Guest guest Posted December 3, 2000 Report Share Posted December 3, 2000 You follow your heart, but I personally feel that this is not the place that dangerous people would go to find victims. There are too many chat rooms, etc where the marks would be easier. Even if they know my name, and the city we live in, so what. They can get that from the phone book. And as the parents of special needs children, we are already as vigilant as we can be. Just my take on this one. Pat in Ohio Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 4, 2000 Report Share Posted December 4, 2000 I am more concerned using my childrens names in public where the real preditors are more likely to be found... someone could follow me home, stalk my house and wait for my children to play outside alone (although they are hardly ever left completely alone) or maybe see them at school, etc., so when in public, I call my kids nicknames like " sweetie " or " buddy " . I also think that the people who hurt people through the internet work in a much different way...they find someone, make friends with them, win over their trust and confidence, then arrange to meet them somewhere... that is when the danger comes into play. I really don't think many, if any, people stalk these kinds of lists, then go to the city where someone says they live, look them up in the phone book (and try to pin point the correct person out of many people with that name) just to " get to their children " . Sometimes one can be a bit too paranoid. Debbie Great Gift Idea! FREE cell phone, internet ready at Lycos Marketplace http://www.inphonic.lycos.com/redirect.asp?referringpage=www.lycosd1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 4, 2000 Report Share Posted December 4, 2000 I am more concerned using my childrens names in public where the real preditors are more likely to be found... someone could follow me home, stalk my house and wait for my children to play outside alone (although they are hardly ever left completely alone) or maybe see them at school, etc., so when in public, I call my kids nicknames like " sweetie " or " buddy " . I also think that the people who hurt people through the internet work in a much different way...they find someone, make friends with them, win over their trust and confidence, then arrange to meet them somewhere... that is when the danger comes into play. I really don't think many, if any, people stalk these kinds of lists, then go to the city where someone says they live, look them up in the phone book (and try to pin point the correct person out of many people with that name) just to " get to their children " . Sometimes one can be a bit too paranoid. Debbie Great Gift Idea! FREE cell phone, internet ready at Lycos Marketplace http://www.inphonic.lycos.com/redirect.asp?referringpage=www.lycosd1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 5, 2000 Report Share Posted December 5, 2000 I think Randee is right about this but I think you will find more of those type of lurks on a list like the Me-list or ABA list. They would have to go through a lot to read very little about due process on this list. Betty in Central California ----- Original Message ----- I think that any > lurkers out there are more likely to use our info to try to strip us of > services rather than to inflict any physical harm on us or our families. I > would be real cautious about giving out any details about your due process > hearings or other info that could tip the hand of a school system. > Take care, > Randee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 5, 2000 Report Share Posted December 5, 2000 This thread reminds me of a funny thing that happened last year. My good friend had met another mom on a list, (both with kids with autism), who happened to live in the same city as my friend's husband's family. My friend and her husband were going to visit his family, and her internet friend wanted to meet her for dinner. Her husband was cautious and didn't like the idea, and my friend was asking me my thoughts about whether or not she should meet this woman. I got a little silly and we decided that this woman was really an ax murderer who pretended to have a child with autism and spent hours a day reading her list-serve just so that she could attack unsuspecting moms. My friend did end up meeting with this mom, and she was very nice, and they now have a nice friendship. But, whenever we talk about her, we always refer to her as my friend's ax-murderer friend. Don't get me wrong, I know that we do have to be cautious, and careful about who we give info to on line. But, I have met many moms that I have met online, and even gone to a few homes. It has been a wonderful experience. I think that any lurkers out there are more likely to use our info to try to strip us of services rather than to inflict any physical harm on us or our families. I would be real cautious about giving out any details about your due process hearings or other info that could tip the hand of a school system. Take care, Randee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 5, 2000 Report Share Posted December 5, 2000 This thread reminds me of a funny thing that happened last year. My good friend had met another mom on a list, (both with kids with autism), who happened to live in the same city as my friend's husband's family. My friend and her husband were going to visit his family, and her internet friend wanted to meet her for dinner. Her husband was cautious and didn't like the idea, and my friend was asking me my thoughts about whether or not she should meet this woman. I got a little silly and we decided that this woman was really an ax murderer who pretended to have a child with autism and spent hours a day reading her list-serve just so that she could attack unsuspecting moms. My friend did end up meeting with this mom, and she was very nice, and they now have a nice friendship. But, whenever we talk about her, we always refer to her as my friend's ax-murderer friend. Don't get me wrong, I know that we do have to be cautious, and careful about who we give info to on line. But, I have met many moms that I have met online, and even gone to a few homes. It has been a wonderful experience. I think that any lurkers out there are more likely to use our info to try to strip us of services rather than to inflict any physical harm on us or our families. I would be real cautious about giving out any details about your due process hearings or other info that could tip the hand of a school system. Take care, Randee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 6, 2000 Report Share Posted December 6, 2000 guys...as many of you may know we Luke and I have been VERY public about his autism. for many reasons. we have been on the cover of major news papers, we have been on the TV and we are of course on email lists... never in ANY of our exposure have I had anything negative happen, and frankly if anything the response from the public has been overwhelmingly supportive. I agree we need to be careful because our children are extremely vulnerable, but I also think someone said it best, I can see lurkers on the ME list because school districts can stand to loose what they think is their precious money, but I do truely doubt some mad scientist or discruntal dietician reads our wacky and wonderful list .... and even if they did find my house, if I pegged them with one of my wonderful muffins it would be like shooting them with a 24.... I do understand why some people don't want people to know about their children for reasons of discrimination, I have always believed that until we stand up and show our kids and say look at what this kid has done, nothing scarey about him, the stigma will remain. But that was just our road. norrah who wishes she could forget where she lives so she could stop paying the rent Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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