May I please ask for ya'lls help.

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Dearest PLS support group, I need ya'lls help so badly cause I do not know

where or what to do with what I want to ask ya'll. I am just the caregiver for

my husband of 71 yrs of age and I am 68 yrs and we have been married for

almost 51 yrs, but I need ya'lls help. I am so embarrased to ask this on the

internet but hopefully you will forgive me as my husband does not know I am

writing this and he would probably be embarrassed, but bless his heart he wants

to

have sexual relationship and I have tried to tell him that we can't as he is

most of the time " impotent " and that is ok with me as I love him very much but

lately that is on his mind sooo much along with his other ailments but I am

getting so upset cause I have told him it is very difficult for me to assist him

because I am an old fashioned " girl " and I cannot figure a way to do this so

why can't he just accept that we cannot have sex like we did before he became

worse such as his legs (spasms) and I am older and my knees have torn

cartlidges and etc, so now I feel so guilty when I get frustrated with him

trying to

tell him that we can't do that anymore and then I feel so guilty and let down

that I don't know what to do and he admits its the truth what I am saying so do

ya'll have any suggestions, besides just telling each other that we love each

other and just hugging close. Please help me cause I feel so bad not saying

or doing the right thing and I hope I have not offended anyone by writing all

of this about this problem. Thanks and God Bless. June bug