you would think I'd learn

[Guest guest]

Hello everybody:

As many of you here are aware, I work in an office where people have

screwed up boundries.

Case in point, I shared my story (when prompted) to a morbidly obese

woman in my office. She is the office " National Enquirer, " but has

less credibility. I told her that my confidentiality is of utmost

importance to me, but that I'd share info with her if she wanted me

to help her, because she needed help, and she has Kaiser.

Well, turns out, she (as I expected) has no control what-so-ever and

has started drama about this behind my back. Before my growth in

this process, this situation would have really p*ssed me off. And

then I would have gone on a carb, fat and sugar binge. (Real good

coping skill, huh?)

Anyway, I'm glad to say that I have chosen to shut her out. Here is

the email I sent her:

:

Due to my own concerns regarding my well-being, I hope you understand

that I will no longer share any part of my issue with you. Like I

said, " that conversation never took place. " Please don't approach me

regarding that subject ever again.

Before I would have brooded and stewed about this. Now I can simply

shut the door (so to speak) on her face. Let her talk. No

information is coming from me again. The " iron curtain " has come

slamming down, and I won't let it up again in that office. I've

learned that my gut instinct NOT to trust her was right.

But there I go again trying to help someone who won't help herself.

Well, at least I've learned to cope better with it, and I actually

feel good about the way I handled it because I remained in control.

I control the flow of true information re: my health issues. And I

am in control of my eating too.

Thank goodness I have all of you here who understand what this kind

of crap means to us. Thanks for reading and understanding me.

Venting here is also a great coping mechanism.

Gemello

4 days until reconstruction

-133 lbs