Lazy T sex position for more comfort

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HI all, I've sent this before and hope it helps.

Joy is a member of the LS group and this is her explanation with her delightful humor *grin* & then we found a picture that represents it.

Hugs

Dee~

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The Lazy T position

written by Joy S.

This is a sexual intercourse position which Joy has recommended for Lichen Sclerosis or Vulvodynia sufferers. It should be less harsh on your vulva than other positions.

Perhaps the best angle is to come at it from 90 degrees, which is the position we mostly see in lurid TV shows and movies, with him lying on his back, and her 'riding' him. This supposedly gives her better control, and certainly stops him from thrashing around too much.

However..... in achieving this astride position the pelvic floor is tightened, and thus the entrance may not be as stretchy as it should be. Doggie style -I hate that description- also puts stress on the perineum, and is rough on everything, plus he can plunge away and do damage.

So while thinking about this, and reading in bed, I realized that we were actually in one of the best and relaxed positions we could possibly achieve, and so we tried it. I was lying on my back, with my legs hooked over his hips as he was lying on his side facing me. In a T shape - get it????? Huh??? Huh??? (see the photo above)

I was totally relaxed; I could adjust my position by straightening my legs, or putting my feet on the bed beyond him. If he's fat, or your legs are short, you can still move your hips up or down by using his side as the fulcrum for your leverage. You can even rotate your hips in a hula movement - the Horizontal Hula!!! Aloha!!

Having him on his side slows down his lungeing, as one hip is against the mattress. It also leaves hands free to wander to bits that respond to stroking, and you can also introduce a vibrator to your clitoris to speed things up a bit. You will find all sorts of variations in the ways you can entwine - you may even end up in Scissors position, with your legs interlocked and bodies pointing away from each other.

If you do like rear entry, as in doggie style, do the Jack-knife instead, where you are both on your sides on the bed, him behind of course, and you fold your body away from him, down the line of your legs if you can get that far, or at least to 90 degrees - a backward Lazy T.

Just because your clitoris is buried under layers of banding and you haven't seen it in years, doesn't mean that the little darling is not still responsive.

(In those who have Lichen Sclerosis, the clitoris is often fused or buried under skin adhesions, DeeT)

It's in there somewhere, maybe doubled over like mine, but you can still get it to work. A vibrator is great for this, and you can employ this during the Lazy T, getting you off, and then give him oral sex to get him off if he needs more stimulation than the Lazy T provides. Use the vibrator to stimulate the whole area, not just right on where the clitoris is or was last time you saw it (somewhere between your belly button and your knees).

If you can climax while using the vibrator, you'll find that you'll need a lot less movement of the BOB (battery operated boyfriend), or the real Bob, and this is better for your skin.

Remember that the more foreplay you have, the more easily you'll climax, and the better it will feel, so spend a heap more time on the playing, get yourselves to a pitch higher than you usually do - become an expert in foreplay, and oral sex, or masturbating him, or using a silk scarf or a feather duster or whatever it takes. You know what it was like when you were courting, and he'd get so excited you wondered if he'd actually make it inside - well, try to get to that pitch again.

A lot of what upsets men WHO LOVE US about our pain is the fact that they can't make love to us or bring us pain or bring us to climax. It may seem very one sided to them that we perhaps masturbate them or give them oral sex but nothing happens for us women. Well, educate him about your other erogenous zones to give you pleasure - you CAN orgasm on nipple stimulation, perhaps use a tad of anal stimulation - even just a finger tip - to help you along.

Oral sex for us does not have to be right on the clitoris - too bad if you haven't got one evident any more - the outer labia and the smaller labial lips are also sensitive - remind him they are as sensitive as his scrotum, and what does he like you to do to that? Let his masturbate between your thighs, which was always a standby for period times anyway. Or... use the breasts.

It may take a few months before you can climax using some of the less standard techniques, but I tell you what, you will end up an expert lover, perhaps leaning towards Tantric sex rather than chandelier swinging, but you are quite capable of captivating a man and holding his interest for a lifetime, if he loves you, and is willing to 'get over' never having the Missionary Position again.