Re: Help! Anger out of control.

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In a message dated 8/31/2004 6:17:05 PM Eastern Standard Time,

tigger57ri@... writes:

> I'm so angry I'm shaking. I can't seem to control it. There is nothing I

> wanted more today than to walk out of that office and never go back.

>

> Is this part of the fibro or hypo, or something else... please tell me it

> is, because if not, I've got bigger problems than I thought. I'm very angry,

> depressed and annoyed. Help.

Tigger,

One thing I really noticed in the months before I was diagnosed hypo was that

just about anything could set me off and/or upset me. If the cat whined too

much, I'd yell at her to shut up! And that wasn't like me. I think my

husband was really tippy toeing around me for awhile. But all that is better

now

that my hypo symptoms have mostly resolved.

I remember reading somewhere that thyroid hormone was a " coping " hormone as

important as coping as adrenals I suppose. When our brains/bodies are out of

sync on these hormones...we just can't handle everyday pressures....let alone

something like you were describing. I really think our reaction to things is

very amplified / intensified. Sorta like where something that ordinarily

wouldn't bother us...does. And something that upsets us normally takes much

more

out of us.

What I'm saying is try your very best to let this situation go for now. I

know you're very upset...but try to refocus on something else...and remind

yourself that your body just isn't its usual self...and try being calm. These

things will settle out in time.

Cindi

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In a message dated 8/31/2004 8:40:44 PM Eastern Standard Time, usns@...

writes:

> I am

> also learning NOT, NOT to take the way people behave as a personal

> statement of who I am. Rather, the way they behave is a personal

> statement of who THEY are!!

these are words i need to live by...

cindi

[Guest guest]

Hi Tigger. I'm so sorry to read about your upsets lately. Sounds

very frustrating. And...in fact...I understand. The past few days,

I, too, was filled with anger and depression. SO many bad things had

been happening at my store over the past few weeks that it finally

got me. A few weeks ago, I found out that an employee that I trusted

had been doing and saying TERRIBLE things, and for a long time.

Hearing about it all made me shake uncontrollably. I then was about

to hire a new one, and find out that she'd been stealing at other

stores. I had to confront her, and it wasn't a pretty site. And on

top of a few other stresses, bam. I crashed. For me, I think my

reaction was simply the result of an accumulation of emotional

stress. And maybe...that's the same for you.

In my situation, I have had to figure out better ways to cope with

situations that, right now, I can't change. I'm working on coming

home and RELAXING more---and avoiding doing store work at home! I am

also learning NOT, NOT to take the way people behave as a personal

statement of who I am. Rather, the way they behave is a personal

statement of who THEY are!! LOL.

You have in there, Tigger. It will get better, and I am sure you

will figure out what is best for you to do.

Janie

> I just got home from work and sat here crying for awhile. I even

yelled at the dogs, which I NEVER do.

[Guest guest]

You know Tigger, there really IS a righteous anger, but it should be vented

at the RIGHT person, in a healthy way, of course. If you could afford to do

so, and I know that I probably couldn't afford to do so at this point

(because of finances), then, even risking losing your job, you could say to

this boss exactly what you're saying here, without telling him/her that

you've been shaking, etc.....that " I feel very slighted here. You brought

in a " helper " who's getting paid more than me, for what reason. I've given

my all here, and I don't feel appreciated. It is disrespectful of you to

yell at me " , etc...etc........Of course, you might get met with a firing,

and might not be able to afford it, but if you can afford it, then, who

would want a boss that's so insensitive anyway!? You'll know when it's time

to move on or not.

Help! Anger out of control.

>

> I just got home from work and sat here crying for awhile. I even yelled at

the dogs, which I NEVER do.

>

> The day started out good, but my boss has been such an ass, and started

screaming, that it ruined my whole afternoon. I work my butt off to build up

good relationships with my customers, and he just started screaming because

someone complained about the grass he got... that it was cut thin and looked

bad. I sell sod by the way. Anyway, we have a foreman that is new this year

and has everyone in a bad mood all the time... he is the biggest jerk I've

every met and treats everyone like second class citizens. It seems that my

boss, however, doesn't want to deal with this situation, and if the guy had

done his job right, there wouldn't have been any complaints. Morale is at an

all time low. Well, the owner started screaming at me today that he just

doesn't give a Sh.. about any of it any more.

>

> He made me feel awful and like my job and all the effort I've put in for

the past 10 years is nothing. Oh, did I mention that they brought a " helper "

in for me who gets pain hourly (I'm on salary) and therefore makes more

money than I do.

>

> I'm so angry I'm shaking. I can't seem to control it. There is nothing I

wanted more today than to walk out of that office and never go back.

>

> Is this part of the fibro or hypo, or something else... please tell me it

is, because if not, I've got bigger problems than I thought. I'm very angry,

depressed and annoyed. Help.

> Tigger

[Guest guest]

I think you should be angry. The worst thing an employer can do is

hire someone to be under you and pay them more. He deserves you to

walk out.

Tish

[Guest guest]

I think you should be angry. The worst thing an employer can do is

hire someone to be under you and pay them more. He deserves you to

walk out.

Tish

[Guest guest]

I think you should be angry. The worst thing an employer can do is

hire someone to be under you and pay them more. He deserves you to

walk out.

Tish