Guest guest Posted April 4, 2003 Report Share Posted April 4, 2003 Yeah, Mom, med costs are sooo steep, that unless you CLEAR 6 figures annually, no one can afford it! Maybe we all should claim amnesia when-ever the collections people call?! LOL! Will continue to keep you all in our prayers. Hopefully, you'll get a chance for some time for you - you deserve it! Dave (Jeanne's DH & GMC) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2003 Report Share Posted April 5, 2003 Dear , I know a bunch of us have shared our own private stories and struggles but ultimately you have to do what is best for your Dad and the VA hospital/facility sounds like the very best thing. Around the clock medical care and buddies (soon to be) and cronies his age to share/swap war stories with. Pretty nurses to ogle and a faithful daughter right down the road to come visit and sit with him. I really believe you are doing the right/safe/ethical thing. My dearly departed Grandfather passed away three years ago of colon cancer. He was also a WW II veteran and spent the last eight months of his life at a VA facility in Delaware. He had excellent care there. The nurses loved him. My Mom drove up from Virginia and spent the last three months of his life with him. Her brothers live locally and they supported each other. My dearly departed Gram followed just one year later in another facility/nursing home due to diabetes and diabetic complications. She required constant medical supervision because of her fluctuating blood sugar and diabetic wounds/sores. When our parents/grandparents reach this point, the " staying at home " really isn't an option anymore. In the " olden days " parents stayed at home with adult children because there were no other options. If parents are healthy and do not have chronic medical problems, this can be a wonderful solution. With your Dad's medical problems and Alzheimer's, I really do believe the VA facility/hospital is the ONLY solution that is safe and practical. When our children are younger and we make decisions that aren't always fun and easy to make because they are best for our kids, Dr. Dobson calls that " Tough Love, " and it's not always easy and fun. The tables are turned when our elderly parents need us to make " Tough Love " decisions on their behalf. God knows our hearts. Let this give you comfort when making those " Tough Love " decisions for your Dad. Lots of love for you, Trace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2003 Report Share Posted April 5, 2003 Well, with his situation, as long as he's there, they'll know when to move him to the AZ unit. This definitely sounds like a good thing, . I know you'll be happier when you can start getting some sleep again! Pam in Niceville Re: OT-my dad again >>Speaking WW II fluently.. (Mom) Ah, Mom, that's great. I can picture that. Lots of love, Trace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2003 Report Share Posted April 5, 2003 Thanks. Today, he got up later, like noon. I fed him bfast, already an odd turn since he always enjoyed cooking bfast. He's been reading the paper since then, about 4 hours, listening to 40's music. My girls eat lunch there, so he jabbered their ears off & they're polite, of course. Then served him lunch. But he hasn't moved & my 19 y/o staff are not exactly the best audience. LOL! For someone who didn't have time to prepare ONE meal a day, I can just see me trying to manage 3. LOL! Thanks, Vitalady, Inc. T www.vitalady.com If you are interested in PayPal, please click here: https://www.paypal.com/affil/pal=orders%40vitalady.com Re: OT-my dad again Dear , I know a bunch of us have shared our own private stories and struggles but ultimately you have to do what is best for your Dad and the VA hospital/facility sounds like the very best thing. Around the clock medical care and buddies (soon to be) and cronies his age to share/swap war stories with. Pretty nurses to ogle and a faithful daughter right down the road to come visit and sit with him. I really believe you are doing the right/safe/ethical thing. My dearly departed Grandfather passed away three years ago of colon cancer. He was also a WW II veteran and spent the last eight months of his life at a VA facility in Delaware. He had excellent care there. The nurses loved him. My Mom drove up from Virginia and spent the last three months of his life with him. Her brothers live locally and they supported each other. My dearly departed Gram followed just one year later in another facility/nursing home due to diabetes and diabetic complications. She required constant medical supervision because of her fluctuating blood sugar and diabetic wounds/sores. When our parents/grandparents reach this point, the " staying at home " really isn't an option anymore. In the " olden days " parents stayed at home with adult children because there were no other options. If parents are healthy and do not have chronic medical problems, this can be a wonderful solution. With your Dad's medical problems and Alzheimer's, I really do believe the VA facility/hospital is the ONLY solution that is safe and practical. When our children are younger and we make decisions that aren't always fun and easy to make because they are best for our kids, Dr. Dobson calls that " Tough Love, " and it's not always easy and fun. The tables are turned when our elderly parents need us to make " Tough Love " decisions on their behalf. God knows our hearts. Let this give you comfort when making those " Tough Love " decisions for your Dad. Lots of love for you, Trace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2003 Report Share Posted April 5, 2003 Exactly. That is my plan. I talked to one of my aunts today., She's got to be over 80 now, was married to his older brother (who died about 10 yrs ago). When I said VA< she said, That will make him SOOOOOOOOO happy, so good, I'm not off base. His own sis said that was a good choice. Well, now you guys say it, so that cinches it. LOL! Thanks, Vitalady, Inc. T www.vitalady.com If you are interested in PayPal, please click here: https://www.paypal.com/affil/pal=orders%40vitalady.com Re: OT-my dad again >>Speaking WW II fluently.. (Mom) Ah, Mom, that's great. I can picture that. Lots of love, Trace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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