Guest guest Posted September 15, 2001 Report Share Posted September 15, 2001 Anita; I noticed you have had some plastic surgery. Do you share pictures of before and after? Bonnie Kendrick pre-op weight 443 lb BPD/DS on 5-30-00 Dr. Maguire Kettering, Ohio Present weight: 251 down 192 lb / 15 months post op Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2001 Report Share Posted September 15, 2001 Bill, Don't be bummed and don't feel you are a failure!! YOU ARE NOT!! Remember the only failures are those that quit trying and just exist. I don't see you doing this... or else you never would have written to the list. I think we get a little too comfortable with our successes sometimes and think we are invinsible. My weight after the VBG started creeping back up too. and just about the same time frame. Maybe it's the fact that we're happy again for once in our lives? I don't know.. I know that was part of the scenerio with me too. <not a bad marriage.. no marriage, no one that even looked at me other than to make snide remarks> About the calories you consumed before and now... I don't think we need to stay on 900 calories for the rest of our lives. I know I don't and I'm still losing from my RNY revision. Have you gone back to the doctor and had an upper GI to see if it's just you or the surgery may have failed you too. Once I finally found a new surgeon and he did that test it was found that my staple line had disrupted... ahhh yes.. that definitely accounts for the regaining. Now as for the new love of your life; if she truly loves you the weight shouldn't make a difference. I feel you should love a person for what is on the inside not the outside. Well, now that I have mouthed off <not my style... I usually just lurk and am quiet> Don't be so depressed and bummed.. start putting the exercise back in your life little by little and get a GI series to see if it is you or the staple line. Keeping you in my thoughts, Lynnie VBG 1987 Revised to Open RNY 7/9/99 Losing slowly but still losing 460/280/200 I lost around 200+ pounds after my proximal RNY in December of 1997. My health got 1000% better. I was exercising daily. My diabetes, heart problems..and apnea were a thing of the past. I got out of a bad marriage which helped all parties involved. I met a wonderful, and beautiful young woman. I finished grad school. Life was good. Then I started regaining weight. Slowly but surely I am creeping up. I am not following the same regimen I had post-op...the 900 calories per day...60 minutes plus of cardio exercise...so duh...I guess I should expect to regain weight. I know we are to expect the rebound effect..a regain of up to 10% or more of our lost weight. But I am well past that and gaining rapidly. It is like I never had the surgery. I am depressed and scared. I know I am not alone. I frankly don't know what to do. My love is coming to the US in a few weeks. She mentioned last time..honey you are putting on weight..and laughed..and I said..well I have not been exercising. Don't worry baby..I said..I will drop it easily in the summer. I didn't. I really did not try. It is like the old Bill...the eat like a robot with no self control..or no ability to control myself..was back. I am sick with worry and self-loathing. What to do? I know what to do...but I just can't seem to do it. I do not want to bum you guys out but I am a bit desperate...thanks for listening..peace Bill from CT RNY 12.1.97 down...who knows... | Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2001 Report Share Posted September 15, 2001 Bill, Don't be bummed and don't feel you are a failure!! YOU ARE NOT!! Remember the only failures are those that quit trying and just exist. I don't see you doing this... or else you never would have written to the list. I think we get a little too comfortable with our successes sometimes and think we are invinsible. My weight after the VBG started creeping back up too. and just about the same time frame. Maybe it's the fact that we're happy again for once in our lives? I don't know.. I know that was part of the scenerio with me too. <not a bad marriage.. no marriage, no one that even looked at me other than to make snide remarks> About the calories you consumed before and now... I don't think we need to stay on 900 calories for the rest of our lives. I know I don't and I'm still losing from my RNY revision. Have you gone back to the doctor and had an upper GI to see if it's just you or the surgery may have failed you too. Once I finally found a new surgeon and he did that test it was found that my staple line had disrupted... ahhh yes.. that definitely accounts for the regaining. Now as for the new love of your life; if she truly loves you the weight shouldn't make a difference. I feel you should love a person for what is on the inside not the outside. Well, now that I have mouthed off <not my style... I usually just lurk and am quiet> Don't be so depressed and bummed.. start putting the exercise back in your life little by little and get a GI series to see if it is you or the staple line. Keeping you in my thoughts, Lynnie VBG 1987 Revised to Open RNY 7/9/99 Losing slowly but still losing 460/280/200 I lost around 200+ pounds after my proximal RNY in December of 1997. My health got 1000% better. I was exercising daily. My diabetes, heart problems..and apnea were a thing of the past. I got out of a bad marriage which helped all parties involved. I met a wonderful, and beautiful young woman. I finished grad school. Life was good. Then I started regaining weight. Slowly but surely I am creeping up. I am not following the same regimen I had post-op...the 900 calories per day...60 minutes plus of cardio exercise...so duh...I guess I should expect to regain weight. I know we are to expect the rebound effect..a regain of up to 10% or more of our lost weight. But I am well past that and gaining rapidly. It is like I never had the surgery. I am depressed and scared. I know I am not alone. I frankly don't know what to do. My love is coming to the US in a few weeks. She mentioned last time..honey you are putting on weight..and laughed..and I said..well I have not been exercising. Don't worry baby..I said..I will drop it easily in the summer. I didn't. I really did not try. It is like the old Bill...the eat like a robot with no self control..or no ability to control myself..was back. I am sick with worry and self-loathing. What to do? I know what to do...but I just can't seem to do it. I do not want to bum you guys out but I am a bit desperate...thanks for listening..peace Bill from CT RNY 12.1.97 down...who knows... | Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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