Guest guest Posted December 17, 2006 Report Share Posted December 17, 2006 My name is Sunny, I am 45 years old. I was DX'd with Ductal CA in the right breast in July. That was 3 months after my mom died at 63 from lung CA. Because my tumor was big 4x4x6 I am having Chemo 1st, then surg, then rad. I lost my hair on day 14, I have also lost my hair (including my eyelashes & brows) everywhere else, except of course the one place(my legs) I wouldn't have minded. I am now 5 treatments every 3 weeks into an 8 treatment course. I have had some side effects. Mostly body aches and pain. Mostly I am exhausted. I have cut my work hours from 45 to 29 but still I can hardly get thru the week and chemo weeks are worse. I have read the postings but it took me a while before I could write. I tried to keep my attitude up because I know it is a big part of getting better. But the longer this goes on the harder it gets. I hate having to let my poor husband do everything, and I hate feeling like a little old woman (I swear I have aged 20 years) all the time. I've gone from someone who couldn't stay in the house to someone who who doesn't want to move. I'm sorry I know that I sound like boo hoo little ole me. I was just wondering if anyone else is where I am that maybe I could talk to. My boss just finished her treatment and I thought I'd be able to talk to her, but our cases are completely different. She didnt have any of the problems I've been having and she basically told me to suck it up. I wish I could. This is much harder than I thought it would be. Thanks for listening p.s. your situation medically is some what the same as mine. Sunny __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 17, 2006 Report Share Posted December 17, 2006 Sunny, Sorry to hear you are having problems. I had my chemo 16 1/2 yrs ago but never had any problems. I am sure some of the ladies in the group will answer your post. I will keep you in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Hi my name is Sunny My name is Sunny, I am 45 years old. I was DX'd with Ductal CA in the right breast in July. That was 3 months after my mom died at 63 from lung CA. Because my tumor was big 4x4x6 I am having Chemo 1st, then surg, then rad. I lost my hair on day 14, I have also lost my hair (including my eyelashes & brows) everywhere else, except of course the one place(my legs) I wouldn't have minded. I am now 5 treatments every 3 weeks into an 8 treatment course. I have had some side effects. Mostly body aches and pain. Mostly I am exhausted. I have cut my work hours from 45 to 29 but still I can hardly get thru the week and chemo weeks are worse. I have read the postings but it took me a while before I could write. I tried to keep my attitude up because I know it is a big part of getting better. But the longer this goes on the harder it gets. I hate having to let my poor husband do everything, and I hate feeling like a little old woman (I swear I have aged 20 years) all the time. I've gone from someone who couldn't stay in the house to someone who who doesn't want to move. I'm sorry I know that I sound like boo hoo little ole me. I was just wondering if anyone else is where I am that maybe I could talk to. My boss just finished her treatment and I thought I'd be able to talk to her, but our cases are completely different. She didnt have any of the problems I've been having and she basically told me to suck it up. I wish I could. This is much harder than I thought it would be. Thanks for listening p.s. your situation medically is some what the same as mine. Sunny __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 17, 2006 Report Share Posted December 17, 2006 >Hi Sunny: Your boss needs to be informed about the facts of life. Every case is totally different from others. Every person tolerates chemo and surgery and radiation and hormone therapy differently. Depending on your menopausal status prior to chemo, your liver's ability to metabolize the chemo meds, your underlying stage of b.c., and your underlying medical condition, there are huge differences in one's ability to function. Your complaints seem totally appropriate to me! Your fatigue, musculoskeletal pain, hairloss, and probably associated depression, are all commonly associated with your diagnosis and treatment. Your husband probably understands and is glad to help all he can. Your boss should be ashamed of herself. Talk to your oncologist about your symptoms, and get some help. And cut yourself some slack!! Best wishes, Anne V. > My name is Sunny, I am 45 years old. I was DX'd with Ductal CA in the right breast in July. That was 3 months after my mom died at 63 from lung CA. Because my tumor was big 4x4x6 I am having Chemo 1st, then surg, then rad. I lost my hair on day 14, I have also lost my hair (including my eyelashes & brows) everywhere else, except of course the one place(my legs) I wouldn't have minded. I am now 5 treatments every 3 weeks into an 8 treatment course. I have had some side effects. Mostly body aches and pain. Mostly I am exhausted. I have cut my work hours from 45 to 29 but still I can hardly get thru the week and chemo weeks are worse. I have read the postings but it took me a while before I could write. I tried to keep my attitude up because I know it is a big part of getting better. But the longer this goes on the harder it gets. I hate having to let my poor husband do everything, and I hate feeling like a little old woman (I swear I have aged 20 years) all the time. I've > gone from someone who couldn't stay in the house to someone who who doesn't want to move. I'm sorry I know that I sound like boo hoo little ole me. I was just wondering if anyone else is where I am that maybe I could talk to. My boss just finished her treatment and I thought I'd be able to talk to her, but our cases are completely different. She didnt have any of the problems I've been having and she basically told me to suck it up. I wish I could. This is much harder than I thought it would be. > Thanks for listening > p.s. your situation medically is some what the same as mine. > Sunny > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 17, 2006 Report Share Posted December 17, 2006 hi sunny, i am am so sorry you are having such a hard time, i myslef only had rads, the pple i met that were having chemo either had time off work, or yes got very run down, i live in australia and here they give pple having chemo a energy drink with iron ect that is mixed with milk , to help them get through the chemo. some pple i met that were around the age of 50 had to stop the chemo for a little while due to the fact that it knocked them around so much.hmm give yourself a break hon and let hubby do the house work for awhile and save what engery you do have to get through treatments, hugs sandy in oz Anne unicycle012000@...> wrote: >Hi Sunny: Your boss needs to be informed about the facts of life. Every case is totally different from others. Every person tolerates chemo and surgery and radiation and hormone therapy differently. Depending on your menopausal status prior to chemo, your liver's ability to metabolize the chemo meds, your underlying stage of b.c., and your underlying medical condition, there are huge differences in one's ability to function. Your complaints seem totally appropriate to me! Your fatigue, musculoskeletal pain, hairloss, and probably associated depression, are all commonly associated with your diagnosis and treatment. Your husband probably understands and is glad to help all he can. Your boss should be ashamed of herself. Talk to your oncologist about your symptoms, and get some help. And cut yourself some slack!! Best wishes, Anne V. > My name is Sunny, I am 45 years old. I was DX'd with Ductal CA in the right breast in July. That was 3 months after my mom died at 63 from lung CA. Because my tumor was big 4x4x6 I am having Chemo 1st, then surg, then rad. I lost my hair on day 14, I have also lost my hair (including my eyelashes & brows) everywhere else, except of course the one place(my legs) I wouldn't have minded. I am now 5 treatments every 3 weeks into an 8 treatment course. I have had some side effects. Mostly body aches and pain. Mostly I am exhausted. I have cut my work hours from 45 to 29 but still I can hardly get thru the week and chemo weeks are worse. I have read the postings but it took me a while before I could write. I tried to keep my attitude up because I know it is a big part of getting better. But the longer this goes on the harder it gets. I hate having to let my poor husband do everything, and I hate feeling like a little old woman (I swear I have aged 20 years) all the time. I've > gone from someone who couldn't stay in the house to someone who who doesn't want to move. I'm sorry I know that I sound like boo hoo little ole me. I was just wondering if anyone else is where I am that maybe I could talk to. My boss just finished her treatment and I thought I'd be able to talk to her, but our cases are completely different. She didnt have any of the problems I've been having and she basically told me to suck it up. I wish I could. This is much harder than I thought it would be. > Thanks for listening > p.s. your situation medically is some what the same as mine. > Sunny > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 17, 2006 Report Share Posted December 17, 2006 Sunny, I think you are heroic! Remember, the most important thing is for you to get well. I am sorry that your boss has generalized from her experience to yours. Perhaps she is concerned that your being sick will make her bosses worry that she will be out more. I'm sure it is about her - not about you. She should be thankful she found it as easy as she did. > > My name is Sunny, I am 45 years old. I was DX'd with Ductal CA in the right breast in July. That was 3 months after my mom died at 63 from lung CA. Because my tumor was big 4x4x6 I am having Chemo 1st, then surg, then rad. I lost my hair on day 14, I have also lost my hair (including my eyelashes & brows) everywhere else, except of course the one place(my legs) I wouldn't have minded. I am now 5 treatments every 3 weeks into an 8 treatment course. I have had some side effects. Mostly body aches and pain. Mostly I am exhausted. I have cut my work hours from 45 to 29 but still I can hardly get thru the week and chemo weeks are worse. I have read the postings but it took me a while before I could write. I tried to keep my attitude up because I know it is a big part of getting better. But the longer this goes on the harder it gets. I hate having to let my poor husband do everything, and I hate feeling like a little old woman (I swear I have aged 20 years) all the time. I've > gone from someone who couldn't stay in the house to someone who who doesn't want to move. I'm sorry I know that I sound like boo hoo little ole me. I was just wondering if anyone else is where I am that maybe I could talk to. My boss just finished her treatment and I thought I'd be able to talk to her, but our cases are completely different. She didnt have any of the problems I've been having and she basically told me to suck it up. I wish I could. This is much harder than I thought it would be. > Thanks for listening > p.s. your situation medically is some what the same as mine. > Sunny > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 17, 2006 Report Share Posted December 17, 2006 Dear Sunny, I feel exactly the same....I went from a happy, energetic woman planning an international move and on top of my life, to an exhausted, crabby person who just wants to lie on the couch and sleep all day. Without anyone bothering me. But, it gets better. And my husband says that he has never felt as close to me as when he is taking care of me. That heartened me a lot, because in our marriage, it's usually him who is gone all the time (work, school, etc.) and me who runs everything and takes care of the kids. It's been a hard role change but I think it might actually be helping our marriage. Anyway, I just sent him and our youngest on a vacation (visiting my parents, ha ha, but it will actually be enjoyable and I really AM going to lie on the couch and sleep all day. All I have to do is get to the hospital each day for my radiation and that's it. Even the gifts are wrapped. Give yourself a break.....every body is different. Tell your boss that you wish you had her body but you don't, so " sucking it up " doesn't work for you. Good luck, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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