Guest guest Posted January 28, 2007 Report Share Posted January 28, 2007 I'm so excited. The book I co-wrote with my daughter is being released in a couple days. It's already up on Amazon.com IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU: a mother & daughter's journey by Cindy and Robin Cieszinski The artist did a wonderful job on the cover. Thanks for letting me brag! Cindy www.notmymom.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2007 Report Share Posted January 28, 2007 Congrats, Cindy. What is the title? cindy_and_robin cindy@...> wrote: I'm so excited. The book I co-wrote with my daughter is being released in a couple days. It's already up on Amazon.com IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU: a mother & daughter's journey by Cindy and Robin Cieszinski The artist did a wonderful job on the cover. Thanks for letting me brag! Cindy www.notmymom.com Jan Koelsch --------------------------------- It's here! Your new message! Get new email alerts with the free Yahoo! Toolbar. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2007 Report Share Posted January 29, 2007 > > Congrats, Cindy. What is the title? The name of the book is: IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU: a mother & daughter's journey by Cindy and Robin Cieszinski Here is the foreword: Thanks for asking! Here is the foreword: This book WON'T give you all the answers. We don't have them. However, this book WILL tell you what we went through, how we han- dled it, and possibly teach some-one - through our example - what NOT to do. Ten years ago, when the doctor told me my mammogram was abnormal, I remember my family trying to re-assure me; saying it was " probably nothing. " At the time my response was, " I think it's more than noth- ing, but it's not more than I can handle. " And, since I'm writing this story, you can tell I've man-aged to handle it so far. However, this story is not about me. It's about my daughter Robin, who has spent the past ten years battling fear and anxiety; it's about all the teenage girls who suffer in silence as they watch and worry if their mom will be around next year; and it's about the mothers who have their breast removed and their daugh-ter's well- being destroyed by this incurable disease. One out of every eight women is diagnosed with breast cancer. And I guarantee you, one of the first concerns she will have is how to tell her family. Should she act strong, downplay the seriousness to keep her loved ones from worry-ing? Or, does she show them her fear, her vulnerability, so they can draw strength from one an-other? Will she turn to God for hope or blame him for her illness? I can't tell you the right way to break the news to your daugh- ter, son, husband, or parents. And, honestly, I don't know if there is one correct answer for everyone. But I DO know that I didn't get it right. Ten years ago, I was diagnosed with cancer and my daughter's life would never be the same. `````````````````` If it never sells any books, it was a tremendous healing process for me and my daughter. We talked about things we'd never mentioned before (over email...). Cindy www.notmymom.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2007 Report Share Posted January 29, 2007 Cindy, I have already signed up for Amazon to let me know when your book is available for sale!! I think that is wonderful and congratulations, I can't wait to read it. How old was your daughter when you were diagnosed?? My oldest daughter is 12 now and has many questions and holds a lot in. On top of puberty, middle school and a mom who has had cancer twice already and a mascetomy, I'm sure my children are frightened. The hardest questions of all to answer is, " will you die " and " will I get it too " . There is no right or wrong answer, I just hope and pray that I say and do the right things for my own family. However, none of us hold a crystal ball or life would be too easy. Michele cindy_and_robin cindy@...> wrote: > > Congrats, Cindy. What is the title? The name of the book is: IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU: a mother & daughter's journey by Cindy and Robin Cieszinski Here is the foreword: Thanks for asking! Here is the foreword: This book WON'T give you all the answers. We don't have them. However, this book WILL tell you what we went through, how we han- dled it, and possibly teach some-one - through our example - what NOT to do. Ten years ago, when the doctor told me my mammogram was abnormal, I remember my family trying to re-assure me; saying it was " probably nothing. " At the time my response was, " I think it's more than noth- ing, but it's not more than I can handle. " And, since I'm writing this story, you can tell I've man-aged to handle it so far. However, this story is not about me. It's about my daughter Robin, who has spent the past ten years battling fear and anxiety; it's about all the teenage girls who suffer in silence as they watch and worry if their mom will be around next year; and it's about the mothers who have their breast removed and their daugh-ter's well- being destroyed by this incurable disease. One out of every eight women is diagnosed with breast cancer. And I guarantee you, one of the first concerns she will have is how to tell her family. Should she act strong, downplay the seriousness to keep her loved ones from worry-ing? Or, does she show them her fear, her vulnerability, so they can draw strength from one an-other? Will she turn to God for hope or blame him for her illness? I can't tell you the right way to break the news to your daugh- ter, son, husband, or parents. And, honestly, I don't know if there is one correct answer for everyone. But I DO know that I didn't get it right. Ten years ago, I was diagnosed with cancer and my daughter's life would never be the same. `````````````````` If it never sells any books, it was a tremendous healing process for me and my daughter. We talked about things we'd never mentioned before (over email...). Cindy www.notmymom.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2007 Report Share Posted January 29, 2007 Cindy: What a beautiful tribute to you and your daughter! So heartfelt and warm. I didn't realize how much my diagnosis affected family, except my husband. His anxiety was shown by being there for me and going to every appointment but one with me. I have a niece that has been like the daughter I never had. (I never had children of my own, just step-children who I tried to treat like my own). I didn't realize until the day we were sitting in my hospital room, waiting for the hospital staff to come for me for surgery how she felt. I was telling her about the sentinental lymph node injection and suddenly she burst into tears, and shouted: " This isn't right. It is just not fair. You should not be the one going into surgery for this cancer thing. " Then she apologized. My husband hugged her and we all had a good cry. She was so jubilant when I got the news that I was cancer free, and that all the cancer was gone. My husband fell apart in the waiting room when the surgeron told them the lymph node was clear. My niece was able to comfort him. I don't think anyone realizes how this will affect themselves or family or friends. I wish that we didn't have to know. But we do. Thank you for sharing and I will look for the book. You and so many other inspire me. cindy_and_robin cindy@...> wrote: > > Congrats, Cindy. What is the title? The name of the book is: IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU: a mother & daughter's journey by Cindy and Robin Cieszinski Here is the foreword: Thanks for asking! Here is the foreword: This book WON'T give you all the answers. We don't have them. However, this book WILL tell you what we went through, how we han- dled it, and possibly teach some-one - through our example - what NOT to do. Ten years ago, when the doctor told me my mammogram was abnormal, I remember my family trying to re-assure me; saying it was " probably nothing. " At the time my response was, " I think it's more than noth- ing, but it's not more than I can handle. " And, since I'm writing this story, you can tell I've man-aged to handle it so far. However, this story is not about me. It's about my daughter Robin, who has spent the past ten years battling fear and anxiety; it's about all the teenage girls who suffer in silence as they watch and worry if their mom will be around next year; and it's about the mothers who have their breast removed and their daugh-ter's well- being destroyed by this incurable disease. One out of every eight women is diagnosed with breast cancer. And I guarantee you, one of the first concerns she will have is how to tell her family. Should she act strong, downplay the seriousness to keep her loved ones from worry-ing? Or, does she show them her fear, her vulnerability, so they can draw strength from one an-other? Will she turn to God for hope or blame him for her illness? I can't tell you the right way to break the news to your daugh- ter, son, husband, or parents. And, honestly, I don't know if there is one correct answer for everyone. But I DO know that I didn't get it right. Ten years ago, I was diagnosed with cancer and my daughter's life would never be the same. `````````````````` If it never sells any books, it was a tremendous healing process for me and my daughter. We talked about things we'd never mentioned before (over email...). Cindy www.notmymom.com Jan Koelsch --------------------------------- Any questions? Get answers on any topic at Yahoo! Answers. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2007 Report Share Posted January 29, 2007 Bravo, Cindy & Robin...your love for each other shows even in the foreword. I will look for it on Amazon, as I have a 14 year old daughter. Looks like a winner! Best, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2007 Report Share Posted January 30, 2007 Jan, Thanks so much for your kind note. I'm hoping the book will help people realize what our loved ones go through. Specifically our teenagers who SO want to lead a normal life - and all of the sudden have a sick mom and a lot of drama. The book goes live Thursday and Amazon will start taking orders. I'm so excited. It's taken a while to get it this far, but our dream is almost here. Now if I can figure out a way to get it into surgeon's offices! That might reach the target audience. Cindy www.notmymom.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2007 Report Share Posted January 30, 2007 And to breast cancer support groups, the American Cancer Society, Victory in the Valley, and other similar groups. I look forward to reading it. cindy_and_robin cindy@...> wrote: Jan, Thanks so much for your kind note. I'm hoping the book will help people realize what our loved ones go through. Specifically our teenagers who SO want to lead a normal life - and all of the sudden have a sick mom and a lot of drama. The book goes live Thursday and Amazon will start taking orders. I'm so excited. It's taken a while to get it this far, but our dream is almost here. Now if I can figure out a way to get it into surgeon's offices! That might reach the target audience. Cindy www.notmymom.com Jan Koelsch --------------------------------- Be a PS3 game guru. Get your game face on with the latest PS3 news and previews at Yahoo! Games. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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