Re: You Really Learn Who Your True Fiends Are....

[Guest guest]

I sure can identify with your post. I must also add some of my so-

called friends didn't just disappear. While avoiding me, they

started a gossip circle about me. " It's all in her head. " " She just

wants attention so badly. " Finding strength to smile at them and limp

on by is harder for me than dealing with the sorrow I feel for thoses

not strong enough to continue friendship with my physical challenges.

Our true friends look beyond our possessions (or lack of) and our

body limitations but are friends with our souls.

Eva in WV

> Over the past year or so, a lot of folks I spent a good deal of

time

> with have seemed to drop out of the picture, despite attempts to

stay

> in contact from my end.

> On the contrary, many of my good friends from long ago have found

> their way back into what I consider my close circle of friends ( I

> always considered them good friends, we just went about raising our

> families, I guess).

> I've also met many new folks recently (non-PLSers), and it's really

> cool how accepting of my limits they all are.

> My family is pretty cool too.

>

> All in all, I can't complain.

> Mike

[Guest guest]

I assume you mean " true friends " although those that drop you might

be called " fiends. " Amazing what one letter can do.

I have a friend with MS with the same complaint as yours. She's had

MS for 40 years and is never without a smile, so it's not as if

she's sad or miserable to others. They just aren't your real friends.

I have been blessed with both old and new friends. We met new people

two years ago when we moved to a large active retirement community.

We see them regularly, go out to dinner, or just visit. My long-time

friends are just as cordial, helpful and inclusive. I've found that

even strangers want to help, and that's gratifying.

Since I have ALS, who knows how long I can go out to dinner, but I'm

taking advantage of every day.

So, cherish the old friends who have returned, and forget about the

others. Life is too short to worry about them.

Edith

> Over the past year or so, a lot of folks I spent a good deal of

time

> with have seemed to drop out of the picture, despite attempts to

stay

> in contact from my end.

> On the contrary, many of my good friends from long ago have found

> their way back into what I consider my close circle of friends ( I

> always considered them good friends, we just went about raising

our

> families, I guess).

> I've also met many new folks recently (non-PLSers), and it's

really

> cool how accepting of my limits they all are.

> My family is pretty cool too.

>

> All in all, I can't complain.

> Mike

[Guest guest]

Mike,

Life goes in cycles and sometimes you think people are your friends

and they end up ditching you and the ones you least expect to be

there for you will be! I take each relationship as a learning

experience and even if it doesn't last, you got something out of it--

something learned or good memories.

Anyway, I am so blessed to have a family that loves and supports me

and I have the support groups, so that is a big help to me too!

I went to school with a girl for 12 years and we grew up five miles

apart and we lost touch after school and she had cervical cancer and

then we got back in touch and now her and I stay in touch, although

she lives in Kentucky now. We were best friends all through high

school but like you said you go off and start your own life, but you

eventually come back to each other if it was really a friendship!

A new friend,

Sue Me

-- In PLS-FRIENDS , " leftyaxe " <mikerr@b...> wrote:

> Over the past year or so, a lot of folks I spent a good deal of

time

> with have seemed to drop out of the picture, despite attempts to

stay

> in contact from my end.

> On the contrary, many of my good friends from long ago have found

> their way back into what I consider my close circle of friends ( I

> always considered them good friends, we just went about raising

our

> families, I guess).

> I've also met many new folks recently (non-PLSers), and it's

really

> cool how accepting of my limits they all are.

> My family is pretty cool too.

>

> All in all, I can't complain.

> Mike