Only child dealing with out of control BPD Mom(who is now homeless)-Need Advice!

[Guest guest]

My BPD mom has been waging a legal battle against my step father since 2007,

when he decided to divorce her after 23 years of marriage. She has fabricated

allegations against him claiming he is a violent abuser, claims he is a

pedophile, has slept with numerous other women, is gay(which amuses me based on

previous allegation), and the list goes on and on. My step father has been the

only stable adult in my life, and has been my father figure since the age of 5

or 6. She even claimed he would rape my five month old baby boy if I allowed

him to come into contact with him.

Throughout the past five years, she goes into violent rages against me and my

husband because we refuse to sever ties with my step father. I have stated that

whatever goes on between them is between them, and I chose to remain neutral.

She has the opinion that we are " agaisnt her " because we still speak to my step

dad and she cannot get past that. She no longer refers to me as her " daughter "

and hasn't met one of her grandchildren(who she won't call grandkids either),

and hasn't seen the other one since he was 1. We have continually stated that

we would like to maintain relationships with both of them, however she refuses

to accept these boundaries. I am continually innundated with court documents,

new " conspiracies " , ect. She has created email accounts using my name, to

harass people using my identity. She has tried to have us suboenaed to

" testify " against my step dad (for what we are not sure of). She has stolen

money, drained her 401K, gone to jail for contempt of court, and so many other

things that it exhausts me to think about it.

Because her rages are so violent and explosive, I stand strong with the demand

that she cannot discuss her divorce/legal battles with us(as this is when she

becomes explosive). Although that behavior isn't shocking to me, I refuse to

expose my children to it. Well of course, she refuses to abide by my

boundaries, and choses to have nothing to do with us instead. Lately, she has

been calling and demanding money(while insulting me at the same time) so her car

doesn't get repossed. We decided that to avoid being blamed for anything that

happens as a result of the car getting repossed, we would make a one time " piece

of mind " payment. That was followed with an email asking me " what she could

have done to deserve such horrible treatment from her former family " ? You know,

the ones that have given you $6,000 over the past few months...how dare they. I

find out today that she is going to be homeless by the end of the week. I don't

feel that my children are safe around her, but I don't know what to do if she

comes knocking at the door for a place to stay (as well as her 2 dogs). It is

the " she is my mom " guilt rearing it's ugly head. Any advice???

[Guest guest]

Dear biochem - You've had a lot to deal with. I have to say, given the history

you describe, I'd be pursuing a restraining order, documenting her attempts to

misuse your identity, and having the deadbolts changed. If she is homeless -

through her own choices - and you let her stay with you, you will never get rid

of her. When you do have to make her leave, she will vilify you. She will use

every detail of your life to create more drama and trouble. Because I'm an

animal lover, I'd say take the dogs for her - but I know she'll use that, too,

as a weapon. Sadly, you just can't be nice to some people - and it sounds like

your mother is one of those very destructive types. You have to have high walls

and a deep moat around the sanctity of your home, or she'll destroy the home

you've made, just as she destroyed her own. It's going to make you feel

terrible, I know, but you might need to get some kind of legal protection

against her and let her experience the consequences of her actions. I'm sorry

you're going through this.

>

> My BPD mom has been waging a legal battle against my step father since 2007,

when he decided to divorce her after 23 years of marriage. She has fabricated

allegations against him claiming he is a violent abuser, claims he is a

pedophile, has slept with numerous other women, is gay(which amuses me based on

previous allegation), and the list goes on and on. My step father has been the

only stable adult in my life, and has been my father figure since the age of 5

or 6. She even claimed he would rape my five month old baby boy if I allowed

him to come into contact with him.

>

> Throughout the past five years, she goes into violent rages against me and my

husband because we refuse to sever ties with my step father. I have stated that

whatever goes on between them is between them, and I chose to remain neutral.

She has the opinion that we are " agaisnt her " because we still speak to my step

dad and she cannot get past that. She no longer refers to me as her " daughter "

and hasn't met one of her grandchildren(who she won't call grandkids either),

and hasn't seen the other one since he was 1. We have continually stated that

we would like to maintain relationships with both of them, however she refuses

to accept these boundaries. I am continually innundated with court documents,

new " conspiracies " , ect. She has created email accounts using my name, to

harass people using my identity. She has tried to have us suboenaed to

" testify " against my step dad (for what we are not sure of). She has stolen

money, drained her 401K, gone to jail for contempt of court, and so many other

things that it exhausts me to think about it.

>

> Because her rages are so violent and explosive, I stand strong with the demand

that she cannot discuss her divorce/legal battles with us(as this is when she

becomes explosive). Although that behavior isn't shocking to me, I refuse to

expose my children to it. Well of course, she refuses to abide by my

boundaries, and choses to have nothing to do with us instead. Lately, she has

been calling and demanding money(while insulting me at the same time) so her car

doesn't get repossed. We decided that to avoid being blamed for anything that

happens as a result of the car getting repossed, we would make a one time " piece

of mind " payment. That was followed with an email asking me " what she could

have done to deserve such horrible treatment from her former family " ? You know,

the ones that have given you $6,000 over the past few months...how dare they. I

find out today that she is going to be homeless by the end of the week. I don't

feel that my children are safe around her, but I don't know what to do if she

comes knocking at the door for a place to stay (as well as her 2 dogs). It is

the " she is my mom " guilt rearing it's ugly head. Any advice???

>

[Guest guest]

So sorry you have to go through all that biochem, yep, I'd bust out every

single last possible legal avenue to keep myself and my family safe. I hate

to say it, but I'd suggest considering NC very strongly. And it also seems

clear that nothing you have done to help her has really HELPED because her

choices are so shitty.

On Sat, Oct 29, 2011 at 3:23 PM, shirleyspawn wrote:

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>

> Dear biochem - You've had a lot to deal with. I have to say, given the

> history you describe, I'd be pursuing a restraining order, documenting her

> attempts to misuse your identity, and having the deadbolts changed. If she

> is homeless - through her own choices - and you let her stay with you, you

> will never get rid of her. When you do have to make her leave, she will

> vilify you. She will use every detail of your life to create more drama and

> trouble. Because I'm an animal lover, I'd say take the dogs for her - but I

> know she'll use that, too, as a weapon. Sadly, you just can't be nice to

> some people - and it sounds like your mother is one of those very

> destructive types. You have to have high walls and a deep moat around the

> sanctity of your home, or she'll destroy the home you've made, just as she

> destroyed her own. It's going to make you feel terrible, I know, but you

> might need to get some kind of legal protection against her and let her

> experience the consequences of her actions. I'm sorry you're going through

> this.

>

>

>

>

>

> >

> > My BPD mom has been waging a legal battle against my step father since

> 2007, when he decided to divorce her after 23 years of marriage. She has

> fabricated allegations against him claiming he is a violent abuser, claims

> he is a pedophile, has slept with numerous other women, is gay(which amuses

> me based on previous allegation), and the list goes on and on. My step

> father has been the only stable adult in my life, and has been my father

> figure since the age of 5 or 6. She even claimed he would rape my five month

> old baby boy if I allowed him to come into contact with him.

> >

> > Throughout the past five years, she goes into violent rages against me

> and my husband because we refuse to sever ties with my step father. I have

> stated that whatever goes on between them is between them, and I chose to

> remain neutral. She has the opinion that we are " agaisnt her " because we

> still speak to my step dad and she cannot get past that. She no longer

> refers to me as her " daughter " and hasn't met one of her grandchildren(who

> she won't call grandkids either), and hasn't seen the other one since he was

> 1. We have continually stated that we would like to maintain relationships

> with both of them, however she refuses to accept these boundaries. I am

> continually innundated with court documents, new " conspiracies " , ect. She

> has created email accounts using my name, to harass people using my

> identity. She has tried to have us suboenaed to " testify " against my step

> dad (for what we are not sure of). She has stolen money, drained her 401K,

> gone to jail for contempt of court, and so many other things that it

> exhausts me to think about it.

> >

> > Because her rages are so violent and explosive, I stand strong with the

> demand that she cannot discuss her divorce/legal battles with us(as this is

> when she becomes explosive). Although that behavior isn't shocking to me, I

> refuse to expose my children to it. Well of course, she refuses to abide by

> my boundaries, and choses to have nothing to do with us instead. Lately, she

> has been calling and demanding money(while insulting me at the same time) so

> her car doesn't get repossed. We decided that to avoid being blamed for

> anything that happens as a result of the car getting repossed, we would make

> a one time " piece of mind " payment. That was followed with an email asking

> me " what she could have done to deserve such horrible treatment from her

> former family " ? You know, the ones that have given you $6,000 over the past

> few months...how dare they. I find out today that she is going to be

> homeless by the end of the week. I don't feel that my children are safe

> around her, but I don't know what to do if she comes knocking at the door

> for a place to stay (as well as her 2 dogs). It is the " she is my mom " guilt

> rearing it's ugly head. Any advice???

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

That sounds incredibly challenging. What are you getting from the current

relationship with your mom? Nadas typically don't respect or even acknowledge

limits that KO's try and set. You say she chooses to have nothing to do with

you, but then calls and demands money, so seems to me that she's still kind of

running the show. Your intent was a one time payment in hopes of worse case

scenario, but she probably doesn't see it that way. And it sounds like it IS

worse.

If your nada was the victim of an earthquake, bankruptcy due to medical

expenses, then it would be the normal response to take her in. But sounds like

her destructive, manipulative behavior is catching up with her. She did this to

herself, and you are not obligated to take care of her. Most " normal " parents

have great difficulty in asking their kids for any kind of help.

Your obligation is to your kids and husband, and to take care of yourself! What

would life be like if you let her stay with you??

Give her the phone numbers to the nearest shelters, senior services, etc.

Anyone as resourceful as she has been in the legal arena should be able to

navigate the system.

>

> My BPD mom has been waging a legal battle against my step father since 2007,

when he decided to divorce her after 23 years of marriage. She has fabricated

allegations against him claiming he is a violent abuser, claims he is a

pedophile, has slept with numerous other women, is gay(which amuses me based on

previous allegation), and the list goes on and on. My step father has been the

only stable adult in my life, and has been my father figure since the age of 5

or 6. She even claimed he would rape my five month old baby boy if I allowed

him to come into contact with him.

>

> Throughout the past five years, she goes into violent rages against me and my

husband because we refuse to sever ties with my step father. I have stated that

whatever goes on between them is between them, and I chose to remain neutral.

She has the opinion that we are " agaisnt her " because we still speak to my step

dad and she cannot get past that. She no longer refers to me as her " daughter "

and hasn't met one of her grandchildren(who she won't call grandkids either),

and hasn't seen the other one since he was 1. We have continually stated that

we would like to maintain relationships with both of them, however she refuses

to accept these boundaries. I am continually innundated with court documents,

new " conspiracies " , ect. She has created email accounts using my name, to

harass people using my identity. She has tried to have us suboenaed to

" testify " against my step dad (for what we are not sure of). She has stolen

money, drained her 401K, gone to jail for contempt of court, and so many other

things that it exhausts me to think about it.

>

> Because her rages are so violent and explosive, I stand strong with the demand

that she cannot discuss her divorce/legal battles with us(as this is when she

becomes explosive). Although that behavior isn't shocking to me, I refuse to

expose my children to it. Well of course, she refuses to abide by my

boundaries, and choses to have nothing to do with us instead. Lately, she has

been calling and demanding money(while insulting me at the same time) so her car

doesn't get repossed. We decided that to avoid being blamed for anything that

happens as a result of the car getting repossed, we would make a one time " piece

of mind " payment. That was followed with an email asking me " what she could

have done to deserve such horrible treatment from her former family " ? You know,

the ones that have given you $6,000 over the past few months...how dare they. I

find out today that she is going to be homeless by the end of the week. I don't

feel that my children are safe around her, but I don't know what to do if she

comes knocking at the door for a place to stay (as well as her 2 dogs). It is

the " she is my mom " guilt rearing it's ugly head. Any advice???

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you so much for the advice.

I DID IT! I went NC, and informed her that if any threats are made against me,

my family, or herself, that my husband and I will call law enforcement.

It has been 2 days, and I haven't heard anything yet!

We also set up a game plan to hopefully give me some mental peace.

1. Don't read her emails.

2. Husband reads the emails and only notifies me of the contents if we have to

call the police, or we think she may be coming into town.

3. Keep all emails in a folder in case legal action ever needs to be taken.

4. Mainain sense of humor, because this s*#t is crazy!!!

Take care everyone:)

> > >

> > > My BPD mom has been waging a legal battle against my step father since

> > 2007, when he decided to divorce her after 23 years of marriage. She has

> > fabricated allegations against him claiming he is a violent abuser, claims

> > he is a pedophile, has slept with numerous other women, is gay(which amuses

> > me based on previous allegation), and the list goes on and on. My step

> > father has been the only stable adult in my life, and has been my father

> > figure since the age of 5 or 6. She even claimed he would rape my five month

> > old baby boy if I allowed him to come into contact with him.

> > >

> > > Throughout the past five years, she goes into violent rages against me

> > and my husband because we refuse to sever ties with my step father. I have

> > stated that whatever goes on between them is between them, and I chose to

> > remain neutral. She has the opinion that we are " agaisnt her " because we

> > still speak to my step dad and she cannot get past that. She no longer

> > refers to me as her " daughter " and hasn't met one of her grandchildren(who

> > she won't call grandkids either), and hasn't seen the other one since he was

> > 1. We have continually stated that we would like to maintain relationships

> > with both of them, however she refuses to accept these boundaries. I am

> > continually innundated with court documents, new " conspiracies " , ect. She

> > has created email accounts using my name, to harass people using my

> > identity. She has tried to have us suboenaed to " testify " against my step

> > dad (for what we are not sure of). She has stolen money, drained her 401K,

> > gone to jail for contempt of court, and so many other things that it

> > exhausts me to think about it.

> > >

> > > Because her rages are so violent and explosive, I stand strong with the

> > demand that she cannot discuss her divorce/legal battles with us(as this is

> > when she becomes explosive). Although that behavior isn't shocking to me, I

> > refuse to expose my children to it. Well of course, she refuses to abide by

> > my boundaries, and choses to have nothing to do with us instead. Lately, she

> > has been calling and demanding money(while insulting me at the same time) so

> > her car doesn't get repossed. We decided that to avoid being blamed for

> > anything that happens as a result of the car getting repossed, we would make

> > a one time " piece of mind " payment. That was followed with an email asking

> > me " what she could have done to deserve such horrible treatment from her

> > former family " ? You know, the ones that have given you $6,000 over the past

> > few months...how dare they. I find out today that she is going to be

> > homeless by the end of the week. I don't feel that my children are safe

> > around her, but I don't know what to do if she comes knocking at the door

> > for a place to stay (as well as her 2 dogs). It is the " she is my mom " guilt

> > rearing it's ugly head. Any advice???

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks stillsmirky!

I made the decision to go NC, we shall see...

> >

> > My BPD mom has been waging a legal battle against my step father since 2007,

when he decided to divorce her after 23 years of marriage. She has fabricated

allegations against him claiming he is a violent abuser, claims he is a

pedophile, has slept with numerous other women, is gay(which amuses me based on

previous allegation), and the list goes on and on. My step father has been the

only stable adult in my life, and has been my father figure since the age of 5

or 6. She even claimed he would rape my five month old baby boy if I allowed

him to come into contact with him.

> >

> > Throughout the past five years, she goes into violent rages against me and

my husband because we refuse to sever ties with my step father. I have stated

that whatever goes on between them is between them, and I chose to remain

neutral. She has the opinion that we are " agaisnt her " because we still speak to

my step dad and she cannot get past that. She no longer refers to me as her

" daughter " and hasn't met one of her grandchildren(who she won't call grandkids

either), and hasn't seen the other one since he was 1. We have continually

stated that we would like to maintain relationships with both of them, however

she refuses to accept these boundaries. I am continually innundated with court

documents, new " conspiracies " , ect. She has created email accounts using my

name, to harass people using my identity. She has tried to have us suboenaed to

" testify " against my step dad (for what we are not sure of). She has stolen

money, drained her 401K, gone to jail for contempt of court, and so many other

things that it exhausts me to think about it.

> >

> > Because her rages are so violent and explosive, I stand strong with the

demand that she cannot discuss her divorce/legal battles with us(as this is when

she becomes explosive). Although that behavior isn't shocking to me, I refuse

to expose my children to it. Well of course, she refuses to abide by my

boundaries, and choses to have nothing to do with us instead. Lately, she has

been calling and demanding money(while insulting me at the same time) so her car

doesn't get repossed. We decided that to avoid being blamed for anything that

happens as a result of the car getting repossed, we would make a one time " piece

of mind " payment. That was followed with an email asking me " what she could

have done to deserve such horrible treatment from her former family " ? You know,

the ones that have given you $6,000 over the past few months...how dare they. I

find out today that she is going to be homeless by the end of the week. I don't

feel that my children are safe around her, but I don't know what to do if she

comes knocking at the door for a place to stay (as well as her 2 dogs). It is

the " she is my mom " guilt rearing it's ugly head. Any advice???

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi biochem,

I agree with the other members; your bpd mom sounds very hostile, emotionally

unstable, paranoid, delusional, and destructive to both herself and those around

her. I think that is a wise choice to go No Contact, and to consult with a

lawyer over the option of pursuing a restraining order. The behaviors you've

described, including identity theft, theft of property, harassment lawsuits, and

even rage and violence, make it sound to me like a restraining order is long

overdue.

Its sad when our own parent is so disturbed and destructive, but you owe it to

yourself and your husband and children to take the steps necessary to protect

yourselves from further harm. Has your mom ever been formally diagnosed?

Keep reminding yourselves that you did not make your mother this way, and you

can't fix her or save her from her own self.

If she becomes homeless and violent enough to get picked up by the police again,

I'm guessing she will probably undergo an involuntary psychiatric hold and

evaluation to determine what's going on (it could be any number of things from

alcoholic dementia to schizophrenia to bad drug interactions to early stage

Alzheimer's. Or severe bpd.) Only a psychiatrist can tease out the causes of

her extreme and destructive behaviors and figure out how to help her.

Best of luck to you and your family; my heart goes out to you RE how difficult

this is.

-Annie

>

> My BPD mom has been waging a legal battle against my step father since 2007,

when he decided to divorce her after 23 years of marriage. She has fabricated

allegations against him claiming he is a violent abuser, claims he is a

pedophile, has slept with numerous other women, is gay(which amuses me based on

previous allegation), and the list goes on and on. My step father has been the

only stable adult in my life, and has been my father figure since the age of 5

or 6. She even claimed he would rape my five month old baby boy if I allowed

him to come into contact with him.

>

> Throughout the past five years, she goes into violent rages against me and my

husband because we refuse to sever ties with my step father. I have stated that

whatever goes on between them is between them, and I chose to remain neutral.

She has the opinion that we are " agaisnt her " because we still speak to my step

dad and she cannot get past that. She no longer refers to me as her " daughter "

and hasn't met one of her grandchildren(who she won't call grandkids either),

and hasn't seen the other one since he was 1. We have continually stated that

we would like to maintain relationships with both of them, however she refuses

to accept these boundaries. I am continually innundated with court documents,

new " conspiracies " , ect. She has created email accounts using my name, to

harass people using my identity. She has tried to have us suboenaed to

" testify " against my step dad (for what we are not sure of). She has stolen

money, drained her 401K, gone to jail for contempt of court, and so many other

things that it exhausts me to think about it.

>

> Because her rages are so violent and explosive, I stand strong with the demand

that she cannot discuss her divorce/legal battles with us(as this is when she

becomes explosive). Although that behavior isn't shocking to me, I refuse to

expose my children to it. Well of course, she refuses to abide by my

boundaries, and choses to have nothing to do with us instead. Lately, she has

been calling and demanding money(while insulting me at the same time) so her car

doesn't get repossed. We decided that to avoid being blamed for anything that

happens as a result of the car getting repossed, we would make a one time " piece

of mind " payment. That was followed with an email asking me " what she could

have done to deserve such horrible treatment from her former family " ? You know,

the ones that have given you $6,000 over the past few months...how dare they. I

find out today that she is going to be homeless by the end of the week. I don't

feel that my children are safe around her, but I don't know what to do if she

comes knocking at the door for a place to stay (as well as her 2 dogs). It is

the " she is my mom " guilt rearing it's ugly head. Any advice???

>

[Guest guest]

Sounds like a great plan! Especially the part about having your husband filter

the emails. Take care!

> > >

> > > My BPD mom has been waging a legal battle against my step father since

2007, when he decided to divorce her after 23 years of marriage. She has

fabricated allegations against him claiming he is a violent abuser, claims he is

a pedophile, has slept with numerous other women, is gay(which amuses me based

on previous allegation), and the list goes on and on. My step father has been

the only stable adult in my life, and has been my father figure since the age of

5 or 6. She even claimed he would rape my five month old baby boy if I allowed

him to come into contact with him.

> > >

> > > Throughout the past five years, she goes into violent rages against me and

my husband because we refuse to sever ties with my step father. I have stated

that whatever goes on between them is between them, and I chose to remain

neutral. She has the opinion that we are " agaisnt her " because we still speak to

my step dad and she cannot get past that. She no longer refers to me as her

" daughter " and hasn't met one of her grandchildren(who she won't call grandkids

either), and hasn't seen the other one since he was 1. We have continually

stated that we would like to maintain relationships with both of them, however

she refuses to accept these boundaries. I am continually innundated with court

documents, new " conspiracies " , ect. She has created email accounts using my

name, to harass people using my identity. She has tried to have us suboenaed to

" testify " against my step dad (for what we are not sure of). She has stolen

money, drained her 401K, gone to jail for contempt of court, and so many other

things that it exhausts me to think about it.

> > >

> > > Because her rages are so violent and explosive, I stand strong with the

demand that she cannot discuss her divorce/legal battles with us(as this is when

she becomes explosive). Although that behavior isn't shocking to me, I refuse

to expose my children to it. Well of course, she refuses to abide by my

boundaries, and choses to have nothing to do with us instead. Lately, she has

been calling and demanding money(while insulting me at the same time) so her car

doesn't get repossed. We decided that to avoid being blamed for anything that

happens as a result of the car getting repossed, we would make a one time " piece

of mind " payment. That was followed with an email asking me " what she could

have done to deserve such horrible treatment from her former family " ? You know,

the ones that have given you $6,000 over the past few months...how dare they. I

find out today that she is going to be homeless by the end of the week. I don't

feel that my children are safe around her, but I don't know what to do if she

comes knocking at the door for a place to stay (as well as her 2 dogs). It is

the " she is my mom " guilt rearing it's ugly head. Any advice???

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

This sounds like a terrific plan! And healthy!

> > > >

> > > > My BPD mom has been waging a legal battle against my step father since

> > > 2007, when he decided to divorce her after 23 years of marriage. She has

> > > fabricated allegations against him claiming he is a violent abuser, claims

> > > he is a pedophile, has slept with numerous other women, is gay(which

amuses

> > > me based on previous allegation), and the list goes on and on. My step

> > > father has been the only stable adult in my life, and has been my father

> > > figure since the age of 5 or 6. She even claimed he would rape my five

month

> > > old baby boy if I allowed him to come into contact with him.

> > > >

> > > > Throughout the past five years, she goes into violent rages against me

> > > and my husband because we refuse to sever ties with my step father. I have

> > > stated that whatever goes on between them is between them, and I chose to

> > > remain neutral. She has the opinion that we are " agaisnt her " because we

> > > still speak to my step dad and she cannot get past that. She no longer

> > > refers to me as her " daughter " and hasn't met one of her grandchildren(who

> > > she won't call grandkids either), and hasn't seen the other one since he

was

> > > 1. We have continually stated that we would like to maintain relationships

> > > with both of them, however she refuses to accept these boundaries. I am

> > > continually innundated with court documents, new " conspiracies " , ect. She

> > > has created email accounts using my name, to harass people using my

> > > identity. She has tried to have us suboenaed to " testify " against my step

> > > dad (for what we are not sure of). She has stolen money, drained her 401K,

> > > gone to jail for contempt of court, and so many other things that it

> > > exhausts me to think about it.

> > > >

> > > > Because her rages are so violent and explosive, I stand strong with the

> > > demand that she cannot discuss her divorce/legal battles with us(as this

is

> > > when she becomes explosive). Although that behavior isn't shocking to me,

I

> > > refuse to expose my children to it. Well of course, she refuses to abide

by

> > > my boundaries, and choses to have nothing to do with us instead. Lately,

she

> > > has been calling and demanding money(while insulting me at the same time)

so

> > > her car doesn't get repossed. We decided that to avoid being blamed for

> > > anything that happens as a result of the car getting repossed, we would

make

> > > a one time " piece of mind " payment. That was followed with an email asking

> > > me " what she could have done to deserve such horrible treatment from her

> > > former family " ? You know, the ones that have given you $6,000 over the

past

> > > few months...how dare they. I find out today that she is going to be

> > > homeless by the end of the week. I don't feel that my children are safe

> > > around her, but I don't know what to do if she comes knocking at the door

> > > for a place to stay (as well as her 2 dogs). It is the " she is my mom "

guilt

> > > rearing it's ugly head. Any advice???

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