Guest guest Posted March 5, 2001 Report Share Posted March 5, 2001 In a message dated 3/5/01 10:05:12 PM US Eastern Standard Time, mjcarl@... writes: > So, I think I'm starting to feel " normal " . After all, thin people don't go > around saying, " Don't I look great? Aren't I thin? Don't you love these > pants? " I'm glad I'm starting to move on... > > This cracked me up! I am getting used to the life-without-constant-compliments thing. It has taken me somewhat by surprise that I had come to expect them so much. But I am in a job search/career change now and so don't see too many people from " before, " except at church. So most people that I meet just take me for the tall skinny old lady I have become! hugs, Ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2001 Report Share Posted March 5, 2001 I used to want everyone to know everything. I needed to talk about it. Now it's much more discreet, in that I really want people who need to know to know all that they need....people who may benefit. However, if someone does not have a weight problem or know anyone who does, I tend to not discuss it anymore. It's not my whole life. Bandas Austin, TX RNY 4-28-98, Dr. Selinkoff, San , TX Then: 305 Now: 195 110 pounds gone! Post-graduate > When meeting new people, I do not > mention my old weight or the fact that I was ever any size other than > I am now. However, when I go to dinner or have friends over, it is > obvious that I can't hold much or they notice I don't eat meat or > have dessert or eat and drink at the same time. I guess I'm not > ashamed of the surgery, I just don't want it to be a key focus of my > life anymore. Does anyone else feel this way? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2001 Report Share Posted March 5, 2001 I feel like ....I used to want to talk about it all the time, actually looked for ways to " work " it into the conversation when I met new people because I needed the strokes.....It WAS my life....at that time. Now, I only talk about it if it seems appropriate. I share when I think someone will benefit, or when it is related to something in the conversation. I no longer feel like I need the constant " Wow, you look great! " comments. Not that I don't still enjoy compliments...I do...but I don't have to constantly go in search of them anymore. So, I think I'm starting to feel " normal " . After all, thin people don't go around saying, " Don't I look great? Aren't I thin? Don't you love these pants? " I'm glad I'm starting to move on... I am finding that I am also less interested in most of my support group contacts....I belong to two other on-line groups, and I post less and less. I guess this is also normal? I see newer post ops offering opinions, answering questions, etc, and I just sit back and lurk. I participate now because I have friends in the groups, people who have become important to me, and I want to keep in touch and hear about their lives. No so much because I want to be the WLS " expert " . I have less of a need to be the " experienced post-op " and just want to converse with my friends. KC Re: Post-graduate I used to want everyone to know everything. I needed to talk about it. Now it's much more discreet, in that I really want people who need to know to know all that they need....people who may benefit. However, if someone does not have a weight problem or know anyone who does, I tend to not discuss it anymore. It's not my whole life. Bandas Austin, TX RNY 4-28-98, Dr. Selinkoff, San , TX Then: 305 Now: 195 110 pounds gone! Post-graduate > When meeting new people, I do not > mention my old weight or the fact that I was ever any size other than > I am now. However, when I go to dinner or have friends over, it is > obvious that I can't hold much or they notice I don't eat meat or > have dessert or eat and drink at the same time. I guess I'm not > ashamed of the surgery, I just don't want it to be a key focus of my > life anymore. Does anyone else feel this way? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2001 Report Share Posted March 5, 2001 I feel like ....I used to want to talk about it all the time, actually looked for ways to " work " it into the conversation when I met new people because I needed the strokes.....It WAS my life....at that time. Now, I only talk about it if it seems appropriate. I share when I think someone will benefit, or when it is related to something in the conversation. I no longer feel like I need the constant " Wow, you look great! " comments. Not that I don't still enjoy compliments...I do...but I don't have to constantly go in search of them anymore. So, I think I'm starting to feel " normal " . After all, thin people don't go around saying, " Don't I look great? Aren't I thin? Don't you love these pants? " I'm glad I'm starting to move on... I am finding that I am also less interested in most of my support group contacts....I belong to two other on-line groups, and I post less and less. I guess this is also normal? I see newer post ops offering opinions, answering questions, etc, and I just sit back and lurk. I participate now because I have friends in the groups, people who have become important to me, and I want to keep in touch and hear about their lives. No so much because I want to be the WLS " expert " . I have less of a need to be the " experienced post-op " and just want to converse with my friends. KC Re: Post-graduate I used to want everyone to know everything. I needed to talk about it. Now it's much more discreet, in that I really want people who need to know to know all that they need....people who may benefit. However, if someone does not have a weight problem or know anyone who does, I tend to not discuss it anymore. It's not my whole life. Bandas Austin, TX RNY 4-28-98, Dr. Selinkoff, San , TX Then: 305 Now: 195 110 pounds gone! Post-graduate > When meeting new people, I do not > mention my old weight or the fact that I was ever any size other than > I am now. However, when I go to dinner or have friends over, it is > obvious that I can't hold much or they notice I don't eat meat or > have dessert or eat and drink at the same time. I guess I'm not > ashamed of the surgery, I just don't want it to be a key focus of my > life anymore. Does anyone else feel this way? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2001 Report Share Posted March 5, 2001 I feel like ....I used to want to talk about it all the time, actually looked for ways to " work " it into the conversation when I met new people because I needed the strokes.....It WAS my life....at that time. Now, I only talk about it if it seems appropriate. I share when I think someone will benefit, or when it is related to something in the conversation. I no longer feel like I need the constant " Wow, you look great! " comments. Not that I don't still enjoy compliments...I do...but I don't have to constantly go in search of them anymore. So, I think I'm starting to feel " normal " . After all, thin people don't go around saying, " Don't I look great? Aren't I thin? Don't you love these pants? " I'm glad I'm starting to move on... I am finding that I am also less interested in most of my support group contacts....I belong to two other on-line groups, and I post less and less. I guess this is also normal? I see newer post ops offering opinions, answering questions, etc, and I just sit back and lurk. I participate now because I have friends in the groups, people who have become important to me, and I want to keep in touch and hear about their lives. No so much because I want to be the WLS " expert " . I have less of a need to be the " experienced post-op " and just want to converse with my friends. KC Re: Post-graduate I used to want everyone to know everything. I needed to talk about it. Now it's much more discreet, in that I really want people who need to know to know all that they need....people who may benefit. However, if someone does not have a weight problem or know anyone who does, I tend to not discuss it anymore. It's not my whole life. Bandas Austin, TX RNY 4-28-98, Dr. Selinkoff, San , TX Then: 305 Now: 195 110 pounds gone! Post-graduate > When meeting new people, I do not > mention my old weight or the fact that I was ever any size other than > I am now. However, when I go to dinner or have friends over, it is > obvious that I can't hold much or they notice I don't eat meat or > have dessert or eat and drink at the same time. I guess I'm not > ashamed of the surgery, I just don't want it to be a key focus of my > life anymore. Does anyone else feel this way? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2001 Report Share Posted March 5, 2001 > > > So, I think I'm starting to feel " normal " . After all, thin people don't go > > around saying, " Don't I look great? Aren't I thin? Don't you love these > > pants? " I'm glad I'm starting to move on... > > > > > > This cracked me up! I am getting used to the > life-without-constant-compliments thing. It has taken me somewhat by surprise > that I had come to expect them so much. But I am in a job search/career > change now and so don't see too many people from " before, " except at church. > So most people that I meet just take me for the tall skinny old lady I have > become! > hugs, > Ann ************** Being told I am " so tiny " is still an amazement to me. I control the urge to look around to see who they're talking to, after all, it's been many years. It's kinda funny that I never really get away from the topic. I was tracking a UPS shipment and the girl asked what was in it, protein powder. Her husband was a body builder, but she was a bit pudgy, would it help her in any way, etc, and so on. Gads, I almost had this UPS person flown out here for surgery! Hahah! I keep thinking that it is a lifeline. Not all will grab, but if the topic comes out (how can it not, given what I do?), I will show the lifeline. They can do whatever. But at least they've seen it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2001 Report Share Posted March 5, 2001 > > > So, I think I'm starting to feel " normal " . After all, thin people don't go > > around saying, " Don't I look great? Aren't I thin? Don't you love these > > pants? " I'm glad I'm starting to move on... > > > > > > This cracked me up! I am getting used to the > life-without-constant-compliments thing. It has taken me somewhat by surprise > that I had come to expect them so much. But I am in a job search/career > change now and so don't see too many people from " before, " except at church. > So most people that I meet just take me for the tall skinny old lady I have > become! > hugs, > Ann ************** Being told I am " so tiny " is still an amazement to me. I control the urge to look around to see who they're talking to, after all, it's been many years. It's kinda funny that I never really get away from the topic. I was tracking a UPS shipment and the girl asked what was in it, protein powder. Her husband was a body builder, but she was a bit pudgy, would it help her in any way, etc, and so on. Gads, I almost had this UPS person flown out here for surgery! Hahah! I keep thinking that it is a lifeline. Not all will grab, but if the topic comes out (how can it not, given what I do?), I will show the lifeline. They can do whatever. But at least they've seen it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2001 Report Share Posted March 5, 2001 > > > So, I think I'm starting to feel " normal " . After all, thin people don't go > > around saying, " Don't I look great? Aren't I thin? Don't you love these > > pants? " I'm glad I'm starting to move on... > > > > > > This cracked me up! I am getting used to the > life-without-constant-compliments thing. It has taken me somewhat by surprise > that I had come to expect them so much. But I am in a job search/career > change now and so don't see too many people from " before, " except at church. > So most people that I meet just take me for the tall skinny old lady I have > become! > hugs, > Ann ************** Being told I am " so tiny " is still an amazement to me. I control the urge to look around to see who they're talking to, after all, it's been many years. It's kinda funny that I never really get away from the topic. I was tracking a UPS shipment and the girl asked what was in it, protein powder. Her husband was a body builder, but she was a bit pudgy, would it help her in any way, etc, and so on. Gads, I almost had this UPS person flown out here for surgery! Hahah! I keep thinking that it is a lifeline. Not all will grab, but if the topic comes out (how can it not, given what I do?), I will show the lifeline. They can do whatever. But at least they've seen it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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