Re: Dr. Rabkins Office...

[Guest guest]

We are only as sick as our secrets. Your behavior suggests a health

attitude. Those who impart 'secrets' as 'information' and then attack the

person who shares the information need to take a long hard look at their own

behavior. If this was a miscommunication, it was shared by the two of you.

And a more healthy approach is " okay we messed this up together, what can we

do? " Any indication that you are being blamed is just one way we sometimes

try and shift our own shame, frustration and anxiety about a transaction to

another's back.

Concrats for not shouldering this. We MO are so trained in our sense of

powerlessness and being " wrong " to throw " I'm sorry " around.

I understand that you have nothing to consider yourself at fault for.

However, you do have a conflict with another person you probably would

rather not be in conflict with. And if the 'other' is reading this list,

ditto goes for you. You two can stake out your positions and feel

right/hurt/angry/etc. Or you can agree that you had one of those all so

human miscommunications where one person failed to state the basis on which

info was being given. It takes 2 people wanting to not blame the other and

just accept this as a prime example of my favorite invented DSM-IV

Diagnosis:

Human Imperfection, Chronic, Acute episode

May you find your way back to cooperation and mutual support.

Hugs

----- Original Message -----

> Ok I got a call from Dr. Rabkins office this morning and it appears that

> they ( in general) is upset with me about the post I made about the

> reduced program fee.

>

> To be quite honest, I am the one upset. When I posted about the program

fee

> I wanted to give hope to those of you who were struggeling with coming up

> with the fee. It had never been communicated to me this should have been

a

> " secret " . If I had been informed of this I would " NEVER " have posted the

> information in such an open forum when I knew quite well that Delphine

reads

> these posts. I will admit that I could have given more that to posting

the

> actual dollar amount, but I will not apologize for trying to help other

> people who are in need of hope.

>

> I was considered the angel of the office but now I guess I am the fallen

> angel. It hurt me deeply that the person who felt I had done such a big

> wrong could not call me but to have someone else do it cut me to the core.

> I love this office, but I am at this point a little disillusioned.

> Unfortunately I still have to have my dr. appts. there. When a member of

> the group asked if they could use my name when speaking with and

> , I quickly agreed.

>

> To the group...if I was wrong I will apologize, but I will only apologize

to

> YOU. I WILL NOT apologize to Dr. Rabkins office because I did nothing

> wrong. I am quite upset and I am sorry to burden you all with this but I

> felt you should know that I will no longer be posting to this board do to

> this. Be careful what you say here because it is being read!

>

> LINDA SPAGNER