Guest guest Posted December 22, 2003 Report Share Posted December 22, 2003 feel guilty. Isn't there a pill I can take or something?!? Rose, ain't it grand. Guilt, the ultimate punishment. Self-inflicted, our simple reaction to something someone said and we percieved as meaning something more. I like the idea of an anti-guilt pill. How about using Good & Plenty in a prescription jar, or Jelly Belly's. OH-- I'm already doing that. gnomelady Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2003 Report Share Posted December 22, 2003 there just seems to be no compassion for mom here. Jan, I know it is so hard when your family doesn't "get it." One of the things you might want to do is give yourself the compassion you are so needing. We are so ready to give to others, but we find ourselves disappointed when it's not returned. In reading the posts about your family, they aren't going to have much compassion for where you're at-- they're in their own pain right now. Nothing you can say or do will change them. Their lives are out of control too. So, start with yourself. Give yourself permission to be kind to you. If you're tired, rest. If you're in pain, listen to a guided meditation. If you're sad or lonely, call someone from church- (ours has a "caring-ministry" that is available to talk. I find that I have to make myself go outside each day, even if for a few minutes, and look around. There is always something new that nature will provide. A mushroom in the pineneedles. A path of walnut shells that have been laided out by the squirrels. A new hole in the back yard that is to hide ones dogbone. There is beauty and humor all around us. We just have to open our eyes and hearts to it. Remember that if you're expecting others to supply you with what you need, that you'll continue to be disappointed. To them, it's like having a price tag added to your ability to love them. When you start to leave that expectation behind, and start filling yourself with your highest good-- you will actually be making more and more room to give more to others and - to the universe. Self-compassion starts with being kind to you. Tracie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2003 Report Share Posted December 22, 2003 Faith makes all things possible,Love makes it easy! Janjanbovi@... Powered by Plaxo Want a signature like this? Add me to your address book... Good idea guys the anti guilt pill something my mom plagued me with years ago but now i'm learning to deal with............repeat learning.......... You guys have helped me alot. I don't have much to give this year money wise to anyone I barely get 700 dollars a month to live on and i'm lucky to live somewhere where I have prescription coverage otherwise i'd be out of luck. When I was in michigan I had no prescription coverage so it meant no meds so no proper medical care when I came out of remission til I came back to my home state. But i'm making the most of my life one day at a time. My kids won't give me too much of a break but they have helped the best they know how I guess. I just know when they were ready to put me in the nursing home earlier this year that was gonna be where I was gonna have to go, and now well there just seems to be no compassion for mom here. I thank all of you for helping me over all the rocky points as well as the good ones. Much love and prayers and my vote would be the Jelly Belly ones...........lol Jan ---Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free.Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com).Version: 6.0.521 / Virus Database: 319 - Release Date: 9/24/03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2003 Report Share Posted December 22, 2003 Faith makes all things possible,Love makes it easy! Janjanbovi@... Powered by Plaxo Want a signature like this? Add me to your address book... Tracie you are so very right and so very smart and insightful and I appreciate you for who you are. All I want is respect and love from them nothing more. When I tell them I can't or don't feel like doing something I need for them to understand and respect that i'm not faking or whatever they think i'm doing. They just always want me to do more and more. Don't get me wrong I do love doing things with the family and just plain old by myself.............um I mean like cross stitch or something.........lol Maybe I just don't know how to get my point across or something cause i've always been manipulated my whole life even y my own children. Anyways hopefully I can get them to understand when no is no, etc.......... It's gonna take a long time and this journey is a long one I'm glad I have friends such as you and the others here in this fine support group to talk to and whine, bitch and moan whenever I need too. At the same time it helps when I can be of help to others too. I'm honored to be your friend. Much love and prayers, Jan ---Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free.Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com).Version: 6.0.521 / Virus Database: 319 - Release Date: 9/24/03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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