ocd iom really leaning in to it

January 15, 2007

well as u all no its common for chargers to get ocd really is and ive allway

had it but now its really bad it is probly just a medicine thing maybe but

what can i do i need ur help and ill tell u y coz i go down stairs to get of

my comp coz im obsessed with it and with sev and other things that r msn and

people so i go downstairs to eat and dad says go back to ru comp now him and

mum want me to stop this and hes making me have it more i cant reason with

him i want to stop this and hes saying go up stairs to it now isnt that

going to make it worse i had it real bad on the weekend and now hes saying

go up onto ur comp and another thing is one of my firneds has gone into hosp

coz she has depression and i think soem people think i have it to but mum

knows and i know its ocd most people no but i think here r soem people who

think that gerogi is giving me depression when its me ocd and worrying and u

no i mean she really did hurt me and probly was her depression and my ocd

cominded i think but i catn figure out how i can stay off this if dads gonna

say go upstairs on to ur comp coz hes talking to mum i hate this plese help

January 15, 2007

So you don't want to use your computer as much because you feel like you're

using it too much? I'd just find something else to do if Dad sent you

upstairs to your 'computer' - maybe read a book or try something different.

You could always set a timer for yourself (like a kitchen cooking timer) and

when it buzzes, you have to get off the computer for a while.

Good luck honey,

Lis

>

> well as u all no its common for chargers to get ocd really is and ive

> allway

> had it but now its really bad it is probly just a medicine thing maybe but

> what can i do i need ur help and ill tell u y coz i go down stairs to get

> of

> my comp coz im obsessed with it and with sev and other things that r msn

> and

> people so i go downstairs to eat and dad says go back to ru comp now him

> and

> mum want me to stop this and hes making me have it more i cant reason with

> him i want to stop this and hes saying go up stairs to it now isnt that

> going to make it worse i had it real bad on the weekend and now hes saying

> go up onto ur comp and another thing is one of my firneds has gone into

> hosp

> coz she has depression and i think soem people think i have it to but mum

> knows and i know its ocd most people no but i think here r soem people who

> think that gerogi is giving me depression when its me ocd and worrying and

> u

> no i mean she really did hurt me and probly was her depression and my ocd

> cominded i think but i catn figure out how i can stay off this if dads

> gonna

> say go upstairs on to ur comp coz hes talking to mum i hate this plese

> help

>

January 15, 2007

Sure sweety,

There are lots of things you can do that will add extra quality to your time.

And because you are choosing it (rather than feeling it is being forced on

you)

you will be empowered by it.

Lots of times depression comes from feeling we are powerless in some way.

We reclaim our happy feelings by proactively choosing something we like.

Would you like to learn a foreign language?

Wouldn't that surprise your parents when they walk by your room!

Or have you tried painting or drawing? You only have to please yourself

with it.

Or oragami, or building with balsa wood and glue-

Or exercising to music? (I wonder why that's always on my list-hmmmm)

Or playing the drums? I did that-just ask the neighbors! LOL.

Or making jewelry?

Or kachina dolls?

>

If these don't 'float your boat'-come back-somebody will hit on the perfect

thing-

;-)

in Ma.

January 15, 2007

Ellen-

I think 's suggestion is a good one. From what you said, it may be that

your friend's depression is causing you some worry and that is making your

OCD worse. It's natural to be worried when a good friend is ill - and

especially if that good friend hurt you. From what people have said here,

worry will increase OCD. Then you have Dad sending you up to the computer

which adds to your worry. But remember, you ultimately control yourself.

Yes, easier said than done! Do you think 's advice would work?? Could

you leave the room so Mum and Dad can have time to talk, but do something

other than the computer? I sense that their need to talk has you a bit

worried too. All kids, no matter how old, have a difficult time when

parents seem stressed and when they get conflicting messages from each

parent. Your worry will do nothing to help so try as hard as you can to let

go of it. Same with your worry about your friend.

Have you ever tried writing your worries on a piece of paper - or printing

them from the computer - and then ripping them up or putting them in an

envelope to set aside?? For some people, the symbolic " letting go " can be

really helpful. If you can let go of the worry about things you can't

control or fix, it'll be a lesson that will serve you well throughout your

life. It's a hard lesson to learn, but one we all have to get a handle on

sometime. For us parents, we often learn it when we find all the things we

can't do to help our kids. When our kids have CHARGE, we can't possibly

worry about everything. There's just too much! So we learn to let go of

the things worry won't help and put our attention to the things we can

control. Notice I said " attention " rather than " worry " . There's a

difference between unproductive worry and positive attention.

Sounds like the only thing you can control here is your computer time. So

try not to think of all the other things and find an alternative activity

that you enjoy (besides eating - -that's also my favorite alternative!).

Then make yourself do that other thing for at least a few minutes before you

let yourself use the computer. Hopefully, you'll find yourself enjoying

that other thing, getting busy with it, and not missing the computer so

much. Does that make sense?

As with everything else, I'm just throwing ideas out there. If I'm way off

base, just never mind! But I do hope you find some peace. That muddled

feeling is no fun at all!

Michele W

Aubrie's mom

January 15, 2007

Ellen,

What about this? If you feel that you are obsessing with the computer and

being online, what about trying to limit yourself to particular times of the

day. For example, 1-2 hours in the morning and 1-2 hours in the evening. Set a

schedule perhaps. From 8 - 9:30 a.m., I can be online...but no longer and same

thing in the evening. Then occupy the rest of the day with other activities as

suggested in other email.

That way you won't feel bad about your time on the computer...you will enjoy

it but it will be limited.

We want you to enjoy your life to its fullest!

What activities are you interested in? Do you like doing any crafts? I

cannot recall what your vision is, but from your computer work, it must be

pretty good right? I could send you some craft supplies if that is something

you are interested in?

Let me know. Maxwell and I absolutely ADORE you Miss Ellen and want to help you

be the happiest you can be! You bring so much love and energy to all of

us...how can we do that for you my friend?

Love, Amy and Mighty Max

ellen howe wrote:

well as u all no its common for chargers to get ocd really is and ive

allway