Re: Re: I can't believe this happened to me!!!!!!/for

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It's really hard; and I'm guilty of this myself but that's why I recognize that

you take things to heart that probably don't have anything to do with you. That

lady was mean and hateful and she probably never even noticed your chair or arm

braces because she doesn't have enough empathy to notice. She just wants to

strike out and would have done it to anyone.

My mother is like that. She treats people in public so awfully that I am

mortified to be with her either shopping, at a restaurant, etc. I absolutely

can't stand the way she treats people. (We're estranged because of it.)

I'm more the type that has always been " taught " to think of others first; so I

not only would never treat someone that way; but when they treat me like that I

usually take it personally. I'm crushed, I can't forget it, and it stays with

me and bothers me for a while. You and I both need to realize that people don't

really notice individuals as much as we do; and they don't know the first thing

about us.

Try to think of something humorous when you get those nasty customers. Like

maybe her husband just called her and was pissed off cuz she just went out to

get cheese for his nachos and she'd been shopping for hours. So she took it out

on everyone else. Or picture her in the parking lot eating the cheese like she

needed a fix. Just make it about them and NOT about you.

Hope that helps hon. You are a good person, but you are going to get hurt a lot

if you don't find a way to DE-personalize these people's behavior.

Angie

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Re: I can't believe this happened to me!!!!!!

Thank you all for your responses! I just never can seem to know what

I should or should not say, especially in stressful situations.. . It

seems like this week, I am just doomed to be hit with one emotional

punch after another :-(

hugs

>

> I also work retail and I doubt her comment had anything to do with the

> fact that you have a stool or braces. I work for big Lots and also use

> a stool when customers ask how I am I tell them I'm tired but doing

> what I have to to survive.. I think your customer was just a Witch and

> would have made the same comment no matter who her cashier was, some

> people are just mean and think they have the right to take it out on

> us. I live my life with Karma and figure they will get what they have

> coming, just don't get yourself upset, it will only make your pain

worse..

>

> April from Florida

>

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