Re: I need some advise....

[Guest guest]

- I'm in the exact same (almost) dilema! Actually, I got layed off 2

years ago and I just got my " dream job " , today being my very first day. I have

already met with Dr. Stiles (you'll like her!) and we agreed on a specific

amount of weight I need to lose before surgery.

The thing is, I'm hoping that the February / March timeframe is right because I

can't see asking for time off now that I've got this great job, especially since

I was off for SO long. The job market is the pits out there, but I hear it's

gettin better. Soooo, bottom line - if you find a job any time soon, if I were

you, I'd continue with the process but don't ask to be bumped up if there is a

cancellation - not a good rapport with the new boss!

It's nice to know I'm not the only one with this problem!

Thanks for sharing -

Jane in Cupertino

[Guest guest]

- I'm in the exact same (almost) dilema! Actually, I got layed off 2

years ago and I just got my " dream job " , today being my very first day. I have

already met with Dr. Stiles (you'll like her!) and we agreed on a specific

amount of weight I need to lose before surgery.

The thing is, I'm hoping that the February / March timeframe is right because I

can't see asking for time off now that I've got this great job, especially since

I was off for SO long. The job market is the pits out there, but I hear it's

gettin better. Soooo, bottom line - if you find a job any time soon, if I were

you, I'd continue with the process but don't ask to be bumped up if there is a

cancellation - not a good rapport with the new boss!

It's nice to know I'm not the only one with this problem!

Thanks for sharing -

Jane in Cupertino

[Guest guest]

Thanks Jane,

You're right. But what I was saying was that if I am not hired by

October 25th, then I will stop looking for work entirely, or after my

surgery and recovery. That way I dont risk a new job by asking for

too much time off so soon after being hired. If I do find a job

before the 25th, then I will just leave things as they are and

hopefully my surgery will be 2-3 months after I am hired.

Thanks again, and thanks for the info on Dr. Stiles. Ive great things

about her and her staff.

123

> - I'm in the exact same (almost) dilema! Actually, I got

layed off 2 years ago and I just got my " dream job " , today being my

very first day. I have already met with Dr. Stiles (you'll like

her!) and we agreed on a specific amount of weight I need to lose

before surgery.

>

> The thing is, I'm hoping that the February / March timeframe is

right because I can't see asking for time off now that I've got this

great job, especially since I was off for SO long. The job market is

the pits out there, but I hear it's gettin better. Soooo, bottom

line - if you find a job any time soon, if I were you, I'd continue

with the process but don't ask to be bumped up if there is a

cancellation - not a good rapport with the new boss!

>

> It's nice to know I'm not the only one with this problem!

>

> Thanks for sharing -

> Jane in Cupertino

[Guest guest]

Thanks Jane,

You're right. But what I was saying was that if I am not hired by

October 25th, then I will stop looking for work entirely, or after my

surgery and recovery. That way I dont risk a new job by asking for

too much time off so soon after being hired. If I do find a job

before the 25th, then I will just leave things as they are and

hopefully my surgery will be 2-3 months after I am hired.

Thanks again, and thanks for the info on Dr. Stiles. Ive great things

about her and her staff.

123

> - I'm in the exact same (almost) dilema! Actually, I got

layed off 2 years ago and I just got my " dream job " , today being my

very first day. I have already met with Dr. Stiles (you'll like

her!) and we agreed on a specific amount of weight I need to lose

before surgery.

>

> The thing is, I'm hoping that the February / March timeframe is

right because I can't see asking for time off now that I've got this

great job, especially since I was off for SO long. The job market is

the pits out there, but I hear it's gettin better. Soooo, bottom

line - if you find a job any time soon, if I were you, I'd continue

with the process but don't ask to be bumped up if there is a

cancellation - not a good rapport with the new boss!

>

> It's nice to know I'm not the only one with this problem!

>

> Thanks for sharing -

> Jane in Cupertino

[Guest guest]

Thanks ,

I have a feeling a lot hangs on what Dr. Stiles determines... I

appreciate your feedback.

Life isnt all bad for me! Getting laid off was actually a blessing, I

hated that job and you certainly dont need stress and drama before

you go into surgery! Now im spending more my time with my wonderful,

sexy man Jim, cleaning the house to the point where I practically wax

the carpets, and working on my crafts and hobbies. The job hunting is

going better than I thought! Today and Monday are the only two days

this week where I didnt have at least 2 or 3 interviews and its been

that way since I was laid off. So, Im confident work will come my

when when I sort things out!

Thanks again

123

> >

> > Hello Everyone !!

> > I was laid off from my job on September 17! The good thing is, I

> > hated the job, the even better thing is, I got a month of

severance

> > pay and my Cobra payment to continue Kaiser is only $187.00 a

> month.

> >

> > Now, here's my dilemma. I am scheduled for orientation on 10-12-

04

> I

> > meet with Beth Goodridge on 10-29-04, and then Dr. Stiles on 10-

30-

> > 04. I have been actively looking for employment since (and a

little

> > before) I left my job. However, I'm not sure whether I should

hold

> > off on finding a job until after my surgery or continue to pursue

> > employment and hope that my surgery is far enough down the road

> that

> > I wont risk taking too much time off from my new job.

> >

> > I've lost 20 pounds since July and I know it will NOT count

towards

> > my 10%. However, when I contacted Dr. Stiles office they assured

me

> > that it really all depends on what Dr. Stiles thinks after she

> > examines me. She may not ask me to lose any weight, or she may

ask

> to

> > lose another five or ten pounds, or she may ask me to lose the

10%.

> > It all depends on what the Dr. Stiles determines. So my pre-op

> > requirements may have already been met, or maybe not…

> >

> > Here are my questions. Your feedback would be greatly appreciated!

> >

> > 1) If I am NOT employed by October 25 then I will request that

> > Dr. Stiles put me on the cancellation list and I will halt

looking

> > for work completely. My dream, my wish and my hope, is that there

> > will be a cancellation sometime in November or December (assuming

I

> > meet all the pre-op requirements). That way, I can take my time

in

> > recovering without worrying about getting back to my new job!

Then

> > after the first of the year, I can resume my job hunt, fully

> > recovered from my surgery, and somewhat acclimated to my new

> > lifestyle. Is this a realistic time frame? Is there anyone out

> there

> > who is or has been on the cancellation list, and how long was

your

> > wait from the day you requested to be placed on the list to the

> > actual surgery date?

> >

> > 2) If I AM employed by October 25 (I may get an offer next week,

> > cross your fingers for me) then I will leave things as is and not

> ask

> > to be placed on the cancellation list. However, how soon after

you

> > meet your surgeon do you actually have the surgery (assuming I

meet

> > all the pre-op requirements)? Would it be realistic to think that

I

> > might have the surgery in February or March? If so, then I would

be

> > established enough in my new job that I can prepare them for my

> > taking the time off and the risk of it affecting my status would

be

> > somewhat minimal. Do you think February or March is a reasonable

> > consideration for when my surgery will occur, or do you think it

> may

> > be sooner or later?

> >

> > It's good to know I can come here and ask questions regarding the

> > surgery you're all so helpful. I read the postings often and

learn

> > something new every day regarding all aspects of the procedure;

> some

> > good, some bad, and some wonderfully fantastic and moving stories

> of

> > success. Thanks for sharing everyone!

> >

> > Personally, I can't wait to buy new clothes!

> >

> > 123 <-- Fashionista

> > Pre-Op, SSF, Dr. Stiles

> > 276 / 256

[Guest guest]

Thanks ,

I have a feeling a lot hangs on what Dr. Stiles determines... I

appreciate your feedback.

Life isnt all bad for me! Getting laid off was actually a blessing, I

hated that job and you certainly dont need stress and drama before

you go into surgery! Now im spending more my time with my wonderful,

sexy man Jim, cleaning the house to the point where I practically wax

the carpets, and working on my crafts and hobbies. The job hunting is

going better than I thought! Today and Monday are the only two days

this week where I didnt have at least 2 or 3 interviews and its been

that way since I was laid off. So, Im confident work will come my

when when I sort things out!

Thanks again

123

> >

> > Hello Everyone !!

> > I was laid off from my job on September 17! The good thing is, I

> > hated the job, the even better thing is, I got a month of

severance

> > pay and my Cobra payment to continue Kaiser is only $187.00 a

> month.

> >

> > Now, here's my dilemma. I am scheduled for orientation on 10-12-

04

> I

> > meet with Beth Goodridge on 10-29-04, and then Dr. Stiles on 10-

30-

> > 04. I have been actively looking for employment since (and a

little

> > before) I left my job. However, I'm not sure whether I should

hold

> > off on finding a job until after my surgery or continue to pursue

> > employment and hope that my surgery is far enough down the road

> that

> > I wont risk taking too much time off from my new job.

> >

> > I've lost 20 pounds since July and I know it will NOT count

towards

> > my 10%. However, when I contacted Dr. Stiles office they assured

me

> > that it really all depends on what Dr. Stiles thinks after she

> > examines me. She may not ask me to lose any weight, or she may

ask

> to

> > lose another five or ten pounds, or she may ask me to lose the

10%.

> > It all depends on what the Dr. Stiles determines. So my pre-op

> > requirements may have already been met, or maybe not…

> >

> > Here are my questions. Your feedback would be greatly appreciated!

> >

> > 1) If I am NOT employed by October 25 then I will request that

> > Dr. Stiles put me on the cancellation list and I will halt

looking

> > for work completely. My dream, my wish and my hope, is that there

> > will be a cancellation sometime in November or December (assuming

I

> > meet all the pre-op requirements). That way, I can take my time

in

> > recovering without worrying about getting back to my new job!

Then

> > after the first of the year, I can resume my job hunt, fully

> > recovered from my surgery, and somewhat acclimated to my new

> > lifestyle. Is this a realistic time frame? Is there anyone out

> there

> > who is or has been on the cancellation list, and how long was

your

> > wait from the day you requested to be placed on the list to the

> > actual surgery date?

> >

> > 2) If I AM employed by October 25 (I may get an offer next week,

> > cross your fingers for me) then I will leave things as is and not

> ask

> > to be placed on the cancellation list. However, how soon after

you

> > meet your surgeon do you actually have the surgery (assuming I

meet

> > all the pre-op requirements)? Would it be realistic to think that

I

> > might have the surgery in February or March? If so, then I would

be

> > established enough in my new job that I can prepare them for my

> > taking the time off and the risk of it affecting my status would

be

> > somewhat minimal. Do you think February or March is a reasonable

> > consideration for when my surgery will occur, or do you think it

> may

> > be sooner or later?

> >

> > It's good to know I can come here and ask questions regarding the

> > surgery you're all so helpful. I read the postings often and

learn

> > something new every day regarding all aspects of the procedure;

> some

> > good, some bad, and some wonderfully fantastic and moving stories

> of

> > success. Thanks for sharing everyone!

> >

> > Personally, I can't wait to buy new clothes!

> >

> > 123 <-- Fashionista

> > Pre-Op, SSF, Dr. Stiles

> > 276 / 256

[Guest guest]

-I would suggest talking to the bariatrics

department where you are having surgery. I have

heard, although not confirmed, that they try to

accomodate people with special needs like yours. You

never know, you may get lucky and they may accept your

current weight loss and get you in sooner than you

think.

=====

Heidi Lauw

[Guest guest]

:

Best of luck to you. I'm not too helpful with the time frame stuff

as I had my surgery at Richmond and was scheduled fast (I was the

second man to get gastric bypass surgery there and among the first 20

or so patients).

Anyway, I used to HATE shopping for clothes, but now that I can fit,

it's so fun! The first time I picked out a really nice shirt that

was in the NORMAL (not Big & Tall) section, I took it in the dressing

room and just started to cry when the shirt fit so well.

After I dried the tears, I went crazy becuase there was a 50% off

sale. I think I spent nearly $800 all at once (that would have been

$1600 on a regular day). But don't go crazy like me, I've had to

donate all those shirts and pants and belts because in a few months,

they no longer fit. I was just swimming in them. But at least the

shoes ($400 of the $800) still fit, as I no longer require Wide

shoes. Normal width is perfect now.

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Everything will work out for

the best I'm sure.

Gemello

-148 lbs

>

> Hello Everyone !!

> I was laid off from my job on September 17! The good thing is, I

> hated the job, the even better thing is, I got a month of severance

> pay and my Cobra payment to continue Kaiser is only $187.00 a

month.

>

> Now, here's my dilemma. I am scheduled for orientation on 10-12-04

I

> meet with Beth Goodridge on 10-29-04, and then Dr. Stiles on 10-30-

> 04. I have been actively looking for employment since (and a little

> before) I left my job. However, I'm not sure whether I should hold

> off on finding a job until after my surgery or continue to pursue

> employment and hope that my surgery is far enough down the road

that

> I wont risk taking too much time off from my new job.

>

> I've lost 20 pounds since July and I know it will NOT count towards

> my 10%. However, when I contacted Dr. Stiles office they assured me

> that it really all depends on what Dr. Stiles thinks after she

> examines me. She may not ask me to lose any weight, or she may ask

to

> lose another five or ten pounds, or she may ask me to lose the 10%.

> It all depends on what the Dr. Stiles determines. So my pre-op

> requirements may have already been met, or maybe not…

>

> Here are my questions. Your feedback would be greatly appreciated!

>

> 1) If I am NOT employed by October 25 then I will request that

> Dr. Stiles put me on the cancellation list and I will halt looking

> for work completely. My dream, my wish and my hope, is that there

> will be a cancellation sometime in November or December (assuming I

> meet all the pre-op requirements). That way, I can take my time in

> recovering without worrying about getting back to my new job! Then

> after the first of the year, I can resume my job hunt, fully

> recovered from my surgery, and somewhat acclimated to my new

> lifestyle. Is this a realistic time frame? Is there anyone out

there

> who is or has been on the cancellation list, and how long was your

> wait from the day you requested to be placed on the list to the

> actual surgery date?

>

> 2) If I AM employed by October 25 (I may get an offer next week,

> cross your fingers for me) then I will leave things as is and not

ask

> to be placed on the cancellation list. However, how soon after you

> meet your surgeon do you actually have the surgery (assuming I meet

> all the pre-op requirements)? Would it be realistic to think that I

> might have the surgery in February or March? If so, then I would be

> established enough in my new job that I can prepare them for my

> taking the time off and the risk of it affecting my status would be

> somewhat minimal. Do you think February or March is a reasonable

> consideration for when my surgery will occur, or do you think it

may

> be sooner or later?

>

> It's good to know I can come here and ask questions regarding the

> surgery you're all so helpful. I read the postings often and learn

> something new every day regarding all aspects of the procedure;

some

> good, some bad, and some wonderfully fantastic and moving stories

of

> success. Thanks for sharing everyone!

>

> Personally, I can't wait to buy new clothes!

>

> 123 <-- Fashionista

> Pre-Op, SSF, Dr. Stiles

> 276 / 256

[Guest guest]

Hi ! Its so nice to see you posting. I will tell you my

recovery time was one month and I needed every minute of that time

to recover. Now some people who have had surgery around the same

time I did recover super fast. I was not so lucky. I had to sleep in

the lazyboy for the first two weeks as the pain was so bad I could

not even lay in my own bed. Now remember I had open and lap as they

could not complete it by doing lap and had to open me (super ouch)

I to was going to start a new job (my dream job to I was very

lucky in the timing. I had orientation in oct had surgery in January

16th 2003 and went back to work on March 17th. I started out working

15 hours a day as I was part of and opening team to open a new

Marriott Hotel and I set up and ran a Job fair that 3000 people

showed up for! Looking back now I must of been crazy ,but after all

it was my time to " show what I can do " and it was a huge pay off. I

had however already been working for Marriott in SF before the

surgery and they new what I was doing and supported me 100% so in

that way I was very lucky. They new I was moving to Santa Cruz to be

with .

I think its really hard to say how much time it will take you to

recover as I said for me it was a full month for others just a

couple of weeks.

I no you and with your personality and skills you will always

have job offers. I'm sure what ever you decide you will be fine.

Again its so nice to see you posting. We should do lunch soon

Shell

>

> Hello Everyone !!

> I was laid off from my job on September 17! The good thing is, I

> hated the job, the even better thing is, I got a month of

severance

> pay and my Cobra payment to continue Kaiser is only $187.00 a

month.

>

> Now, here's my dilemma. I am scheduled for orientation on 10-12-04

I

> meet with Beth Goodridge on 10-29-04, and then Dr. Stiles on 10-30-

> 04. I have been actively looking for employment since (and a

little

> before) I left my job. However, I'm not sure whether I should hold

> off on finding a job until after my surgery or continue to pursue

> employment and hope that my surgery is far enough down the road

that

> I wont risk taking too much time off from my new job.

>

> I've lost 20 pounds since July and I know it will NOT count

towards

> my 10%. However, when I contacted Dr. Stiles office they assured

me

> that it really all depends on what Dr. Stiles thinks after she

> examines me. She may not ask me to lose any weight, or she may ask

to

> lose another five or ten pounds, or she may ask me to lose the

10%.

> It all depends on what the Dr. Stiles determines. So my pre-op

> requirements may have already been met, or maybe not…

>

> Here are my questions. Your feedback would be greatly appreciated!

>

> 1) If I am NOT employed by October 25 then I will request that

> Dr. Stiles put me on the cancellation list and I will halt looking

> for work completely. My dream, my wish and my hope, is that there

> will be a cancellation sometime in November or December (assuming

I

> meet all the pre-op requirements). That way, I can take my time in

> recovering without worrying about getting back to my new job! Then

> after the first of the year, I can resume my job hunt, fully

> recovered from my surgery, and somewhat acclimated to my new

> lifestyle. Is this a realistic time frame? Is there anyone out

there

> who is or has been on the cancellation list, and how long was your

> wait from the day you requested to be placed on the list to the

> actual surgery date?

>

> 2) If I AM employed by October 25 (I may get an offer next

week,

> cross your fingers for me) then I will leave things as is and not

ask

> to be placed on the cancellation list. However, how soon after you

> meet your surgeon do you actually have the surgery (assuming I

meet

> all the pre-op requirements)? Would it be realistic to think that

I

> might have the surgery in February or March? If so, then I would

be

> established enough in my new job that I can prepare them for my

> taking the time off and the risk of it affecting my status would

be

> somewhat minimal. Do you think February or March is a reasonable

> consideration for when my surgery will occur, or do you think it

may

> be sooner or later?

>

> It's good to know I can come here and ask questions regarding the

> surgery you're all so helpful. I read the postings often and learn

> something new every day regarding all aspects of the procedure;

some

> good, some bad, and some wonderfully fantastic and moving stories

of

> success. Thanks for sharing everyone!

>

> Personally, I can't wait to buy new clothes!

>

> 123 <-- Fashionista

> Pre-Op, SSF, Dr. Stiles

> 276 / 256