Re: wanting to share my nada with the world

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I'm sorry that you had to experience that kind of abuse too. I dealt with it by

just shutting off my conscious access to my emotions. I've retained my

childhood memories pretty well, and even details of incidents similar to the

screaming nada video, such as, I remember my mother's spittle hitting me in the

face as she screamed at me, and that her eyes were dilated so much they looked

like a shark's eyes. And that there was nothing but hate in those eyes, as

though my own nada didn't even know me. I have the memories but not the

emotions.

My little Sister coped by forgetting entire blocks of her childhood, more like

amnesia, but she did tell me that she remembers one time that nada started

screaming at her like that, when Sister was just a very little thing, maybe 2 or

3 years old, and Sister was so terrified she urinated on herself. Like a puppy.

I've heard that f you scream at a puppy it will just instinctively wet itself

out of pure animal terror. And of course that made nada scream at Sister even

more, for getting pee on the sofa.

What amazes me is that our neighbors had to have heard these screaming rage

tantrums, but nobody ever came over to even ask what was happening. We did live

in very solid brick houses that weren't just jammed up together, I'm thinking

there was about 20 feet between each house. But still. Maybe the neighbors

were as afraid of my nada as I was.

That's why I think an educational program that actually shows real life examples

of what disordered behaviors sound like and look like, in comparison with what

normal behaviors look like and sound like, so people can learn to recognize

disordered behaviors and realize that kids need to be rescued from such

treatment.

-Annie

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> > > Her voice that is! I want to share my nada's voice, as a teaching tool,

using a most particular voice mail message. I have a recovery blog that often

addresses strategies for dealing with problematic people. My model is, of

course, nada.

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> > > I like the idea that having a sound bite might help " illustrate " a

borderline for those who are may not understand just how these people work..

how they communicate, how insufferable they are, etc.

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> > > My nada rarely leaves messages on our home phone to share how she upbraids

me. Well I discovered (just learning to use a new phone) that she left a

frustrating and belittling message on my voice mail (my version of the i-phone

is the next-most-recent, not the one released the week of Steve Job's death).

When I happened to stumble on it and shared it with my husband, he was appalled.

A friend just helped me to realize, that with this new technology, I may be able

to share my nada with others, by downloading her message on my computer.

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> > > I would really like to have it accessible to readers of my blog, who may

not " get " the nastiness of a borderline on the rampage. It would so help me to

have a chuckle too.

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> > > It is one of her milder tirades, but bad enough in my book. I find it

such a hoot that she actually said to ME, what I should have said to her. She

tells me to " find some other sucker who'll put up with you! "

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