Re: Calling out sick... what excuses have you used?

[Guest guest]

Well, let me see. I know what you mean. I have had to call in for the fibro

beast before too. I really just told my boss the truth most of the time. She

knows I have FM but I don't think she wants to talk about it or offer much

understanding. However, she has never complained. I have used the stomach flu

and stuff too. Truthfully it is almost always fibro that gets me though.

Debra V.

alannakitty wrote:

The alarm went off this morning and I JUST couldn't do it. So I

called out sick to work--stomach flu. Which is slightly true b/c I

have been having IBS symptoms for the past 3 weeks. I just needed

some more sleep. I'm up now but not feeling good. Kind of like I

have a head cold. It is deary here in B-more, MD. Hard to get

motivated.

Anyway, just curious what other excuses we have all used over time. I

mean, it isn't like I can call in to work and say... sorry, I need a

few more hours of sleep b/c I have Fibro? Boy it would be great

if I could though.

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[Guest guest]

Well, let me see. I know what you mean. I have had to call in for the fibro

beast before too. I really just told my boss the truth most of the time. She

knows I have FM but I don't think she wants to talk about it or offer much

understanding. However, she has never complained. I have used the stomach flu

and stuff too. Truthfully it is almost always fibro that gets me though.

Debra V.

alannakitty wrote:

The alarm went off this morning and I JUST couldn't do it. So I

called out sick to work--stomach flu. Which is slightly true b/c I

have been having IBS symptoms for the past 3 weeks. I just needed

some more sleep. I'm up now but not feeling good. Kind of like I

have a head cold. It is deary here in B-more, MD. Hard to get

motivated.

Anyway, just curious what other excuses we have all used over time. I

mean, it isn't like I can call in to work and say... sorry, I need a

few more hours of sleep b/c I have Fibro? Boy it would be great

if I could though.

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[Guest guest]

Well, let me see. I know what you mean. I have had to call in for the fibro

beast before too. I really just told my boss the truth most of the time. She

knows I have FM but I don't think she wants to talk about it or offer much

understanding. However, she has never complained. I have used the stomach flu

and stuff too. Truthfully it is almost always fibro that gets me though.

Debra V.

alannakitty wrote:

The alarm went off this morning and I JUST couldn't do it. So I

called out sick to work--stomach flu. Which is slightly true b/c I

have been having IBS symptoms for the past 3 weeks. I just needed

some more sleep. I'm up now but not feeling good. Kind of like I

have a head cold. It is deary here in B-more, MD. Hard to get

motivated.

Anyway, just curious what other excuses we have all used over time. I

mean, it isn't like I can call in to work and say... sorry, I need a

few more hours of sleep b/c I have Fibro? Boy it would be great

if I could though.

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[Guest guest]

When it happens to me I simply call in and tell them I just can't make it. I

have provided my boss with some information of fibro in hopes that it helps when

I call in. I just try to be honest. I hope I don't loose my job over it but the

bottom line is that sometimes I just cannot go. It happens for work, church,

grandbaby's birthday....my fibro does not go by my calendar. I just offer no

excuses or apologiez for my fibro. It just is.

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[Guest guest]

> The alarm went off this morning and I JUST couldn't do it.

So I

> called out sick to work--stomach flu. Which is slightly true b/c I

> have been having IBS symptoms for the past 3 weeks. I just needed

> some more sleep. I'm up now but not feeling good. Kind of like I

> have a head cold. It is deary here in B-more, MD. Hard to get

> motivated.

>

> Anyway, just curious what other excuses we have all used over time. I

> mean, it isn't like I can call in to work and say... sorry, I need a

> few more hours of sleep b/c I have Fibro? Boy it would be great

> if I could though.

>

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[Guest guest]

I used everything from flu to diarrhea to migraine… all true at one time or

another. Keep in mind, however, that I was let go after working there for

10 years because I just missed too much work. They were aware of my fibro,

but when it came to work, it just didn’t matter.

Tigger (Ruth) in Rhode Island

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From: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group

[mailto:Fibromyalgia_Support_Group ] On Behalf Of judi bailey

Sent: Monday, December 10, 2007 12:52 PM

To: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group

Subject: Re: Calling out sick... what excuses have you used?

When it happens to me I simply call in and tell them I just can't make it. I

have provided my boss with some information of fibro in hopes that it helps

when I call in. I just try to be honest. I hope I don't loose my job over it

but the bottom line is that sometimes I just cannot go. It happens for work,

church, grandbaby's birthday....my fibro does not go by my calendar. I just

offer no excuses or apologiez for my fibro. It just is.

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[Guest guest]

If you are not out for more then three days it is illegal for them to

require a reason for you being out. After three days they can request

a D.r note prior to your return to work.

Also, if you have more the 15 people you can ask for Reasonable

Accommodations and protection under the ADA of 2003.

You need to tell you employer that you have a condition that may

require a change in hours. You and Your dr must proove: The major life

activities include, but are not limited to: seeing, hearing, learning,

breathing, walking, working and caring for oneself.

You can also appl,y for FMLA which will give you 12 weeks of unpaind

leave. It does not need to be taking in groups of days.

I hope that helps. I have done a lot of research of the ADA and

accomodations, I'm not a lawyer, but if you have questions let me know.

[Guest guest]

Keep in mind that the ADA and FMLA do not apply to companies that have less

than 10 employees. I found out the hard way and was friendly with a lot of

lawyers and they assured me they could just let me go. I was not fulfilling

my end of the “work bargain”.

Tigger (Ruth) in Rhode Island

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From: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group

[mailto:Fibromyalgia_Support_Group ] On Behalf Of missy8632

Sent: Monday, December 10, 2007 7:24 PM

To: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group

Subject: Re: Calling out sick... what excuses have you used?

If you are not out for more then three days it is illegal for them to

require a reason for you being out. After three days they can request

a D.r note prior to your return to work.

Also, if you have more the 15 people you can ask for Reasonable

Accommodations and protection under the ADA of 2003.

You need to tell you employer that you have a condition that may

require a change in hours. You and Your dr must proove: The major life

activities include, but are not limited to: seeing, hearing, learning,

breathing, walking, working and caring for oneself.

You can also appl,y for FMLA which will give you 12 weeks of unpaind

leave. It does not need to be taking in groups of days.

I hope that helps. I have done a lot of research of the ADA and

accomodations, I'm not a lawyer, but if you have questions let me know.

[Guest guest]

Actually the ADA is only required for businesses with 15 or more

employees and FMLA is only required for businesses with more than 50

employees.

lisa n.

[Guest guest]

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> Actually the ADA is only required for businesses with 15 or more

> employees and FMLA is only required for businesses with more than 50

> employees.

>

> lisa n.

>

Well, as I have not worked since Nov., 2004, I no longer worry about

calling in sick but at most jobs I had during the years we lived in

PIT were temp jobs, and I am sure some of the companies did not

believe the temp was really sick, others had employees who had the

same problem so that was helpful

But while I was at my psychologist this afternoon, we did discuss the

fact that there have been more than my usual calls to cancel an

appointment in the past few months. And almost everytime, it has been

cause I had not had enough sleep. One those days, I would not have

been able to take a shower, get dressed and then drive to her office.

So we talked about the problem(s) I have had with insomina since I was

a young child. I do remember still being a sleep on Christmas eve,

1952! I know you must wonder how I can be so specific but it was the

winter my youngest sister was born. Now I don't know if I really had

insomina but we were have very, very bad winds, my father was not at

home and because of where my bed was, I had a very good view of the

Christmas tree and I did discover that Mother was really Santa Claus!

But during my later years in grade school, high school and even

college, I would have very difficult times falling asleep, sometimes

while still living at home, I would still be awake when my mother's

alarm would go off for her to get up and fix my father's breakfast and

lunch. And during those years and even into my 30's, I had racing

thoughts that just would not stop!

So the issue here is how do I manage to get enough sleep the Sunday

night before I have an appointment with her? Since my appointments

with her are basically the only ones I have to get to, I think I have

to really take a sleeping pill on the Sunday night before an

appointment. But we also talked about the fact that I have had two

sleep studies done in recent years --- first one I NEVER really fell a

sleep, the second time I reached RIM sleep for only about 5 minutes so

they still could not come up with a solution.

But my technique is to take a book to bed and read until I fall

asleep, I try never to see the clock because that will cause a panic

and cause me to have more problems.

So while I don't have to call work, I do have to call my psychologist

from time to time.

But I also think that last two weeks, my sleep was messed up because

of my aunt's illness and then knowing we were waiting for the phone

call that she had taken that last breath and went home to the comfort

of Grandma's arms!

But years ago during one of my very first " real " jobs as the manager

of the department said, I was honestly sick twice but also called in

sick one time when I had actually left town for the weekend. And so

when I got back from Grandma's funeral, I had bronchitis --- which

anyone could have heard, but they called and fired me while I was so

sick I almost had to crawl to the phone.

Yes, it is hard for non fibro people to understand us --- I am not so

sure that my cousins understand --- especially not Mr Athlete himself,

the others may because one cousin has crippling arthritis but she some

how can't stay at home!! And her older brother sent me an email last

week in which he had read the time I had written one to him and he

said " You are going to kill yourself if you don't get some sleep! " We

did have that thought on our mind then anyway --- he told me when he

called to say our aunt had died and told him we had decided because of

the weather that was supposed to be nasty between home and here (this

is NOT home). He said " No, we don't want to go to three funerals! "

I know that was not necessarily the answer to Debra's question, but it

is how I have to deal with appointments. Which are the closest

situations to work that I have!

Hope all of you who have had a bad day today, tomorrow will bring you

some bit less pain.

[Guest guest]

When I was working, I called in sick all the time. My employers often

commented on how often I was sick, but back then I didn't know why I had

so many 'flu' like bugs.

alannakitty wrote:

> The alarm went off this morning and I JUST couldn't do it. So I

> called out sick to work--stomach flu. Which is slightly true b/c I

> have been having IBS symptoms for the past 3 weeks. I just needed

> some more sleep. I'm up now but not feeling good. Kind of like I

> have a head cold. It is deary here in B-more, MD. Hard to get

> motivated.

>

> Anyway, just curious what other excuses we have all used over time. I

> mean, it isn't like I can call in to work and say... sorry, I need a

> few more hours of sleep b/c I have Fibro? Boy it would be great

> if I could though.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I've used the " needs more sleep " excuse for calling the school regarding my

teenage daughter's absence. But never for myself. I would always say I had

a bug, ached all over, and so tired. Of course, this is before I knew those

symptoms were all part of the FM monster. I could never really understand

why 1-2 days a month I just had to give up and crash. Until the point when

my body and mind said " no more " and I had to stop all together. Well, I'm

rambling.

Jeanne in WI

>

> Anyway, just curious what other excuses we have all used over time. I

> mean, it isn't like I can call in to work and say... sorry, I need a few

> more hours of sleep b/c I have Fibro? Boy it would be great if I

> could though.