Guest guest Posted January 1, 2000 Report Share Posted January 1, 2000 At 11:42 PM 1/1/00 EST, you wrote: >From: MoonVI@... >Isn't it interesting that when you really have lost a significant amount >of weight (54lbs) people who you used to be the same size as now act differently? Even though I'm pre-op I think I might be able to contribute a little to this one. When people change dramatically - change careers, change lifestyles, change the way they live - even if it's for the better, some people are a little dumbfounded. It tends to come from fear. Their first reaction - even if in their heart they're rooting for you 100% is " change back! " This doesn't mean they aren't happy for you or don't support your progress, it's just a knee jerk reaction - what's going on more deeply for them is something like " this person is going to leave me behind " or " what if there's no room in their 'new' life for me? " Reassure them, subtlely that you still love and care for them and soon enough this goes away and they become the supportive friends and relatives you remember. - - - - - - - - - - - - - - leslie harpold http://hoopla.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2004 Report Share Posted August 30, 2004 It is so sad that obese discrimination is still one of the socially/politically acceptable prejudices. I have had numerous occasions like that and feel so bad that you both had to experience it!! Huggles > Last night a friend and I flew Delta from Salt Lake City to Sacramento after > finishing a conference. I was so excited to fly because I could actually > get the belt on and the tray down. My friend is a bit bigger than me and > needed a seatbelt extension. The flight attendant was so rude. As we were > heading in to land at Sacramento he came over to us and said in a very loud > voice, " do you have your seatbelt on " to my friend. She said no, it didn't > fit and again rather loudly he said, " if you need a belt extension you are > supposed to ask for one. " Then he looked at me and loudly and rudely said, > " is your seatbelt on " and I said yes, it was. But really we were both so > humiliated. My friend had the window seat and I could tell she was trying > not to cry. She is going to have a lap band in October, her insurance won't > approve a GB so she is self-paying for a band. We waited until almost > everyone was off the plane before we got up and got our stuff together. > There was a lady with cerebral palsy who they were kindly helping to walk to > her wheelchair, it was the same man who was so nasty to us. > > Beth in Sacramento Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2004 Report Share Posted August 30, 2004 It is so sad that obese discrimination is still one of the socially/politically acceptable prejudices. I have had numerous occasions like that and feel so bad that you both had to experience it!! Huggles > Last night a friend and I flew Delta from Salt Lake City to Sacramento after > finishing a conference. I was so excited to fly because I could actually > get the belt on and the tray down. My friend is a bit bigger than me and > needed a seatbelt extension. The flight attendant was so rude. As we were > heading in to land at Sacramento he came over to us and said in a very loud > voice, " do you have your seatbelt on " to my friend. She said no, it didn't > fit and again rather loudly he said, " if you need a belt extension you are > supposed to ask for one. " Then he looked at me and loudly and rudely said, > " is your seatbelt on " and I said yes, it was. But really we were both so > humiliated. My friend had the window seat and I could tell she was trying > not to cry. She is going to have a lap band in October, her insurance won't > approve a GB so she is self-paying for a band. We waited until almost > everyone was off the plane before we got up and got our stuff together. > There was a lady with cerebral palsy who they were kindly helping to walk to > her wheelchair, it was the same man who was so nasty to us. > > Beth in Sacramento Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2004 Report Share Posted August 30, 2004 It is so sad that obese discrimination is still one of the socially/politically acceptable prejudices. I have had numerous occasions like that and feel so bad that you both had to experience it!! Huggles > Last night a friend and I flew Delta from Salt Lake City to Sacramento after > finishing a conference. I was so excited to fly because I could actually > get the belt on and the tray down. My friend is a bit bigger than me and > needed a seatbelt extension. The flight attendant was so rude. As we were > heading in to land at Sacramento he came over to us and said in a very loud > voice, " do you have your seatbelt on " to my friend. She said no, it didn't > fit and again rather loudly he said, " if you need a belt extension you are > supposed to ask for one. " Then he looked at me and loudly and rudely said, > " is your seatbelt on " and I said yes, it was. But really we were both so > humiliated. My friend had the window seat and I could tell she was trying > not to cry. She is going to have a lap band in October, her insurance won't > approve a GB so she is self-paying for a band. We waited until almost > everyone was off the plane before we got up and got our stuff together. > There was a lady with cerebral palsy who they were kindly helping to walk to > her wheelchair, it was the same man who was so nasty to us. > > Beth in Sacramento Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2004 Report Share Posted August 30, 2004 Hey Beth, here. Missed you on Saturday. You should most definitely complain to the airline. They are supposed to be about customer service when you are paying your money and NO ONE has the right to talk to you that way. What an insensitive blob!! Even if you don't have his name, they will know who the attendents were based on your flight. If necessary, complain in writing but try calling first and asking for customer service. Then tell them you want to file a complaint about the way you were treated on one of their flights. This man should be written up or receive a verbal reprimand and reminded that he is supposed to be there to make the passengers' flight experience a pleasant one, not humiliate them. in SacramentoBeth Lemons wrote: Last night a friend and I flew Delta from Salt Lake City to Sacramento after finishing a conference. I was so excited to fly because I could actually get the belt on and the tray down. My friend is a bit bigger than me and needed a seatbelt extension. The flight attendant was so rude. As we were heading in to land at Sacramento he came over to us and said in a very loud voice, "do you have your seatbelt on" to my friend. She said no, it didn't fit and again rather loudly he said, "if you need a belt extension you are supposed to ask for one." Then he looked at me and loudly and rudely said, "is your seatbelt on" and I said yes, it was. But really we were both so humiliated. My friend had the window seat and I could tell she was trying not to cry. She is going to have a lap band in October, her insurance won't approve a GB so she is self-paying for a band. We waited until almost everyone was off the plane before we got up and got our stuff together. There was a lady with cerebral palsy who they were kindly helping to walk to her wheelchair, it was the same man who was so nasty to us. Beth in Sacramento Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2004 Report Share Posted August 30, 2004 Isn't that the truth? I work for the government and while we're required to take mandatory sensitivity training and training on cultural differences, obesity is never discussed. Fat jokes are all right but heaven forbid you should make a blond or ethnic joke (not that they're all right either but you get my meaning). Diane Duenas wrote: It is so sad that obese discrimination is still one of the socially/politically acceptable prejudices. I have had numerous occasions like that and feel so bad that you both had to experience it!!Huggles> Last night a friend and I flew Delta from Salt Lake City to Sacramento after> finishing a conference. I was so excited to fly because I could actually> get the belt on and the tray down. My friend is a bit bigger than me and> needed a seatbelt extension. The flight attendant was so rude. As we were> heading in to land at Sacramento he came over to us and said in a very loud> voice, "do you have your seatbelt on" to my friend. She said no, it didn't> fit and again rather loudly he said, "if you need a belt extension you are> supposed to ask for one." Then he looked at me and loudly and rudely said,> "is your seatbelt on" and I said yes, it was. But really we were both so> humiliated. My friend had the window seat and I could tell she was trying> not to cry. She is going to have a lap band in October, her insurance won't> approve a GB so she is self-paying for a band. We waited until almost> everyone was off the plane before we got up and got our stuff together.> There was a lady with cerebral palsy who they were kindly helping to walk to> her wheelchair, it was the same man who was so nasty to us. > > Beth in Sacramento Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2004 Report Share Posted August 30, 2004 Isn't that the truth? I work for the government and while we're required to take mandatory sensitivity training and training on cultural differences, obesity is never discussed. Fat jokes are all right but heaven forbid you should make a blond or ethnic joke (not that they're all right either but you get my meaning). Diane Duenas wrote: It is so sad that obese discrimination is still one of the socially/politically acceptable prejudices. I have had numerous occasions like that and feel so bad that you both had to experience it!!Huggles> Last night a friend and I flew Delta from Salt Lake City to Sacramento after> finishing a conference. I was so excited to fly because I could actually> get the belt on and the tray down. My friend is a bit bigger than me and> needed a seatbelt extension. The flight attendant was so rude. As we were> heading in to land at Sacramento he came over to us and said in a very loud> voice, "do you have your seatbelt on" to my friend. She said no, it didn't> fit and again rather loudly he said, "if you need a belt extension you are> supposed to ask for one." Then he looked at me and loudly and rudely said,> "is your seatbelt on" and I said yes, it was. But really we were both so> humiliated. My friend had the window seat and I could tell she was trying> not to cry. She is going to have a lap band in October, her insurance won't> approve a GB so she is self-paying for a band. We waited until almost> everyone was off the plane before we got up and got our stuff together.> There was a lady with cerebral palsy who they were kindly helping to walk to> her wheelchair, it was the same man who was so nasty to us. > > Beth in Sacramento Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2004 Report Share Posted August 30, 2004 Beth, that totally SUCKS. I had a rude/embarassing experience with a Southwest flight attendant once. I can’t believe some of the horror stories I hear about how badly large people are treated by air personnel. It’s just appalling. I’m really sorry you and your friend had to experience that. - Lesa - attitudes Last night a friend and I flew Delta from Salt Lake City to Sacramento after finishing a conference. I was so excited to fly because I could actually get the belt on and the tray down. My friend is a bit bigger than me and needed a seatbelt extension. The flight attendant was so rude. As we were heading in to land at Sacramento he came over to us and said in a very loud voice, " do you have your seatbelt on " to my friend. She said no, it didn't fit and again rather loudly he said, " if you need a belt extension you are supposed to ask for one. " Then he looked at me and loudly and rudely said, " is your seatbelt on " and I said yes, it was. But really we were both so humiliated. My friend had the window seat and I could tell she was trying not to cry. She is going to have a lap band in October, her insurance won't approve a GB so she is self-paying for a band. We waited until almost everyone was off the plane before we got up and got our stuff together. There was a lady with cerebral palsy who they were kindly helping to walk to her wheelchair, it was the same man who was so nasty to us. Beth in Sacramento Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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