Letting go

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I am so proud of you for sticking up to your mom for what you need.

I know that was very hard for you, and probably scarey, even though

you know that is what you needed to do. Asking people to not be in

our lives so much is so scarey when we know we need so much. I have

a guy friend that is still in my life although he is probably more

of a negative than a positive right now. He is the one I have had

trouble completely illiminating, because if he is gone, I honestly

have noone. The thing I have to tell myself is that he has a

girlfriend who doesn't want him to spend time with me or even talk

to me, even though he and I have been friends for 17 years and she

just met him last September.

I still try to remember the times where he was my best friend and

would do anything for me. I need to remind myself that isn't his

role with me anymore. Now, I can't count on him unless she isn't

around that day. I know it is even harder when it is your mother.

My mother and I were not close at all, but I still loved her and

still wanted her in my life. I think asking her to move is a good

step for you.

I know you are worried about her saying she will be over every day.

I think it will be good to wait and see what really happens. It

sounds like she is so wrapped up in her own stuff that she might not

actually stop by that often.

It must be so hard to not have anyone get your meds for you! I wish

I could drive right there and get them for you. I don't even know

where you live, but I wish I could. One of my biggest fears is if I

have surgery, I have noone. As long as I can stay healthy enough to

drive myself, I know I will do okay. If I become unable to move

about, then I am screwed!

But honey, Please write to me anytime you want for support. I am

here. And I understand how hard it is to get rid of negative people

when you think you need them. We just need to remind ourselves that

although we have a lot of needs, these people aren't filling them.

They are actually taking away good days for us and bringing bad

days. I wish you all the best. I am praying for you and for your

mom. I pray that she gets the strength to get her head out of her...

and starts to think about you and what you really need. And I pray

that you find people in your life that are a true support and can

really fill the needs that you have.

Be Strong. We are all here for you. I can feel love from this

group and I haven't been here very long. Be strong and remember to

see the positives every day, even when it seems like there are none,

God is just hiding them a little to make us look for them.

Love Ya,