Wow, Robynn... well stated

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Wow Robynn:

You're really given me some good thoughts to mull over.

I am amazed by the collective wisdom we have here in our group. You

have really put yourself " out there " revealing some intimate stuff.

Thank you for sharing your experience. It'll help me as I go through

this rough and not-so-easy path in my journey.

Francisco

> Reading all of your incredibly thoughtful posts and getting closer

to my own surgery, I've been doing a lot of thinking (and

worrying!). As I've mentioned before, my two best friends have

already had this surgery and are well on their way to losing all

their excess weight. But I'm very bothered by the attitude of one of

my friends and I worry so much that I'll be just like her.

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> She is starting to really get down on her husband. He about 20-30

lbs. overweight and has been that way as long as they've been married

(almost 20 years). Now that she is losing weight, she is ragging on

him all the time. She questions every bite he puts in his mouth and

I can tell that he is not happy about this. She also talks a lot

about how many men will find her attractive when she is thin, which

doesn't thrill him either.

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> I'm just so scared that I might start to do the same thing to my

wonderful husband. Have any of you dealt with this?

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> Now that it looks like I'll be having my surgery within the month,

I worry all the time. I'm afraid I'll die during surgery, I'm afraid

I'll blow it and not lose weight, I'm afraid that my relationship

with my husband will change, I'm afraid...well I guess I'm afraid of

almost everything now. Maybe when I have a specific date I'll be so

busy getting ready that I won't have time to be so afraid but right

now it's weighing on me all the time. It doesn't make me want to eat

but I'm really missing that Diet Coke fix right now!

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> Thanks for letting me have my morning vent.

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> Adrienne

> Pre-Op in Riverside

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