Guest guest Posted August 2, 2004 Report Share Posted August 2, 2004 Everyone: Look at the email I got this morning. Looks like Zach is listening, and I have got to give him credit for that. My Dear Gemello, Just want you to know I love you very much eventhough I don't say it very often. I will try to adjust myself to be more responsive to you when you need me. 11 years is not a short period of time, and I certainly don't want to push you away from me. Z. Gemello open rny 06/03/03 reconstruction 05/25/04 -138 lbs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2004 Report Share Posted August 2, 2004 wow,sounds good! What a nice thing to send you > Everyone: > > Look at the email I got this morning. Looks like Zach is listening, > and I have got to give him credit for that. > > > My Dear Gemello, > > Just want you to know I love you very much eventhough > I don't say it very often. I will try to adjust myself > to be more responsive to you when you need me. 11 years > is not a short period of time, and I certainly don't > want to push you away from me. > > Z. > > > Gemello > open rny 06/03/03 > reconstruction 05/25/04 > -138 lbs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2004 Report Share Posted August 2, 2004 wow,sounds good! What a nice thing to send you > Everyone: > > Look at the email I got this morning. Looks like Zach is listening, > and I have got to give him credit for that. > > > My Dear Gemello, > > Just want you to know I love you very much eventhough > I don't say it very often. I will try to adjust myself > to be more responsive to you when you need me. 11 years > is not a short period of time, and I certainly don't > want to push you away from me. > > Z. > > > Gemello > open rny 06/03/03 > reconstruction 05/25/04 > -138 lbs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2004 Report Share Posted August 2, 2004 Gordy, Zach's email to you is really sweet and I think he gets MAJOR points...Think of something you can do for BIG TIME positive reinforcement! ;-O Martha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2004 Report Share Posted August 2, 2004 Martha.... Did you mean to send this to Gemello ? Even if you didn't...I completely agree with your message. Gordy > Gordy, > Zach's email to you is really sweet and I think he gets MAJOR > points...Think of something you can do for BIG TIME positive > reinforcement! > > ;-O > > Martha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2004 Report Share Posted August 2, 2004 -Gemello-I'm so glad things are coming back together for you. Newness and changes are always confusing for us humans, and sometimes we need a little " getting used to it " time. When our bodies change, our self- confidence and outlook can change too because we live in a whole new world, with new attention we never got before. I've told many times that fat as I am now, I'm completely invisible, and often am totally ignored in public places. I think these changes can be very scary to a partner who was used to the " old " (invisible) you, who seemed safe from others' attention and suddenly you're this desirable human being who can be lured away. But beauty is only skin deep and means nothing in the long run. and I have an incredible relationship unlike any I've had before, including my ex(the turkish self-absorbed jock who looked good, but wasn't). and I talk about everything, and we believe we are the ultimate soul-mates. We've been through a lot of disasters together and survived. Physical appearance has never been our focal point. We want to do this WLS together and we'll be going through the changes together, and I hope that it will make us only stronger(and healthier). I know from my standpoint I'll never find another guy like him, and believe me, a new body will not change that. So all you female postops out there just be aware he's not available,and won't be. So give Zach a break, by his email it sounds like he really is just dealing with a little insecurity, not disinterest. Anne -- In gastric-bypass-support-kaiser- patients , " Gemello DiGiovanni " <gemellodigiovanni@y...> wrote: > Everyone: > > Look at the email I got this morning. Looks like Zach is listening, > and I have got to give him credit for that. > > > My Dear Gemello, > > Just want you to know I love you very much eventhough > I don't say it very often. I will try to adjust myself > to be more responsive to you when you need me. 11 years > is not a short period of time, and I certainly don't > want to push you away from me. > > Z. > > > Gemello > open rny 06/03/03 > reconstruction 05/25/04 > -138 lbs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2004 Report Share Posted August 2, 2004 -Gemello-I'm so glad things are coming back together for you. Newness and changes are always confusing for us humans, and sometimes we need a little " getting used to it " time. When our bodies change, our self- confidence and outlook can change too because we live in a whole new world, with new attention we never got before. I've told many times that fat as I am now, I'm completely invisible, and often am totally ignored in public places. I think these changes can be very scary to a partner who was used to the " old " (invisible) you, who seemed safe from others' attention and suddenly you're this desirable human being who can be lured away. But beauty is only skin deep and means nothing in the long run. and I have an incredible relationship unlike any I've had before, including my ex(the turkish self-absorbed jock who looked good, but wasn't). and I talk about everything, and we believe we are the ultimate soul-mates. We've been through a lot of disasters together and survived. Physical appearance has never been our focal point. We want to do this WLS together and we'll be going through the changes together, and I hope that it will make us only stronger(and healthier). I know from my standpoint I'll never find another guy like him, and believe me, a new body will not change that. So all you female postops out there just be aware he's not available,and won't be. So give Zach a break, by his email it sounds like he really is just dealing with a little insecurity, not disinterest. Anne -- In gastric-bypass-support-kaiser- patients , " Gemello DiGiovanni " <gemellodigiovanni@y...> wrote: > Everyone: > > Look at the email I got this morning. Looks like Zach is listening, > and I have got to give him credit for that. > > > My Dear Gemello, > > Just want you to know I love you very much eventhough > I don't say it very often. I will try to adjust myself > to be more responsive to you when you need me. 11 years > is not a short period of time, and I certainly don't > want to push you away from me. > > Z. > > > Gemello > open rny 06/03/03 > reconstruction 05/25/04 > -138 lbs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2004 Report Share Posted August 2, 2004 Anne: You are right, and you really hit on an important point. There is something quite frightening about not being invisible anymore. I too felt very invisible as a larger person. You and are so lucky to have each other. And yes, feeling healthy is such a wonderful part of this journey. Gemello > > Everyone: > > > > Look at the email I got this morning. Looks like Zach is > listening, > > and I have got to give him credit for that. > > > > > > My Dear Gemello, > > > > Just want you to know I love you very much eventhough > > I don't say it very often. I will try to adjust myself > > to be more responsive to you when you need me. 11 years > > is not a short period of time, and I certainly don't > > want to push you away from me. > > > > Z. > > > > > > Gemello > > open rny 06/03/03 > > reconstruction 05/25/04 > > -138 lbs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2004 Report Share Posted August 2, 2004 Anne: You are right, and you really hit on an important point. There is something quite frightening about not being invisible anymore. I too felt very invisible as a larger person. You and are so lucky to have each other. And yes, feeling healthy is such a wonderful part of this journey. Gemello > > Everyone: > > > > Look at the email I got this morning. Looks like Zach is > listening, > > and I have got to give him credit for that. > > > > > > My Dear Gemello, > > > > Just want you to know I love you very much eventhough > > I don't say it very often. I will try to adjust myself > > to be more responsive to you when you need me. 11 years > > is not a short period of time, and I certainly don't > > want to push you away from me. > > > > Z. > > > > > > Gemello > > open rny 06/03/03 > > reconstruction 05/25/04 > > -138 lbs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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