound scheduled for Tuesday of next

week. At my doctor's appointment yesterday, the nurse practioner found a mass

and a small lump, just like I did in my right breast. I know the procedures so I

am just waiting until Tuesday without panic because thanks to the left breast I

know what to expect. That in a strange way is a mixed blessing. So, here we go

again.

I appreciate your prayers.

Michele Gately tinkkerbelle2002@...> wrote:

Jan,

I'm sorry to hear of your awful experience!!! I agree with everyone else,

CHANGE doctors.. There are many available.. I changed once already myself..

simply because he was older and felt I had no " need " to keep my other breast!

Well, as you said, and like the saying goes, until you walk in my shoes!!!

I would not do what the nurse recommended by keeping your next appt. with him.

By then, he already knows you were upset and his demeanor will be completely

different. If you are that upset, I would change doctors, transfer your files by

written consent and write a letter to the president of the board that oversees

your doctor and carbon copy your doctor as well. That way the mesasge is across

and you got to speak you mind without being interrupted or disrespected!

KOKO my friend!!

Love

Michele

Jan Koelsch jkoelsch1950@...> wrote:

I was angry and I was in tears when I left the doctor's office. When I came

home, I discussed the situation with my hubby. He is leaving the choice to me.

I called his nurse and asked about the procedure for changing oncologists in

the office. She listened well and then told me who to talk to get the change

made. She also told me " he is a very fine doctor and highly skilled. " I let her

know that I was not questioning his skill or how fine a doctor he is. I did not

feel that I was treated well. She suggested that I keep the next appointment and

let him know how I felt. I know he was behind but I don't feel that excuses his

behavior.

I'm glad that others are bothered by his behavior today and would change

doctors.

fastest2@... wrote:

In a message dated 1/31/2007 4:10:28 PM Central Standard Time,

jkoelsch1950@... writes:

> " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

> cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

> have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

> mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

> definitely he did not know what he was talking about.

He's lucky it was you & not me! :-) I don't think I could have maintained

myself in a situation like that.

Especially, since I feel like I put up with so much of the side effects and

never called them in the middle of the night...Trying to be as little trouble

as possible. (which I do not recommend)

Man, I just got mad reading this!

Hugs,

Dari

[Guest guest]

I think we'd all agree that you should change Dr.'s. What a

horrible man! I don't blame you for being ticked off. ALL - of

those symptoms are side effects from the Arimidex - maybe if some of

these Dr.s had to actually TAKE the drugs, they'd understand.

Geesh - I'm so sorry you have to put up with that.

Hugs!

Ellen

>

> Okay, I am really ticked off! I just came back from my

oncologist.

> He does have a reputation for being direct. I do like him but

today,

> as his nurse said, he was " really out there. " She also thought he

> was having a bad day. I think so, too.

>

> After waiting an hour and a half to get back to the exam room, I

> waited another twenty minutes (did get a good nap) to see him. He

> was in the room for a little over 5 minutes. Rude does not

describe

> what he was like. He tried to tell me that my bone pain and

> headaches and hypertension and the problems sleeping were not part

of

> the side effect with Arimidex. Yet he is the one who told me that

> bone pain was definitely part of Arimidex. He also told me that

with

> the " drive by mastectomies " women go back to work the day after

such

> a thing with drainage tubes and all. He told me that my tumor was

T1

> and was no big deal. I held my tongue until then. I looked him

> straight in the eye and said, " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had

breast

> cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients

who

> have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

> mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients

and

> definitely he did not know what he was talking about. Until he

did

> have a mastectomy, he did not know what he was talking about.

>

> I told his nurse after he left that he needs to learn to listen

and

> that even that he is from Pakistan, he needs to learn to deal with

> American women. I am contemplating another oncologist in the same

> office. I understand this has been done before in that office.

>

> Why do doctors group people into the same category because the

> disease has the same name? We all know that everyone may have

> similar experience, but no two people have the identical

experience.

> If I stay with this oncologist, we will have a discussion at my

next

> appointment about how I want to be treated. I respect him as a

> doctor but his art of medicine and how to treat patients stunk

today.

>

> Thanks for listening to me spout off.

>

[Guest guest]

I'm right there with you!

My onc is excellent but his bed side manners are not, so I decided to chage

doctors and try a woman doctor. We will see if it works, but at point of my life

and after all I have been through I don't need the aggravation of having a rude

doctor.

Find someone you like and feel good with.

Hugs

Doctors!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay, I am really ticked off! I just came back from my oncologist.

He does have a reputation for being direct. I do like him but today,

as his nurse said, he was " really out there. " She also thought he

was having a bad day. I think so, too.

After waiting an hour and a half to get back to the exam room, I

waited another twenty minutes (did get a good nap) to see him. He

was in the room for a little over 5 minutes. Rude does not describe

what he was like. He tried to tell me that my bone pain and

headaches and hypertension and the problems sleeping were not part of

the side effect with Arimidex. Yet he is the one who told me that

bone pain was definitely part of Arimidex. He also told me that with

the " drive by mastectomies " women go back to work the day after such

a thing with drainage tubes and all. He told me that my tumor was T1

and was no big deal. I held my tongue until then. I looked him

straight in the eye and said, " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

definitely he did not know what he was talking about. Until he did

have a mastectomy, he did not know what he was talking about.

I told his nurse after he left that he needs to learn to listen and

that even that he is from Pakistan, he needs to learn to deal with

American women. I am contemplating another oncologist in the same

office. I understand this has been done before in that office.

Why do doctors group people into the same category because the

disease has the same name? We all know that everyone may have

similar experience, but no two people have the identical experience.

If I stay with this oncologist, we will have a discussion at my next

appointment about how I want to be treated. I respect him as a

doctor but his art of medicine and how to treat patients stunk today.

Thanks for listening to me spout off.

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Thanks, nne. I know the statistics and am hoping that this is the 80%.

FYI: I called the oncologist's office and ask that I be referred to another

oncologist. I explained that I felt that the doctor was just mean yesterday and

his nurse was in the room and could verify the behavior and my discussion with

her after he left the room as well as a phone call after I got home. We are

working on a referral.

Thanks for all the support.

& nne Svihlik moochie1@...> wrote:

Jan,

Sorry to hear about more lumps. Hang in there. Eighty percent of all lumps are

not cancerous. You will be in my prayers.

Hugs

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Re: Doctors!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks, Michele for the empathy. You are completely right. Tomorrow I will be

calling to see what the procedure is to change oncologist. I can take directness

but not rudeness.

This cancer thing is difficult at best without the oncologist being such a so

and so.

I also have another mammogram and ultrasound scheduled for Tuesday of next week.

At my doctor's appointment yesterday, the nurse practioner found a mass and a

small lump, just like I did in my right breast. I know the procedures so I am

just waiting until Tuesday without panic because thanks to the left breast I

know what to expect. That in a strange way is a mixed blessing. So, here we go

again.

I appreciate your prayers.

Michele Gately tinkkerbelle2002@...> wrote:

Jan,

I'm sorry to hear of your awful experience!!! I agree with everyone else, CHANGE

doctors.. There are many available.. I changed once already myself.. simply

because he was older and felt I had no " need " to keep my other breast! Well, as

you said, and like the saying goes, until you walk in my shoes!!!

I would not do what the nurse recommended by keeping your next appt. with him.

By then, he already knows you were upset and his demeanor will be completely

different. If you are that upset, I would change doctors, transfer your files by

written consent and write a letter to the president of the board that oversees

your doctor and carbon copy your doctor as well. That way the mesasge is across

and you got to speak you mind without being interrupted or disrespected!

KOKO my friend!!

Love

Michele

Jan Koelsch jkoelsch1950@...> wrote:

I was angry and I was in tears when I left the doctor's office. When I came

home, I discussed the situation with my hubby. He is leaving the choice to me.

I called his nurse and asked about the procedure for changing oncologists in the

office. She listened well and then told me who to talk to get the change made.

She also told me " he is a very fine doctor and highly skilled. " I let her know

that I was not questioning his skill or how fine a doctor he is. I did not feel

that I was treated well. She suggested that I keep the next appointment and let

him know how I felt. I know he was behind but I don't feel that excuses his

behavior.

I'm glad that others are bothered by his behavior today and would change

doctors.

fastest2@... wrote:

In a message dated 1/31/2007 4:10:28 PM Central Standard Time,

jkoelsch1950@... writes:

> " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

> cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

> have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

> mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

> definitely he did not know what he was talking about.

He's lucky it was you & not me! :-) I don't think I could have maintained

myself in a situation like that.

Especially, since I feel like I put up with so much of the side effects and

never called them in the middle of the night...Trying to be as little trouble

as possible. (which I do not recommend)

Man, I just got mad reading this!

Hugs,

Dari

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Ellen.

I forgot a funny note to the appointment, partially because I was so ticked

off and upset.

There was another doctor in the room as well as the doctor's nurse, Bethany.

When I asked Dr. Dakhil if he had ever had a mastectomy, the other doctor came

over and leaned over Dr. Dakhil's shoulder to look at his chest area and said,

" No lately! " It was all I could do to keep from cracking up. Dr. Dakhil kept

his head and kept making notes in my chart and didn't have much to say.

Ellen emc_mom4@...> wrote:

I think we'd all agree that you should change Dr.'s. What a

horrible man! I don't blame you for being ticked off. ALL - of

those symptoms are side effects from the Arimidex - maybe if some of

these Dr.s had to actually TAKE the drugs, they'd understand.

Geesh - I'm so sorry you have to put up with that.

Hugs!

Ellen

>

> Okay, I am really ticked off! I just came back from my

oncologist.

> He does have a reputation for being direct. I do like him but

today,

> as his nurse said, he was " really out there. " She also thought he

> was having a bad day. I think so, too.

>

> After waiting an hour and a half to get back to the exam room, I

> waited another twenty minutes (did get a good nap) to see him. He

> was in the room for a little over 5 minutes. Rude does not

describe

> what he was like. He tried to tell me that my bone pain and

> headaches and hypertension and the problems sleeping were not part

of

> the side effect with Arimidex. Yet he is the one who told me that

> bone pain was definitely part of Arimidex. He also told me that

with

> the " drive by mastectomies " women go back to work the day after

such

> a thing with drainage tubes and all. He told me that my tumor was

T1

> and was no big deal. I held my tongue until then. I looked him

> straight in the eye and said, " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had

breast

> cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients

who

> have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

> mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients

and

> definitely he did not know what he was talking about. Until he

did

> have a mastectomy, he did not know what he was talking about.

>

> I told his nurse after he left that he needs to learn to listen

and

> that even that he is from Pakistan, he needs to learn to deal with

> American women. I am contemplating another oncologist in the same

> office. I understand this has been done before in that office.

>

> Why do doctors group people into the same category because the

> disease has the same name? We all know that everyone may have

> similar experience, but no two people have the identical

experience.

> If I stay with this oncologist, we will have a discussion at my

next

> appointment about how I want to be treated. I respect him as a

> doctor but his art of medicine and how to treat patients stunk

today.

>

> Thanks for listening to me spout off.

>

Jan Koelsch

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[Guest guest]

Thanks, . I put in a request to have another oncologist. Dr. Dakhil is

history.

Pinheiro denisempinheiro@...> wrote: I'm right there with

you!

My onc is excellent but his bed side manners are not, so I decided to chage

doctors and try a woman doctor. We will see if it works, but at point of my life

and after all I have been through I don't need the aggravation of having a rude

doctor.

Find someone you like and feel good with.

Hugs

Doctors!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay, I am really ticked off! I just came back from my oncologist.

He does have a reputation for being direct. I do like him but today,

as his nurse said, he was " really out there. " She also thought he

was having a bad day. I think so, too.

After waiting an hour and a half to get back to the exam room, I

waited another twenty minutes (did get a good nap) to see him. He

was in the room for a little over 5 minutes. Rude does not describe

what he was like. He tried to tell me that my bone pain and

headaches and hypertension and the problems sleeping were not part of

the side effect with Arimidex. Yet he is the one who told me that

bone pain was definitely part of Arimidex. He also told me that with

the " drive by mastectomies " women go back to work the day after such

a thing with drainage tubes and all. He told me that my tumor was T1

and was no big deal. I held my tongue until then. I looked him

straight in the eye and said, " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

definitely he did not know what he was talking about. Until he did

have a mastectomy, he did not know what he was talking about.

I told his nurse after he left that he needs to learn to listen and

that even that he is from Pakistan, he needs to learn to deal with

American women. I am contemplating another oncologist in the same

office. I understand this has been done before in that office.

Why do doctors group people into the same category because the

disease has the same name? We all know that everyone may have

similar experience, but no two people have the identical experience.

If I stay with this oncologist, we will have a discussion at my next

appointment about how I want to be treated. I respect him as a

doctor but his art of medicine and how to treat patients stunk today.

Thanks for listening to me spout off.

__________________________________________________________

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Jan glad to hear you won't have to put up with that rude doctor anymore.

Continued prayers.

Hugs

nne

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Re: Doctors!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks, Michele for the empathy. You are completely right. Tomorrow I will be

calling to see what the procedure is to change oncologist. I can take directness

but not rudeness.

This cancer thing is difficult at best without the oncologist being such a so

and so.

I also have another mammogram and ultrasound scheduled for Tuesday of next

week. At my doctor's appointment yesterday, the nurse practioner found a mass

and a small lump, just like I did in my right breast. I know the procedures so I

am just waiting until Tuesday without panic because thanks to the left breast I

know what to expect. That in a strange way is a mixed blessing. So, here we go

again.

I appreciate your prayers.

Michele Gately tinkkerbelle2002@...> wrote:

Jan,

I'm sorry to hear of your awful experience!!! I agree with everyone else,

CHANGE doctors.. There are many available.. I changed once already myself..

simply because he was older and felt I had no " need " to keep my other breast!

Well, as you said, and like the saying goes, until you walk in my shoes!!!

I would not do what the nurse recommended by keeping your next appt. with him.

By then, he already knows you were upset and his demeanor will be completely

different. If you are that upset, I would change doctors, transfer your files by

written consent and write a letter to the president of the board that oversees

your doctor and carbon copy your doctor as well. That way the mesasge is across

and you got to speak you mind without being interrupted or disrespected!

KOKO my friend!!

Love

Michele

Jan Koelsch jkoelsch1950@...> wrote:

I was angry and I was in tears when I left the doctor's office. When I came

home, I discussed the situation with my hubby. He is leaving the choice to me.

I called his nurse and asked about the procedure for changing oncologists in

the office. She listened well and then told me who to talk to get the change

made. She also told me " he is a very fine doctor and highly skilled. " I let her

know that I was not questioning his skill or how fine a doctor he is. I did not

feel that I was treated well. She suggested that I keep the next appointment and

let him know how I felt. I know he was behind but I don't feel that excuses his

behavior.

I'm glad that others are bothered by his behavior today and would change

doctors.

fastest2@... wrote:

In a message dated 1/31/2007 4:10:28 PM Central Standard Time,

jkoelsch1950@... writes:

> " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

> cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

> have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

> mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

> definitely he did not know what he was talking about.

He's lucky it was you & not me! :-) I don't think I could have maintained

myself in a situation like that.

Especially, since I feel like I put up with so much of the side effects and

never called them in the middle of the night...Trying to be as little trouble

as possible. (which I do not recommend)

Man, I just got mad reading this!

Hugs,

Dari

[Guest guest]

Thanks, nne. I called the office this morning and my new oncologist is Dr.

Cannon. I see him in a couple of weeks. Hopefully by that time I will also be

on the clinical trial for the bone strengthner. I also started taking Celebrex

for the bone pain and arthritis like symptoms from Arimidex. My next

mammogram/ultrasound is scheduled for Tuesday, February 6. I re-read the

information about the diagnosis for the mammogram and it said something about a

mass. I know not to worry so I am taking it easy over the weekend.

Have a good weekend.

jkoelsch

& nne Svihlik moochie1@...> wrote:

Jan glad to hear you won't have to put up with that rude doctor

anymore. Continued prayers.

Hugs

nne

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Re: Doctors!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks, Michele for the empathy. You are completely right. Tomorrow I will be

calling to see what the procedure is to change oncologist. I can take directness

but not rudeness.

This cancer thing is difficult at best without the oncologist being such a so

and so.

I also have another mammogram and ultrasound scheduled for Tuesday of next week.

At my doctor's appointment yesterday, the nurse practioner found a mass and a

small lump, just like I did in my right breast. I know the procedures so I am

just waiting until Tuesday without panic because thanks to the left breast I

know what to expect. That in a strange way is a mixed blessing. So, here we go

again.

I appreciate your prayers.

Michele Gately tinkkerbelle2002@...> wrote:

Jan,

I'm sorry to hear of your awful experience!!! I agree with everyone else, CHANGE

doctors.. There are many available.. I changed once already myself.. simply

because he was older and felt I had no " need " to keep my other breast! Well, as

you said, and like the saying goes, until you walk in my shoes!!!

I would not do what the nurse recommended by keeping your next appt. with him.

By then, he already knows you were upset and his demeanor will be completely

different. If you are that upset, I would change doctors, transfer your files by

written consent and write a letter to the president of the board that oversees

your doctor and carbon copy your doctor as well. That way the mesasge is across

and you got to speak you mind without being interrupted or disrespected!

KOKO my friend!!

Love

Michele

Jan Koelsch jkoelsch1950@...> wrote:

I was angry and I was in tears when I left the doctor's office. When I came

home, I discussed the situation with my hubby. He is leaving the choice to me.

I called his nurse and asked about the procedure for changing oncologists in the

office. She listened well and then told me who to talk to get the change made.

She also told me " he is a very fine doctor and highly skilled. " I let her know

that I was not questioning his skill or how fine a doctor he is. I did not feel

that I was treated well. She suggested that I keep the next appointment and let

him know how I felt. I know he was behind but I don't feel that excuses his

behavior.

I'm glad that others are bothered by his behavior today and would change

doctors.

fastest2@... wrote:

In a message dated 1/31/2007 4:10:28 PM Central Standard Time,

jkoelsch1950@... writes:

> " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

> cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

> have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

> mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

> definitely he did not know what he was talking about.

He's lucky it was you & not me! :-) I don't think I could have maintained

myself in a situation like that.

Especially, since I feel like I put up with so much of the side effects and

never called them in the middle of the night...Trying to be as little trouble

as possible. (which I do not recommend)

Man, I just got mad reading this!

Hugs,

Dari

[Guest guest]

Jan glad they switched you to a different dr. You will remain in my prayers.

Hugs

nne

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Re: Doctors!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks, Michele for the empathy. You are completely right. Tomorrow I will be

calling to see what the procedure is to change oncologist. I can take directness

but not rudeness.

This cancer thing is difficult at best without the oncologist being such a so

and so.

I also have another mammogram and ultrasound scheduled for Tuesday of next

week. At my doctor's appointment yesterday, the nurse practioner found a mass

and a small lump, just like I did in my right breast. I know the procedures so I

am just waiting until Tuesday without panic because thanks to the left breast I

know what to expect. That in a strange way is a mixed blessing. So, here we go

again.

I appreciate your prayers.

Michele Gately tinkkerbelle2002@...> wrote:

Jan,

I'm sorry to hear of your awful experience!!! I agree with everyone else,

CHANGE doctors.. There are many available.. I changed once already myself..

simply because he was older and felt I had no " need " to keep my other breast!

Well, as you said, and like the saying goes, until you walk in my shoes!!!

I would not do what the nurse recommended by keeping your next appt. with him.

By then, he already knows you were upset and his demeanor will be completely

different. If you are that upset, I would change doctors, transfer your files by

written consent and write a letter to the president of the board that oversees

your doctor and carbon copy your doctor as well. That way the mesasge is across

and you got to speak you mind without being interrupted or disrespected!

KOKO my friend!!

Love

Michele

Jan Koelsch jkoelsch1950@...> wrote:

I was angry and I was in tears when I left the doctor's office. When I came

home, I discussed the situation with my hubby. He is leaving the choice to me.

I called his nurse and asked about the procedure for changing oncologists in

the office. She listened well and then told me who to talk to get the change

made. She also told me " he is a very fine doctor and highly skilled. " I let her

know that I was not questioning his skill or how fine a doctor he is. I did not

feel that I was treated well. She suggested that I keep the next appointment and

let him know how I felt. I know he was behind but I don't feel that excuses his

behavior.

I'm glad that others are bothered by his behavior today and would change

doctors.

fastest2@... wrote:

In a message dated 1/31/2007 4:10:28 PM Central Standard Time,

jkoelsch1950@... writes:

> " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

> cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

> have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

> mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

> definitely he did not know what he was talking about.

He's lucky it was you & not me! :-) I don't think I could have maintained

myself in a situation like that.

Especially, since I feel like I put up with so much of the side effects and

never called them in the middle of the night...Trying to be as little trouble

as possible. (which I do not recommend)

Man, I just got mad reading this!

Hugs,

Dari

[Guest guest]

Jan,

I am so happy you have found a new oncologist. I will keep sending you that

positive energy that he will be the " one " for you and everything will work out

just fine!!!! Mind over matter.. positive thoughts and plenty of love!!! (I

know its all easier said than done, but thats what we are here for,

encouragement and support)!

Love to you!!

Michele

Jan Koelsch jkoelsch1950@...> wrote:

Thanks, nne. I called the office this morning and my new

oncologist is Dr. Cannon. I see him in a couple of weeks. Hopefully by that time

I will also be on the clinical trial for the bone strengthner. I also started

taking Celebrex for the bone pain and arthritis like symptoms from Arimidex. My

next mammogram/ultrasound is scheduled for Tuesday, February 6. I re-read the

information about the diagnosis for the mammogram and it said something about a

mass. I know not to worry so I am taking it easy over the weekend.

Have a good weekend.

jkoelsch

& nne Svihlik moochie1@...> wrote:

Jan glad to hear you won't have to put up with that rude doctor anymore.

Continued prayers.

Hugs

nne

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Re: Doctors!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks, Michele for the empathy. You are completely right. Tomorrow I will be

calling to see what the procedure is to change oncologist. I can take directness

but not rudeness.

This cancer thing is difficult at best without the oncologist being such a so

and so.

I also have another mammogram and ultrasound scheduled for Tuesday of next week.

At my doctor's appointment yesterday, the nurse practioner found a mass and a

small lump, just like I did in my right breast. I know the procedures so I am

just waiting until Tuesday without panic because thanks to the left breast I

know what to expect. That in a strange way is a mixed blessing. So, here we go

again.

I appreciate your prayers.

Michele Gately tinkkerbelle2002@...> wrote:

Jan,

I'm sorry to hear of your awful experience!!! I agree with everyone else, CHANGE

doctors.. There are many available.. I changed once already myself.. simply

because he was older and felt I had no " need " to keep my other breast! Well, as

you said, and like the saying goes, until you walk in my shoes!!!

I would not do what the nurse recommended by keeping your next appt. with him.

By then, he already knows you were upset and his demeanor will be completely

different. If you are that upset, I would change doctors, transfer your files by

written consent and write a letter to the president of the board that oversees

your doctor and carbon copy your doctor as well. That way the mesasge is across

and you got to speak you mind without being interrupted or disrespected!

KOKO my friend!!

Love

Michele

Jan Koelsch jkoelsch1950@...> wrote:

I was angry and I was in tears when I left the doctor's office. When I came

home, I discussed the situation with my hubby. He is leaving the choice to me.

I called his nurse and asked about the procedure for changing oncologists in the

office. She listened well and then told me who to talk to get the change made.

She also told me " he is a very fine doctor and highly skilled. " I let her know

that I was not questioning his skill or how fine a doctor he is. I did not feel

that I was treated well. She suggested that I keep the next appointment and let

him know how I felt. I know he was behind but I don't feel that excuses his

behavior.

I'm glad that others are bothered by his behavior today and would change

doctors.

fastest2@... wrote:

In a message dated 1/31/2007 4:10:28 PM Central Standard Time,

jkoelsch1950@... writes:

> " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

> cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

> have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

> mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

> definitely he did not know what he was talking about.

He's lucky it was you & not me! :-) I don't think I could have maintained

myself in a situation like that.

Especially, since I feel like I put up with so much of the side effects and

never called them in the middle of the night...Trying to be as little trouble

as possible. (which I do not recommend)

Man, I just got mad reading this!

Hugs,

Dari

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Michele. Support and love is the very name of the game. You and the

other ladies are appreciated.

Jan K

Michele Gately tinkkerbelle2002@...> wrote:

Jan,

I am so happy you have found a new oncologist. I will keep sending you that

positive energy that he will be the " one " for you and everything will work out

just fine!!!! Mind over matter.. positive thoughts and plenty of love!!! (I know

its all easier said than done, but thats what we are here for, encouragement and

support)!

Love to you!!

Michele

Jan Koelsch jkoelsch1950@...> wrote:

Thanks, nne. I called the office this morning and my new oncologist is Dr.

Cannon. I see him in a couple of weeks. Hopefully by that time I will also be on

the clinical trial for the bone strengthner. I also started taking Celebrex for

the bone pain and arthritis like symptoms from Arimidex. My next

mammogram/ultrasound is scheduled for Tuesday, February 6. I re-read the

information about the diagnosis for the mammogram and it said something about a

mass. I know not to worry so I am taking it easy over the weekend.

Have a good weekend.

jkoelsch

& nne Svihlik moochie1@...> wrote:

Jan glad to hear you won't have to put up with that rude doctor anymore.

Continued prayers.

Hugs

nne

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Re: Doctors!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks, Michele for the empathy. You are completely right. Tomorrow I will be

calling to see what the procedure is to change oncologist. I can take directness

but not rudeness.

This cancer thing is difficult at best without the oncologist being such a so

and so.

I also have another mammogram and ultrasound scheduled for Tuesday of next week.

At my doctor's appointment yesterday, the nurse practioner found a mass and a

small lump, just like I did in my right breast. I know the procedures so I am

just waiting until Tuesday without panic because thanks to the left breast I

know what to expect. That in a strange way is a mixed blessing. So, here we go

again.

I appreciate your prayers.

Michele Gately tinkkerbelle2002@...> wrote:

Jan,

I'm sorry to hear of your awful experience!!! I agree with everyone else, CHANGE

doctors.. There are many available.. I changed once already myself.. simply

because he was older and felt I had no " need " to keep my other breast! Well, as

you said, and like the saying goes, until you walk in my shoes!!!

I would not do what the nurse recommended by keeping your next appt. with him.

By then, he already knows you were upset and his demeanor will be completely

different. If you are that upset, I would change doctors, transfer your files by

written consent and write a letter to the president of the board that oversees

your doctor and carbon copy your doctor as well. That way the mesasge is across

and you got to speak you mind without being interrupted or disrespected!

KOKO my friend!!

Love

Michele

Jan Koelsch jkoelsch1950@...> wrote:

I was angry and I was in tears when I left the doctor's office. When I came

home, I discussed the situation with my hubby. He is leaving the choice to me.

I called his nurse and asked about the procedure for changing oncologists in the

office. She listened well and then told me who to talk to get the change made.

She also told me " he is a very fine doctor and highly skilled. " I let her know

that I was not questioning his skill or how fine a doctor he is. I did not feel

that I was treated well. She suggested that I keep the next appointment and let

him know how I felt. I know he was behind but I don't feel that excuses his

behavior.

I'm glad that others are bothered by his behavior today and would change

doctors.

fastest2@... wrote:

In a message dated 1/31/2007 4:10:28 PM Central Standard Time,

jkoelsch1950@... writes:

> " Dr. Dakhil, have you ever had breast

> cancer or a mastectomy? " He said no but he sees lots of patients who

> have. I simply told him that if he had not had breast cancer or a

> mastectomy that he had no right to compare me with other patients and

> definitely he did not know what he was talking about.

He's lucky it was you & not me! :-) I don't think I could have maintained

myself in a situation like that.

Especially, since I feel like I put up with so much of the side effects and

never called them in the middle of the night...Trying to be as little trouble

as possible. (which I do not recommend)

Man, I just got mad reading this!

Hugs,

Dari