My sister

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Hello again,

First I'd like to thank you all for your comments on the sensitive

situation involving my sister. I received many kind responses and this is

what I've decided to do.

Her birthday is Monday so I can't do anything before then. I am going

to go out and buy everything I used and some things that have been suggested

to me. So maybe some baby powder with cornstarch, Fabreeze (to spray her

chair at work) antibacterial wetwipes, Balmex, since she has acrylic nails,

maybe some disposable plastic gloves too, as there is nothing worse than

getting Balmex under your nails! And anything else I see that strikes my

fancy. I'll put it in a pretty bag and ask her to go somewhere with me, or

if she's home alone just go over. The coward in me just wants to give it to

her with a loving note, have her open it alone then call me if she wants to

talk. But I know that I need to do this face to face and so I shall. I

have warned her daughter that I am going to do this, and that I want her

support as I'm sure Carol will ask her if it's true. I am not going to

involve anyone at work in this because I don't want her wondering who is the

one who complained. I'll just say that I love her, I've noticed this and I

don't want it to be a problem or for her to be embarrassed. I know that she

will be hurt, and we both will probably shed a tear or two over it.

As I was discussing this with my husband I told him that though I never

told him at the time, at my previous job from hell, I was called in not once

but twice about body odor. Both times I was put in a large glass walled

conference room where everyone on the floor (we were a call center, lots of

folks could see) watched us and wondered what I was doing in there with HR

and my manager. I know all too well the humiliation and have to believe

that this will be better for Carol coming from me rather than someone who

doesn't love her.

Again, many thanks to all you kind and caring people. I'll keep you

posted how it goes.

Sue in Las Vegas