Guest guest Posted September 18, 2004 Report Share Posted September 18, 2004 Cecilia: We've all been there. Don't beat yourself up. None of us is perfect. I can tell by your post that you have learned an important lesson here. You are AWARE! And you're facing this and talking about it. DON'T GIVE UP. Our old way of " all or nothing " diet mentality would tell us to just throw in the towel and go for the food. You're learning a new skill and perfection is not the goal, improvement is. Getting it right will take lots of practice, patience and repetition. It's hard to make good choices for ourselves when we've been used to simply turning to food. Take a moment and congratulate yourself for the strides you're making. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you can do it. Also commit to that deserving woman that you will fight to do better for her. Also remind her that you will also love her with all her faults because she's got lots of lovable qualities too. She's not a bad person, she just had a bad day. This too will pass, and the NEXT meal, she'll be on track again (no need to wait until next Monday, get back on track NOW). Hope this helps. This is what I did to get myself through the rough patches. You'll make it. Just believe you can. Gemello -145 lbs > I am at the mindful eating stage (the classes that are required) > and the first 3 days of the first week i stayed at three meals and > two planned snacks. On the 4th day my nerves and mood went haywire > and pressure at work seemed endless. I ate more that day, day 5? > well i ate even more at each meal and then snacked more. day 6 > today, funny but not eating too much but eating humble crow. I guess > where I am at is that my old self would go back to class Monday > night with made up paper work. I cant anymore, I have lied and > fooled no one for too long. I will tell the truth. The truth is I > didnt bother trying anything else to releive the stress and axiety > that I used to eat. It was easier to sedate myself with food. This > is a patter with me. So I figure that a lb of food or and extra 2 oz > after surgery will be the same destructive way of not dealing. I > will have to find other ways to release the stress and axiety > besides food especially carbs. Its right there in my face that is > why it is called mindful eating! I have to look at the way I think > and respond or after surgery if I turn to foods that are not going > to keep me healthy (the reason I am doing this) it will not be > living. > I guess I just needed to tell someone and I think that you guys can > help me, especially with the hoops we must jump through kaiser. I > guess it is a good thing because I need the time to come to grips > with myself. > > cecilia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2004 Report Share Posted September 18, 2004 Cecilia: We've all been there. Don't beat yourself up. None of us is perfect. I can tell by your post that you have learned an important lesson here. You are AWARE! And you're facing this and talking about it. DON'T GIVE UP. Our old way of " all or nothing " diet mentality would tell us to just throw in the towel and go for the food. You're learning a new skill and perfection is not the goal, improvement is. Getting it right will take lots of practice, patience and repetition. It's hard to make good choices for ourselves when we've been used to simply turning to food. Take a moment and congratulate yourself for the strides you're making. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you can do it. Also commit to that deserving woman that you will fight to do better for her. Also remind her that you will also love her with all her faults because she's got lots of lovable qualities too. She's not a bad person, she just had a bad day. This too will pass, and the NEXT meal, she'll be on track again (no need to wait until next Monday, get back on track NOW). Hope this helps. This is what I did to get myself through the rough patches. You'll make it. Just believe you can. Gemello -145 lbs > I am at the mindful eating stage (the classes that are required) > and the first 3 days of the first week i stayed at three meals and > two planned snacks. On the 4th day my nerves and mood went haywire > and pressure at work seemed endless. I ate more that day, day 5? > well i ate even more at each meal and then snacked more. day 6 > today, funny but not eating too much but eating humble crow. I guess > where I am at is that my old self would go back to class Monday > night with made up paper work. I cant anymore, I have lied and > fooled no one for too long. I will tell the truth. The truth is I > didnt bother trying anything else to releive the stress and axiety > that I used to eat. It was easier to sedate myself with food. This > is a patter with me. So I figure that a lb of food or and extra 2 oz > after surgery will be the same destructive way of not dealing. I > will have to find other ways to release the stress and axiety > besides food especially carbs. Its right there in my face that is > why it is called mindful eating! I have to look at the way I think > and respond or after surgery if I turn to foods that are not going > to keep me healthy (the reason I am doing this) it will not be > living. > I guess I just needed to tell someone and I think that you guys can > help me, especially with the hoops we must jump through kaiser. I > guess it is a good thing because I need the time to come to grips > with myself. > > cecilia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2004 Report Share Posted September 18, 2004 THANK YOU! YOUR WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT THOUGH BLINDED BY TEARS REALLY HELPED. YOUR RIGHT..ITS ALWAYS BEEN IN THE MORNING OR NEXT MONDAY....ONE LAST BINGE.......I WONT BINGE TONIGHT! I REALLY CAN DO IT...THANK YOU CECILIA > > I am at the mindful eating stage (the classes that are required) > > and the first 3 days of the first week i stayed at three meals and > > two planned snacks. On the 4th day my nerves and mood went haywire > > and pressure at work seemed endless. I ate more that day, day 5? > > well i ate even more at each meal and then snacked more. day 6 > > today, funny but not eating too much but eating humble crow. I > guess > > where I am at is that my old self would go back to class Monday > > night with made up paper work. I cant anymore, I have lied and > > fooled no one for too long. I will tell the truth. The truth is I > > didnt bother trying anything else to releive the stress and axiety > > that I used to eat. It was easier to sedate myself with food. This > > is a patter with me. So I figure that a lb of food or and extra 2 > oz > > after surgery will be the same destructive way of not dealing. I > > will have to find other ways to release the stress and axiety > > besides food especially carbs. Its right there in my face that is > > why it is called mindful eating! I have to look at the way I think > > and respond or after surgery if I turn to foods that are not going > > to keep me healthy (the reason I am doing this) it will not be > > living. > > I guess I just needed to tell someone and I think that you guys can > > help me, especially with the hoops we must jump through kaiser. I > > guess it is a good thing because I need the time to come to grips > > with myself. > > > > cecilia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2004 Report Share Posted September 18, 2004 THANK YOU! YOUR WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT THOUGH BLINDED BY TEARS REALLY HELPED. YOUR RIGHT..ITS ALWAYS BEEN IN THE MORNING OR NEXT MONDAY....ONE LAST BINGE.......I WONT BINGE TONIGHT! I REALLY CAN DO IT...THANK YOU CECILIA > > I am at the mindful eating stage (the classes that are required) > > and the first 3 days of the first week i stayed at three meals and > > two planned snacks. On the 4th day my nerves and mood went haywire > > and pressure at work seemed endless. I ate more that day, day 5? > > well i ate even more at each meal and then snacked more. day 6 > > today, funny but not eating too much but eating humble crow. I > guess > > where I am at is that my old self would go back to class Monday > > night with made up paper work. I cant anymore, I have lied and > > fooled no one for too long. I will tell the truth. The truth is I > > didnt bother trying anything else to releive the stress and axiety > > that I used to eat. It was easier to sedate myself with food. This > > is a patter with me. So I figure that a lb of food or and extra 2 > oz > > after surgery will be the same destructive way of not dealing. I > > will have to find other ways to release the stress and axiety > > besides food especially carbs. Its right there in my face that is > > why it is called mindful eating! I have to look at the way I think > > and respond or after surgery if I turn to foods that are not going > > to keep me healthy (the reason I am doing this) it will not be > > living. > > I guess I just needed to tell someone and I think that you guys can > > help me, especially with the hoops we must jump through kaiser. I > > guess it is a good thing because I need the time to come to grips > > with myself. > > > > cecilia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2004 Report Share Posted September 18, 2004 Cecilia, it seems like you have the right attitude about this. We are not perfect – you do the best you can day by day. If today wasn’t so good, let yourself start out with a clean slate tomorrow and just take each day on its own. Just the fact that you were able to recognize the things noted in your post and the impact that could have post-op is a really good sign. Keep trying, be kind to yourself and you’ll do it!!!! - Lesa - I cant lie anymore I am at the mindful eating stage (the classes that are required) and the first 3 days of the first week i stayed at three meals and two planned snacks. On the 4th day my nerves and mood went haywire and pressure at work seemed endless. I ate more that day, day 5? well i ate even more at each meal and then snacked more. day 6 today, funny but not eating too much but eating humble crow. I guess where I am at is that my old self would go back to class Monday night with made up paper work. I cant anymore, I have lied and fooled no one for too long. I will tell the truth. The truth is I didnt bother trying anything else to releive the stress and axiety that I used to eat. It was easier to sedate myself with food. This is a patter with me. So I figure that a lb of food or and extra 2 oz after surgery will be the same destructive way of not dealing. I will have to find other ways to release the stress and axiety besides food especially carbs. Its right there in my face that is why it is called mindful eating! I have to look at the way I think and respond or after surgery if I turn to foods that are not going to keep me healthy (the reason I am doing this) it will not be living. I guess I just needed to tell someone and I think that you guys can help me, especially with the hoops we must jump through kaiser. I guess it is a good thing because I need the time to come to grips with myself. cecilia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2004 Report Share Posted September 20, 2004 Cecilia, Dont beat yourself up over it! In the beginning its a learning process...baby steps...think of the things that you did do right. Maybe you exercised 2 days this week...where last week you did no exercise. You had some " good eating " days where last week they were all bad eating days. You are going to have times where your eating isnt perfect, but, let it pass, its done, do the next meal right. The changes take time and you'll still have slip ups, they key is to not make the slip up a permanant thing. Congratulations to you for realizing that you need to be honest with yourself...that is a huge acomplishment right there. Hang in there! Shanna > I am at the mindful eating stage (the classes that are required) > and the first 3 days of the first week i stayed at three meals and > two planned snacks. On the 4th day my nerves and mood went haywire > and pressure at work seemed endless. I ate more that day, day 5? > well i ate even more at each meal and then snacked more. day 6 > today, funny but not eating too much but eating humble crow. I guess > where I am at is that my old self would go back to class Monday > night with made up paper work. I cant anymore, I have lied and > fooled no one for too long. I will tell the truth. The truth is I > didnt bother trying anything else to releive the stress and axiety > that I used to eat. It was easier to sedate myself with food. This > is a patter with me. So I figure that a lb of food or and extra 2 oz > after surgery will be the same destructive way of not dealing. I > will have to find other ways to release the stress and axiety > besides food especially carbs. Its right there in my face that is > why it is called mindful eating! I have to look at the way I think > and respond or after surgery if I turn to foods that are not going > to keep me healthy (the reason I am doing this) it will not be > living. > I guess I just needed to tell someone and I think that you guys can > help me, especially with the hoops we must jump through kaiser. I > guess it is a good thing because I need the time to come to grips > with myself. > > cecilia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 21, 2004 Report Share Posted September 21, 2004 Hi Cecilia, I think that you have already achieved a major goal . . . learning that we need to be honest. I love the way you phrased that " I have lied and fooled no one for too long. " Isn't it amazing that we actually thought we were fooling anybody but ourselves? One of the hardest things for me in keeping a food journal was being able to be completely honest - just seeing those indulgences in print made them all too real and made me feel more accountable for them - but, of course, that is what I needed. Somewhere along in this journey, it got real clear for me that I am doing this for me, not to appease or impress anyone else, including the doctors or nurses who see my stats. I hate to admit how slow I was to really incorporate that concept into my thinking. I'm glad that you felt free to tell us - we are here to support you. All the best, Kay in San Leandro open RNY 12/1/03 cecilia wrote: > I am at the mindful eating stage (the classes that are required) > and the first 3 days of the first week i stayed at three meals and > two planned snacks. On the 4th day my nerves and mood went haywire > and pressure at work seemed endless. I ate more that day, day 5? > well i ate even more at each meal and then snacked more. day 6 > today, funny but not eating too much but eating humble crow. I guess > where I am at is that my old self would go back to class Monday > night with made up paper work. I cant anymore, I have lied and > fooled no one for too long. I will tell the truth. The truth is I > didnt bother trying anything else to releive the stress and axiety > that I used to eat. It was easier to sedate myself with food. This > is a patter with me. So I figure that a lb of food or and extra 2 oz > after surgery will be the same destructive way of not dealing. I > will have to find other ways to release the stress and axiety > besides food especially carbs. Its right there in my face that is > why it is called mindful eating! I have to look at the way I think > and respond or after surgery if I turn to foods that are not going > to keep me healthy (the reason I am doing this) it will not be > living. > I guess I just needed to tell someone and I think that you guys can > help me, especially with the hoops we must jump through kaiser. I > guess it is a good thing because I need the time to come to grips > with myself. > > cecilia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 21, 2004 Report Share Posted September 21, 2004 Hi Cecilia, I think that you have already achieved a major goal . . . learning that we need to be honest. I love the way you phrased that " I have lied and fooled no one for too long. " Isn't it amazing that we actually thought we were fooling anybody but ourselves? One of the hardest things for me in keeping a food journal was being able to be completely honest - just seeing those indulgences in print made them all too real and made me feel more accountable for them - but, of course, that is what I needed. Somewhere along in this journey, it got real clear for me that I am doing this for me, not to appease or impress anyone else, including the doctors or nurses who see my stats. I hate to admit how slow I was to really incorporate that concept into my thinking. I'm glad that you felt free to tell us - we are here to support you. All the best, Kay in San Leandro open RNY 12/1/03 cecilia wrote: > I am at the mindful eating stage (the classes that are required) > and the first 3 days of the first week i stayed at three meals and > two planned snacks. On the 4th day my nerves and mood went haywire > and pressure at work seemed endless. I ate more that day, day 5? > well i ate even more at each meal and then snacked more. day 6 > today, funny but not eating too much but eating humble crow. I guess > where I am at is that my old self would go back to class Monday > night with made up paper work. I cant anymore, I have lied and > fooled no one for too long. I will tell the truth. The truth is I > didnt bother trying anything else to releive the stress and axiety > that I used to eat. It was easier to sedate myself with food. This > is a patter with me. So I figure that a lb of food or and extra 2 oz > after surgery will be the same destructive way of not dealing. I > will have to find other ways to release the stress and axiety > besides food especially carbs. Its right there in my face that is > why it is called mindful eating! I have to look at the way I think > and respond or after surgery if I turn to foods that are not going > to keep me healthy (the reason I am doing this) it will not be > living. > I guess I just needed to tell someone and I think that you guys can > help me, especially with the hoops we must jump through kaiser. I > guess it is a good thing because I need the time to come to grips > with myself. > > cecilia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 21, 2004 Report Share Posted September 21, 2004 Hi Cecilia, I think that you have already achieved a major goal . . . learning that we need to be honest. I love the way you phrased that " I have lied and fooled no one for too long. " Isn't it amazing that we actually thought we were fooling anybody but ourselves? One of the hardest things for me in keeping a food journal was being able to be completely honest - just seeing those indulgences in print made them all too real and made me feel more accountable for them - but, of course, that is what I needed. Somewhere along in this journey, it got real clear for me that I am doing this for me, not to appease or impress anyone else, including the doctors or nurses who see my stats. I hate to admit how slow I was to really incorporate that concept into my thinking. I'm glad that you felt free to tell us - we are here to support you. All the best, Kay in San Leandro open RNY 12/1/03 cecilia wrote: > I am at the mindful eating stage (the classes that are required) > and the first 3 days of the first week i stayed at three meals and > two planned snacks. On the 4th day my nerves and mood went haywire > and pressure at work seemed endless. I ate more that day, day 5? > well i ate even more at each meal and then snacked more. day 6 > today, funny but not eating too much but eating humble crow. I guess > where I am at is that my old self would go back to class Monday > night with made up paper work. I cant anymore, I have lied and > fooled no one for too long. I will tell the truth. The truth is I > didnt bother trying anything else to releive the stress and axiety > that I used to eat. It was easier to sedate myself with food. This > is a patter with me. So I figure that a lb of food or and extra 2 oz > after surgery will be the same destructive way of not dealing. I > will have to find other ways to release the stress and axiety > besides food especially carbs. Its right there in my face that is > why it is called mindful eating! I have to look at the way I think > and respond or after surgery if I turn to foods that are not going > to keep me healthy (the reason I am doing this) it will not be > living. > I guess I just needed to tell someone and I think that you guys can > help me, especially with the hoops we must jump through kaiser. I > guess it is a good thing because I need the time to come to grips > with myself. > > cecilia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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