Re: ~~Leanne~~

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I think you just need to 'roll up your sleeves' and tell her straight out that

the friendship has run it's course. Tell her that you understand she will be

hurt, but you need a life as free of possible from conflict, and that being

friends with her is causing problems in your life. If she tries to start any

trouble, well it's obvious you are much smarter than she, so simply try 'heading

her off at the pass'. Try to anticipate what she might do, and be prepared for

it. Also tell your husband, and tell him you need him to back you up in this.

Notify your children as well. Don't give her the opportunity to cause trouble.

Tell everyone else before you have the conversation with her so that they will

be forewarned about what to expect. Once you tell her, stick to it. Don't get

drawn into phone conversations with her. If she stops by your house, tell her

you're sorry but she is no longer welcome there. Make sure your husband is there

to back you up. If worse comes to worst, you might have to swear out a

restraining order against her. When you tell her, do it in simple language,

don't 'accuse' her of stuff. Make it sound like... " it's not YOU, it's me " !!

Don't give her any reason to get 'riled up' or belligerent. Just make sure she

understands that for your own health and well-being you cannot afford to have

people in your life who do not support and help you. You really DO have to do

this. I know you realize it. I wish I could physically be there for you, but I'm

sure with the help of your family you will be OK.

Peace and Love

Caroline

> >Angie: that is a good one, I have tried sh** like that and the she

> still doesn't get the freaking hint! I said something to her tonight,

> that one of my people off of my fmsg,, stated that i need to drop

> people that aren't supportive of our condition because we don't need

> their negative comments in our lives, and all she done was changed the

> subject to something completely off the wall, so again I said it again

> and again she changed the subject to something completely off the

> subject so at that time I told her it was time for me to go as my

> " drugs " were kicking in!!!!! so how do i drop a person like her after

> 22yrs she is very unstable and sure as sh** she will do something

> stupid and make it look like it was my fault and right now I don't

> need the extra drama on my plate. I need help this woman is crawling

> on my last nerve and i'm about to blow a gasget. I need some big tiome

> advise! Thanks Leanne

>> Leanne,

>> Anyone that would say something like that to you isn't a friend.

>> Now, my approach is usually to be sarcastic until they can't take it

> anymore.

>>

>> Like " hey, I gotta go get my 'lazy a## up and drag it to the bank

> because you know I don't do anything but sit on my a## all day "

>>

>> I'd put the lazy ass comment in every chance I got until she got the

> point.

>>

>> If I was too livid to be sarcastic I'd come right out and say, " you

> ever call me a lazy ass again you will be picking your teeth up off

> the ground. "

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