RE: Caroline and Tigger~~/

[Guest guest]

I'm so sorry your husband is so uncaring. I had a lot of problems with my

brother until he found me unconscious on the floor and I was barely alive. I

was on that very fine line. In the battle to regain my body and brain to

where it is today, he came with me everywhere and read everything and asked

doctor's questions. He learned more than I ever thought he could or would.

I'm not lucky to have him. I'm blessed.

Tigger (Ruth) in Rhode Island

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From: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group

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Sent: Wednesday, December 12, 2007 9:13 AM

To: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group

Subject: Caroline and Tigger~~

well I may as well call it " being on my own " cause hubby is here only to

harass me, clean himself up, eat and sleep. He is not any help to me where

my brain fog is concerned. Tigger, you are lucky to have a caring brother

like you do. My family {bro,sis, mom and dad} live in Wa state, but if they

were closer, I may get that type of help, but alas, I don't.

I tell hubby all the time, that I have brain fog from fibro. He says that it

is just a convenient excuse to let eve1 do everything for me. ??? I am the

one that does everything for ev1 else. So what is he thinking?

Oh and I never see the bills or the bank account. Heck the bank account is

conveniently only in his name {he did that}, so how could I plan ahead for

scripts? he never makes any sense.

Caoline, have you ever considered living with a friend for companionship?

Just wondering.

Caroline Witte <FibroLadycrawler (DOT) <mailto:FibroLady%40crawler.com> com>

wrote:

You are so lucky to have someone like your brother in your life. I know you

realise it as well. My brother lives in Olympia, and has many health issues

of his own, including very bad diabetes as well as ?? (stress syndrome from

Viet Nam, BAD brain fog today) Anyway, he has all the side effects from

diabetes including heart and circulatory problems. He barely has strength to

take care of himself, although he IS married to an RN which helps him I'm

sure. We have never been that close anyway. It is really hard being entirely

on my own. Sometimes I think the worst of my depression comes from that. Of

course, there are times I actually LIKE being on my own, but it does get

lonesome and scary at times. At least I have a few good friends. That helps.

But, I must say, I am jealous of you.

Peace and Love

Caroline

> ,

>

> Although I'm sorry to say that you have a bad memory and your

> organizational

> skills went " south " as you put it, I'm at least glad to know I'm not the

> only one. I get confused so very easily and it impacts on the day to day

> things like bill paying and organizing papers, bills, etc.

>

>

>

> I explained to my brother today that I was starting to feel overwhelmed.

> He

> had been paying everything for me both out of his money and my money when

> I

> started to get some. It's mostly all know been dumped back in my lap and

> it

> has me confused a lot. I found by being honest with him and letting him

> know that I was overwhelmed, he's more willing to help and is more

> understanding of the stupid mistakes I make.

>

>

>

> It drives me crazy. I was an office manager for 30+ years and was able

> to

> organize just about any office I walked into. Can I do it for myself?

> NOPE! I do the best I can and I do have him look after me to make sure I

> don't mess up anything.

>

>

>

> Tigger (Ruth) in Rhode Island

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