Guest guest Posted March 23, 2003 Report Share Posted March 23, 2003 Even though you don't see me much, I am reading everything I get. Thanks so very much for everyone's words & experiences. I know how hard it is to have to relive it. I lost my mom 3 yrs ago, but it was relatively quickly. 1 week and that was all we knew. Thanks to all of you guys, I had a moment of backbone today & sent my dad's car home with my son. I wanted to throw up, go home, leave town, call my mommy, crawl in my dad's lap----anything so that I would not have to complete this action. He is still in the hospital, so I have not actually told him I did any of this. NOW can I leave town? He's going to come home to no car. To his credit, my son & d-I-l were not anxious to take the car. Oh, they need it. But they are also suffering with the guilt. My step-dtr feels as sick as I do, but she's been trying to get me to this point for a year, since she drove with him. Anyway, he is in pretty good spirits in the hospital, but his hematacrit is not holding steady. Was transfused (2 units) on Fri and probably will need to be again tonight. Had double-ended scopes scheduled for this morning, had started the prep and he had more angina, so they're not going to subject him even to mild sedation. Sooooo, they put the blood in, it's obviously leaking somewhere, but they can't find out where til the steady his heart, which they cannot stabilize til they can keep some blood on board...... As I said, he feels " ok " , if not perky. Was delighted to have the whole family there today, though I'm kinda wondering if we scared him, some. Tried to act casual. Anyway, if I stay vanished, please don't anyone take it personally. I will spend tomorrow trying to bring myself up to speed on his bills & such. What a mess! Thanks, Vitalady, Inc. T www.vitalady.com If you are interested in PayPal, please click here: https://www.paypal.com/affil/pal=orders%40vitalady.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2003 Report Share Posted March 24, 2003 - You take all the time you need. We love you and support you, and we can support each other while you're taking care of you and your dad. I imagine it won't be easy when he goes home, but you'll cross that bridge in a few days or whenever that is. One day at a time, right? Hang in there. Jeanne in WI Age 39 - Dr. T. Chua Open RNY - 5/21/02 5'7 " - 314/215/150-175 djgraves@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2003 Report Share Posted March 24, 2003 {{{{{ }}}}} We understand why you're not on as much, Mom. Completely. Lifting you, your Dad and family up in my prayers, Trace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2003 Report Share Posted March 24, 2003 All the best to you ! My Dad had a bout where he was losing blood and they found it to be between his lower and upper intestines. Sx to remove about 8 " of intestines and now he is fine. I guess, from what the medicals said, this can happen to *older* people. My Father is 63. Prayers going your way. I feel for you Mom. Oh and BTW.........thanks for the papers on your product. I mailed them off to my Dietician this am ;o)) Kathy (aka Spooki) *Until you love a poodle, a part of your soul remains unawakened.* www.geocities.com/fyrbyrd1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2003 Report Share Posted March 24, 2003 Mom, Take care of you, Dad, and your Dad.. We will survive here.. however, it wont be the same without ya:( Hugs, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2003 Report Share Posted March 24, 2003 Mom, you have all you can handle right now. We will take care of each other! You take care of your Dad and please try to take time for you. You know a nice " Calgon take me away " type moment. There is no easy way to get thru this, there is no easy way to come to grips with our parents getting older and " leaving " us. If we can help, holler. Phyllis thanks Even though you don't see me much, I am reading everything I get. Thanks so very much for everyone's words & experiences. I know how hard it is to have to relive it. I lost my mom 3 yrs ago, but it was relatively quickly. 1 week and that was all we knew. Thanks to all of you guys, I had a moment of backbone today & sent my dad's car home with my son. I wanted to throw up, go home, leave town, call my mommy, crawl in my dad's lap----anything so that I would not have to complete this action. He is still in the hospital, so I have not actually told him I did any of this. NOW can I leave town? He's going to come home to no car. To his credit, my son & d-I-l were not anxious to take the car. Oh, they need it. But they are also suffering with the guilt. My step-dtr feels as sick as I do, but she's been trying to get me to this point for a year, since she drove with him. Anyway, he is in pretty good spirits in the hospital, but his hematacrit is not holding steady. Was transfused (2 units) on Fri and probably will need to be again tonight. Had double-ended scopes scheduled for this morning, had started the prep and he had more angina, so they're not going to subject him even to mild sedation. Sooooo, they put the blood in, it's obviously leaking somewhere, but they can't find out where til the steady his heart, which they cannot stabilize til they can keep some blood on board...... As I said, he feels " ok " , if not perky. Was delighted to have the whole family there today, though I'm kinda wondering if we scared him, some. Tried to act casual. Anyway, if I stay vanished, please don't anyone take it personally. I will spend tomorrow trying to bring myself up to speed on his bills & such. What a mess! Thanks, Vitalady, Inc. T www.vitalady.com If you are interested in PayPal, please click here: https://www.paypal.com/affil/pal=orders%40vitalady.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2003 Report Share Posted March 24, 2003 Thanks very much Thanks, Vitalady, Inc. T www.vitalady.com If you are interested in PayPal, please click here: https://www.paypal.com/affil/pal=orders%40vitalady.com thanks Even though you don't see me much, I am reading everything I get. Thanks so very much for everyone's words & experiences. I know how hard it is to have to relive it. I lost my mom 3 yrs ago, but it was relatively quickly. 1 week and that was all we knew. Thanks to all of you guys, I had a moment of backbone today & sent my dad's car home with my son. I wanted to throw up, go home, leave town, call my mommy, crawl in my dad's lap----anything so that I would not have to complete this action. He is still in the hospital, so I have not actually told him I did any of this. NOW can I leave town? He's going to come home to no car. To his credit, my son & d-I-l were not anxious to take the car. Oh, they need it. But they are also suffering with the guilt. My step-dtr feels as sick as I do, but she's been trying to get me to this point for a year, since she drove with him. Anyway, he is in pretty good spirits in the hospital, but his hematacrit is not holding steady. Was transfused (2 units) on Fri and probably will need to be again tonight. Had double-ended scopes scheduled for this morning, had started the prep and he had more angina, so they're not going to subject him even to mild sedation. Sooooo, they put the blood in, it's obviously leaking somewhere, but they can't find out where til the steady his heart, which they cannot stabilize til they can keep some blood on board...... As I said, he feels " ok " , if not perky. Was delighted to have the whole family there today, though I'm kinda wondering if we scared him, some. Tried to act casual. Anyway, if I stay vanished, please don't anyone take it personally. I will spend tomorrow trying to bring myself up to speed on his bills & such. What a mess! Thanks, Vitalady, Inc. T www.vitalady.com If you are interested in PayPal, please click here: https://www.paypal.com/affil/pal=orders%40vitalady.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2003 Report Share Posted March 24, 2003 He had a bowel resection in 1988. IO forget how much but feet, not inches. He has diverticulosis (the condition, vs itis, the inflammation) as do it. He went in for angioplasty & he was too anemic then. They found he was " fulla holes " and they did the resection then. So, here we are, 15 yrs later, back to the same spot. Needing angio, but sprung a leak somewhere. I kinda wonder if the 1998 thing was the trigger for the AD, sometimes. His personality changed a bit after that. He became more gregarious & outgoing, but stopped traveling. He said the new unpredictability left him not wanting to be on the Great Wall of China with no restroom. Can't blame him for that. They LOVED to travel. Even now, in time of war, I shudder to think of where they might think would be exciting to visit (I think I'm adopted). Anyway, so needs angio, can't because heart is irregular, cant' scope because of heart, so, can't stop the internal bleeding, but the BP is off, anemia, so it's all stuck in a circle. Can't fix one thing because of the other. Thanks, Vitalady, Inc. ™ www.vitalady.com If you are interested in PayPal, please click here: https://www.paypal.com/affil/pal=orders%40vitalady.com Re: thanks > All the best to you ! > My Dad had a bout where he was losing blood and they found it to be between > his lower and upper intestines. Sx to remove about 8 " of intestines and now > he is fine. > I guess, from what the medicals said, this can happen to *older* people. > My Father is 63. > Prayers going your way. I feel for you Mom. > Oh and BTW.........thanks for the papers on your product. I mailed them off > to my Dietician this am ;o)) > > Kathy (aka Spooki) > *Until you love a poodle, a part of your soul remains unawakened.* > www.geocities.com/fyrbyrd1 > > > > To Subscribe to 's monthly FREE Newsletter send an email to GBCookbook-subscribe@... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2003 Report Share Posted March 24, 2003 I'm terrible with words when it comes to stuff like this, but just remember that so many of us are praying for it to be as painless as possible for all of you. ------------------------------------------------ Terry Mayers 5DollarHosting.comR http://www.5dollarhosting.com (877)-838-HOST / .... because it shouldn't cost a fortune to make a fortune! R thanks Even though you don't see me much, I am reading everything I get. Thanks so very much for everyone's words & experiences. I know how hard it is to have to relive it. I lost my mom 3 yrs ago, but it was relatively quickly. 1 week and that was all we knew. Thanks to all of you guys, I had a moment of backbone today & sent my dad's car home with my son. I wanted to throw up, go home, leave town, call my mommy, crawl in my dad's lap----anything so that I would not have to complete this action. He is still in the hospital, so I have not actually told him I did any of this. NOW can I leave town? He's going to come home to no car. To his credit, my son & d-I-l were not anxious to take the car. Oh, they need it. But they are also suffering with the guilt. My step-dtr feels as sick as I do, but she's been trying to get me to this point for a year, since she drove with him. Anyway, he is in pretty good spirits in the hospital, but his hematacrit is not holding steady. Was transfused (2 units) on Fri and probably will need to be again tonight. Had double-ended scopes scheduled for this morning, had started the prep and he had more angina, so they're not going to subject him even to mild sedation. Sooooo, they put the blood in, it's obviously leaking somewhere, but they can't find out where til the steady his heart, which they cannot stabilize til they can keep some blood on board...... As I said, he feels " ok " , if not perky. Was delighted to have the whole family there today, though I'm kinda wondering if we scared him, some. Tried to act casual. Anyway, if I stay vanished, please don't anyone take it personally. I will spend tomorrow trying to bring myself up to speed on his bills & such. What a mess! Thanks, Vitalady, Inc. T www.vitalady.com If you are interested in PayPal, please click here: https://www.paypal.com/affil/pal=orders%40vitalady.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2003 Report Share Posted March 24, 2003 mom you take the time you need for your real family we will be here when you are able to come back but you will be missed and I will pray for you and yours as I am our troops several times a day . I love you and thanks for all you do ! TN thanks > Even though you don't see me much, I am reading everything I get. > > Thanks so very much for everyone's words & experiences. I know how hard it is to have to relive it. I lost my mom 3 yrs ago, but it was relatively quickly. 1 week and that was all we knew. > > Thanks to all of you guys, I had a moment of backbone today & sent my dad's car home with my son. I wanted to throw up, go home, leave town, call my mommy, crawl in my dad's lap----anything so that I would not have to complete this action. He is still in the hospital, so I have not actually told him I did any of this. > > NOW can I leave town? He's going to come home to no car. To his credit, my son & d-I-l were not anxious to take the car. Oh, they need it. But they are also suffering with the guilt. My step-dtr feels as sick as I do, but she's been trying to get me to this point for a year, since she drove with him. > > Anyway, he is in pretty good spirits in the hospital, but his hematacrit is not holding steady. Was transfused (2 units) on Fri and probably will need to be again tonight. Had double-ended scopes scheduled for this morning, had started the prep and he had more angina, so they're not going to subject him even to mild sedation. Sooooo, they put the blood in, it's obviously leaking somewhere, but they can't find out where til the steady his heart, which they cannot stabilize til they can keep some blood on board...... > > As I said, he feels " ok " , if not perky. Was delighted to have the whole family there today, though I'm kinda wondering if we scared him, some. Tried to act casual. > > Anyway, if I stay vanished, please don't anyone take it personally. I will spend tomorrow trying to bring myself up to speed on his bills & such. What a mess! > > > Thanks, > > > Vitalady, Inc. T > www.vitalady.com > > If you are interested in PayPal, please click here: > https://www.paypal.com/affil/pal=orders%40vitalady.com > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2003 Report Share Posted March 24, 2003 my prayers are with you and your family. God Bless, Bev L Sebring,Fl camelady@... -- Re: thanks He had a bowel resection in 1988. IO forget how much but feet, not inches. He has diverticulosis (the condition, vs itis, the inflammation) as do it. He went in for angioplasty & he was too anemic then. They found he was " fulla holes " and they did the resection then. So, here we are, 15 yrs later, back to the same spot. Needing angio, but sprung a leak somewhere. I kinda wonder if the 1998 thing was the trigger for the AD, sometimes. His personality changed a bit after that. He became more gregarious & outgoing, but stopped traveling. He said the new unpredictability left him not wanting to be on the Great Wall of China with no restroom. Can't blame him for that. They LOVED to travel. Even now, in time of war, I shudder to think of where they might think would be exciting to visit (I think I'm adopted). Anyway, so needs angio, can't because heart is irregular, cant' scope because of heart, so, can't stop the internal bleeding, but the BP is off, anemia, so it's all stuck in a circle. Can't fix one thing because of the other. Thanks, Vitalady, Inc. ™ www.vitalady.com If you are interested in PayPal, please click here: https://www.paypal.com/affil/pal=orders%40vitalady.com Re: thanks > All the best to you ! > My Dad had a bout where he was losing blood and they found it to be between > his lower and upper intestines. Sx to remove about 8 " of intestines and now > he is fine. > I guess, from what the medicals said, this can happen to *older* people. > My Father is 63. > Prayers going your way. I feel for you Mom. > Oh and BTW.........thanks for the papers on your product. I mailed them off > to my Dietician this am ;o)) > > Kathy (aka Spooki) > *Until you love a poodle, a part of your soul remains unawakened.* > www.geocities.com/fyrbyrd1 > > > > To Subscribe to 's monthly FREE Newsletter send an email to GBCookbook-subscribe@... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2003 Report Share Posted March 24, 2003 mwwwwwwa! Thanks, Vitalady, Inc. T www.vitalady.com If you are interested in PayPal, please click here: https://www.paypal.com/affil/pal=orders%40vitalady.com Re: thanks {{{{{ }}}}} We understand why you're not on as much, Mom. Completely. Lifting you, your Dad and family up in my prayers, Trace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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