Guest guest Posted September 2, 2004 Report Share Posted September 2, 2004 Deb, I had to chuckle when I read your post, because I, too, had to work on social skills many times. LOL. In your situation, what makes you point to this starting about 4 years ago? What changes occured in your life 4 years ago? Who is telling you that you have no social skills? etc. Janie > > Someone posted not too long ago about not having a filter on what she says. I read it and just went on but I have the samething. I am told I have no social skills anymore. I just blurt out whatever I am thinking without filtering it first. This has been going on for about 4 years before that I was fine. Is there some connection to thyroid or adrenal problems and this plain speaking? > > Deb > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2004 Report Share Posted September 2, 2004 Deb, I had to chuckle when I read your post, because I, too, had to work on social skills many times. LOL. In your situation, what makes you point to this starting about 4 years ago? What changes occured in your life 4 years ago? Who is telling you that you have no social skills? etc. Janie > > Someone posted not too long ago about not having a filter on what she says. I read it and just went on but I have the samething. I am told I have no social skills anymore. I just blurt out whatever I am thinking without filtering it first. This has been going on for about 4 years before that I was fine. Is there some connection to thyroid or adrenal problems and this plain speaking? > > Deb > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2004 Report Share Posted September 2, 2004 Deb, I had to chuckle when I read your post, because I, too, had to work on social skills many times. LOL. In your situation, what makes you point to this starting about 4 years ago? What changes occured in your life 4 years ago? Who is telling you that you have no social skills? etc. Janie > > Someone posted not too long ago about not having a filter on what she says. I read it and just went on but I have the samething. I am told I have no social skills anymore. I just blurt out whatever I am thinking without filtering it first. This has been going on for about 4 years before that I was fine. Is there some connection to thyroid or adrenal problems and this plain speaking? > > Deb > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2004 Report Share Posted September 2, 2004 I'm sure it must be connected somehow. I have always been plain speaking but since I first became ill so many people have used the phrase " you don't sit on the fence, do you? " At the same time I also became aware that people who don't know me (like shop assistants) started treating me differently, they would act as though I was angry and they were trying to placate me. I wasn't angry at all and my mind was probably elsewhere - perhaps they mistook my vacant look for something else <g> I had also just started a new job and the people there thought that I was very outspoken. In this situation I think I just felt that I had to stick up for myself more. I had a very heavy workload so when people tried to offload something on to me that wasn't my responsibilty I protested loudly. The old former me would probably have said nothing but would have still resented it. It didn't help when we got a new manager who wasn't even computer literate and constantly picked my brain and then took all the credit. I was always cranky with him and he knew it! I eventually realised that I was never going to get better with that amount of stress (I used to come home crying most nights) so after much consideration I quit and now I am completely stress free. Lynda (in the UK) Plain Speaking To All: Someone posted not too long ago about not having a filter on what she says. I read it and just went on but I have the samething. I am told I have no social skills anymore. I just blurt out whatever I am thinking without filtering it first. This has been going on for about 4 years before that I was fine. Is there some connection to thyroid or adrenal problems and this plain speaking? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2004 Report Share Posted September 2, 2004 I'm sure it must be connected somehow. I have always been plain speaking but since I first became ill so many people have used the phrase " you don't sit on the fence, do you? " At the same time I also became aware that people who don't know me (like shop assistants) started treating me differently, they would act as though I was angry and they were trying to placate me. I wasn't angry at all and my mind was probably elsewhere - perhaps they mistook my vacant look for something else <g> I had also just started a new job and the people there thought that I was very outspoken. In this situation I think I just felt that I had to stick up for myself more. I had a very heavy workload so when people tried to offload something on to me that wasn't my responsibilty I protested loudly. The old former me would probably have said nothing but would have still resented it. It didn't help when we got a new manager who wasn't even computer literate and constantly picked my brain and then took all the credit. I was always cranky with him and he knew it! I eventually realised that I was never going to get better with that amount of stress (I used to come home crying most nights) so after much consideration I quit and now I am completely stress free. Lynda (in the UK) Plain Speaking To All: Someone posted not too long ago about not having a filter on what she says. I read it and just went on but I have the samething. I am told I have no social skills anymore. I just blurt out whatever I am thinking without filtering it first. This has been going on for about 4 years before that I was fine. Is there some connection to thyroid or adrenal problems and this plain speaking? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2004 Report Share Posted September 2, 2004 Your responce yo your neighbor seems ok in my book. I am a very blunt person also, and I say if you don't want an answer to your question, don't ask. Menopause has only added to my " plain speaking " Just my humble opinion lol Debi -- In NaturalThyroidHormones , " Deborah son " <mdstephenson@v...> wrote: > Well, I am a psychotherapist and I know I use to have social skills and finesse or I wouldn't have been able to stay in private practice or be selected to run major programs in hospitals. My sister-in-law tells me I have no social skills left and she is also a psychotherapist. > > Well, I guess I never thought much about when it started or why til whoever it was that posted posted that comment. I haven't worked in 11 years and just thought it was from that. But 4 years ago my TSH was 3.94, in the normal range, so I never thought anything about it nor did my doctor. But I was also becoming more reclusive, unable to deal with situations, not as independent and outgoing as I once was. But would just say whatever came to my mind - no filter. Heaven forbid you ask my opinion on anything. > > Well, my next door neighbor made the mistake of doing just that. I will try to be brief. She was taking an psy. course on marriage and was afraid that her marriage was not doing well according to what she was learning in the course. She and her husband have been married for 26 years. So I asked her if she was running around on her husband or if he was running around on her. She very politely answered me no on both counts. I said well would you marry him again and she said yes. I said do you think he would marry you again and she said yes she thought so. I said well then I don't see any problems!!!! Everyone has their own personality and you are going to drive each other crazy at times but that is pretty normal, you just have to allow for that. When we got back into our house my husband said I can't believe you asked her if she was sleeping around. We had just moved into our house two months before. So that's what I mean. I also tend the cuss more, but that may really be just me. Grew up with that language. > > Deb > Re: Plain Speaking > > > Deb, I had to chuckle when I read your post, because I, too, had to > work on social skills many times. LOL. In your situation, what makes > you point to this starting about 4 years ago? What changes occured > in your life 4 years ago? Who is telling you that you have no > social skills? etc. Janie > > > > > Someone posted not too long ago about not having a filter on what > she says. I read it and just went on but I have the samething. I > am told I have no social skills anymore. I just blurt out whatever > I am thinking without filtering it first. This has been going on > for about 4 years before that I was fine. Is there some connection > to thyroid or adrenal problems and this plain speaking? > > > > Deb > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2004 Report Share Posted September 2, 2004 Your responce yo your neighbor seems ok in my book. I am a very blunt person also, and I say if you don't want an answer to your question, don't ask. Menopause has only added to my " plain speaking " Just my humble opinion lol Debi -- In NaturalThyroidHormones , " Deborah son " <mdstephenson@v...> wrote: > Well, I am a psychotherapist and I know I use to have social skills and finesse or I wouldn't have been able to stay in private practice or be selected to run major programs in hospitals. My sister-in-law tells me I have no social skills left and she is also a psychotherapist. > > Well, I guess I never thought much about when it started or why til whoever it was that posted posted that comment. I haven't worked in 11 years and just thought it was from that. But 4 years ago my TSH was 3.94, in the normal range, so I never thought anything about it nor did my doctor. But I was also becoming more reclusive, unable to deal with situations, not as independent and outgoing as I once was. But would just say whatever came to my mind - no filter. Heaven forbid you ask my opinion on anything. > > Well, my next door neighbor made the mistake of doing just that. I will try to be brief. She was taking an psy. course on marriage and was afraid that her marriage was not doing well according to what she was learning in the course. She and her husband have been married for 26 years. So I asked her if she was running around on her husband or if he was running around on her. She very politely answered me no on both counts. I said well would you marry him again and she said yes. I said do you think he would marry you again and she said yes she thought so. I said well then I don't see any problems!!!! Everyone has their own personality and you are going to drive each other crazy at times but that is pretty normal, you just have to allow for that. When we got back into our house my husband said I can't believe you asked her if she was sleeping around. We had just moved into our house two months before. So that's what I mean. I also tend the cuss more, but that may really be just me. Grew up with that language. > > Deb > Re: Plain Speaking > > > Deb, I had to chuckle when I read your post, because I, too, had to > work on social skills many times. LOL. In your situation, what makes > you point to this starting about 4 years ago? What changes occured > in your life 4 years ago? Who is telling you that you have no > social skills? etc. Janie > > > > > Someone posted not too long ago about not having a filter on what > she says. I read it and just went on but I have the samething. I > am told I have no social skills anymore. I just blurt out whatever > I am thinking without filtering it first. This has been going on > for about 4 years before that I was fine. Is there some connection > to thyroid or adrenal problems and this plain speaking? > > > > Deb > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2004 Report Share Posted September 2, 2004 Your responce yo your neighbor seems ok in my book. I am a very blunt person also, and I say if you don't want an answer to your question, don't ask. Menopause has only added to my " plain speaking " Just my humble opinion lol Debi -- In NaturalThyroidHormones , " Deborah son " <mdstephenson@v...> wrote: > Well, I am a psychotherapist and I know I use to have social skills and finesse or I wouldn't have been able to stay in private practice or be selected to run major programs in hospitals. My sister-in-law tells me I have no social skills left and she is also a psychotherapist. > > Well, I guess I never thought much about when it started or why til whoever it was that posted posted that comment. I haven't worked in 11 years and just thought it was from that. But 4 years ago my TSH was 3.94, in the normal range, so I never thought anything about it nor did my doctor. But I was also becoming more reclusive, unable to deal with situations, not as independent and outgoing as I once was. But would just say whatever came to my mind - no filter. Heaven forbid you ask my opinion on anything. > > Well, my next door neighbor made the mistake of doing just that. I will try to be brief. She was taking an psy. course on marriage and was afraid that her marriage was not doing well according to what she was learning in the course. She and her husband have been married for 26 years. So I asked her if she was running around on her husband or if he was running around on her. She very politely answered me no on both counts. I said well would you marry him again and she said yes. I said do you think he would marry you again and she said yes she thought so. I said well then I don't see any problems!!!! Everyone has their own personality and you are going to drive each other crazy at times but that is pretty normal, you just have to allow for that. When we got back into our house my husband said I can't believe you asked her if she was sleeping around. We had just moved into our house two months before. So that's what I mean. I also tend the cuss more, but that may really be just me. Grew up with that language. > > Deb > Re: Plain Speaking > > > Deb, I had to chuckle when I read your post, because I, too, had to > work on social skills many times. LOL. In your situation, what makes > you point to this starting about 4 years ago? What changes occured > in your life 4 years ago? Who is telling you that you have no > social skills? etc. Janie > > > > > Someone posted not too long ago about not having a filter on what > she says. I read it and just went on but I have the samething. I > am told I have no social skills anymore. I just blurt out whatever > I am thinking without filtering it first. This has been going on > for about 4 years before that I was fine. Is there some connection > to thyroid or adrenal problems and this plain speaking? > > > > Deb > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2004 Report Share Posted September 2, 2004 Hmmm. As compared to 4 years ago, and beyond, are you feeling a WHOLE lot better thanks to Armour?? i.e Are you feeling so much better that you are blurting things out due to the new energy and confidence?? Janie , " Deborah son " <mdstephenson@v...> wrote: > Well, I am a psychotherapist and I know I use to have social skills and finesse or I wouldn't have been able to stay in private practice or be selected to run major programs in hospitals. My sister-in-law tells me I have no social skills left and she is also a psychotherapist. > > Well, I guess I never thought much about when it started or why til whoever it was that posted posted that comment. I haven't worked in 11 years and just thought it was from that. But 4 years ago my TSH was 3.94, in the normal range, so I never thought anything about it nor did my doctor. But I was also becoming more reclusive, unable to deal with situations, not as independent and outgoing as I once was. But would just say whatever came to my mind - no filter. Heaven forbid you ask my opinion on anything. > > Well, my next door neighbor made the mistake of doing just that. I will try to be brief. She was taking an psy. course on marriage and was afraid that her marriage was not doing well according to what she was learning in the course. She and her husband have been married for 26 years. So I asked her if she was running around on her husband or if he was running around on her. She very politely answered me no on both counts. I said well would you marry him again and she said yes. I said do you think he would marry you again and she said yes she thought so. I said well then I don't see any problems!!!! Everyone has their own personality and you are going to drive each other crazy at times but that is pretty normal, you just have to allow for that. When we got back into our house my husband said I can't believe you asked her if she was sleeping around. We had just moved into our house two months before. So that's what I mean. I also tend the cuss more, but that may really be just me. Grew up with that language. > > Deb > Re: Plain Speaking > > > Deb, I had to chuckle when I read your post, because I, too, had to > work on social skills many times. LOL. In your situation, what makes > you point to this starting about 4 years ago? What changes occured > in your life 4 years ago? Who is telling you that you have no > social skills? etc. Janie > > > > > Someone posted not too long ago about not having a filter on what > she says. I read it and just went on but I have the samething. I > am told I have no social skills anymore. I just blurt out whatever > I am thinking without filtering it first. This has been going on > for about 4 years before that I was fine. Is there some connection > to thyroid or adrenal problems and this plain speaking? > > > > Deb > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2004 Report Share Posted September 2, 2004 You know Debbie, if it is one thing I have learned in life, it is that intelligence comes in different packages. You make up that table and be proud of Kate for graduating:) That in itself is a great accomplishment. Some so called " smart " kids never even reach that goal, unfortunately. So you get together those family pictures and you tell your daughters story. I have a nephew that has always struggled with learning disabilities, and will probably live at home the rest of my sisters life. He now has a full time job, a car, and is fairly independant. You just remember that there is light at the end of every tunnel. And while your at it don't forget to pat yourself on the back, mom, great job! Now go get a new haircut and enjoy your daughters day:) Debi > Me too! My daughter is graduating from high school this year and I am > already dreading the whole thing. We homeschool so our graduating > classes are small so everybody sets up a table for their child. I so > dread decorating one little table. We have to do senior portraits and > gather pictures from her life. Most graduates have sports and hobby > pictures. Kate was never good at sports, piano or anything else she > tried. I feel it will be like showcasing her failures. We also have to > compose a little diddy about all her accomplishments and what a > wonderful daughter she is and how we know she''ll go far in life. When > the reality is that she's struggled all her life to get anything > accomplished. She is not smart and will never make it to college and it > is very likely she will be dependent on us the rest of our lives. > It's not that I am disapointed in her or that I don't love her. It's > just I hate being put in these situations where she gets compared. > Kate, however is so looking forward to it. She relishes the attention. > I just want to crawl in a hole! > Gee, now I've really depressed myself. > Debbie K. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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