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Sign language is a great tool. My daughter and son-in-law began using sign with

Isaac at about 10 months, long before anyone suspected he might be Apraxic.

When Isaac was first evaluated at 18 months, he had just started hitting himself

in the face when he couldn't get his point across. The Early On coordinator

suggested they teach him MORE sign to relieve frustration. It worked. Just

before he started speech therapy at the age of 2.1, Isaac began the screaming

tantrums and throwing himself against the wall - in frustration at not being

able to communicate. Once more signs were introduced, as well as picture cues,

these behaviors disappeared. As he learns to verbalize the words, signs are

slowly disappearing.

We (Isaac's grandparents) have also learned sign. It's so much fun conversing

with this wonderful little boy and finding out just what is going on in that

little head of his :-)

Marti

Grandma to Isaac, 2.3 years old with Apraxia

trmckenna1 <trmckenna1@...> wrote:

Hi Gma a:

I have a 2 year old that has just started to mimic and sign his

needs. He used to scream very loud if I couldn't figure out what he

wanted. Sometimes he would scream just because I would tell him he

couldn't have it. And there were times that I would just give him

whatever he wanted so he would stop screaming. Ignoring him meant that

he would get louder! It was really bad for while. Now we walk in the

kitchen and he signs for drink if he is thirsty and I say drink and he

tries to say drink. Have your daughter look into teaching your

grandson simple signs like drink, eat, out, open, more, etc. It truly

has helped my son. He is less frustrated and he tries to use them to

communicate with me, and the screaming has pretty much faded away.

good luck

Tina

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Marina, You are a very sensitive person. I have had problems communicating

with my daughter-in-law who is still in denial about my grandson and his

apraxia. I don't always do very well, and she has at times resented my

knowledge (I am a retired school administrator working with special

education) and this has caused much alienation. Right now we are fine, but

it is always like walking on egg shells. You are right, I can see the

future, and she is just working on helping Damon get over his bronchitis

today and trying to be ready for Santa. Thanks for reminding me to be

more sensitive in the way I phrase my concerns....Fay, Damon's grandma....he

has learned to say his name, and it sort of sounds like " grandma " ....I was

real excited until the therapist told me he was saying " Damon " , so he

continues to call me " mom " .....which is fine with me, and he calls grandpa

" Hee Haw " because he plays " horsey " with him.....What a joy he is.....

[ ] Re: Screeching Child

> Hi - It depends on what your grandson's issue is. If he's apraxic

> (which is what I'm assuming since you're on this board and not a

> regular " speech delays " board), he is unable to create words the same

> way you or I can and he's likely already quite frustrated. Think

> about a parapalegic - nothing is really " wrong " with the legs, it's

> the nerve path which has been interrupted. And it's not laziness or

> being willful, it's sheer lack of capability on the child's part.

> Additionally, frustration is a HUGE issue with our kids because it can

> compound the problem (think stuttering - when the person is on the

> spot it's often worse - same for our kids).

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> This is not to say that screeching is acceptable, but your daughter

> may not know yet how to help him communicate in a more appropriate

> way - and he's still VERY young (even if he's nearly 3). He could be

> signing, pointing to pictures, etc.. I used to have entire

> conversations with my apraxic son when he was 2 - " do you want french

> toast or pancakes? Pancakes or waffles? Pancakes and maple syrup or

> pancakes and blueberry syrup? " and so on. When each choice was

> offered, I pointed to one of his hands and he would raise it in

> answer. Did it take a long time? yes, but it also fostered some

> degree of independence.

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> Last word of advice here - from someone who has been there with BOTH

> my boys. I know your intentions are good - you want your grandson to

> grow up to be a mature, unspoiled, wonderful person. You want your

> daughter to set the proper standards not only to foster that type of

> behaviour in him, but also so she doesn't lose her mind in the

> process. My guess is that she's devastated that he's in ST at all -

> she's working on a day-by-day basis and can't quite see to tomorrow,

> much less next year. If you choose to discuss this with her, please

> be careful in your phrasing that it not sound like a criticism for

> that will just alienate her. A simple: How can I help him let me

> know what he wants? might be the best approach. You can hold up

> pictures from boxes or try my " choice " conversation. Just remember

> how hard all this is on both of them - and how lucky they are to have

> an involved and concerned grandma!

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