Guest guest Posted June 21, 2006 Report Share Posted June 21, 2006 , Thanks for sharing your response to chemopause. I'm having a lot of trouble with the whole sex after mastectomy issue so it's good to hear different women's experiences. Being single, my issues have more to do with body image (mastectomy w/o reconstruction) and even getting the ball rolling in that department...anybody else have any thoughts on the subject? --- wrote: > > I appreciate all the women on this listserv who have > been there, done > that, and share their experience and encouragement. > For some reason many > of us (me included), need prodding from time to time > to call our nurse > or onc. about pain and discomfort, till someone on > this listserv, says, > " Call your doctor! " I find it's easier to tell that > to others than to > myself :-) Maybe I just don't want to hear any more > bad news. > > We had our thread a while back about sex after > chemo. Well, after chemo > I wasn't that into it. I found it painful, even with > the Astroglide that > someone mentioned. Finally decided that it doesn't > have to be this way, > just because I'm in chemopause. Well it turns out > menopause dries you > out because of the lack of estrogen, and also causes > muscles to weaken > 'down there'. I have a prolapsed uretha. They're > checking with my doctor > about taking topical estrogen, which I may be able > to do since I'm er/pr > negative. > > Anyway, the moral of the story is, talk to your > doctor if you're in pain > or discomfort. They won't be able to help you unless > you tell them > what's going on. > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2006 Report Share Posted June 21, 2006 , Thanks for sharing your response to chemopause. I'm having a lot of trouble with the whole sex after mastectomy issue so it's good to hear different women's experiences. Being single, my issues have more to do with body image (mastectomy w/o reconstruction) and even getting the ball rolling in that department...anybody else have any thoughts on the subject? --- wrote: > > I appreciate all the women on this listserv who have > been there, done > that, and share their experience and encouragement. > For some reason many > of us (me included), need prodding from time to time > to call our nurse > or onc. about pain and discomfort, till someone on > this listserv, says, > " Call your doctor! " I find it's easier to tell that > to others than to > myself :-) Maybe I just don't want to hear any more > bad news. > > We had our thread a while back about sex after > chemo. Well, after chemo > I wasn't that into it. I found it painful, even with > the Astroglide that > someone mentioned. Finally decided that it doesn't > have to be this way, > just because I'm in chemopause. Well it turns out > menopause dries you > out because of the lack of estrogen, and also causes > muscles to weaken > 'down there'. I have a prolapsed uretha. They're > checking with my doctor > about taking topical estrogen, which I may be able > to do since I'm er/pr > negative. > > Anyway, the moral of the story is, talk to your > doctor if you're in pain > or discomfort. They won't be able to help you unless > you tell them > what's going on. > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2006 Report Share Posted June 21, 2006 , I have never had any problems in the sex dept. Maybe its because my husband says he didn't marry me for my breasts but for whats inside. So that makes me more at ease. In my opinion if a husband/boyfriend doesn't stand by you then I would question if they REALLY loved me or not. Its not the breast that makes us who we are. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com CinDWood Crafts http://www.cindwoodcrafts.com Re: isn't chemopause fun , Thanks for sharing your response to chemopause. I'm having a lot of trouble with the whole sex after mastectomy issue so it's good to hear different women's experiences. Being single, my issues have more to do with body image (mastectomy w/o reconstruction) and even getting the ball rolling in that department...anybody else have any thoughts on the subject? --- wrote: > > I appreciate all the women on this listserv who have > been there, done > that, and share their experience and encouragement. > For some reason many > of us (me included), need prodding from time to time > to call our nurse > or onc. about pain and discomfort, till someone on > this listserv, says, > " Call your doctor! " I find it's easier to tell that > to others than to > myself :-) Maybe I just don't want to hear any more > bad news. > > We had our thread a while back about sex after > chemo. Well, after chemo > I wasn't that into it. I found it painful, even with > the Astroglide that > someone mentioned. Finally decided that it doesn't > have to be this way, > just because I'm in chemopause. Well it turns out > menopause dries you > out because of the lack of estrogen, and also causes > muscles to weaken > 'down there'. I have a prolapsed uretha. They're > checking with my doctor > about taking topical estrogen, which I may be able > to do since I'm er/pr > negative. > > Anyway, the moral of the story is, talk to your > doctor if you're in pain > or discomfort. They won't be able to help you unless > you tell them > what's going on. > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2006 Report Share Posted June 21, 2006 , I have never had any problems in the sex dept. Maybe its because my husband says he didn't marry me for my breasts but for whats inside. So that makes me more at ease. In my opinion if a husband/boyfriend doesn't stand by you then I would question if they REALLY loved me or not. Its not the breast that makes us who we are. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com CinDWood Crafts http://www.cindwoodcrafts.com Re: isn't chemopause fun , Thanks for sharing your response to chemopause. I'm having a lot of trouble with the whole sex after mastectomy issue so it's good to hear different women's experiences. Being single, my issues have more to do with body image (mastectomy w/o reconstruction) and even getting the ball rolling in that department...anybody else have any thoughts on the subject? --- wrote: > > I appreciate all the women on this listserv who have > been there, done > that, and share their experience and encouragement. > For some reason many > of us (me included), need prodding from time to time > to call our nurse > or onc. about pain and discomfort, till someone on > this listserv, says, > " Call your doctor! " I find it's easier to tell that > to others than to > myself :-) Maybe I just don't want to hear any more > bad news. > > We had our thread a while back about sex after > chemo. Well, after chemo > I wasn't that into it. I found it painful, even with > the Astroglide that > someone mentioned. Finally decided that it doesn't > have to be this way, > just because I'm in chemopause. Well it turns out > menopause dries you > out because of the lack of estrogen, and also causes > muscles to weaken > 'down there'. I have a prolapsed uretha. They're > checking with my doctor > about taking topical estrogen, which I may be able > to do since I'm er/pr > negative. > > Anyway, the moral of the story is, talk to your > doctor if you're in pain > or discomfort. They won't be able to help you unless > you tell them > what's going on. > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2006 Report Share Posted June 21, 2006 I went through a divorce after my masectomy and met a very suportive loving man on the Internet. If the man is too shallow to look beyond your breast than you don't need him in your life. -- Re: isn't chemopause fun , Thanks for sharing your response to chemopause. I'm having a lot of trouble with the whole sex after mastectomy issue so it's good to hear different women's experiences. Being single, my issues have more to do with body image (mastectomy w/o reconstruction) and even getting the ball rolling in that department...anybody else have any thoughts on the subject? --- wrote: > > I appreciate all the women on this listserv who have > been there, done > that, and share their experience and encouragement. > For some reason many > of us (me included), need prodding from time to time > to call our nurse > or onc. about pain and discomfort, till someone on > this listserv, says, > " Call your doctor! " I find it's easier to tell that > to others than to > myself :-) Maybe I just don't want to hear any more > bad news. > > We had our thread a while back about sex after > chemo. Well, after chemo > I wasn't that into it. I found it painful, even with > the Astroglide that > someone mentioned. Finally decided that it doesn't > have to be this way, > just because I'm in chemopause. Well it turns out > menopause dries you > out because of the lack of estrogen, and also causes > muscles to weaken > 'down there'. I have a prolapsed uretha. They're > checking with my doctor > about taking topical estrogen, which I may be able > to do since I'm er/pr > negative. > > Anyway, the moral of the story is, talk to your > doctor if you're in pain > or discomfort. They won't be able to help you unless > you tell them > what's going on. > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2006 Report Share Posted June 21, 2006 I went through a divorce after my masectomy and met a very suportive loving man on the Internet. If the man is too shallow to look beyond your breast than you don't need him in your life. -- Re: isn't chemopause fun , Thanks for sharing your response to chemopause. I'm having a lot of trouble with the whole sex after mastectomy issue so it's good to hear different women's experiences. Being single, my issues have more to do with body image (mastectomy w/o reconstruction) and even getting the ball rolling in that department...anybody else have any thoughts on the subject? --- wrote: > > I appreciate all the women on this listserv who have > been there, done > that, and share their experience and encouragement. > For some reason many > of us (me included), need prodding from time to time > to call our nurse > or onc. about pain and discomfort, till someone on > this listserv, says, > " Call your doctor! " I find it's easier to tell that > to others than to > myself :-) Maybe I just don't want to hear any more > bad news. > > We had our thread a while back about sex after > chemo. Well, after chemo > I wasn't that into it. I found it painful, even with > the Astroglide that > someone mentioned. Finally decided that it doesn't > have to be this way, > just because I'm in chemopause. Well it turns out > menopause dries you > out because of the lack of estrogen, and also causes > muscles to weaken > 'down there'. I have a prolapsed uretha. They're > checking with my doctor > about taking topical estrogen, which I may be able > to do since I'm er/pr > negative. > > Anyway, the moral of the story is, talk to your > doctor if you're in pain > or discomfort. They won't be able to help you unless > you tell them > what's going on. > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2006 Report Share Posted June 22, 2006 Carol, Thanks for your response. I guess I feel like the problem is more on my end...just getting to the point of being intimate is so intimidating to me. Hoping I get over this hurdle soon! Just out of curiosity (and maybe you've already addressed this in some earlier post, if so, sorry!) are you on tamoxifen? Because I think its side effects are not helping my situation any. -- --- Carol wrote: > > I went through a divorce after my masectomy and met > a very suportive loving > man on the Internet. If the man is too shallow to > look beyond your breast > than you don't need him in your life. > > > > > -- Re: isn't chemopause fun > > , > Thanks for sharing your response to chemopause. I'm > having a lot of trouble with the whole sex after > mastectomy issue so it's good to hear different > women's experiences. Being single, my issues have > more > to do with body image (mastectomy w/o > reconstruction) > and even getting the ball rolling in that > department...anybody else have any thoughts on the > subject? > > --- wrote: > > > > > I appreciate all the women on this listserv who > have > > been there, done > > that, and share their experience and > encouragement. > > For some reason many > > of us (me included), need prodding from time to > time > > to call our nurse > > or onc. about pain and discomfort, till someone on > > this listserv, says, > > " Call your doctor! " I find it's easier to tell > that > > to others than to > > myself :-) Maybe I just don't want to hear any > more > > bad news. > > > > We had our thread a while back about sex after > > chemo. Well, after chemo > > I wasn't that into it. I found it painful, even > with > > the Astroglide that > > someone mentioned. Finally decided that it doesn't > > have to be this way, > > just because I'm in chemopause. Well it turns out > > menopause dries you > > out because of the lack of estrogen, and also > causes > > muscles to weaken > > 'down there'. I have a prolapsed uretha. They're > > checking with my doctor > > about taking topical estrogen, which I may be able > > to do since I'm er/pr > > negative. > > > > Anyway, the moral of the story is, talk to your > > doctor if you're in pain > > or discomfort. They won't be able to help you > unless > > you tell them > > what's going on. > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2006 Report Share Posted June 22, 2006 , I am currently(again) on chemo pills, xeloda. But with all the crap they have given me over a 12 yr period, it has left me feeling like an old lady(im 45). I have no desire what so ever for sex. But I do try very hard for my husbands sake and once I get going its ok. I have found since chemopause that I am very dry so we do use lubricant. We try to make for-play inventive , massage ect to keep that spark alive. Hope this helps. -- Re: isn't chemopause fun > > , > Thanks for sharing your response to chemopause. I'm > having a lot of trouble with the whole sex after > mastectomy issue so it's good to hear different > women's experiences. Being single, my issues have > more > to do with body image (mastectomy w/o > reconstruction) > and even getting the ball rolling in that > department...anybody else have any thoughts on the > subject? > > --- wrote: > > > > > I appreciate all the women on this listserv who > have > > been there, done > > that, and share their experience and > encouragement. > > For some reason many > > of us (me included), need prodding from time to > time > > to call our nurse > > or onc. about pain and discomfort, till someone on > > this listserv, says, > > " Call your doctor! " I find it's easier to tell > that > > to others than to > > myself :-) Maybe I just don't want to hear any > more > > bad news. > > > > We had our thread a while back about sex after > > chemo. Well, after chemo > > I wasn't that into it. I found it painful, even > with > > the Astroglide that > > someone mentioned. Finally decided that it doesn't > > have to be this way, > > just because I'm in chemopause. Well it turns out > > menopause dries you > > out because of the lack of estrogen, and also > causes > > muscles to weaken > > 'down there'. I have a prolapsed uretha. They're > > checking with my doctor > > about taking topical estrogen, which I may be able > > to do since I'm er/pr > > negative. > > > > Anyway, the moral of the story is, talk to your > > doctor if you're in pain > > or discomfort. They won't be able to help you > unless > > you tell them > > what's going on. > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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