Re: need to choose surgery date

[Guest guest]

> I am finding it beyond stressful to choose a date for surgery.

> Besides feeling like I will have cold feet I need to coordinate it

> with the following;

>

> 1- My surgeons schedule

>

> 2- He has 3 anesthesiologist he will work with (one is his favorite)

>

> 3- don't want the surgery to fall on Memorial Day or a Friday (very

> important that good docs will be in town during my hospitalization

> and first 2 weeks of recovery)

>

> 4- Need it to work out with my brother, mom and friend's schedule

> for care-giving.

>

> So I am left with choosing May 11th or May 18th or I have to wait

> until the end of June to do this which I don't want to do. The 11th

> seems way too close and I still need to organize things and the

> 18th- well if I am in the Hospital for a week the 7th day I am there

> which is a Monday is Memorial day meaning I will be there over

> Memorial day weekend.

By then, though, you should be stable, unless something goes very

wrong. I inferred

that he was speaking about the fact that he didn't want you to be in

over memorial

day weekend right after the surgery.

If you don't feel like you can make May 11th, as though that is too

rushed,

then take May 18th.

Or, flip a coin, and see if your gut instinct agrees with the coin's

choice. Or if your gut prefers the other option. Sometimes this

helps me clarify what I really feel.

Or find out which date his favorite anesthesiologist is around

and choose that one.

> I am not sure if this is a major problem?

I don't think so. Not unless the surgery

was the Thursday or Friday beforehand.

But if you are unsure, ask him for clarification.

> I am just kind of venting.

> Choosing a date just seems so final and makes me kind of breakdown

> and want to puke.

Well, it may come to that, but even if it does, you'll move beyond it.

> I am starting some mind/body work this week, I hope it will help me

> cope.

Good for you. Some relaxation/meditation techniques?

Let us know when you choose.

Mara

[Guest guest]

> I am finding it beyond stressful to choose a date for surgery.

> Besides feeling like I will have cold feet I need to coordinate it

> with the following;

>

> 1- My surgeons schedule

>

> 2- He has 3 anesthesiologist he will work with (one is his favorite)

>

> 3- don't want the surgery to fall on Memorial Day or a Friday (very

> important that good docs will be in town during my hospitalization

> and first 2 weeks of recovery)

>

> 4- Need it to work out with my brother, mom and friend's schedule

> for care-giving.

>

> So I am left with choosing May 11th or May 18th or I have to wait

> until the end of June to do this which I don't want to do. The 11th

> seems way too close and I still need to organize things and the

> 18th- well if I am in the Hospital for a week the 7th day I am there

> which is a Monday is Memorial day meaning I will be there over

> Memorial day weekend.

By then, though, you should be stable, unless something goes very

wrong. I inferred

that he was speaking about the fact that he didn't want you to be in

over memorial

day weekend right after the surgery.

If you don't feel like you can make May 11th, as though that is too

rushed,

then take May 18th.

Or, flip a coin, and see if your gut instinct agrees with the coin's

choice. Or if your gut prefers the other option. Sometimes this

helps me clarify what I really feel.

Or find out which date his favorite anesthesiologist is around

and choose that one.

> I am not sure if this is a major problem?

I don't think so. Not unless the surgery

was the Thursday or Friday beforehand.

But if you are unsure, ask him for clarification.

> I am just kind of venting.

> Choosing a date just seems so final and makes me kind of breakdown

> and want to puke.

Well, it may come to that, but even if it does, you'll move beyond it.

> I am starting some mind/body work this week, I hope it will help me

> cope.

Good for you. Some relaxation/meditation techniques?

Let us know when you choose.

Mara

[Guest guest]

Thanks Mara..

> Or, flip a coin, and see if your gut instinct agrees with the coin's

> choice. Or if your gut prefers the other option. Sometimes this

> helps me clarify what I really feel.

>

> Or find out which date his favorite anesthesiologist is around

> and choose that one.

>

> > I am not sure if this is a major problem?

>

> I don't think so. Not unless the surgery

> was the Thursday or Friday beforehand.

> But if you are unsure, ask him for clarification.

I am going to clarify some more things with my docs this week and based on that

I will decide and if I still can't I will flip a coin.

> > I am just kind of venting.

> > Choosing a date just seems so final and makes me kind of breakdown

> > and want to puke.

>

> Well, it may come to that, but even if it does, you'll move beyond it.

>

> > I am starting some mind/body work this week, I hope it will help me

> > cope.

>

> Good for you. Some relaxation/meditation techniques?

>

> Let us know when you choose.

Yea, the mind body is something like that I will know more about it next week-

but obviously I need some additional help and support! Time to call up the

peeps!

Jodi

[Guest guest]

Thanks PJ,

This diet has been wonderful for me getting some awful symptoms under control

including not suffering from Anemia the first time since I am 10 years old.

Unfortunately, I have just way too much scar tissue and severe stricturing

including a mass in my ascending colon that cannot be biopsied because the

stricture is so bad the scopes can't go through. I am not a candidate for

ballooning the strictures either.

Anyway, I will know more about mind body work next week and I am proud of myself

that I am getting this kind of help. Woohoo Jodi, if I may say so myself.

Thanks for the well wishes!

Jodi

> Hi Jody, I am new here and I don't have any good advice about scheduling

surgery. I just wanted to send you best wishes, as this has to be stressful.

What kind of mind body work are you trying? I hope it helps you. I also hope the

surgery goes well and that you have a speedy recovery.

> PJ