Guest guest Posted June 26, 2006 Report Share Posted June 26, 2006 Hi , It sounds like that person handled the call very badly. I'm sorry you have to wait till Wednesday to get more information. Maybe you can call back tomorrow and get someone else who can explain things better. What test did they do to determine you had cancer? If they just did a needle biopsy they can only tell you what kind (e.g., DCIS or IDC), but they can't tell you the stage until they do a lumpectomy and sentinel node biopsy. I hope you get more information soon so you can figure out a treatment plan. take care, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2006 Report Share Posted June 26, 2006 Hi , I agree with that the phone call was handled badly. Really, that just stinks! More information will be your power. I know the fear you're experiencing having lived it just a few weeks ago. The best advice I received (thank you again nne!) was to call the doctor and ask for something to take the edge off the anxiety during the day and something to help me sleep at night. It was a godsend that helped me through those first few weeks. I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but you will bear the stress of it all. We're all here to help. Keep us updated, Janet B. > > well got the phone call today ...was told over the phone that I do > have breast cancer and 2 different types ...no other imforamtoin as > the person who usally handles the calls was'nt in and won't be untill > wensday...I have no insurance so had no Dr. of my own I had gone in > on the sage program....from what I understand they take care of > everthing from this point on ...so now I am sitting here woundering > what and how far avanced this cancer is the stress is unbearable..... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2006 Report Share Posted June 27, 2006 , Remember that breast cancer is NOT the death sentence it was once thought to be. There are a lot of us living long productive lives. Ask the dr for something for your nerves. I will keep you in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com CinDWood Crafts http://www.cindwoodcrafts.com results are in well got the phone call today ...was told over the phone that I do have breast cancer and 2 different types ...no other imforamtoin as the person who usally handles the calls was'nt in and won't be untill wensday...I have no insurance so had no Dr. of my own I had gone in on the sage program....from what I understand they take care of everthing from this point on ...so now I am sitting here woundering what and how far avanced this cancer is the stress is unbearable..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2006 Report Share Posted June 27, 2006 Goodness , I am going through the same thing here. I went for a biopsy on thursday and got a call monday with the news. I still don't know what stage or anything else. We think that it might have spread. I have a smaller lump in the left breast. They are still running test on. I really don't know what is ahead for me.... My grandmother has breast cancer about 23 yrs ago so I hope I found it early. I know it is hard I am trying to deal with it myself. My husband is a mess all he wants to do is cry. I hate that I am putting my family through this... Good luck and I am here for you... God bless --- nancyt563731956 wrote: > well got the phone call today ...was told over the > phone that I do > have breast cancer and 2 different types ...no other > imforamtoin as > the person who usally handles the calls was'nt in > and won't be untill > wensday...I have no insurance so had no Dr. of my > own I had gone in > on the sage program....from what I understand they > take care of > everthing from this point on ...so now I am sitting > here woundering > what and how far avanced this cancer is the stress > is unbearable..... > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2006 Report Share Posted June 27, 2006 Just remember.. you are not putting your family through this, cancer is. Don't take the blame for something you can't control. Barb Re: results are in Goodness , I am going through the same thing here. I went for a biopsy on thursday and got a call monday with the news. I still don't know what stage or anything else. We think that it might have spread. I have a smaller lump in the left breast. They are still running test on. I really don't know what is ahead for me.... My grandmother has breast cancer about 23 yrs ago so I hope I found it early. I know it is hard I am trying to deal with it myself. My husband is a mess all he wants to do is cry. I hate that I am putting my family through this... Good luck and I am here for you... God bless --- nancyt563731956 wrote: > well got the phone call today ...was told over the > phone that I do > have breast cancer and 2 different types ...no other > imforamtoin as > the person who usally handles the calls was'nt in > and won't be untill > wensday...I have no insurance so had no Dr. of my > own I had gone in > on the sage program....from what I understand they > take care of > everthing from this point on ...so now I am sitting > here woundering > what and how far avanced this cancer is the stress > is unbearable..... > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2006 Report Share Posted June 27, 2006 Oh Barb...how well said in so few words. What a beautiful thing to remember Trisha -- Re: results are in Just remember.. you are not putting your family through this, cancer is. Don t take the blame for something you can't control. Barb Re: results are in Goodness , I am going through the same thing here. I went for a biopsy on thursday and got a call monday with the news. I still don't know what stage or anything else. We think that it might have spread. I have a smaller lump in the left breast. They are still running test on. I really don't know what is ahead for me.... My grandmother has breast cancer about 23 yrs ago so I hope I found it early. I know it is hard I am trying to deal with it myself. My husband is a mess all he wants to do is cry. I hate that I am putting my family through this... Good luck and I am here for you... God bless --- nancyt563731956 wrote: > well got the phone call today ...was told over the > phone that I do > have breast cancer and 2 different types ...no other > imforamtoin as > the person who usally handles the calls was'nt in > and won't be untill > wensday...I have no insurance so had no Dr. of my > own I had gone in > on the sage program....from what I understand they > take care of > everthing from this point on ...so now I am sitting > here woundering > what and how far avanced this cancer is the stress > is unbearable..... > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2006 Report Share Posted June 28, 2006 HI Barb,thank you for the note ....I just got home from the hospitial they had me go in for an m.r.i. my appt.to meet with the suran is next wensday to see what I am going to be doing the cancer is in both of my breasts ......my daughter took me to the hospitial today it is a 45 min. drive one way so it was nice not to be going alone ... hang in thier this is going to be a bumpy ride ....I have been trying to controll my emonitions so I don't scare my kids I have 7 kids the youngest 3 are 9...10...13... the ather 4 are 22..23...24..and 30... so I have alot of support from them ....my husband on the other hand ...is not ,shown and emotion or anything....closed himself off totaly ....even talking about moving out ...so I am glad I have my kids .... Barb Roy wrote: Just remember.. you are not putting your family through this, cancer is. Don't take the blame for something you can't control. Barb Re: results are in Goodness , I am going through the same thing here. I went for a biopsy on thursday and got a call monday with the news. I still don't know what stage or anything else. We think that it might have spread. I have a smaller lump in the left breast. They are still running test on. I really don't know what is ahead for me.... My grandmother has breast cancer about 23 yrs ago so I hope I found it early. I know it is hard I am trying to deal with it myself. My husband is a mess all he wants to do is cry. I hate that I am putting my family through this... Good luck and I am here for you... God bless --- nancyt563731956 wrote: > well got the phone call today ...was told over the > phone that I do > have breast cancer and 2 different types ...no other > imforamtoin as > the person who usally handles the calls was'nt in > and won't be untill > wensday...I have no insurance so had no Dr. of my > own I had gone in > on the sage program....from what I understand they > take care of > everthing from this point on ...so now I am sitting > here woundering > what and how far avanced this cancer is the stress > is unbearable..... > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2006 Report Share Posted June 28, 2006 HI Barb,thank you for the note ....I just got home from the hospitial they had me go in for an m.r.i. my appt.to meet with the suran is next wensday to see what I am going to be doing the cancer is in both of my breasts ......my daughter took me to the hospitial today it is a 45 min. drive one way so it was nice not to be going alone ... hang in thier this is going to be a bumpy ride ....I have been trying to controll my emonitions so I don't scare my kids I have 7 kids the youngest 3 are 9...10...13... the ather 4 are 22..23...24..and 30... so I have alot of support from them ....my husband on the other hand ...is not ,shown and emotion or anything....closed himself off totaly ....even talking about moving out ...so I am glad I have my kids .... Barb Roy wrote: Just remember.. you are not putting your family through this, cancer is. Don't take the blame for something you can't control. Barb Re: results are in Goodness , I am going through the same thing here. I went for a biopsy on thursday and got a call monday with the news. I still don't know what stage or anything else. We think that it might have spread. I have a smaller lump in the left breast. They are still running test on. I really don't know what is ahead for me.... My grandmother has breast cancer about 23 yrs ago so I hope I found it early. I know it is hard I am trying to deal with it myself. My husband is a mess all he wants to do is cry. I hate that I am putting my family through this... Good luck and I am here for you... God bless --- nancyt563731956 wrote: > well got the phone call today ...was told over the > phone that I do > have breast cancer and 2 different types ...no other > imforamtoin as > the person who usally handles the calls was'nt in > and won't be untill > wensday...I have no insurance so had no Dr. of my > own I had gone in > on the sage program....from what I understand they > take care of > everthing from this point on ...so now I am sitting > here woundering > what and how far avanced this cancer is the stress > is unbearable..... > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2006 Report Share Posted June 28, 2006 Lean on your kids, let them help you out. Give hubby a little space, he may come around. If not, worry about you. You'll need all your energy to fight this.... nothing left over for someone who doesn't understand that. I know its hard trying to protect your family from your emotions. I found a good cry in the shower always helped me. I'd have my moments, then pick myself up and get on with the fight. You can handle this.... we all are. Stay connected with this group, they are a great bunch of very strong women. They will carry you when you have a weak moment and pump you up for the fight. I'll keep you in my prayers... Barb Re: results are in Goodness , I am going through the same thing here. I went for a biopsy on thursday and got a call monday with the news. I still don't know what stage or anything else. We think that it might have spread. I have a smaller lump in the left breast. They are still running test on. I really don't know what is ahead for me.... My grandmother has breast cancer about 23 yrs ago so I hope I found it early. I know it is hard I am trying to deal with it myself. My husband is a mess all he wants to do is cry. I hate that I am putting my family through this... Good luck and I am here for you... God bless --- nancyt563731956 wrote: > well got the phone call today ...was told over the > phone that I do > have breast cancer and 2 different types ...no other > imforamtoin as > the person who usally handles the calls was'nt in > and won't be untill > wensday...I have no insurance so had no Dr. of my > own I had gone in > on the sage program....from what I understand they > take care of > everthing from this point on ...so now I am sitting > here woundering > what and how far avanced this cancer is the stress > is unbearable..... > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2006 Report Share Posted June 29, 2006 Hi nancy, I can relate dealing with the husband issue. I was diagnosed in 1994. My then husband would not even look at me let alone deal with my cancer. Needless to say there was a divorce in 1999 because I couldn't stand it anymore. He just totally shut me out like I was contagious. My daughters at time of diagnoses was 9 & 13 so I waited as long as I could because of them. But let me tell you now, I should have never waited as long as I did to get out of there. They both have issues because of this. If only I knew then, what I know now but we all know what they say about hindsight. I tried numerous time to get him to go to counceling with me but he flat out told me I was the one with the problem not him. And after meeting Tony my current husband and getting all kinds of support, mentally and phyically I wonder now why I waited so dam long to get out of a no win situation. If you have a paster or can afford to go to someone to talk to I would do it. It will help you deal with him better. Hugs and prayers from Carol in michigan -- Re: results are in HI Barb,thank you for the note ....I just got home from the hospitial they had me go in for an m.r.i. my appt.to meet with the suran is next wensday to see what I am going to be doing the cancer is in both of my breasts ......my daughter took me to the hospitial today it is a 45 min. drive one way so it was nice not to be going alone ... hang in thier this is going to be a bumpy ride ...I have been trying to controll my emonitions so I don't scare my kids I have 7 kids the youngest 3 are 9...10...13... the ather 4 are 22..23. ..24..and 30... so I have alot of support from them ....my husband on the other hand ...is not ,shown and emotion or anything....closed himself off totaly ....even talking about moving out ...so I am glad I have my kids ... Barb Roy wrote: Just remember.. you are not putting your family through this, cancer is. Don't take the blame for something you can't control. Barb Re: results are in Goodness , I am going through the same thing here. I went for a biopsy on thursday and got a call monday with the news. I still don't know what stage or anything else. We think that it might have spread. I have a smaller lump in the left breast. They are still running test on. I really don't know what is ahead for me.... My grandmother has breast cancer about 23 yrs ago so I hope I found it early. I know it is hard I am trying to deal with it myself. My husband is a mess all he wants to do is cry. I hate that I am putting my family through this... Good luck and I am here for you... God bless --- nancyt563731956 wrote: > well got the phone call today ...was told over the > phone that I do > have breast cancer and 2 different types ...no other > imforamtoin as > the person who usally handles the calls was'nt in > and won't be untill > wensday...I have no insurance so had no Dr. of my > own I had gone in > on the sage program....from what I understand they > take care of > everthing from this point on ...so now I am sitting > here woundering > what and how far avanced this cancer is the stress > is unbearable..... > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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