Rosie: Re: :(

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Dear Rosie-

What you wrote really pulled at my heart. I have sensed a wishful thinking by

well intended people that somehow being grateful will wipe out the sorrow and

pain. I feel that our family is tremendously grateful and incredibly blessed to

see the gift in all things - yet that does not wipe out the concomitant pain,

grief and sorrow. It is not an " either/or " but rather a " both/and " . Sometimes

it is precisely the pain and surviving it from which the blessing arises. I oft

jest that most of my greatest blessings are things for which unaffected people

would never dare to ask - they seem too dangerous, frightening or difficult.

I admire your intent to proceed with a dissertation on " Chronic Sorrow " , and I

am going to look into the book you mention.

Thank you so much for your post-

best to you-

Yuka

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Belinda,

I hope you are feeling better, too. But I sure know what you are

feeling. Has anyone heard the term " chronic sorrow? " This is a topic

that I'm thinking of doing for my doctoral dissertation. The sadness

of loss of some kind that never truly goes away. Roos wrote a

book called, " Chronic Sorrow: A Living Loss. " It's very good.

Sometimes I just feel like everything I do with and for my son is

pointless. He has reached a plateau in his development and has been

there for several years now. This means, of course, there's been no

accomplishment to celebrate. Some have told me, " you can celebrate

that he's still alive. " And of course I do, but even he wants more

than just that. It hurts me so much to see him constantly struggling

and getting seemingly nowhere at all. It is also very very tiring.

Sometimes I just don't want to even get out of bed. Thoughts?

Rosie

Rosie

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