Pathologies of Hope/Marisa

[Guest guest]

marisa,

thanks for pointing out the article, do you happen to have a direct

link to a website???? i am having truble locating it online and would

like to read it.

thanks, caren

[Guest guest]

let me check--i subscribe to the magazine and it was in my mailbox

tonight...not sure if they would have the current issue on line...but

perhaps for subscribers...

marisa

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> marisa,

> thanks for pointing out the article, do you happen to have a direct

> link to a website???? i am having truble locating it online and

would

> like to read it.

> thanks, caren

>

[Guest guest]

it's http://harpers.org

but as I suspected, the latest articles they have there are from last

month...

what bothers me about the " rah rah be positive " drek! is that it

negates *real* experience and *real* feelings---and somehow sends the

message that those feelings are wrong, or at least, shouldn't be

articulated...I rememebr a woman said to me... " you should give your

son a normal childhood " ... WTF!!!

(my son is 8 - his father died in an accident two years ago; and I

have breast cancer...)

I was so angry at that statement! I thought *this* is his childhood.

and I HATE that he has to deal with this shit! becasue I love him more

than anything else on this planet!

but, you know, the reality is, his dad *did* die;i *did* have breast

cancer, and had surgery and went through chemo, and suffered the

horrific side effects...hard to smile in the face of all that...and

unrealistic to diminish, or erase it, IYKWIM...

so while i understand the " positive attitude " mantra--it really does

annoy me, because it seems like if we express anything other

than " positiveness " --it's dismissed, or negated, or worse, that we're

doing something " wrong " ...

human beings are so much more complex than that...

marisa

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> marisa,

> thanks for pointing out the article, do you happen to have a direct

> link to a website???? i am having truble locating it online and

would

> like to read it.

> thanks, caren

>