Guest guest Posted January 8, 2007 Report Share Posted January 8, 2007 I am having somewhat of a " reflective day " here - thinking back on the last nine months since my diagnosis, pondering my life now and, as always, speculating on the future. Could be due to the dreary day here in Massachusetts or that my best friend from H.S. was just diagnosed with a Stage II B/C, or ...........menopause! I was thinking about " sisters " . I am an only girl (with 3 brothers) and have, for most of my life, been happy about that. Mom's favorite (my brothers would argue), Daddy's little girl, didn't have to share my room or my stuff when I was younger. My children's relationship with my Mom was always a " special " one, because I was her only daughter. Honestly, until this last year, I never even wanted to have a sister and couldn't understand the need for a " sister relationship " . And now, thinking of how I've come to depend on you all, and on the " sisters in B/C " I've met along this journey, I get it! Although I've personally met none of you, I've come to depend on your advice and expertise; listened to your stories; cried about your diagnosis; sympathized with your concerns and celebrated in your accomplishments. I am amazed at the unconditional compassion and warmth you all continually give each other. I imagine that this is what a " sister relationship " is all about and I feel incredibly fortunate to have found that with you all. If there is one small benefit of having Breast Cancer - it's been meeting you all. Thank you for the addition you've made to my life and for sharing my journey and allowing me to share in yours. I'm not sure how I could have done it without all my " sisters " . Love, Ellen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2007 Report Share Posted January 8, 2007 Ellen, I have found that breast cancer forms a special sisterhood unlike any other. Just as the police and firemen have a special brotherhood. Glad you are a member of this group. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com My Sisters I am having somewhat of a " reflective day " here - thinking back on the last nine months since my diagnosis, pondering my life now and, as always, speculating on the future. Could be due to the dreary day here in Massachusetts or that my best friend from H.S. was just diagnosed with a Stage II B/C, or ...........menopause! I was thinking about " sisters " . I am an only girl (with 3 brothers) and have, for most of my life, been happy about that. Mom's favorite (my brothers would argue), Daddy's little girl, didn't have to share my room or my stuff when I was younger. My children's relationship with my Mom was always a " special " one, because I was her only daughter. Honestly, until this last year, I never even wanted to have a sister and couldn't understand the need for a " sister relationship " . And now, thinking of how I've come to depend on you all, and on the " sisters in B/C " I've met along this journey, I get it! Although I've personally met none of you, I've come to depend on your advice and expertise; listened to your stories; cried about your diagnosis; sympathized with your concerns and celebrated in your accomplishments. I am amazed at the unconditional compassion and warmth you all continually give each other. I imagine that this is what a " sister relationship " is all about and I feel incredibly fortunate to have found that with you all. If there is one small benefit of having Breast Cancer - it's been meeting you all. Thank you for the addition you've made to my life and for sharing my journey and allowing me to share in yours. I'm not sure how I could have done it without all my " sisters " . Love, Ellen ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.410 / Virus Database: 268.16.7/619 - Release Date: 1/7/2007 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2007 Report Share Posted January 8, 2007 Ellen: You have such a beautiful way of expressing sentiments. I feel the same. Thanks. Jan K Ellen emc_mom4@...> wrote: I am having somewhat of a " reflective day " here - thinking back on the last nine months since my diagnosis, pondering my life now and, as always, speculating on the future. Could be due to the dreary day here in Massachusetts or that my best friend from H.S. was just diagnosed with a Stage II B/C, or ...........menopause! I was thinking about " sisters " . I am an only girl (with 3 brothers) and have, for most of my life, been happy about that. Mom's favorite (my brothers would argue), Daddy's little girl, didn't have to share my room or my stuff when I was younger. My children's relationship with my Mom was always a " special " one, because I was her only daughter. Honestly, until this last year, I never even wanted to have a sister and couldn't understand the need for a " sister relationship " . And now, thinking of how I've come to depend on you all, and on the " sisters in B/C " I've met along this journey, I get it! Although I've personally met none of you, I've come to depend on your advice and expertise; listened to your stories; cried about your diagnosis; sympathized with your concerns and celebrated in your accomplishments. I am amazed at the unconditional compassion and warmth you all continually give each other. I imagine that this is what a " sister relationship " is all about and I feel incredibly fortunate to have found that with you all. If there is one small benefit of having Breast Cancer - it's been meeting you all. Thank you for the addition you've made to my life and for sharing my journey and allowing me to share in yours. I'm not sure how I could have done it without all my " sisters " . Love, Ellen Jan Koelsch __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2007 Report Share Posted January 8, 2007 Also, I am saddened, Ellen, to hear of another person who has heard the words, " breast cancer. " Please have her join us so we can support her, too. Jan K. Ellen emc_mom4@...> wrote: I am having somewhat of a " reflective day " here - thinking back on the last nine months since my diagnosis, pondering my life now and, as always, speculating on the future. Could be due to the dreary day here in Massachusetts or that my best friend from H.S. was just diagnosed with a Stage II B/C, or ...........menopause! I was thinking about " sisters " . I am an only girl (with 3 brothers) and have, for most of my life, been happy about that. Mom's favorite (my brothers would argue), Daddy's little girl, didn't have to share my room or my stuff when I was younger. My children's relationship with my Mom was always a " special " one, because I was her only daughter. Honestly, until this last year, I never even wanted to have a sister and couldn't understand the need for a " sister relationship " . And now, thinking of how I've come to depend on you all, and on the " sisters in B/C " I've met along this journey, I get it! Although I've personally met none of you, I've come to depend on your advice and expertise; listened to your stories; cried about your diagnosis; sympathized with your concerns and celebrated in your accomplishments. I am amazed at the unconditional compassion and warmth you all continually give each other. I imagine that this is what a " sister relationship " is all about and I feel incredibly fortunate to have found that with you all. If there is one small benefit of having Breast Cancer - it's been meeting you all. Thank you for the addition you've made to my life and for sharing my journey and allowing me to share in yours. I'm not sure how I could have done it without all my " sisters " . Love, Ellen Jan Koelsch __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2007 Report Share Posted January 8, 2007 Ellen That was so well put, I had to pull out the tissues : ) I'm also greatful for the women in the group. Rose > > I am having somewhat of a " reflective day " here - thinking back on > the last nine months since my diagnosis, pondering my life now and, > as always, speculating on the future. Could be due to the dreary day > here in Massachusetts or that my best friend from H.S. was just > diagnosed with a Stage II B/C, or ...........menopause! I was > thinking about " sisters " . > > I am an only girl (with 3 brothers) and have, for most of my life, > been happy about that. Mom's favorite (my brothers would argue), > Daddy's little girl, didn't have to share my room or my stuff when I > was younger. My children's relationship with my Mom was always > a " special " one, because I was her only daughter. Honestly, until > this last year, I never even wanted to have a sister and couldn't > understand the need for a " sister relationship " . > > And now, thinking of how I've come to depend on you all, and on > the " sisters in B/C " I've met along this journey, I get it! > Although I've personally met none of you, I've come to depend on > your advice and expertise; listened to your stories; cried about > your diagnosis; sympathized with your concerns and celebrated in > your accomplishments. I am amazed at the unconditional compassion > and warmth you all continually give each other. I imagine that this > is what a " sister relationship " is all about and I feel incredibly > fortunate to have found that with you all. > > If there is one small benefit of having Breast Cancer - it's been > meeting you all. Thank you for the addition you've made to my life > and for sharing my journey and allowing me to share in yours. I'm > not sure how I could have done it without all my " sisters " . > > Love, > Ellen > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2007 Report Share Posted January 9, 2007 Good idea Jan! She's having her double mast this Friday. After her recoop, I'll send her the link to join. I've already told her alllllll about you guys and how supportive you've been to me. She's got a large family, but there is nothing like talking to people who have walked in your shoes, if you know what I mean. Thanks and hugs! Ellen > I am having somewhat of a " reflective day " here - thinking back on > the last nine months since my diagnosis, pondering my life now and, > as always, speculating on the future. Could be due to the dreary day > here in Massachusetts or that my best friend from H.S. was just > diagnosed with a Stage II B/C, or ...........menopause! I was > thinking about " sisters " . > > I am an only girl (with 3 brothers) and have, for most of my life, > been happy about that. Mom's favorite (my brothers would argue), > Daddy's little girl, didn't have to share my room or my stuff when I > was younger. My children's relationship with my Mom was always > a " special " one, because I was her only daughter. Honestly, until > this last year, I never even wanted to have a sister and couldn't > understand the need for a " sister relationship " . > > And now, thinking of how I've come to depend on you all, and on > the " sisters in B/C " I've met along this journey, I get it! > Although I've personally met none of you, I've come to depend on > your advice and expertise; listened to your stories; cried about > your diagnosis; sympathized with your concerns and celebrated in > your accomplishments. I am amazed at the unconditional compassion > and warmth you all continually give each other. I imagine that this > is what a " sister relationship " is all about and I feel incredibly > fortunate to have found that with you all. > > If there is one small benefit of having Breast Cancer - it's been > meeting you all. Thank you for the addition you've made to my life > and for sharing my journey and allowing me to share in yours. I'm > not sure how I could have done it without all my " sisters " . > > Love, > Ellen > > > > > > > Jan Koelsch > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2007 Report Share Posted January 9, 2007 Beautifully put, Ellen. I have 5 sisters. Infortunately, they are the put your head in the sand types, which I have never been. I asked them to be a part of the " Sister Study " and not one complied with the request. They are too busy trying to figure out why I will be the only one in the family with BC even though a mass was found in my mohter's breast shortly before she died. They wouldn't even allow an autopsy to see if it was cancer. How sad that they are so afraid. You can choose your friends, but not your family. I have received more support from my " choosen " sisters than those that are blood. > > Ellen wrote: > I am having somewhat of a " reflective day " here - thinking back on > the last nine months since my diagnosis, pondering my life now and, > as always, speculating on the future. Could be due to the dreary day > here in Massachusetts or that my best friend from H.S. was just > diagnosed with a Stage II B/C, or ...........menopause! I was > thinking about " sisters " . > > I am an only girl (with 3 brothers) and have, for most of my life, > been happy about that. Mom's favorite (my brothers would argue), > Daddy's little girl, didn't have to share my room or my stuff when I > was younger. My children's relationship with my Mom was always > a " special " one, because I was her only daughter. Honestly, until > this last year, I never even wanted to have a sister and couldn't > understand the need for a " sister relationship " . > > And now, thinking of how I've come to depend on you all, and on > the " sisters in B/C " I've met along this journey, I get it! > Although I've personally met none of you, I've come to depend on > your advice and expertise; listened to your stories; cried about > your diagnosis; sympathized with your concerns and celebrated in > your accomplishments. I am amazed at the unconditional compassion > and warmth you all continually give each other. I imagine that this > is what a " sister relationship " is all about and I feel incredibly > fortunate to have found that with you all. > > If there is one small benefit of having Breast Cancer - it's been > meeting you all. Thank you for the addition you've made to my life > and for sharing my journey and allowing me to share in yours. I'm > not sure how I could have done it without all my " sisters " . > > Love, > Ellen > > > > > > > Jan Koelsch > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2007 Report Share Posted January 9, 2007 Ellen, I am sorry to hear your friend has joined this " sisterhood " . But do encourage her to come join the group. I have one sister but she is 17 years older then me and 3 brothers who were told to play with me and love me but not spoil me! I can relate to what you have said. Until the last 6-7 years I hadn't been that close to my sister. I was closer to her daughters who are 6 and 8 years younger then me. Since my cancer diagnosis we have become " sisters " in that respect as well. She is a 13 year survivoir and is also a home hospice nurse. She has been a support for me as well during this time. Things have improved since she had hers and it was a different type. I just got a pathology report from my DAd of my grandmother's tumor in 1984, she was 87. She had one in the mid 1960's as well but can't get thet report. She had the same type as I did. (didn't say about the HER2 though) The oncologist suggested genetic testing but I am not sure yet, we'll have to think about it prayerfully first. You are in my thoughts, Val > > I am having somewhat of a " reflective day " here - thinking back on > the last nine months since my diagnosis, pondering my life now and, > as always, speculating on the future. Could be due to the dreary day > here in Massachusetts or that my best friend from H.S. was just > diagnosed with a Stage II B/C, or ...........menopause! I was > thinking about " sisters " . > > I am an only girl (with 3 brothers) and have, for most of my life, > been happy about that. Mom's favorite (my brothers would argue), > Daddy's little girl, didn't have to share my room or my stuff when I > was younger. My children's relationship with my Mom was always > a " special " one, because I was her only daughter. Honestly, until > this last year, I never even wanted to have a sister and couldn't > understand the need for a " sister relationship " . > > And now, thinking of how I've come to depend on you all, and on > the " sisters in B/C " I've met along this journey, I get it! > Although I've personally met none of you, I've come to depend on > your advice and expertise; listened to your stories; cried about > your diagnosis; sympathized with your concerns and celebrated in > your accomplishments. I am amazed at the unconditional compassion > and warmth you all continually give each other. I imagine that this > is what a " sister relationship " is all about and I feel incredibly > fortunate to have found that with you all. > > If there is one small benefit of having Breast Cancer - it's been > meeting you all. Thank you for the addition you've made to my life > and for sharing my journey and allowing me to share in yours. I'm > not sure how I could have done it without all my " sisters " . > > Love, > Ellen > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2007 Report Share Posted January 9, 2007 I'll be thinking of you both and praying that surgery goes well. Thanks for your postings on this website. They are not only a blessing to me and others but seem to come when I need them most. Keep on keeping on. Jan K Ellen emc_mom4@...> wrote: Good idea Jan! She's having her double mast this Friday. After her recoop, I'll send her the link to join. I've already told her alllllll about you guys and how supportive you've been to me. She's got a large family, but there is nothing like talking to people who have walked in your shoes, if you know what I mean. Thanks and hugs! Ellen > I am having somewhat of a " reflective day " here - thinking back on > the last nine months since my diagnosis, pondering my life now and, > as always, speculating on the future. Could be due to the dreary day > here in Massachusetts or that my best friend from H.S. was just > diagnosed with a Stage II B/C, or ...........menopause! I was > thinking about " sisters " . > > I am an only girl (with 3 brothers) and have, for most of my life, > been happy about that. Mom's favorite (my brothers would argue), > Daddy's little girl, didn't have to share my room or my stuff when I > was younger. My children's relationship with my Mom was always > a " special " one, because I was her only daughter. Honestly, until > this last year, I never even wanted to have a sister and couldn't > understand the need for a " sister relationship " . > > And now, thinking of how I've come to depend on you all, and on > the " sisters in B/C " I've met along this journey, I get it! > Although I've personally met none of you, I've come to depend on > your advice and expertise; listened to your stories; cried about > your diagnosis; sympathized with your concerns and celebrated in > your accomplishments. I am amazed at the unconditional compassion > and warmth you all continually give each other. I imagine that this > is what a " sister relationship " is all about and I feel incredibly > fortunate to have found that with you all. > > If there is one small benefit of having Breast Cancer - it's been > meeting you all. Thank you for the addition you've made to my life > and for sharing my journey and allowing me to share in yours. I'm > not sure how I could have done it without all my " sisters " . > > Love, > Ellen > > > > > > > Jan Koelsch > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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