Guest guest Posted May 18, 2006 Report Share Posted May 18, 2006 I'm just wondering, does the fear lessen with time? , My mom had thyroid cancer, uterine cancer, breast cancer, then skin cancer and colon cancer. She also had Parkinson's disease and glaucoma...she lost 2/3 of her vision before doctors arrested it. Parkinson's was the worst for her- NOT CANCER..... NOT BLINDNESS Parkinson's took her ability to use her hands and crochet, to walk and not fall. She became incontinent. She could not get in and out of her flower garden to weed and smell her flowers. Parkinson's impaired her judgement; she could not remember if this Wednesday or last was the Wednesday to take lunch to the Seniors craft group. She was always dressing the wrong day for church.... and then it took too long to get dressed for church so she had to stop going to what she loved the most. Colon cancer is what took her life, but Parkinson's took her QUALITY OF LIFE. My own cancer has shown me that every day is precious and there are no guarantees as to what will be my last day. I never thought much about dying from cancer....until I lost three friends last year when theirs came back... but you know what? We will all die some day. Of something...that is a fact. My friends that died from their cancer... They had time to say good bye and spend time with loved ones and friends until the end. They fell asleep in peace. Surrounded by love. And so did my mom. So make every day a wonderful day. Your cancer has simply reminded you that your time on earth is special. And limited... no matter if you have had cancer or not. This is great knowledge that many will never know. Live your time that is only yours in happiness and not in fear. This is my hope for you. Andree www.essentialsoapsinc.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 18, 2006 Report Share Posted May 18, 2006 I'm just wondering, does the fear lessen with time? , My mom had thyroid cancer, uterine cancer, breast cancer, then skin cancer and colon cancer. She also had Parkinson's disease and glaucoma...she lost 2/3 of her vision before doctors arrested it. Parkinson's was the worst for her- NOT CANCER..... NOT BLINDNESS Parkinson's took her ability to use her hands and crochet, to walk and not fall. She became incontinent. She could not get in and out of her flower garden to weed and smell her flowers. Parkinson's impaired her judgement; she could not remember if this Wednesday or last was the Wednesday to take lunch to the Seniors craft group. She was always dressing the wrong day for church.... and then it took too long to get dressed for church so she had to stop going to what she loved the most. Colon cancer is what took her life, but Parkinson's took her QUALITY OF LIFE. My own cancer has shown me that every day is precious and there are no guarantees as to what will be my last day. I never thought much about dying from cancer....until I lost three friends last year when theirs came back... but you know what? We will all die some day. Of something...that is a fact. My friends that died from their cancer... They had time to say good bye and spend time with loved ones and friends until the end. They fell asleep in peace. Surrounded by love. And so did my mom. So make every day a wonderful day. Your cancer has simply reminded you that your time on earth is special. And limited... no matter if you have had cancer or not. This is great knowledge that many will never know. Live your time that is only yours in happiness and not in fear. This is my hope for you. Andree www.essentialsoapsinc.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 18, 2006 Report Share Posted May 18, 2006 Well said, and very touching, my dear friend Andree!! XOX Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 18, 2006 Report Share Posted May 18, 2006 Well said, and very touching, my dear friend Andree!! XOX Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 18, 2006 Report Share Posted May 18, 2006 , As the years go by things do get better. I was given a 60% chance of the cancer coming back and that will be 16 yrs ago May 24th. You can share your feelings any time you want. We are here for you. You will be in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com CinDWood Crafts http://www.cindwoodcrafts.com Fear > Hi All - > > I'm just wondering, does the fear lessen with time? > > When I was first diagnosed, I guess I didn't take the situation too > seriously. My surgeon was very confident that I could just have a > lumpetomy > and radiation and I would be fine. It didn't turn out that way, but I > still > wasn't very concerned about the fact that I had the big C. I was more > afraid of the pain of a mastectomy. I didn't even really think that I > would > need chemo. > > It was going to the onc that started the fear. When I sat down with him > and > started talking about percentages of reoccurence, it finally struck me how > serious this was. I hadn't even thought that I would ever have to go > through this again. Now, every time I look in the mirror and see my bald > head, I'm struck by fear. I found my lump...it didn't show up in a > mammogram. Now that I have my reconstruction - things feel different and > I'm afraid that I won't be able to identify a lump if I needed to (if > mammograms fail me in the future). > > I don't know if there is an answer to this. I'm glad that I have this > place > to come to and share my feelings. Only my friend that had breast cancer > last year has any understanding of what I'm going through and she doesn't > fully understand this. She is very calm in her survivorship. > > Thank you for being here. > > > > _________________________________________________________________ > FREE pop-up blocking with the new MSN Toolbar - get it now! > http://toolbar.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200415ave/direct/01/ > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 18, 2006 Report Share Posted May 18, 2006 , What a difficult road we are all traveling! I discovered my lump as well, did not show up on mammogram. We have had others in the same boat. I would suggest, given your history, you insist on ultrasound as well as mammogram. Breast MRI is also a possibility. Mine showed up VERY well on that. I hope this missive gives you some reassurance. I would not put all my eggs in the mammogram basket. Ruth > > Hi All - > > I'm just wondering, does the fear lessen with time? > > When I was first diagnosed, I guess I didn't take the situation too > seriously. My surgeon was very confident that I could just have a lumpetomy > and radiation and I would be fine. It didn't turn out that way, but I still > wasn't very concerned about the fact that I had the big C. I was more > afraid of the pain of a mastectomy. I didn't even really think that I would > need chemo. > > It was going to the onc that started the fear. When I sat down with him and > started talking about percentages of reoccurence, it finally struck me how > serious this was. I hadn't even thought that I would ever have to go > through this again. Now, every time I look in the mirror and see my bald > head, I'm struck by fear. I found my lump...it didn't show up in a > mammogram. Now that I have my reconstruction - things feel different and > I'm afraid that I won't be able to identify a lump if I needed to (if > mammograms fail me in the future). > > I don't know if there is an answer to this. I'm glad that I have this place > to come to and share my feelings. Only my friend that had breast cancer > last year has any understanding of what I'm going through and she doesn't > fully understand this. She is very calm in her survivorship. > > Thank you for being here. > > > > _________________________________________________________________ > FREE pop-up blocking with the new MSN Toolbar – get it now! > http://toolbar.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200415ave/direct/01/ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 19, 2006 Report Share Posted May 19, 2006 Thanks Andree. You said that so well. I have learnt something from that too. Hugs and love > > > In a message dated 5/18/2006 7:12:26 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, > cbj1958@... writes: > > I'm just wondering, does the fear lessen with time? > > > > , > My mom had thyroid cancer, uterine cancer, breast cancer, then skin cancer > and colon cancer. She also had Parkinson's disease and glaucoma...she lost 2/3 > of her vision > before doctors arrested it. Parkinson's was the worst for her- > NOT CANCER..... NOT BLINDNESS > Parkinson's took her ability to use her hands and crochet, > to walk and not fall. > She became incontinent. > She could not get in and out of her flower garden to weed and smell her > flowers. > Parkinson's impaired her judgement; she could not remember if this Wednesday > or last was the Wednesday to take lunch to the Seniors craft group. > She was always dressing the wrong day for church.... > and then it took too long to get dressed for church so she had to stop going > to what she loved the most. > Colon cancer is what took her life, > but Parkinson's took her QUALITY OF LIFE. > > My own cancer has shown me that every day is precious and there are no > guarantees > as to what will be my last day. > I never thought much about dying from cancer....until I lost three friends > last year when theirs came back... > but you know what? > We will all die some day. Of something...that is a fact. > My friends that died from their cancer... > They had time to say good bye and spend time with loved ones and friends > until the end. > They fell asleep in peace. Surrounded by love. > And so did my mom. > So make every day a wonderful day. > Your cancer has simply reminded you that your time on earth is special. > And limited... > no matter if you have had cancer or not. > This is great knowledge that many will never know. > Live your time that is only yours in happiness and not in fear. > This is my hope for you. > Andree > _www.essentialsoapsinc.com_ (http://www.essentialsoapsinc.com) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 19, 2006 Report Share Posted May 19, 2006 You wrote a beautiful letter...I had a cousin pass away from Ovarian Cancer last Oct...and have another cousin that has brain cancer...think in wheel chair not sure how she is...and just found out that a friend of mine from Delaware her daughter has terminal cancer...but life does go on...I am also scared because I have thickening of the lining and have to go for a D & C on June 23rd...out patient operation. Keep up the prayers every day...and Live one day at a time... Betsy (NC) Note: forwarded message attached. Thanks Andree. You said that so well. I have learnt something from that too. Hugs and love > > > In a message dated 5/18/2006 7:12:26 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, > cbj1958@... writes: > > I'm just wondering, does the fear lessen with time? > > > > , > My mom had thyroid cancer, uterine cancer, breast cancer, then skin cancer > and colon cancer. She also had Parkinson's disease and glaucoma...she lost 2/3 > of her vision > before doctors arrested it. Parkinson's was the worst for her- > NOT CANCER..... NOT BLINDNESS > Parkinson's took her ability to use her hands and crochet, > to walk and not fall. > She became incontinent. > She could not get in and out of her flower garden to weed and smell her > flowers. > Parkinson's impaired her judgement; she could not remember if this Wednesday > or last was the Wednesday to take lunch to the Seniors craft group. > She was always dressing the wrong day for church.... > and then it took too long to get dressed for church so she had to stop going > to what she loved the most. > Colon cancer is what took her life, > but Parkinson's took her QUALITY OF LIFE. > > My own cancer has shown me that every day is precious and there are no > guarantees > as to what will be my last day. > I never thought much about dying from cancer....until I lost three friends > last year when theirs came back... > but you know what? > We will all die some day. Of something...that is a fact. > My friends that died from their cancer... > They had time to say good bye and spend time with loved ones and friends > until the end. > They fell asleep in peace. Surrounded by love. > And so did my mom. > So make every day a wonderful day. > Your cancer has simply reminded you that your time on earth is special. > And limited... > no matter if you have had cancer or not. > This is great knowledge that many will never know. > Live your time that is only yours in happiness and not in fear. > This is my hope for you. > Andree > _www.essentialsoapsinc.com_ (http://www.essentialsoapsinc.com) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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