from Kim AAAAHHHHHHH!!!

[Guest guest]

I did not mean to spark a short fuse here. I

already apologized for not realizing that the CHAT in

the heading meant off topic. I myself have been off

topic here, as we all have.

I too am a New Yorker, who works in a school in

Connecticut. My family, friends and co-workers have

all been affected,directly and indirectly, as has the

whole country. You do not need a list of names,or

proximity, etc., to have been affected. Thus, I am

certainly not insensitive to the topic,or anyone's

need to chat or greive on the content. In light of

this " issue " , I guess I was ovely sensitive. I also

" apologized " that I too was sad, angry, and pissy when

writing my mail.

Jodi would be the LAST person that I would tell not

to write or grieve, as she has helped my/all of our

families in many ways without even knowing it, often

in her off topic chats and my phone line would be THE

FIRST open to her for chat or greiving, and I have yet

to meet her--just admire her from this list. I also

believe that Jodi ALWAYS respects everyone's personal

points of view here.

There are two things that " got my goat " so to speak

this time. It seems that we have lost/are losing some

potential members (in need) because we have sometimes

gotten " clicky " and/or personal here--not that we

should not--that is the purpose of a support group,

but I hoped that we were not scaring away someone for

any stupid reason.

I was also angry about the Q33 because it was

really meaningless and potentially referred to the

Koran--which someone on the list might find personal

and be offended with any indirect references to. These

junk-emails, hyperboles, non-factual " Stuff " that

apears eveywhere these days has NOTHING to do with our

grieving and sadness and anger and just spreads more

fear and hatred. I must admit, I immediately went to

the font and tried it out myself, and was then angry

that I did. The NY Times has another one of these in

it today.--an I Love NY one.

I did not mean to offend anyone, certainly not

Jodi, and I think we are all " on edge " and sensitive.

Please remember that we are a " Support " group, and not

alienate one another or future needy members. If we

do, we are non-tolerant, just like the people that we

say are not tolerant or respectfulof our RSS children.

Sincerely,

Kim C

--- Dzanghi@... wrote:

> Jodi & Debby,

> I agree with you both and want to give 2

> suggestions:

>

> 1. A while ago I set my membership to " Read from the

> web only " - This

> way my e-mail doesn't get bogged down and its really

> easy because I

> have bookmarked the website in my favorites. So,

> each day when I get

> onto the computer I go to favorites & read at my

> leisure!

>

> 2. Perhaps on the welcome page that people get from

> the moderator

> when they sign up for the listserve we can add some

> kind of statement

> informing people that we use certain systems like

> adding the word

> CHAT in a heading or signing our names w/our

> children's info, etc.

> that way all would be informed.

>

> With relating to the support for the tradgedy... I

> for one have felt

> filled with great appreciation for the people from

> other countries

> that are offering support and best wishes... it just

> plain feels good

> to know that we do have friends in other places.

> Lastly, Jodi, I

> think that we must feel it more by being in New

> Jersey where now they

> are saying that half the people from the WTC lived

> in NJ. We feel it

> more because our communities losses have been great.

> Hang in

> there... we all must move forward as the president

> has asked us to do

> with our flags held high!

> Sincerely,

> Diane

> mom to a, RSS, UPD7, 4 1/2, 30 lbs., 36.5 " &

> ,7)

>

> > Kim and anyone else who thinks we should stick to

> RSS only:

> >

> > I have been very careful with what I have been

> posting and, when

> necessary,

> > adding " Chat " to the subject heading. I know that

> some of my

> posts, as well

> > as the posts of others, have not all been related

> to RSS lately,

> but, I have

> > to tell you, I just do not know where else to

> turn. My whole life,

> in

> > addition to my family's, has been affected by the

> tragedies of late

> and I

> > have looked to you all for support and some

> general bonding

> together. I

> > have found great comfort in the messages from our

> members who are

> overseas

> > and in Canada. I have found lots of comraderie

> from our members

> who are in

> > the USA. While our common bond is supposed to be

> RSS, I do not

> think that,

> > in times of stress and tragedy, it is

> inappropriate to turn to this

> > listserve for support, compassion and strength.

> Our additional

> common bond

> > is now as survivors of the inhuman terrorist acts

> upon our

> country. I, for

> > one, am scared. My husband worked with Todd and

> Beamer.

> (Todd was one

> > of the men who fought back on the plane that

> crashed in PA.) Seven

> members

> > of our community were killed or are missing.

> Eleven members of the

> > community next door were killed or missing.

> Countless people

> around me were

> > right there when it happened and were lucky enough

> to escape.

> Parents of my

> > children's friends and those of some of my

> students are either

> helping with

> > the rescue and recovery or are medically treating

> those who were

> injured.

> >

> > I do agree that we need to move on. If we don't,

> then the bad guys

> win.

> > But I also do not think that we should hesitate to

> turn to each

> other if we

> > feel we need it. Remember, there is always that

> delete key. No

> one said

> > that you have to read every single post.

> >

> > Jodi

> >

> >

>

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