Guest guest Posted August 18, 2004 Report Share Posted August 18, 2004 Hi Tonya, I am glad that you thought it out and are staying. It is so important that you have a good support team and that your boss is one of the support people. Ramona Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2004 Report Share Posted August 18, 2004 Good for you Tonya! I knew you would make the best decision for YOU! It sounds as if at least for now, your employer is really helping you through this journey and you should stay. I bet just making the decision takes away tons of stress !! Good Luck to you > I don't have to give my final answer until Friday, but I'm 95% > certain that I'm turning down the Bakersfield job offer. > > Though the lure of having Lap-Banding is tempting, I know myself. I > have a feeling that if I were to take the position and switch > carriers, I may not have the courage to pursue WLS a second time. > Also, like many of you, I do find some comfort in Kaiser's thorough > process. I know it can be frustrating, but for me, it ensures that > I'm in the right hands and makes me feel supported. > > The insurance issues aside, I've been able to have a couple long > talks about WLS with my current employer. She is amazingly > supportive, which drives home the point to me that this is the right > place for me to be when I have surgery. Not only will they bend over > backward to help me adjust my schedule as necessary, but they have > already begun adjusting my schedule so that I have more time off for > exercise and such. I'm sure not everyone has such agreeable > employers, which is why I think this is a good deal. > > So, you're all still stuck with me. I'll be honest, I'm still scared > of surgery, but I'm terrified of being this size for the rest of my > life. In this case, fear wins out. > > Talk to you all soon, > Tonya (in ) > Awaiting Orientation > > > > > > > > > ----------------------------------------------------------- > > I appreciate the responses I received in this > incredibly difficult decision. Unfortunately, the > company I would be joining isn't in a position to wait > for me to have the surgery (I still don't have a > surgery date and they would want me to start by Sept. > 1). > > I've looked into the other company's carrier more > closely, and also what's offered in Bakersfield as > well. It turns out that if I take the Blue Cross PPO > option, I could not only have WLS in Bakersfield, but > I'd have my pick among three different procedures > (DDS, RNY or Lap-Band). The downside is that the PPO > option with the Bakersfield company has a 10% copay > for surgeries and hospitalizations (by my calc., > that's going to bet around $3,000-$5,000 out of > pocket, but I could be off base). That's significantly > more than Kaiser would require me to pay now. My > in-laws (wonderful people that they are) have offered > to cover the difference. But I was hoping to use their > generosity to pay for reconstruction. > > In terms of what I plan to do, I think that I'm going > to wait until I get a firm offer and then I'm going to > crunch numbers. With the lower copays and payroll > deductions of the Blue Cross plan, it might balance > out in the end for me. My Kaiser copays are very high > ($35 for most things). > > Thank you all for " listening " I'll keep you updated. > > Tonya (in ) > Approved for SSF > Awaiting Orientation Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2004 Report Share Posted August 18, 2004 > I don't have to give my final answer until Friday, but I'm 95% > certain that I'm turning down the Bakersfield job offer. > > Though the lure of having Lap-Banding is tempting, I know myself. I > have a feeling that if I were to take the position and switch > carriers, I may not have the courage to pursue WLS a second time. > Also, like many of you, I do find some comfort in Kaiser's thorough > process. I know it can be frustrating, but for me, it ensures that > I'm in the right hands and makes me feel supported. > > The insurance issues aside, I've been able to have a couple long > talks about WLS with my current employer. She is amazingly > supportive, which drives home the point to me that this is the right > place for me to be when I have surgery. Not only will they bend over > backward to help me adjust my schedule as necessary, but they have > already begun adjusting my schedule so that I have more time off for > exercise and such. I'm sure not everyone has such agreeable > employers, which is why I think this is a good deal. > > So, you're all still stuck with me. I'll be honest, I'm still scared > of surgery, but I'm terrified of being this size for the rest of my > life. In this case, fear wins out. > > Talk to you all soon, > Tonya (in ) > Awaiting Orientation > > > > > > > > > ----------------------------------------------------------- > > I appreciate the responses I received in this > incredibly difficult decision. Unfortunately, the > company I would be joining isn't in a position to wait > for me to have the surgery (I still don't have a > surgery date and they would want me to start by Sept. > 1). > > I've looked into the other company's carrier more > closely, and also what's offered in Bakersfield as > well. It turns out that if I take the Blue Cross PPO > option, I could not only have WLS in Bakersfield, but > I'd have my pick among three different procedures > (DDS, RNY or Lap-Band). The downside is that the PPO > option with the Bakersfield company has a 10% copay > for surgeries and hospitalizations (by my calc., > that's going to bet around $3,000-$5,000 out of > pocket, but I could be off base). That's significantly > more than Kaiser would require me to pay now. My > in-laws (wonderful people that they are) have offered > to cover the difference. But I was hoping to use their > generosity to pay for reconstruction. > > In terms of what I plan to do, I think that I'm going > to wait until I get a firm offer and then I'm going to > crunch numbers. With the lower copays and payroll > deductions of the Blue Cross plan, it might balance > out in the end for me. My Kaiser copays are very high > ($35 for most things). > > Thank you all for " listening " I'll keep you updated. > > Tonya (in ) > Approved for SSF > Awaiting Orientation Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2004 Report Share Posted August 18, 2004 Good luck Tonya – I know it’s a hard decision, but your current employer sure does sound flexible, which is great! - Lesa - Update from Tonya I don't have to give my final answer until Friday, but I'm 95% certain that I'm turning down the Bakersfield job offer. Though the lure of having Lap-Banding is tempting, I know myself. I have a feeling that if I were to take the position and switch carriers, I may not have the courage to pursue WLS a second time. Also, like many of you, I do find some comfort in Kaiser's thorough process. I know it can be frustrating, but for me, it ensures that I'm in the right hands and makes me feel supported. The insurance issues aside, I've been able to have a couple long talks about WLS with my current employer. She is amazingly supportive, which drives home the point to me that this is the right place for me to be when I have surgery. Not only will they bend over backward to help me adjust my schedule as necessary, but they have already begun adjusting my schedule so that I have more time off for exercise and such. I'm sure not everyone has such agreeable employers, which is why I think this is a good deal. So, you're all still stuck with me. I'll be honest, I'm still scared of surgery, but I'm terrified of being this size for the rest of my life. In this case, fear wins out. Talk to you all soon, Tonya (in ) Awaiting Orientation ----------------------------------------------------------- I appreciate the responses I received in this incredibly difficult decision. Unfortunately, the company I would be joining isn't in a position to wait for me to have the surgery (I still don't have a surgery date and they would want me to start by Sept. 1). I've looked into the other company's carrier more closely, and also what's offered in Bakersfield as well. It turns out that if I take the Blue Cross PPO option, I could not only have WLS in Bakersfield, but I'd have my pick among three different procedures (DDS, RNY or Lap-Band). The downside is that the PPO option with the Bakersfield company has a 10% copay for surgeries and hospitalizations (by my calc., that's going to bet around $3,000-$5,000 out of pocket, but I could be off base). That's significantly more than Kaiser would require me to pay now. My in-laws (wonderful people that they are) have offered to cover the difference. But I was hoping to use their generosity to pay for reconstruction. In terms of what I plan to do, I think that I'm going to wait until I get a firm offer and then I'm going to crunch numbers. With the lower copays and payroll deductions of the Blue Cross plan, it might balance out in the end for me. My Kaiser copays are very high ($35 for most things). Thank you all for " listening " I'll keep you updated. Tonya (in ) Approved for SSF Awaiting Orientation Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2004 Report Share Posted August 18, 2004 Good luck Tonya – I know it’s a hard decision, but your current employer sure does sound flexible, which is great! - Lesa - Update from Tonya I don't have to give my final answer until Friday, but I'm 95% certain that I'm turning down the Bakersfield job offer. Though the lure of having Lap-Banding is tempting, I know myself. I have a feeling that if I were to take the position and switch carriers, I may not have the courage to pursue WLS a second time. Also, like many of you, I do find some comfort in Kaiser's thorough process. I know it can be frustrating, but for me, it ensures that I'm in the right hands and makes me feel supported. The insurance issues aside, I've been able to have a couple long talks about WLS with my current employer. She is amazingly supportive, which drives home the point to me that this is the right place for me to be when I have surgery. Not only will they bend over backward to help me adjust my schedule as necessary, but they have already begun adjusting my schedule so that I have more time off for exercise and such. I'm sure not everyone has such agreeable employers, which is why I think this is a good deal. So, you're all still stuck with me. I'll be honest, I'm still scared of surgery, but I'm terrified of being this size for the rest of my life. In this case, fear wins out. Talk to you all soon, Tonya (in ) Awaiting Orientation ----------------------------------------------------------- I appreciate the responses I received in this incredibly difficult decision. Unfortunately, the company I would be joining isn't in a position to wait for me to have the surgery (I still don't have a surgery date and they would want me to start by Sept. 1). I've looked into the other company's carrier more closely, and also what's offered in Bakersfield as well. It turns out that if I take the Blue Cross PPO option, I could not only have WLS in Bakersfield, but I'd have my pick among three different procedures (DDS, RNY or Lap-Band). The downside is that the PPO option with the Bakersfield company has a 10% copay for surgeries and hospitalizations (by my calc., that's going to bet around $3,000-$5,000 out of pocket, but I could be off base). That's significantly more than Kaiser would require me to pay now. My in-laws (wonderful people that they are) have offered to cover the difference. But I was hoping to use their generosity to pay for reconstruction. In terms of what I plan to do, I think that I'm going to wait until I get a firm offer and then I'm going to crunch numbers. With the lower copays and payroll deductions of the Blue Cross plan, it might balance out in the end for me. My Kaiser copays are very high ($35 for most things). Thank you all for " listening " I'll keep you updated. Tonya (in ) Approved for SSF Awaiting Orientation Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2004 Report Share Posted August 18, 2004 Hi Tonya, I too have a job that has been great.. they let me change my hours so that I can go to the gym in the morning..and when ever I have an appointment they are more then happy to give me the time off.... they are also making arrangements for when I have the surgery(I hope in Nov.,) It really helps when the people you work with are willing to work with you... and support you... most of us spend more of our time at work then any where else... I wish you the best of luck... Leann Still working on the 10%... crazyt1020 wrote: I don't have to give my final answer until Friday, but I'm 95% certain that I'm turning down the Bakersfield job offer.Though the lure of having Lap-Banding is tempting, I know myself. I have a feeling that if I were to take the position and switch carriers, I may not have the courage to pursue WLS a second time. Also, like many of you, I do find some comfort in Kaiser's thorough process. I know it can be frustrating, but for me, it ensures that I'm in the right hands and makes me feel supported.The insurance issues aside, I've been able to have a couple long talks about WLS with my current employer. She is amazingly supportive, which drives home the point to me that this is the right place for me to be when I have surgery. Not only will they bend over backward to help me adjust my schedule as necessary, but they have already begun adjusting my schedule so that I have more time off for exercise and such. I'm sure not everyone has such agreeable employers, which is why I think this is a good deal.So, you're all still stuck with me. I'll be honest, I'm still scared of surgery, but I'm terrified of being this size for the rest of my life. In this case, fear wins out.Talk to you all soon,Tonya (in )Awaiting Orientation-----------------------------------------------------------I appreciate the responses I received in thisincredibly difficult decision. Unfortunately, thecompany I would be joining isn't in a position to waitfor me to have the surgery (I still don't have asurgery date and they would want me to start by Sept.1).I've looked into the other company's carrier moreclosely, and also what's offered in Bakersfield aswell. It turns out that if I take the Blue Cross PPOoption, I could not only have WLS in Bakersfield, butI'd have my pick among three different procedures(DDS, RNY or Lap-Band). The downside is that the PPOoption with the Bakersfield company has a 10% copayfor surgeries and hospitalizations (by my calc.,that's going to bet around $3,000-$5,000 out ofpocket, but I could be off base). That's significantlymore than Kaiser would require me to pay now. Myin-laws (wonderful people that they are) have offeredto cover the difference. But I was hoping to use theirgenerosity to pay for reconstruction.In terms of what I plan to do, I think that I'm goingto wait until I get a firm offer and then I'm going tocrunch numbers. With the lower copays and payrolldeductions of the Blue Cross plan, it might balanceout in the end for me. My Kaiser copays are very high($35 for most things).Thank you all for "listening" I'll keep you updated.Tonya (in )Approved for SSFAwaiting Orientation Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 19, 2004 Report Share Posted August 19, 2004 Hi Tonya, Sounds to me like you are making a very good choice. Approaching WLS and learning to live with our new selves after surgery can be times of great upheaval and being in a supportive situation at work could make things that much easier for you - where being in a new work environment could add extra stress that you certainly won't need in these times of transition. Being scared of surgery is perfectly normal - it is a major undertaking. But, when we reach a point where the potential benefits far outweigh the risks, then we need to accept our decisions and prepare ourselves for the journey - wherever it takes us. All the best, Kay in San Leandro open RNY 12/1/03 crazyt1020 wrote: > I don't have to give my final answer until Friday, but I'm 95% > certain that I'm turning down the Bakersfield job offer. > > Though the lure of having Lap-Banding is tempting, I know myself. I > have a feeling that if I were to take the position and switch > carriers, I may not have the courage to pursue WLS a second time. > Also, like many of you, I do find some comfort in Kaiser's thorough > process. I know it can be frustrating, but for me, it ensures that > I'm in the right hands and makes me feel supported. > > The insurance issues aside, I've been able to have a couple long > talks about WLS with my current employer. She is amazingly > supportive, which drives home the point to me that this is the right > place for me to be when I have surgery. Not only will they bend over > backward to help me adjust my schedule as necessary, but they have > already begun adjusting my schedule so that I have more time off for > exercise and such. I'm sure not everyone has such agreeable > employers, which is why I think this is a good deal. > > So, you're all still stuck with me. I'll be honest, I'm still scared > of surgery, but I'm terrified of being this size for the rest of my > life. In this case, fear wins out. > > Talk to you all soon, > Tonya (in ) > Awaiting Orientation Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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