Re: Disability and Hospital Stay

[Guest guest]

Thanks Jeanna for your thoughts and prayers. I'm just very

overwhelmed right now.

I never did say why I was in the hospital for 10 days.

But now I feel comfortable saying it was for severe

depression/anxiety/suicidal. Everything just came to a head on Jan

16th and I wanted to just end it all. I was " rescued " by my very

caring sister-in-law who with the help of my therapist got me into

mental health hospital for a much needed " rest and recoop " so I

could deal with it all. My husband was very angry and didn't want me

to go, but I went anyway. He was still in a stage of denial.

Needless to say, I was very scared at first because I had never

been in that kind of place, but after a day or two everyone was very

nice and supportive , both the patients and staff. It wasn't like I

thought it was gonna be. (I was thinking of " One Flew Over the

Cuckoo's Nest!)

It was a relaxed atmosphere with a lot of group sessions that

were very helpful for learning coping techniques for just about

everything! I actually learned a lot while I was in there.

Especially how to cope with both physical illness and depression.

And it actually made my family " sit up and take notice " that I

actually HAD a illness even though they couldn't see it. (BTW I had

previously showed them all the invisable disabilities book and other

literature, but I don't think it sunk in.) My husband actually

agreed to go to counseling with me now because I really need his

support. (I have been asking him to go for 2 1/2 yrs. with no

success.)

The most important thing I learned is that I have to ask for help

when I need it and not try to HANDLE EVERYTHING like I used to. That

was a big step for me, because I used to be able to work full time ,

run the household, take care of the kids and handle the all the

financial stuff. I have learned I cannot handle everything like I

used to because of my illness and I gotta deal with that.

I am very thankful to my sister in law who stopped me from doing

something very stupid that would only hurt my family in the end.

And I am very thankful for this group who has supported me since the

onset of this awful " SARC " with advice and information.

Right now Im still kinda shaky and fragile and still in pain most

of the time, but I am trying to cope with the new skills that I have

learned. I am actually glad I went in, because they also

reevaluated my meds and made some changes (not the sarc meds, of

course).

Sorry for the rambling, but I needed to talk to somebody about

this, somebody that understands the illness. And of course that is

you guys! (You lucky people!) Thanks for listening . And maybe

this will help someone else someday. Luv, Debbie

-- In Neurosarcoidosis , " Jeanna " <Jeanna@h...>

wrote:

> Debbie, my thoughts and prayers will be with you and I will keep

my fingers

> crossed on the disability. Hopefully it will all go real smooth

and at

> least you won't have that to worry about. The main reason I

needed the

> disability was that once that found out what I had when I worked

at the

> hospital I was more of a liability than they wanted and so the

first time I

> got really sick and couldn't work they didn't need me any more,

basically

> what it was I was a liability on their insurance, and it was

before the

> disability act and so it made it very difficult for me to get

insurance. My

> husband went through the ends and outs so I could get the

Medicare. Of

> course the money that you get for disability does help a lot for

the

> medication even if you have another income since Medicare doesn't

cover

> medications except for the elderly and that is just now

happening. Your

> friend Love ya, Jeanna

>

> -- Re: Disability-back to Jeanna

>

> Thanks Jeanna for the advice. I will follow up on your

suggestions.

> I am just so tired of all of this and the thought of having to

fight

> some more is just overwhelming right now, know what I mean? My

> therapist told me she would help me , she has been through this

> before with other patients, so hopefully she can pick me up once

> again and pass along some strength. I don't know what I would do

> without her. Luv, Debbie

>

> > > Jeri and Toni, my disability fight took me two years, and two

> > hearings. I was awarded my SSD in September this year and my

first

> > lump sum even included my Medicare. Seems the judge took my

> > disability back to the middle of April 2001.

> > >

> > > I had a lawyer from the get go.

> > >

> > > Sharon

> > > Re: Disability-back to Toni

> > >

> > >

> > > Thanks, Toni!

> > >

> > > How long has your fight been so far? Have you ever

considered

> a

> > lawyer?

> > >

> > > Hang in there - I'm thinking about you!

> > >

> > > Love,

> > > Jeri

> > >

> > >

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[Guest guest]

Debbie,

I'm so sorry you had to deal with so much and I understand the feelings of isolation.

I to was hospitalized for depression/suicidal years ago because I couldn't deal any longer and I too had a husband who couldn't see nor would he listen that I needed help nor did he think it was important.

He resented the fact I couldn't work anymore and thus he would have to get off his lazy butt and get a job etc........ and well i'm so glad I took that step and got the help I needed and sweetie I'm so glad you did too.

Actually after the hospitalization for the mental problem it was easier it seemed for me to get my disability approved either that or I was just one of the lucky ones.

I'm here for you sweetie anytime you want or need someone to talk too I can relate to some of the things you are experiencing.

And as always i'm your friend.

Write me privately when you feel like it ok sweetie I hope today finds you feeling you feeling a bit better.

I'm also glad your family has agreed to counseling with you it should make things easier for you.

With great love and compassion,

Jan

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[Guest guest]

Debbie,

I'm so sorry you had to deal with so much and I understand the feelings of isolation.

I to was hospitalized for depression/suicidal years ago because I couldn't deal any longer and I too had a husband who couldn't see nor would he listen that I needed help nor did he think it was important.

He resented the fact I couldn't work anymore and thus he would have to get off his lazy butt and get a job etc........ and well i'm so glad I took that step and got the help I needed and sweetie I'm so glad you did too.

Actually after the hospitalization for the mental problem it was easier it seemed for me to get my disability approved either that or I was just one of the lucky ones.

I'm here for you sweetie anytime you want or need someone to talk too I can relate to some of the things you are experiencing.

And as always i'm your friend.

Write me privately when you feel like it ok sweetie I hope today finds you feeling you feeling a bit better.

I'm also glad your family has agreed to counseling with you it should make things easier for you.

With great love and compassion,

Jan

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