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Any tips on how to make hair loss less freaky for the kids? My boys

are 12 and 15, which doesn't sound like it would be tough, but the

younger is super sensitive and the older has autism. Thanks.

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Why not have a head shaving party. Let the boys take turns shaving your head.

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new question: kids and hair loss

Any tips on how to make hair loss less freaky for the kids? My boys

are 12 and 15, which doesn't sound like it would be tough, but the

younger is super sensitive and the older has autism. Thanks.

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[Guest guest]

Quoting racker84 :

> Any tips on how to make hair loss less freaky for the kids? My boys

> are 12 and 15, which doesn't sound like it would be tough, but the

> younger is super sensitive and the older has autism. Thanks.

>

My boys are ages 11, 13, and 15, pretty close to yours. I, too, was

concerned about how they would take the hair loss. I had red hair

almost to my waist. I first got a short haircut. Kinda funny, because

I'd had long hair basically all my life and I got lots of compliments

on my " new look. " I wear hats whenever I leave the house and leave

them off when inside. That gave the boys a little time to adjust to

the hair loss. It wasn't all at once, took a week or more. Really,

it's taking lots longer than that because I'm still losing hair (six

weeks later), just at a much reduced rate. If they see it happening

over a period of time they might not be a freaked out as you would

think. FWIW, I now look really freaky with 95% of my hair gone, and

what's left sticks straight up. ;-)

-Frances

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[Guest guest]

Quoting racker84 :

> Any tips on how to make hair loss less freaky for the kids? My boys

> are 12 and 15, which doesn't sound like it would be tough, but the

> younger is super sensitive and the older has autism. Thanks.

>

My boys are ages 11, 13, and 15, pretty close to yours. I, too, was

concerned about how they would take the hair loss. I had red hair

almost to my waist. I first got a short haircut. Kinda funny, because

I'd had long hair basically all my life and I got lots of compliments

on my " new look. " I wear hats whenever I leave the house and leave

them off when inside. That gave the boys a little time to adjust to

the hair loss. It wasn't all at once, took a week or more. Really,

it's taking lots longer than that because I'm still losing hair (six

weeks later), just at a much reduced rate. If they see it happening

over a period of time they might not be a freaked out as you would

think. FWIW, I now look really freaky with 95% of my hair gone, and

what's left sticks straight up. ;-)

-Frances

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Quoting & nne Svihlik :

> Why not have a head shaving party. Let the boys take turns shaving your head.

I'm not saying NOT to do this. I know lots of cancer patients shave

their heads and have a party at the same time. However, the docs and

nurses at my hospital do NOT recommend shaving the head, ESPECIALLY

after chemo has begun. It's too easy to knick the scalp, opening up

the possibility of infection. When I went in (hospital has a licensed

hairdresser) for my haircut I asked for a buzz cut, but the hairdresser

recommended the " cute cut " I got. She even knew how to cut the hair so

I could send it to Locks of Love. I also wonder if the suddeness of

loss of hair might cause more emotional pain for the boys. To quote

from " Muppets From Space " (my favorite " stressed out " movie), " Baby

steps, baby steps. "

This is what I love about this list. Lots of ideas and opinions to

evaluate! :-)

-Frances

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[Guest guest]

Quoting & nne Svihlik :

> Why not have a head shaving party. Let the boys take turns shaving your head.

I'm not saying NOT to do this. I know lots of cancer patients shave

their heads and have a party at the same time. However, the docs and

nurses at my hospital do NOT recommend shaving the head, ESPECIALLY

after chemo has begun. It's too easy to knick the scalp, opening up

the possibility of infection. When I went in (hospital has a licensed

hairdresser) for my haircut I asked for a buzz cut, but the hairdresser

recommended the " cute cut " I got. She even knew how to cut the hair so

I could send it to Locks of Love. I also wonder if the suddeness of

loss of hair might cause more emotional pain for the boys. To quote

from " Muppets From Space " (my favorite " stressed out " movie), " Baby

steps, baby steps. "

This is what I love about this list. Lots of ideas and opinions to

evaluate! :-)

-Frances

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[Guest guest]

Quoting & nne Svihlik :

> Why not have a head shaving party. Let the boys take turns shaving your head.

I'm not saying NOT to do this. I know lots of cancer patients shave

their heads and have a party at the same time. However, the docs and

nurses at my hospital do NOT recommend shaving the head, ESPECIALLY

after chemo has begun. It's too easy to knick the scalp, opening up

the possibility of infection. When I went in (hospital has a licensed

hairdresser) for my haircut I asked for a buzz cut, but the hairdresser

recommended the " cute cut " I got. She even knew how to cut the hair so

I could send it to Locks of Love. I also wonder if the suddeness of

loss of hair might cause more emotional pain for the boys. To quote

from " Muppets From Space " (my favorite " stressed out " movie), " Baby

steps, baby steps. "

This is what I love about this list. Lots of ideas and opinions to

evaluate! :-)

-Frances

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[Guest guest]

,

I was very worried about my grandson (6) when I knew I was going to lose my

hair.(He and his Dad live with us, my dh and I are Mike's guardians.) I just

kept explaining to him that grandma's hair was going to fall out and I would

have to have my head shaved. When the hair finally did start falling out and I

started pulling it out in clumps, he was right there helping me. I had intended

to take him with me when I had my head shaved but he was a little spooked as we

asked him if he was going to have his head shaved as well, so we didn't take him

with us. He really took the shaving in stride. Now that my hair is growing back

(I have one more Taxotere treatment next week.) he is excited and keeps rubbing

my head. He's always ready to get me my cap to wear before we go out, but

wouldn't stress if I went without it. was just diagnosed with Asperger's

Syndrome. Not sure that helps, only you know your kids, but Mike did take it a

lot better than I thought he would.

Barb

new question: kids and hair loss

Any tips on how to make hair loss less freaky for the kids? My boys

are 12 and 15, which doesn't sound like it would be tough, but the

younger is super sensitive and the older has autism. Thanks.

[Guest guest]

,

I was very worried about my grandson (6) when I knew I was going to lose my

hair.(He and his Dad live with us, my dh and I are Mike's guardians.) I just

kept explaining to him that grandma's hair was going to fall out and I would

have to have my head shaved. When the hair finally did start falling out and I

started pulling it out in clumps, he was right there helping me. I had intended

to take him with me when I had my head shaved but he was a little spooked as we

asked him if he was going to have his head shaved as well, so we didn't take him

with us. He really took the shaving in stride. Now that my hair is growing back

(I have one more Taxotere treatment next week.) he is excited and keeps rubbing

my head. He's always ready to get me my cap to wear before we go out, but

wouldn't stress if I went without it. was just diagnosed with Asperger's

Syndrome. Not sure that helps, only you know your kids, but Mike did take it a

lot better than I thought he would.

Barb

new question: kids and hair loss

Any tips on how to make hair loss less freaky for the kids? My boys

are 12 and 15, which doesn't sound like it would be tough, but the

younger is super sensitive and the older has autism. Thanks.

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I have boys too - 15, 13 and 12 and a 17 year old daughter. I did

choose to get a buzz cut just before it started to fall out in bunches

(2 weeks after treatment 1) and it was the best thing for me and my

family. they actually took it well, especially the boys. Now that

it's just beginning to grow in, they love calling me " their chia pet "

and my hubby referes to me as " G.I. Jane " . How endearing - huh? LOL I

did purchase a wig but honestly wore it only once or twice. It was

terribly uncomfortable and quite frankly the when I did try to wear

it, the kids said " it looks so unnatural " - they liked the bald me

better at that point. I believe that kids are so resiliant! One of

my friends lost his hair and his boys shaved thier own heads to

be " just like dad " . My kids didn't go to that extreme, but they did

adjust. I found the less freaked out I was about it, the less they

were. Hope that my opinion helps. Just do what you feel is right -

and it will be.

Strength,

Ellen

>

> Any tips on how to make hair loss less freaky for the kids? My boys

> are 12 and 15, which doesn't sound like it would be tough, but the

> younger is super sensitive and the older has autism. Thanks.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I have boys too - 15, 13 and 12 and a 17 year old daughter. I did

choose to get a buzz cut just before it started to fall out in bunches

(2 weeks after treatment 1) and it was the best thing for me and my

family. they actually took it well, especially the boys. Now that

it's just beginning to grow in, they love calling me " their chia pet "

and my hubby referes to me as " G.I. Jane " . How endearing - huh? LOL I

did purchase a wig but honestly wore it only once or twice. It was

terribly uncomfortable and quite frankly the when I did try to wear

it, the kids said " it looks so unnatural " - they liked the bald me

better at that point. I believe that kids are so resiliant! One of

my friends lost his hair and his boys shaved thier own heads to

be " just like dad " . My kids didn't go to that extreme, but they did

adjust. I found the less freaked out I was about it, the less they

were. Hope that my opinion helps. Just do what you feel is right -

and it will be.

Strength,

Ellen

>

> Any tips on how to make hair loss less freaky for the kids? My boys

> are 12 and 15, which doesn't sound like it would be tough, but the

> younger is super sensitive and the older has autism. Thanks.

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

My caregiver brings her PDD-NOS son over when she comes every day. saw me

go from hairy to

bald after the surgery. He had no problem with it. None. I think, as a spectrum

kid, he's not

checking in with my face much anyway.

My own son is 7, and has sensory issues. He was just fine with my baldness at

first, but seems to

be annoyed with it now as time wears on (I just started radiation). Come to

think of it, he was

more concerned when I cut my hair short to prepare for the hair loss.

It's funny. I freak out kids who don't know me. At a party the other day, a five

year old visibly

recoiled. Heavy sigh.

DS just cruised by and gave my head a rub as I was typing.

Would your younger son feel better if he were involved with the process, or

would he prefer that

it happen " offstage " ?

It's raining buckets here, so I have been summoned to play a rainy day board

game - Clue, I think.

Take care.

--- racker84 wrote:

> Any tips on how to make hair loss less freaky for the kids? My boys

> are 12 and 15, which doesn't sound like it would be tough, but the

> younger is super sensitive and the older has autism. Thanks.

>

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

,

My caregiver brings her PDD-NOS son over when she comes every day. saw me

go from hairy to

bald after the surgery. He had no problem with it. None. I think, as a spectrum

kid, he's not

checking in with my face much anyway.

My own son is 7, and has sensory issues. He was just fine with my baldness at

first, but seems to

be annoyed with it now as time wears on (I just started radiation). Come to

think of it, he was

more concerned when I cut my hair short to prepare for the hair loss.

It's funny. I freak out kids who don't know me. At a party the other day, a five

year old visibly

recoiled. Heavy sigh.

DS just cruised by and gave my head a rub as I was typing.

Would your younger son feel better if he were involved with the process, or

would he prefer that

it happen " offstage " ?

It's raining buckets here, so I have been summoned to play a rainy day board

game - Clue, I think.

Take care.

--- racker84 wrote:

> Any tips on how to make hair loss less freaky for the kids? My boys

> are 12 and 15, which doesn't sound like it would be tough, but the

> younger is super sensitive and the older has autism. Thanks.

>

>

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

,

My caregiver brings her PDD-NOS son over when she comes every day. saw me

go from hairy to

bald after the surgery. He had no problem with it. None. I think, as a spectrum

kid, he's not

checking in with my face much anyway.

My own son is 7, and has sensory issues. He was just fine with my baldness at

first, but seems to

be annoyed with it now as time wears on (I just started radiation). Come to

think of it, he was

more concerned when I cut my hair short to prepare for the hair loss.

It's funny. I freak out kids who don't know me. At a party the other day, a five

year old visibly

recoiled. Heavy sigh.

DS just cruised by and gave my head a rub as I was typing.

Would your younger son feel better if he were involved with the process, or

would he prefer that

it happen " offstage " ?

It's raining buckets here, so I have been summoned to play a rainy day board

game - Clue, I think.

Take care.

--- racker84 wrote:

> Any tips on how to make hair loss less freaky for the kids? My boys

> are 12 and 15, which doesn't sound like it would be tough, but the

> younger is super sensitive and the older has autism. Thanks.

>

>

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Ellen,

I actually love the 'chia pet' response. I, too, have been called 'G.I. Jane' by

my dh. Now, because the hair is slooooowwwwwlllllllyyyyy coming back, I am

affectionately called 'fuzz head' which is what dh calls my cat. As my dh says,

'be glad, at least yours is growing back' as he is losing his permanently.

Barb

Re: new question: kids and hair loss

Hi ,

I have boys too - 15, 13 and 12 and a 17 year old daughter. I did

choose to get a buzz cut just before it started to fall out in bunches

(2 weeks after treatment 1) and it was the best thing for me and my

family. they actually took it well, especially the boys. Now that

it's just beginning to grow in, they love calling me " their chia pet "

and my hubby referes to me as " G.I. Jane " . How endearing - huh? LOL I

did purchase a wig but honestly wore it only once or twice. It was

terribly uncomfortable and quite frankly the when I did try to wear

it, the kids said " it looks so unnatural " - they liked the bald me

better at that point. I believe that kids are so resiliant! One of

my friends lost his hair and his boys shaved thier own heads to

be " just like dad " . My kids didn't go to that extreme, but they did

adjust. I found the less freaked out I was about it, the less they

were. Hope that my opinion helps. Just do what you feel is right -

and it will be.

Strength,

Ellen

>

> Any tips on how to make hair loss less freaky for the kids? My boys

> are 12 and 15, which doesn't sound like it would be tough, but the

> younger is super sensitive and the older has autism. Thanks.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Ellen,

I actually love the 'chia pet' response. I, too, have been called 'G.I. Jane' by

my dh. Now, because the hair is slooooowwwwwlllllllyyyyy coming back, I am

affectionately called 'fuzz head' which is what dh calls my cat. As my dh says,

'be glad, at least yours is growing back' as he is losing his permanently.

Barb

Re: new question: kids and hair loss

Hi ,

I have boys too - 15, 13 and 12 and a 17 year old daughter. I did

choose to get a buzz cut just before it started to fall out in bunches

(2 weeks after treatment 1) and it was the best thing for me and my

family. they actually took it well, especially the boys. Now that

it's just beginning to grow in, they love calling me " their chia pet "

and my hubby referes to me as " G.I. Jane " . How endearing - huh? LOL I

did purchase a wig but honestly wore it only once or twice. It was

terribly uncomfortable and quite frankly the when I did try to wear

it, the kids said " it looks so unnatural " - they liked the bald me

better at that point. I believe that kids are so resiliant! One of

my friends lost his hair and his boys shaved thier own heads to

be " just like dad " . My kids didn't go to that extreme, but they did

adjust. I found the less freaked out I was about it, the less they

were. Hope that my opinion helps. Just do what you feel is right -

and it will be.

Strength,

Ellen

>

> Any tips on how to make hair loss less freaky for the kids? My boys

> are 12 and 15, which doesn't sound like it would be tough, but the

> younger is super sensitive and the older has autism. Thanks.

>

>

[Guest guest]

My 3 year old watched as my husband shaved my head and then when it was all done

he wanted his done also! (I didn't shave his head) I thought it was cute, he

was asking us what we were doing and laughing the whole time. Then sat on the

toilet seat as i was when i was done and said my turn! ha ha ha!

jennifer ruffing wrote: ,

My caregiver brings her PDD-NOS son over when she comes every day. saw me

go from hairy to

bald after the surgery. He had no problem with it. None. I think, as a spectrum

kid, he's not

checking in with my face much anyway.

My own son is 7, and has sensory issues. He was just fine with my baldness at

first, but seems to

be annoyed with it now as time wears on (I just started radiation). Come to

think of it, he was

more concerned when I cut my hair short to prepare for the hair loss.

It's funny. I freak out kids who don't know me. At a party the other day, a five

year old visibly

recoiled. Heavy sigh.

DS just cruised by and gave my head a rub as I was typing.

Would your younger son feel better if he were involved with the process, or

would he prefer that

it happen " offstage " ?

It's raining buckets here, so I have been summoned to play a rainy day board

game - Clue, I think.

Take care.

--- racker84 wrote:

> Any tips on how to make hair loss less freaky for the kids? My boys

> are 12 and 15, which doesn't sound like it would be tough, but the

> younger is super sensitive and the older has autism. Thanks.

>

>

>

>

>

>

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