Guest guest Posted July 5, 2004 Report Share Posted July 5, 2004 Gemello, You deserve all the happiness that is coming your way. CarolGemello DiGiovanni wrote: Hello everyone:I just thought I would post an update. I'm still healing well from my reconstructive surgery, although I finally told Zach that I will probably need a revision surgery to my chest to complete the process (I knew that this would be a possibility). There is just too much loose skin and at least for now, it appears that the loose skin needs to be removed. My reconstructive surgeon and I will make the determination as to whether to proceed with the revision. It's still too early to see the final results as healing can take up to 6 months. Goodness knows that I don't want another surgery. Maybe I won't need it, but if I do, it will be the last, and it will be minor. Also, it's getting easier to stand up straight. My abdominal area is still really tight, but I'm getting back to my regular posture.I haven't even told my Mom because it would just torture her. She worries incessantly. I'll tell her when (and if) it's completed. Poor Zach, however, I told even though he still winces every time he sees my 30 inch incision and my 7 inch bypass scar (used to be 4 inches, but the tummy tuck stretched it out). I wanted to be completely honest with him. I know that it's been tough on him seeing me go through two major surgeries. Thank goodness, he is not selfish--caring only about his own fears--but has continued to support me in this process.On Saturday, we went to dinner with a friend who hasn't seen me in 7 months. Zach said, "She's gonna scream when she sees you." I said, "Do you really think there's that much difference?" When I stepped out of the car, she did scream. She literally screamed. I have to admit it; I've gone through a major change. I look at myself in store windows and bathroom mirrors, and still I'm pleasantly surprised (for the first time in my life) with what I see. It is still a bit of a shock that I'm the size I am. What a joy it is not to be the fattest person in the room.I see other morbidly obese people struggling to get around the way I used to. My heart goes out to them because I know all-to-well what that feels like.Gemello-138 lbs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2004 Report Share Posted July 5, 2004 Gemello, You deserve all the happiness that is coming your way. CarolGemello DiGiovanni wrote: Hello everyone:I just thought I would post an update. I'm still healing well from my reconstructive surgery, although I finally told Zach that I will probably need a revision surgery to my chest to complete the process (I knew that this would be a possibility). There is just too much loose skin and at least for now, it appears that the loose skin needs to be removed. My reconstructive surgeon and I will make the determination as to whether to proceed with the revision. It's still too early to see the final results as healing can take up to 6 months. Goodness knows that I don't want another surgery. Maybe I won't need it, but if I do, it will be the last, and it will be minor. Also, it's getting easier to stand up straight. My abdominal area is still really tight, but I'm getting back to my regular posture.I haven't even told my Mom because it would just torture her. She worries incessantly. I'll tell her when (and if) it's completed. Poor Zach, however, I told even though he still winces every time he sees my 30 inch incision and my 7 inch bypass scar (used to be 4 inches, but the tummy tuck stretched it out). I wanted to be completely honest with him. I know that it's been tough on him seeing me go through two major surgeries. Thank goodness, he is not selfish--caring only about his own fears--but has continued to support me in this process.On Saturday, we went to dinner with a friend who hasn't seen me in 7 months. Zach said, "She's gonna scream when she sees you." I said, "Do you really think there's that much difference?" When I stepped out of the car, she did scream. She literally screamed. I have to admit it; I've gone through a major change. I look at myself in store windows and bathroom mirrors, and still I'm pleasantly surprised (for the first time in my life) with what I see. It is still a bit of a shock that I'm the size I am. What a joy it is not to be the fattest person in the room.I see other morbidly obese people struggling to get around the way I used to. My heart goes out to them because I know all-to-well what that feels like.Gemello-138 lbs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 Adrienne..my name is Melody and I also live in the Riverside area...I am 2 years post op..and still going strong...please keep strong in your belief...I can tell you that this is the best thing that I have ever done in my life..it isnt for everyone...and you need to weight the pros and cons....but you sounds so much like me when I started my journey..if you ever need anyone to talk to locally or have any questions please feel free to call on me Melody 448 pre-op 399 orientation BMI 63 2 year check up (9/4/04) 187 BMI 31 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 Adrienne..my name is Melody and I also live in the Riverside area...I am 2 years post op..and still going strong...please keep strong in your belief...I can tell you that this is the best thing that I have ever done in my life..it isnt for everyone...and you need to weight the pros and cons....but you sounds so much like me when I started my journey..if you ever need anyone to talk to locally or have any questions please feel free to call on me Melody 448 pre-op 399 orientation BMI 63 2 year check up (9/4/04) 187 BMI 31 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 Adrienne..my name is Melody and I also live in the Riverside area...I am 2 years post op..and still going strong...please keep strong in your belief...I can tell you that this is the best thing that I have ever done in my life..it isnt for everyone...and you need to weight the pros and cons....but you sounds so much like me when I started my journey..if you ever need anyone to talk to locally or have any questions please feel free to call on me Melody 448 pre-op 399 orientation BMI 63 2 year check up (9/4/04) 187 BMI 31 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 I have to say sorry for them, they are just not " there " yet. Maybe they never will be but it's a good thing they realized it before the surgery because if they realized that after...well, it's just not a good thing. On a good note, if people drop out as much as you have seen, it makes the process a bit faster for those of us who are serious-we don't have to wait for so many surgeries before ours. ===== Heidi Lauw Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 I have to say sorry for them, they are just not " there " yet. Maybe they never will be but it's a good thing they realized it before the surgery because if they realized that after...well, it's just not a good thing. On a good note, if people drop out as much as you have seen, it makes the process a bit faster for those of us who are serious-we don't have to wait for so many surgeries before ours. ===== Heidi Lauw Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 i have to say that I am glad some people hesitate....the surgery is not THE answer but a tool to assist us. The biggest assist to me is feeling full after EVERY meal. But I know there are some who see it as an open invitation to continue to eat the same old food just in smaller amounts...and all they do is talk talk talk about these foods at every meeting. I always try to sit as far away from them as possible. and surprise we had our wls at the same time. she was happy losing 40-50 lb and I was close to passing my century mark. bee 5/10/04Adrienne Swedlove wrote: I have now been to three of the WLS classes at Fontana Kaiser and I am more excited than ever about the prospect of WLS. HOWEVER - the people in my class are dropping out like crazy! In fact, the woman who has been sitting next to me walked out in the middle of Wednesday's class because she decided that she would rather continue to eat and be overweight than "give up" eating. I feel really bad for these women but I'm still strong in my resolve to go on. Although I don't post much, I read every post and you are all an inspiration to me. Adrienne in Riverside Pre-Op 276 lbs. 5'0 __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 i have to say that I am glad some people hesitate....the surgery is not THE answer but a tool to assist us. The biggest assist to me is feeling full after EVERY meal. But I know there are some who see it as an open invitation to continue to eat the same old food just in smaller amounts...and all they do is talk talk talk about these foods at every meeting. I always try to sit as far away from them as possible. and surprise we had our wls at the same time. she was happy losing 40-50 lb and I was close to passing my century mark. bee 5/10/04Adrienne Swedlove wrote: I have now been to three of the WLS classes at Fontana Kaiser and I am more excited than ever about the prospect of WLS. HOWEVER - the people in my class are dropping out like crazy! In fact, the woman who has been sitting next to me walked out in the middle of Wednesday's class because she decided that she would rather continue to eat and be overweight than "give up" eating. I feel really bad for these women but I'm still strong in my resolve to go on. Although I don't post much, I read every post and you are all an inspiration to me. Adrienne in Riverside Pre-Op 276 lbs. 5'0 __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 i have to say that I am glad some people hesitate....the surgery is not THE answer but a tool to assist us. The biggest assist to me is feeling full after EVERY meal. But I know there are some who see it as an open invitation to continue to eat the same old food just in smaller amounts...and all they do is talk talk talk about these foods at every meeting. I always try to sit as far away from them as possible. and surprise we had our wls at the same time. she was happy losing 40-50 lb and I was close to passing my century mark. bee 5/10/04Adrienne Swedlove wrote: I have now been to three of the WLS classes at Fontana Kaiser and I am more excited than ever about the prospect of WLS. HOWEVER - the people in my class are dropping out like crazy! In fact, the woman who has been sitting next to me walked out in the middle of Wednesday's class because she decided that she would rather continue to eat and be overweight than "give up" eating. I feel really bad for these women but I'm still strong in my resolve to go on. Although I don't post much, I read every post and you are all an inspiration to me. Adrienne in Riverside Pre-Op 276 lbs. 5'0 __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 Adrienne and Bee: I know exactly what you both are talking about. Some people just don't get it. At my orientation, there were several people who were very bitter about the whole process. I figured, hey, these medical professionals are trying to help us. They must know something. And look at those people up there who've lost 100's of pounds. Do they exercise? yes. Do they watch what they eat? yes. And more importantly, are they healthy with the prospects of having a real life free of morbid obesity? yes. I thought over and over, how many times have I said to myself, " I would do anything to lose this weight " ? And then it came to me. I said to myself, " Hey, buddy. Put up or shut up. Do what you have to do to get your life back. Now is your time to do ANYTHING including giving up certain foods and taking exercise seriously. " And so I stepped up to the plate because I was ready to just take a leap of faith, face my fears and do the work it took to be successful. I do, however, feel a bit sad for those who are unwilling to help themselves. Keep up the good work, Gemello -144 lbs > I have now been to three of the WLS classes at Fontana Kaiser and I am more excited than ever about the prospect of WLS. HOWEVER - the people in my class are dropping out like crazy! In fact, the woman who has been sitting next to me walked out in the middle of Wednesday's class because she decided that she would rather continue to eat and be overweight than " give up " eating. I feel really bad for these women but I'm still strong in my resolve to go on. > > Although I don't post much, I read every post and you are all an inspiration to me. > > Adrienne in Riverside > Pre-Op > 276 lbs. 5'0 > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 Adrienne and Bee: I know exactly what you both are talking about. Some people just don't get it. At my orientation, there were several people who were very bitter about the whole process. I figured, hey, these medical professionals are trying to help us. They must know something. And look at those people up there who've lost 100's of pounds. Do they exercise? yes. Do they watch what they eat? yes. And more importantly, are they healthy with the prospects of having a real life free of morbid obesity? yes. I thought over and over, how many times have I said to myself, " I would do anything to lose this weight " ? And then it came to me. I said to myself, " Hey, buddy. Put up or shut up. Do what you have to do to get your life back. Now is your time to do ANYTHING including giving up certain foods and taking exercise seriously. " And so I stepped up to the plate because I was ready to just take a leap of faith, face my fears and do the work it took to be successful. I do, however, feel a bit sad for those who are unwilling to help themselves. Keep up the good work, Gemello -144 lbs > I have now been to three of the WLS classes at Fontana Kaiser and I am more excited than ever about the prospect of WLS. HOWEVER - the people in my class are dropping out like crazy! In fact, the woman who has been sitting next to me walked out in the middle of Wednesday's class because she decided that she would rather continue to eat and be overweight than " give up " eating. I feel really bad for these women but I'm still strong in my resolve to go on. > > Although I don't post much, I read every post and you are all an inspiration to me. > > Adrienne in Riverside > Pre-Op > 276 lbs. 5'0 > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 Adrienne and Bee: I know exactly what you both are talking about. Some people just don't get it. At my orientation, there were several people who were very bitter about the whole process. I figured, hey, these medical professionals are trying to help us. They must know something. And look at those people up there who've lost 100's of pounds. Do they exercise? yes. Do they watch what they eat? yes. And more importantly, are they healthy with the prospects of having a real life free of morbid obesity? yes. I thought over and over, how many times have I said to myself, " I would do anything to lose this weight " ? And then it came to me. I said to myself, " Hey, buddy. Put up or shut up. Do what you have to do to get your life back. Now is your time to do ANYTHING including giving up certain foods and taking exercise seriously. " And so I stepped up to the plate because I was ready to just take a leap of faith, face my fears and do the work it took to be successful. I do, however, feel a bit sad for those who are unwilling to help themselves. Keep up the good work, Gemello -144 lbs > I have now been to three of the WLS classes at Fontana Kaiser and I am more excited than ever about the prospect of WLS. HOWEVER - the people in my class are dropping out like crazy! In fact, the woman who has been sitting next to me walked out in the middle of Wednesday's class because she decided that she would rather continue to eat and be overweight than " give up " eating. I feel really bad for these women but I'm still strong in my resolve to go on. > > Although I don't post much, I read every post and you are all an inspiration to me. > > Adrienne in Riverside > Pre-Op > 276 lbs. 5'0 > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 amen! and when did you have yr wls and where? Gemello DiGiovanni wrote: Adrienne and Bee:I know exactly what you both are talking about. Some people just don't get it. At my orientation, there were several people who were very bitter about the whole process.I figured, hey, these medical professionals are trying to help us. They must know something. And look at those people up there who've lost 100's of pounds. Do they exercise? yes. Do they watch what they eat? yes.And more importantly, are they healthy with the prospects of having a real life free of morbid obesity? yes.I thought over and over, how many times have I said to myself, "I would do anything to lose this weight"? And then it came to me.I said to myself, "Hey, buddy. Put up or shut up. Do what you have to do to get your life back. Now is your time to do ANYTHING including giving up certain foods and taking exercise seriously."And so I stepped up to the plate because I was ready to just take a leap of faith, face my fears and do the work it took to be successful.I do, however, feel a bit sad for those who are unwilling to help themselves.Keep up the good work,Gemello-144 lbs> I have now been to three of the WLS classes at Fontana Kaiser and I am more excited than ever about the prospect of WLS. HOWEVER - the people in my class are dropping out like crazy! In fact, the woman who has been sitting next to me walked out in the middle of Wednesday's class because she decided that she would rather continue to eat and be overweight than "give up" eating. I feel really bad for these women but I'm still strong in my resolve to go on.> > Although I don't post much, I read every post and you are all an inspiration to me.> > Adrienne in Riverside> Pre-Op> 276 lbs. 5'0> > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 amen! and when did you have yr wls and where? Gemello DiGiovanni wrote: Adrienne and Bee:I know exactly what you both are talking about. Some people just don't get it. At my orientation, there were several people who were very bitter about the whole process.I figured, hey, these medical professionals are trying to help us. They must know something. And look at those people up there who've lost 100's of pounds. Do they exercise? yes. Do they watch what they eat? yes.And more importantly, are they healthy with the prospects of having a real life free of morbid obesity? yes.I thought over and over, how many times have I said to myself, "I would do anything to lose this weight"? And then it came to me.I said to myself, "Hey, buddy. Put up or shut up. Do what you have to do to get your life back. Now is your time to do ANYTHING including giving up certain foods and taking exercise seriously."And so I stepped up to the plate because I was ready to just take a leap of faith, face my fears and do the work it took to be successful.I do, however, feel a bit sad for those who are unwilling to help themselves.Keep up the good work,Gemello-144 lbs> I have now been to three of the WLS classes at Fontana Kaiser and I am more excited than ever about the prospect of WLS. HOWEVER - the people in my class are dropping out like crazy! In fact, the woman who has been sitting next to me walked out in the middle of Wednesday's class because she decided that she would rather continue to eat and be overweight than "give up" eating. I feel really bad for these women but I'm still strong in my resolve to go on.> > Although I don't post much, I read every post and you are all an inspiration to me.> > Adrienne in Riverside> Pre-Op> 276 lbs. 5'0> > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 amen! and when did you have yr wls and where? Gemello DiGiovanni wrote: Adrienne and Bee:I know exactly what you both are talking about. Some people just don't get it. At my orientation, there were several people who were very bitter about the whole process.I figured, hey, these medical professionals are trying to help us. They must know something. And look at those people up there who've lost 100's of pounds. Do they exercise? yes. Do they watch what they eat? yes.And more importantly, are they healthy with the prospects of having a real life free of morbid obesity? yes.I thought over and over, how many times have I said to myself, "I would do anything to lose this weight"? And then it came to me.I said to myself, "Hey, buddy. Put up or shut up. Do what you have to do to get your life back. Now is your time to do ANYTHING including giving up certain foods and taking exercise seriously."And so I stepped up to the plate because I was ready to just take a leap of faith, face my fears and do the work it took to be successful.I do, however, feel a bit sad for those who are unwilling to help themselves.Keep up the good work,Gemello-144 lbs> I have now been to three of the WLS classes at Fontana Kaiser and I am more excited than ever about the prospect of WLS. HOWEVER - the people in my class are dropping out like crazy! In fact, the woman who has been sitting next to me walked out in the middle of Wednesday's class because she decided that she would rather continue to eat and be overweight than "give up" eating. I feel really bad for these women but I'm still strong in my resolve to go on.> > Although I don't post much, I read every post and you are all an inspiration to me.> > Adrienne in Riverside> Pre-Op> 276 lbs. 5'0> > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 Adrienne This is definitely not an easy journey. It changes every aspect of our lives in one way or another. You have to be totally ready to do it for yourself to suceed. I feel bad for the woman you mentioned because the positive benefits of this surgery far outweigh any restrictions afterward. But she has to be ready to do this for HERSELF, not for her family, her doctor, or anyone but herself. We are all at different stages. It is wonderful that you are at that stage where you are doing it for you and suceeding. Keep seeking information and support and you will make it!! Huggles > I have now been to three of the WLS classes at Fontana Kaiser and I am more excited than ever about the prospect of WLS. HOWEVER - the people in my class are dropping out like crazy! In fact, the woman who has been sitting next to me walked out in the middle of Wednesday's class because she decided that she would rather continue to eat and be overweight than " give up " eating. I feel really bad for these women but I'm still strong in my resolve to go on. > > Although I don't post much, I read every post and you are all an inspiration to me. > > Adrienne in Riverside > Pre-Op > 276 lbs. 5'0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 Adrienne This is definitely not an easy journey. It changes every aspect of our lives in one way or another. You have to be totally ready to do it for yourself to suceed. I feel bad for the woman you mentioned because the positive benefits of this surgery far outweigh any restrictions afterward. But she has to be ready to do this for HERSELF, not for her family, her doctor, or anyone but herself. We are all at different stages. It is wonderful that you are at that stage where you are doing it for you and suceeding. Keep seeking information and support and you will make it!! Huggles > I have now been to three of the WLS classes at Fontana Kaiser and I am more excited than ever about the prospect of WLS. HOWEVER - the people in my class are dropping out like crazy! In fact, the woman who has been sitting next to me walked out in the middle of Wednesday's class because she decided that she would rather continue to eat and be overweight than " give up " eating. I feel really bad for these women but I'm still strong in my resolve to go on. > > Although I don't post much, I read every post and you are all an inspiration to me. > > Adrienne in Riverside > Pre-Op > 276 lbs. 5'0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 Adrienne This is definitely not an easy journey. It changes every aspect of our lives in one way or another. You have to be totally ready to do it for yourself to suceed. I feel bad for the woman you mentioned because the positive benefits of this surgery far outweigh any restrictions afterward. But she has to be ready to do this for HERSELF, not for her family, her doctor, or anyone but herself. We are all at different stages. It is wonderful that you are at that stage where you are doing it for you and suceeding. Keep seeking information and support and you will make it!! Huggles > I have now been to three of the WLS classes at Fontana Kaiser and I am more excited than ever about the prospect of WLS. HOWEVER - the people in my class are dropping out like crazy! In fact, the woman who has been sitting next to me walked out in the middle of Wednesday's class because she decided that she would rather continue to eat and be overweight than " give up " eating. I feel really bad for these women but I'm still strong in my resolve to go on. > > Although I don't post much, I read every post and you are all an inspiration to me. > > Adrienne in Riverside > Pre-Op > 276 lbs. 5'0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 Lesa..I have been fortunate that I have only had one or two monthes that I didnt loose..but since my surgery 2 years ago..I have always lost something per month..but I also work out 6 days a week..and that is a very big key..at work I am on my feet for 12-14 hours a shifts..and I still have to exercise..and do so gladly...it is very true that skinny feels better then fat ever did...I just love to know that I am healthier then I have ever been...I am in better shape now then I was in high school..geeeeeeeeesh why cant there be a reunion soon..lol....now I am working towards my plastic surgery coming up on Oct 25...and I look at it as one of the final steps to my journey...since this is ever evolving..and continues..I look forward to see what the rest of my journey has intail for me...keep it positive...and a smile on your face...and you will do awesome also...Melody Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 i had one drop out of our class to . i didn't even remember her it was so fast.. stick to it .. you don't eat much at first but you can later ..hopefully not as much before surgery i have 3 [eople at work who had this surgery years ago and they are doing just fine at keeping the weight off and they arn't starving either .. shirley of fontana socalAdrienne Swedlove wrote: I have now been to three of the WLS classes at Fontana Kaiser and I am more excited than ever about the prospect of WLS. HOWEVER - the people in my class are dropping out like crazy! In fact, the woman who has been sitting next to me walked out in the middle of Wednesday's class because she decided that she would rather continue to eat and be overweight than "give up" eating. I feel really bad for these women but I'm still strong in my resolve to go on. Although I don't post much, I read every post and you are all an inspiration to me. Adrienne in Riverside Pre-Op 276 lbs. 5'0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2004 Report Share Posted September 16, 2004 Shirley, that’s good to hear about your people at work who are still doing well years after surgery – it’s very encouraging. I must admit, this tool is such an amazing gift and I’ve had so much success already in just the past 4 months, but I can’t seem to shake my old fear that I’ll gain the weight back just like always in the past. Maybe keeping that fear with me will be enough to ensure that I don’t gain back. I guess I’m just afraid about what will happen after the “honeymoon” phase. That’s one of the reasons I so enjoy hearing from the post ops who are further out on here – Gemello, , Martha, Ramona, Melody, Kay, Shell (sorry I know I’m forgetting people) – it confirms for me that we can continue to succeed if we have a healthy outlook and remain determined. Thanks. You folks that I mentioned above always seem so sure of your continued success and I really admire that…did you always feel that way or did you battle the fear about gaining back and, if so, how did you combat it? - Lesa - Re: An Update i had one drop out of our class to . i didn't even remember her it was so fast.. stick to it .. you don't eat much at first but you can later ..hopefully not as much before surgery i have 3 [eople at work who had this surgery years ago and they are doing just fine at keeping the weight off and they arn't starving either .. shirley of fontana socal Adrienne Swedlove wrote: I have now been to three of the WLS classes at Fontana Kaiser and I am more excited than ever about the prospect of WLS. HOWEVER - the people in my class are dropping out like crazy! In fact, the woman who has been sitting next to me walked out in the middle of Wednesday's class because she decided that she would rather continue to eat and be overweight than " give up " eating. I feel really bad for these women but I'm still strong in my resolve to go on. Although I don't post much, I read every post and you are all an inspiration to me. Adrienne in Riverside Pre-Op 276 lbs. 5'0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2004 Report Share Posted September 17, 2004 Hi Lesa, Don't let me fool you. I don't feel overly confident of continued success. I have a healthy dose of fear. I call it a healthy because I think that being concerned about regain is a positive influence for me. I think that those who feel "bullet-proof" (like they'll lose weight no-matter-what) are in serious danger of falling back into habits that will cause them problems. So, I don't combat the fear - I just let that concern live in the back of my mind and help keep me on track. It helps to talk to post-ops who are further out than I am. I try to learn from their successes and especially from their mistakes. If the fear were over-whelming, then I'd talk to my therapist about it - but it isn't. I'm only 9 and a half months post-op and I still have quite a bit of weight to lose. I keep looking to the future. I know several folks who did well for the first couple of years and then found themselves struggling to keep their weight off. Most of them have similar problems, like grazing or not exercising or eating things that trigger their particular food addictions (sugar for some, bread or whatever for others). So I figure if I can train myself to avoid those problems, then I have a good chance of succeeding on the level that I want to. All the best, Kay in San Leandro open RNY 12/1/03 Lesa wrote: Shirley, that’s good to hear about your people at work who are still doing well years after surgery – it’s very encouraging. I must admit, this tool is such an amazing gift and I’ve had so much success already in just the past 4 months, but I can’t seem to shake my old fear that I’ll gain the weight back just like always in the past. Maybe keeping that fear with me will be enough to ensure that I don’t gain back. I guess I’m just afraid about what will happen after the “honeymoon” phase. That’s one of the reasons I so enjoy hearing from the post ops who are further out on here – Gemello, , Martha, Ramona, Melody, Kay, Shell (sorry I know I’m forgetting people) – it confirms for me that we can continue to succeed if we have a healthy outlook and remain determined. Thanks. You folks that I mentioned above always seem so sure of your continued success and I really admire that…did you always feel that way or did you battle the fear about gaining back and, if so, how did you combat it? - Lesa - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2004 Report Share Posted September 17, 2004 Thanks, Kay, that makes good sense. - Lesa - -----Original Message----- From: Kay Sent: Friday, September 17, 2004 1:26 PM To: gastric-bypass-support-kaiser-patients Subject: Re: An Update Hi Lesa, Don't let me fool you. I don't feel overly confident of continued success. I have a healthy dose of fear. I call it a healthy because I think that being concerned about regain is a positive influence for me. I think that those who feel " bullet-proof " (like they'll lose weight no-matter-what) are in serious danger of falling back into habits that will cause them problems. So, I don't combat the fear - I just let that concern live in the back of my mind and help keep me on track. It helps to talk to post-ops who are further out than I am. I try to learn from their successes and especially from their mistakes. If the fear were over-whelming, then I'd talk to my therapist about it - but it isn't. I'm only 9 and a half months post-op and I still have quite a bit of weight to lose. I keep looking to the future. I know several folks who did well for the first couple of years and then found themselves struggling to keep their weight off. Most of them have similar problems, like grazing or not exercising or eating things that trigger their particular food addictions (sugar for some, bread or whatever for others). So I figure if I can train myself to avoid those problems, then I have a good chance of succeeding on the level that I want to. All the best, Kay in San Leandro open RNY 12/1/03 Lesa wrote: Shirley, that’s good to hear about your people at work who are still doing well years after surgery – it’s very encouraging. I must admit, this tool is such an amazing gift and I’ve had so much success already in just the past 4 months, but I can’t seem to shake my old fear that I’ll gain the weight back just like always in the past. Maybe keeping that fear with me will be enough to ensure that I don’t gain back. I guess I’m just afraid about what will happen after the “honeymoon” phase. That’s one of the reasons I so enjoy hearing from the post ops who are further out on here – Gemello, , Martha, Ramona, Melody, Kay, Shell (sorry I know I’m forgetting people) – it confirms for me that we can continue to succeed if we have a healthy outlook and remain determined. Thanks. You folks that I mentioned above always seem so sure of your continued success and I really admire that…did you always feel that way or did you battle the fear about gaining back and, if so, how did you combat it? - Lesa - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2004 Report Share Posted September 20, 2004 Adrienne, good for you for sticking to it and seeing what a life saving tool this is going to be for you! I recently saw someone (didnt get a chance to talk to them) that started in the program around the same time that I did...I dont know why he dropped and didnt have the guts to go up to him and talk to him, but he looked like he had put on quite a bit of weigh since the last time I saw him and was having a lot of trouble getting around, breathing hard, that sort of thing. I wanted to go up to him and ask him what happened and if he was still considering surgery, but I also didnt want to make him feel bad by telling him that I was down almost 120lbs now. Shanna > I have now been to three of the WLS classes at Fontana Kaiser and I am more excited than ever about the prospect of WLS. HOWEVER - the people in my class are dropping out like crazy! In fact, the woman who has been sitting next to me walked out in the middle of Wednesday's class because she decided that she would rather continue to eat and be overweight than " give up " eating. I feel really bad for these women but I'm still strong in my resolve to go on. > > Although I don't post much, I read every post and you are all an inspiration to me. > > Adrienne in Riverside > Pre-Op > 276 lbs. 5'0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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