Re: NCU surnames - carolyn

[Guest guest]

Oh , I really got I laugh out of greengrocer. Yes, Barrow is an English

name and

I like it . I don't like Bear-o. You are wonderful to give me another way to

look at it.

She is beginning to seem silly to me. I think that is a good way to look it

the

situation. Silly. I have adopted this group as my family. I don't feel so

strange anymore. That's what family does for each other. Thanks again. Love

Carolyn

[Guest guest]

Thank You for telling me BARE-O. When I see her again I will think of that

and grin.

She will never know what I am looking happy about. I feel so much better

today.

This group is GREAT. I love you all. I have really had a break out over this,

maybe

now they will go somewhat away. Love Carolyn

[Guest guest]

Thank You for telling me BARE-O. When I see her again I will think of that

and grin.

She will never know what I am looking happy about. I feel so much better

today.

This group is GREAT. I love you all. I have really had a break out over this,

maybe

now they will go somewhat away. Love Carolyn

[Guest guest]

Carolyn, I would have asked her / Why does how I pronounce our last name bother you so much? I think there is a little more here that is bothering you than just how I pronounce my name. Sometimes one just needs to get things said in an aggressive way and then she will back down a little. Maybe not. I had a mother-in-law from hell. She drove me crazy. She was always dressed perfectly, never a hair out of place, just a prissy pain in the butt. When we adopted out 2 children (biological brother & sister) she wanted no part of them. was 3 and was 5 1/2.

she was so nasty that I stopped seeing her and would not allow her in our house. All holiday dinners are at our house. My husband continued to visit her and take the children to see her once a month on the weekend that I was working the 12 hour shifts at the hospital. She then enjoyed the children & was good to them. The decreased stress of not having her around was so nice . I had even gone with my husband to pick the children up at her house but I never went in & just sat in the car, even though she told my husband to invite me in. She had built a new house and was a lonely old lady (her husband had died in 1969). I didn't hate her I just didn't like her. Eight years went by & I got a phone call from her asking if I would come and give her an enema as she had not moved her bowels in 6 days. I knew something was wrong. I went and cleaned her out manually ( I know this is gross for you) and then gave her an enema. She had such a fecal impaction and was just skin and bone. I did a complete assessment and got cytrate of Mag and she took it. She went to the doctors and they did CAT scans and she had Lung cancer. I had noticed that she had one droopy eye lid. That is a sign of lung cancer. She had been a heavy smoker all her life from age 15 & she was 68. This was just before Easter and she died on 5/30. It was so fast. She asked me if she could stay in her house alone. I told her she could not manage that as she was loosing her abilty to walk (the cancer had spread to her liver and attacked her nervous system). We brought her to live with us . Within a week she was completely bed confined.. She was still demanding but I ignored it completely. I gave her a bell & it rang all the time. I gave her total care, from bathing to potting her. My biggest reward was when she told the Hospice Aid that I really was a nice person & a good nurse. She had lost all her dignity. I felt such sorrow for her even though I still didn't like her. I wanted just to hold her and hug her but I just could not bring myself to do it. She lived just about 2 months from when it stared until she died, in my son's bedroom. I think of all the wasted years she could have enjoyed with us.But sometimes you have to do what you have to do for the sake of you own mental health. Carolyn, I am sorry you are going through this, I know how stressful it is. Love

[Guest guest]

Carolyn, I would have asked her / Why does how I pronounce our last name bother you so much? I think there is a little more here that is bothering you than just how I pronounce my name. Sometimes one just needs to get things said in an aggressive way and then she will back down a little. Maybe not. I had a mother-in-law from hell. She drove me crazy. She was always dressed perfectly, never a hair out of place, just a prissy pain in the butt. When we adopted out 2 children (biological brother & sister) she wanted no part of them. was 3 and was 5 1/2.

she was so nasty that I stopped seeing her and would not allow her in our house. All holiday dinners are at our house. My husband continued to visit her and take the children to see her once a month on the weekend that I was working the 12 hour shifts at the hospital. She then enjoyed the children & was good to them. The decreased stress of not having her around was so nice . I had even gone with my husband to pick the children up at her house but I never went in & just sat in the car, even though she told my husband to invite me in. She had built a new house and was a lonely old lady (her husband had died in 1969). I didn't hate her I just didn't like her. Eight years went by & I got a phone call from her asking if I would come and give her an enema as she had not moved her bowels in 6 days. I knew something was wrong. I went and cleaned her out manually ( I know this is gross for you) and then gave her an enema. She had such a fecal impaction and was just skin and bone. I did a complete assessment and got cytrate of Mag and she took it. She went to the doctors and they did CAT scans and she had Lung cancer. I had noticed that she had one droopy eye lid. That is a sign of lung cancer. She had been a heavy smoker all her life from age 15 & she was 68. This was just before Easter and she died on 5/30. It was so fast. She asked me if she could stay in her house alone. I told her she could not manage that as she was loosing her abilty to walk (the cancer had spread to her liver and attacked her nervous system). We brought her to live with us . Within a week she was completely bed confined.. She was still demanding but I ignored it completely. I gave her a bell & it rang all the time. I gave her total care, from bathing to potting her. My biggest reward was when she told the Hospice Aid that I really was a nice person & a good nurse. She had lost all her dignity. I felt such sorrow for her even though I still didn't like her. I wanted just to hold her and hug her but I just could not bring myself to do it. She lived just about 2 months from when it stared until she died, in my son's bedroom. I think of all the wasted years she could have enjoyed with us.But sometimes you have to do what you have to do for the sake of you own mental health. Carolyn, I am sorry you are going through this, I know how stressful it is. Love

[Guest guest]

Hi and dear long-suffering Carolyn

Boy, I totally agree! If I were you, Carolyn, when you send your dear

daughter-in-law the bundle of urticaria letters for Christmas (ha ha!), I'd

address it very clearly in great BIG capital letters " To Mrs. whatever her

first name is BEAR-O " - go on, I dare ya!

My husband suggested BARE-O. Take your choice! lots of love, Carol

NCU surnames - carolyn

> Barrow pronounced BEAR-o!???? Sorry, but it sounds like Mrs Bucket

calling

> herself Madame Bouquet to me!! If it was Beauchamp I'd understand it being

> pronounced 'Beecham' or 'Bowchamp' and all that, and I get my own surname

> Houghton (horton) pronounced howton or huffton or hooton all the time

(it's

> when people on the phone ask for Huffton that I blow a gasket!), but

I

> really find it hard to see how Barrow could be overcomplicated! We've got

> 'Barrow boys' over here (market traders) and if you called them Bearo boys

> they'd be the laughing stock of London! Hey, Carol- can you imagine

that!!?

> A Bearo boy!!? What would that be? A posh greengrocer from Chelsea!!!???

>

> Houghton

> ( Huffton)

>

> I told her not

> > to worry about it as I wasn't really a Barrow, I just married one. I

> > pronounced it as arrow with a B in front. She said it was

> > pronounced Bear-O.

> >

>

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[Guest guest]

Hi and dear long-suffering Carolyn

Boy, I totally agree! If I were you, Carolyn, when you send your dear

daughter-in-law the bundle of urticaria letters for Christmas (ha ha!), I'd

address it very clearly in great BIG capital letters " To Mrs. whatever her

first name is BEAR-O " - go on, I dare ya!

My husband suggested BARE-O. Take your choice! lots of love, Carol

NCU surnames - carolyn

> Barrow pronounced BEAR-o!???? Sorry, but it sounds like Mrs Bucket

calling

> herself Madame Bouquet to me!! If it was Beauchamp I'd understand it being

> pronounced 'Beecham' or 'Bowchamp' and all that, and I get my own surname

> Houghton (horton) pronounced howton or huffton or hooton all the time

(it's

> when people on the phone ask for Huffton that I blow a gasket!), but

I

> really find it hard to see how Barrow could be overcomplicated! We've got

> 'Barrow boys' over here (market traders) and if you called them Bearo boys

> they'd be the laughing stock of London! Hey, Carol- can you imagine

that!!?

> A Bearo boy!!? What would that be? A posh greengrocer from Chelsea!!!???

>

> Houghton

> ( Huffton)

>

> I told her not

> > to worry about it as I wasn't really a Barrow, I just married one. I

> > pronounced it as arrow with a B in front. She said it was

> > pronounced Bear-O.

> >

>

> >

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> > If you do wish to unsubscribe then you can click on the following link:

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> > This list is in the service of those who suffer from Chronic Urticaria

> (hives). We strive to support and lift each other as a worldwide

> cyber-family.

> >

> > We share whatever needs to be shared to help one another in our struggle

> with Chronic Urticria. Information provided in this forum is not to be

taken

> as medical advice. Always consult your health professional before trying

> anything new.

> >

> > Any posting that is off the main topic of Chronic Urticaria, we post

with

> a prefix of NCU -. This is done out of respect for those who do not wish

to

> read such postings.

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

, You are an angel. Too bad your mother in law didn't know about eppson

salts.

Too bad she didn't know about love for all of you. I think her withholding

love from you and the kids caused her to get impacted. She wasted her own

life. There is nothing like the hugs from children or the kissed from puppies

and kittens. Kisses from kids

too. Thank God she finally figured out how special you were. She died the way

she lived her life. Very Hard. You have my upmost respect for being the Woman

you are.

This group has taken the sting of hurt away from my heart. I will not let

things like

that hurt me again. I will remember that I don't know what she is hurting

about and

why she is taking it out on me. I will leave her alone and not say anything

back. Its

not as bad as what you and the others have gone through. The love, sharing

and

stories you all have shared have wiped away the pain. What I went thru now

seems so small and silly compared to what some of you have gone thru. I feel

so lucky and

special that you all have shared with me. I am proud to be in this group. So,

I guess

I bless my hives because if it wern't for them, I would never known this very

special

friendship. Bless my itchy heart.And Bless all of you too. I love and cherish

all of you.

Love Carolyn

PS: Girl, you are really something. You make the world a better place.

[Guest guest]

, You are an angel. Too bad your mother in law didn't know about eppson

salts.

Too bad she didn't know about love for all of you. I think her withholding

love from you and the kids caused her to get impacted. She wasted her own

life. There is nothing like the hugs from children or the kissed from puppies

and kittens. Kisses from kids

too. Thank God she finally figured out how special you were. She died the way

she lived her life. Very Hard. You have my upmost respect for being the Woman

you are.

This group has taken the sting of hurt away from my heart. I will not let

things like

that hurt me again. I will remember that I don't know what she is hurting

about and

why she is taking it out on me. I will leave her alone and not say anything

back. Its

not as bad as what you and the others have gone through. The love, sharing

and

stories you all have shared have wiped away the pain. What I went thru now

seems so small and silly compared to what some of you have gone thru. I feel

so lucky and

special that you all have shared with me. I am proud to be in this group. So,

I guess

I bless my hives because if it wern't for them, I would never known this very

special

friendship. Bless my itchy heart.And Bless all of you too. I love and cherish

all of you.

Love Carolyn

PS: Girl, you are really something. You make the world a better place.

[Guest guest]

, You are an angel. Too bad your mother in law didn't know about eppson

salts.

Too bad she didn't know about love for all of you. I think her withholding

love from you and the kids caused her to get impacted. She wasted her own

life. There is nothing like the hugs from children or the kissed from puppies

and kittens. Kisses from kids

too. Thank God she finally figured out how special you were. She died the way

she lived her life. Very Hard. You have my upmost respect for being the Woman

you are.

This group has taken the sting of hurt away from my heart. I will not let

things like

that hurt me again. I will remember that I don't know what she is hurting

about and

why she is taking it out on me. I will leave her alone and not say anything

back. Its

not as bad as what you and the others have gone through. The love, sharing

and

stories you all have shared have wiped away the pain. What I went thru now

seems so small and silly compared to what some of you have gone thru. I feel

so lucky and

special that you all have shared with me. I am proud to be in this group. So,

I guess

I bless my hives because if it wern't for them, I would never known this very

special

friendship. Bless my itchy heart.And Bless all of you too. I love and cherish

all of you.

Love Carolyn

PS: Girl, you are really something. You make the world a better place.

[Guest guest]

, I always knew you were an angel ^j^ Love, ~Alena' sMom

Re: NCU surnames - carolyn

Carolyn, I would have asked her / Why does how I pronounce our last name bother you so much? I think there is a little more here that is bothering you than just how I pronounce my name. Sometimes one just needs to get things said in an aggressive way and then she will back down a little. Maybe not. I had a mother-in-law from hell. She drove me crazy. She was always dressed perfectly, never a hair out of place, just a prissy pain in the butt. When we adopted out 2 children (biological brother & sister) she wanted no part of them. was 3 and was 5 1/2. she was so nasty that I stopped seeing her and would not allow her in our house. All holiday dinners are at our house. My husband continued to visit her and take the children to see her once a month on the weekend that I was working the 12 hour shifts at the hospital. She then enjoyed the children & was good to them. The decreased stress of not having her around was so nice . I had even gone with my husband to pick the children up at her house but I never went in & just sat in the car, even though she told my husband to invite me in. She had built a new house and was a lonely old lady (her husband had died in 1969). I didn't hate her I just didn't like her. Eight years went by & I got a phone call from her asking if I would come and give her an enema as she had not moved her bowels in 6 days. I knew something was wrong. I went and cleaned her out manually ( I know this is gross for you) a! nd then gave her an enema. She had such a fecal impaction and was just skin and bone. I did a complete assessment and got cytrate of Mag and she took it. She went to the doctors and they did CAT scans and she had Lung cancer. I had noticed that she had one droopy eye lid. That is a sign of lung cancer. She had been a heavy smoker all her life from age 15 & she was 68. This was just before Easter and she died on 5/30. It was so fast. She asked me if she could stay in her house alone. I told her she could not manage that as she was loosing her abilty to walk (the cancer had spread to her liver and attacked her nervous system). We brought her to live with us . Within a week she was completely bed confined.. She was still demanding but I ignored it completely. I gave her a bell & it rang all the time. I gave her total care, from bathing to potting her. My biggest reward was when she told the Hospice ! Aid that I really was a nice person & a good nurse. She had lost all her dignity. I felt such sorrow for her even though I still didn't like her. I wanted just to hold her and hug her but I just could not bring myself to do it. She lived just about 2 months from when it stared until she died, in my son's bedroom. I think of all the wasted years she could have enjoyed with us.But sometimes you have to do what you have to do for the sake of you own mental health. Carolyn, I am sorry you are going through this, I know how stressful it is. Love ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~If you do wish to unsubscribe then you can click on the following link: urticaria-unsubscribeegroups~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~This list is in the service of those who suffer from Chronic Urticaria (hives). We strive to support and lift each other as a worldwide cyber-family. We share whatever needs to be shared to help one another in our struggle with Chronic Urticria. Information provided in this forum is not to be taken as medical advice. Always consult your health professional before trying anything new.Any posting that is off the main topic of Chronic Urticaria, we post with a prefix of NCU -. This is done out of respect for those who do not wish to read such postings.