Guest guest Posted June 2, 2006 Report Share Posted June 2, 2006 That's horrible that "idiots" do that...just know Jackie we're all blessed to be a "part" of "those people" side by side with you. Some people just don't have a clue! XOXO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2006 Report Share Posted June 2, 2006 Just wondering if anyone else has experienced the mixed emotion I get when I've been referred to as "ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE or YOU PEOPLE". I know people don't mean to offend me but dang....you'd think I where a leeper. HURRRRY run and hide the children. Geeez!! Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2006 Report Share Posted June 2, 2006 I'm confused. When people refer to you as "one of those people", which people are they referring to? A person with breast cancer? Whatever they're referring to, they're downright rude! Who ARE these people???? Ann Chemo Hats: www.cjhats.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2006 Report Share Posted June 2, 2006 I'm confused. When people refer to you as "one of those people", which people are they referring to? A person with breast cancer? Whatever they're referring to, they're downright rude! Who ARE these people???? Ann Chemo Hats: www.cjhats.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2006 Report Share Posted June 2, 2006 I'm confused. When people refer to you as "one of those people", which people are they referring to? A person with breast cancer? Whatever they're referring to, they're downright rude! Who ARE these people???? Ann Chemo Hats: www.cjhats.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2006 Report Share Posted June 2, 2006 these/those people are people with cancer Jackie -- Re: How do you feel? I'm confused. When people refer to you as "one of those people", which people are they referring to? A person with breast cancer? Whatever they're referring to, they're downright rude! Who ARE these people???? Ann Chemo Hats: www.cjhats.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2006 Report Share Posted June 2, 2006 I can relate. Wasn't actually called one of " those people " , but at my mother's wake 3 weeks post mastectomy and 3 days post skin graft, I was sitting, as well I should have been, when noticed my sister and some one she was talking to glance sureptisiously in my direction. I mean there was no mistaking the obviousness of the glance. The woman my sister was talking to looked shocked. That is when I knew I was " one of those people " and my sister was the one who did it to me!!!!!! This is also one of the sisters who voted against an autopsy for my mother to find out about the mass discovered in her breast shortly after my diagnosis. My own family for heaven's sake!!!! Ruth > > Just wondering if anyone else has experienced the mixed emotion I get when I > ve been referred to as " ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE or YOU PEOPLE " . I know people > don't mean to offend me but dang....you'd think I where a leeper. HURRRRY > run and hide the children. Geeez!! > > Jackie > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2006 Report Share Posted June 3, 2006 The first time my best friend was over after my mastectomy she said... 'ok, let's get this over with.... what side?' As she is my best friend, I was not offended but glad she wanted to know and asked all sorts of questions. I think its those that don't ask that offend me. Don't talk behind my back, talk in front of my back. Barb Re: How do you feel? I can relate. Wasn't actually called one of "those people", but at mymother's wake 3 weeks post mastectomy and 3 days post skin graft, Iwas sitting, as well I should have been, when noticed my sister andsome one she was talking to glance sureptisiously in my direction. Imean there was no mistaking the obviousness of the glance. The womanmy sister was talking to looked shocked. That is when I knew I was"one of those people" and my sister was the one who did it to me!!!!!!This is also one of the sisters who voted against an autopsy for mymother to find out about the mass discovered in her breast shortlyafter my diagnosis. My own family for heaven's sake!!!!Ruth>> Just wondering if anyone else has experienced the mixed emotion Iget when I> ve been referred to as "ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE or YOU PEOPLE". I knowpeople> don't mean to offend me but dang....you'd think I where a leeper.HURRRRY> run and hide the children. Geeez!!> > Jackie> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2006 Report Share Posted June 3, 2006 The first time my best friend was over after my mastectomy she said... 'ok, let's get this over with.... what side?' As she is my best friend, I was not offended but glad she wanted to know and asked all sorts of questions. I think its those that don't ask that offend me. Don't talk behind my back, talk in front of my back. Barb Re: How do you feel? I can relate. Wasn't actually called one of "those people", but at mymother's wake 3 weeks post mastectomy and 3 days post skin graft, Iwas sitting, as well I should have been, when noticed my sister andsome one she was talking to glance sureptisiously in my direction. Imean there was no mistaking the obviousness of the glance. The womanmy sister was talking to looked shocked. That is when I knew I was"one of those people" and my sister was the one who did it to me!!!!!!This is also one of the sisters who voted against an autopsy for mymother to find out about the mass discovered in her breast shortlyafter my diagnosis. My own family for heaven's sake!!!!Ruth>> Just wondering if anyone else has experienced the mixed emotion Iget when I> ve been referred to as "ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE or YOU PEOPLE". I knowpeople> don't mean to offend me but dang....you'd think I where a leeper.HURRRRY> run and hide the children. Geeez!!> > Jackie> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2006 Report Share Posted June 3, 2006 The first time my best friend was over after my mastectomy she said... 'ok, let's get this over with.... what side?' As she is my best friend, I was not offended but glad she wanted to know and asked all sorts of questions. I think its those that don't ask that offend me. Don't talk behind my back, talk in front of my back. Barb Re: How do you feel? I can relate. Wasn't actually called one of "those people", but at mymother's wake 3 weeks post mastectomy and 3 days post skin graft, Iwas sitting, as well I should have been, when noticed my sister andsome one she was talking to glance sureptisiously in my direction. Imean there was no mistaking the obviousness of the glance. The womanmy sister was talking to looked shocked. That is when I knew I was"one of those people" and my sister was the one who did it to me!!!!!!This is also one of the sisters who voted against an autopsy for mymother to find out about the mass discovered in her breast shortlyafter my diagnosis. My own family for heaven's sake!!!!Ruth>> Just wondering if anyone else has experienced the mixed emotion Iget when I> ve been referred to as "ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE or YOU PEOPLE". I knowpeople> don't mean to offend me but dang....you'd think I where a leeper.HURRRRY> run and hide the children. Geeez!!> > Jackie> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 8, 2006 Report Share Posted June 8, 2006 Pattie, Some people just don't know what to say honey, which is why you have all of us...imagine if the group were as ignorant as some of the people we encounter, If anything, I count my blessings more because you guys "ROCK!" and would never say something so stupid. Just remember, she has to go through life like this!! Best, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 8, 2006 Report Share Posted June 8, 2006 My mom and dad live with my husband and me; I am the only child and have been taking care of them for almost ten years. One of my dad's friends, (from where he worked), came in to visit my dad, (and see how my mother was doing), they were talking and the friend began to say, "Oh, I remember your daughter had some type of breast cancer. She's rather young, isn't she? How's she doing with that?" My dad began to tell him what has been going on, (in terms of a 74 year old man who can not hear). Later on, I was going from my room, to the bathroom, putting away towels; His friend looks at me, and we begin to talk politics. When I live the hall, he looks at dad, (I didn't have the bathroom door closed, due-to-the fact I was returning to the hall), and says, "She looks pretty bad, is she going to live?" Now, he's known me since I was about 6 years old, and I knew he had a big heart, and really didn't know how to put this into words, it did offend me that he would actually say something as this, to my father, when I'm still in the house!! Oh, "one-of-those-people" can be referred to the relationship my daughter has with her boyfriend, (of six years). My neighbor, who lives across the street, is always asking me about my daughter, (who has been in the DC Metro area, and working at Walter Army Medical Center, since January '02), and her boyfriend, "Pattie, I know about what you're going through and the relationship is having with 'one-of-those-type of people' Remember, my niece had a two year relationship with someone from Japan". Of course, I usually strike this up to ignorance, however, after six years, it does get totally tiring, and I get to my boiling point. I don't care if Sung is purple and from Mars, I love him and he is a great guy!! I let this be done, EVERYTIME a remark is made. Okay, back to cancer: Sorry, I had to encounter this woman today. This woman says that cancer "agrees" with me, due-to-the fact I've lost my "steroid" weight. Yea, I know. Sorry for venting and rambling. Hugs and Much Love To Everyone, Pattie Re: How do you feel? I can relate. Wasn't actually called one of "those people", but at mymother's wake 3 weeks post mastectomy and 3 days post skin graft, Iwas sitting, as well I should have been, when noticed my sister andsome one she was talking to glance sureptisiously in my direction. Imean there was no mistaking the obviousness of the glance. The womanmy sister was talking to looked shocked. That is when I knew I was"one of those people" and my sister was the one who did it to me!!!!!!This is also one of the sisters who voted against an autopsy for mymother to find out about the mass discovered in her breast shortlyafter my diagnosis. My own family for heaven's sake!!!!Ruth>> Just wondering if anyone else has experienced the mixed emotion Iget when I> ve been referred to as "ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE or YOU PEOPLE". I knowpeople> don't mean to offend me but dang....you'd think I where a leeper.HURRRRY> run and hide the children. Geeez!!> > Jackie> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 9, 2006 Report Share Posted June 9, 2006 My experience with this was in 1997. My daughter had a 2 year survivor party for me. My sister didn't come because she didn't want to be around "those people" (friends from my support group). Of course there were many other people there but that was her excuse. Sharon. __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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