Re: OT question on social life

December 18, 2007

Tammi, I wonder if you are really being ignored or just feel that way. However,

I know what you mean. And especially if you are in alot of pain from fibro so

much of the time... then people do tend to dump us. So maybe they are ignoring

you. How hurtful. Or maybe they just forgot to tell you or something. I just

don't know what to say. Maybe just go for a little while and see how it is. If

you truly feel like they are ignoring you, then I would just make an excuse and

leave early. I hate being in situations where I feel like an outsider. People

can be so cruel.

hugs,

Debra V.

bluesmokey72 wrote:

okay, I know this has nothing to do with fibro or that but it does go

to the issue of isolation so many of us get. I was just invited to my

sunday school class's Christmas party. It's not always easy to go with

my discomfort of crowds and the impossiblity of the sitting situation

but I usually do and it can be fun. I'm wondering if I should go this

year. I didn't even hear of it until it was like " Yeah, you know the

gift exchange party. " Also I had offered to even attempt to host it

and the person that is mostly in charged said she'd give me a call. It

of course never happened. I feel so invisible to this crowd and wonder

if it's worth the effort to go when I tend to be ignored these days

anyway. That is enough of a rant but thought I would get another

opinion on it and since most of you can understand what I go through

just to attend and the depression angle I thought you all could give me

some good advice. I feel like if I don't go I'm just " cutting off my

nose to spite my face. " Anyway any and all responses appreciated.

Tammi

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December 19, 2007

If you feel up to going on that day, then go. Probably good to get out and

be with people. But if you are still feeling lousy, don't feel guilty for

not going. Do what you have to do for you. If that's rest and isolation,

then so be it. Hope this helps.

Jeanne in WI

> okay, I know this has nothing to do with fibro or that but it does go to

> the issue of isolation so many of us get. I was just invited to my sunday

> school class's Christmas party. It's not always easy to go with my

> discomfort of crowds and the impossiblity of the sitting situation

> but I usually do and it can be fun. I'm wondering if I should go this

> year. I didn't even hear of it until it was like " Yeah, you know the gift

> exchange party. " Also I had offered to even attempt to host it and the

> person that is mostly in charged said she'd give me a call. It of course

> never happened. I feel so invisible to this crowd and wonder if it's

> worth the effort to go when I tend to be ignored these days anyway. That

> is enough of a rant but thought I would get another opinion on it and

> since most of you can understand what I go through just to attend and the

> depression angle I thought you all could give me

> some good advice. I feel like if I don't go I'm just " cutting off my nose

> to spite my face. " Anyway any and all responses appreciated.

>

> Tammi

December 19, 2007

Mostly I am shy, aloof, snobby, whatever but don't like crowded

parties and affairs either. Not good at small talk. Or even

responding to long notes here. So just walk around and say hi to

people.

Debbie j

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> Never miss a thing. Make Yahoo your homepage.

>

December 19, 2007

I find that people just disappear from us or we are invisible to them. I

don’t know what scares them, but I hope you went and it went well for you.

Tigger (Ruth) in Rhode Island

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Subject: OT question on social life